brightmon: .

MsDarkSkin:

yes of course!...why?

simply because as you have stated...



if I feel the connection that is all I need.
If I know he has my back, there is nothing under the sun I would not do for him
nor make me leave the relationship unless HE messes up or it doesn't work out.

jason123:

You could not have said it better. Your husband is very lucky!!!

Decryptor: To me, i believe both are reciprocal. I'll start by loving my woman and so i expect her to submit to me. If she refuses to play her own part, then i'll withdraw both my luv and my d.i.c.kk and give both of them to someone else who is willing to play ball

ebamma: before you expect your wife to submit to you,you have to make sure that you are paying the bills,if she is the one paying the bills in the family,don't expect her to submit herself to you.

bukatyne: i m really enjoyin this topic and i agree wit sexrevives and Thoniaslim's points amongst others. i ve come to realize wit revelation that wat is obtainable in most Nigerian homes is not submission, it's servitude or wat a popular pastor calls 'glorified slavery'. A typical nigerian marriage only fulfills 1 out of d 3 reasons for marriage: companionship, prevention against adultery and child bearing and we all know d one they fulfill. initially, when i saw ...'wives submit to ur husbands...', i thought God was been sexist. However, on further study, i realized that the love God expects from men is much more indepth than even d submission of women. God compared His love for isreal to the love a husband has for his wife. i read 1Cor 13:1-8 and i realized that when a man loves genuinely, he lays it all for d woman. he believes d best of her. he can do anything to make her happy. she is his world and everything! King Solomon even said in Proverbs that 4 things amaze him and d last is 'how a man loves a woman'. when d man loves his wife, he esteems her above himself. he considers her first in all his decisions. when that loved woman submits, she esteems her husband above himself and considers him first so there is a balance. some people wonder y d man must love first; d man finds d woman and is d head (the source/building block of that family). a loved woman will do everything in her power to please her husband. she ll think of cooking his best meal, looking good for him, dressing him up to be outstanding, encourage him, believes in him and trusts him. when her husband brings suggestions/ideas, b'cos she knows that he loves her and has considered her before making that suggestion, she readily supports him and stand by him. a loved woman that doesn't submit has a problem and a husband that is expecting his wife to submit witout loving her unconditionally has a problem and is looking for a glorified slave. have a splendid day

Tolaaaaannni:
I totally agree with you, some women are turning to mumu now a days. Treating their boyfriends like its their husband. I was shocked when my friend called her bf olowo ori mi.

Tolaaaaannni:
I totally agree with you, some women are turning to mumu now a days. Treating their boyfriends like its their husband. I was shocked when my friend called her bf olowo ori mi.

nyameke: lol I'm a dude son

UncleJJ: I say it all the time - dont marry your girlfriend , marry your best-friend.
Yes,i second. I only date a girl when i have known her at a friendship level. I don't just walk up to a girl on d streets simply becos she is d most beautiful girl i v evr seen. Girls may be impress and feel such guy is confident bt i don't. We have to be friends first. But as plenty guys are superficial they chose their girls by beauty.
Love only exist so that you can ignore your ugly sides, so the courtship can evolve. Succesful marriage take alot of hardwork and couples need to sit down and have lots of conversation about what they think marriage is and what the hope to achieve in marriage.

Is the girl really ready.
Is the man financially bouyant.
Yes many girls are ready and men,financially stable. But they aint luking 4 love, bt 4 fun and lust. Men just want 2 keep going out with numerous girls. Marriage is a sort of restriction to this hobby of theirs. Girls want to continue partying,spending lavishly, and getting chased by different guys,how could such a guy or girl be willing to marry evn though they are ready?
Girls need to accept this cheating husband issue's - yeah not all men cheat but a good percentage of us cheat. The only time a man will not cheat on his wife is if she was his best-friend in this case , he would see this as an act of betrayal and do all he can to avoid that girl.
Lies and deception. Girls should nvr accept cheating. If u love ur wife, and u know what MORALITY mean u wont be tempted to cheat. Men are guilty of lustful thinking and this is d main cause of cheating
A woman should never divorce her husband because he cheated - if na so our mama dem dey do am, several of us would be product's of broken homes. The woman is also an integral part of the marriage, if not the most important.
A woman should divorce a man once he cheats on her especially if they hadn't bn d best of couple for a long while. How can u advise this when lots of men divorce their wife once found cheating without evn hearing a word from her not to talk of an apology. A man who cheat does so with another man 's wife...wud u b happy to hear that ur wife cheated on u. Or on a single girl who if caught wud b termed as a slut or LovePeddler by d community,getting dumped by her fiance/bf,preventing men from approaching her for marriage.
I honestly adore hardworking women, though i cant marry a banker or a girl with a similar job. I like women who are available "so to speak" . Stressed out girlfriends are not a good site - add the difficult day at work with her menstrual period and mix it with Lagos traffic , and you get cruella deville ( the evil lady in 101 dalmatians.

UncleJJ: I say it all the time - dont marry your girlfriend , marry your best-friend.
Yes,i second. I only date a girl when i have known her at a friendship level. I don't just walk up to a girl on d streets simply becos she is d most beautiful girl i v evr seen. Girls may be impress and feel such guy is confident bt i don't. We have to be friends first. But as plenty guys are superficial they chose their girls by beauty.
Love only exist so that you can ignore your ugly sides, so the courtship can evolve. Succesful marriage take alot of hardwork and couples need to sit down and have lots of conversation about what they think marriage is and what the hope to achieve in marriage.

Is the girl really ready.
Is the man financially bouyant.
Yes many girls are ready and men,financially stable. But they aint luking 4 love, bt 4 fun and lust. Men just want 2 keep going out with numerous girls. Marriage is a sort of restriction to this hobby of theirs. Girls want to continue partying,spending lavishly, and getting chased by different guys,how could such a guy or girl be willing to marry evn though they are ready?
Girls need to accept this cheating husband issue's - yeah not all men cheat but a good percentage of us cheat. The only time a man will not cheat on his wife is if she was his best-friend in this case , he would see this as an act of betrayal and do all he can to avoid that girl.
Lies and deception. Girls should nvr accept cheating. If u love ur wife, and u know what MORALITY mean u wont be tempted to cheat. Men are guilty of lustful thinking and this is d main cause of cheating
A woman should never divorce her husband because he cheated - if na so our mama dem dey do am, several of us would be product's of broken homes. The woman is also an integral part of the marriage, if not the most important.
A woman should divorce a man once he cheats on her especially if they hadn't bn d best of couple for a long while. How can u advise this when lots of men divorce their wife once found cheating without evn hearing a word from her not to talk of an apology. A man who cheat does so with another man 's wife...wud u b happy to hear that ur wife cheated on u. Or on a single girl who if caught wud b termed as a slut or LovePeddler by d community,getting dumped by her fiance/bf,preventing men from approaching her for marriage.
I honestly adore hardworking women, though i cant marry a banker or a girl with a similar job. I like women who are available "so to speak" . Stressed out girlfriends are not a good site - add the difficult day at work with her menstrual period and mix it with Lagos traffic , and you get cruella deville ( the evil lady in 101 dalmatians.

sexkillz: A woman should never never ever submit to a man she is not married to. . . Ever! Respect him, yes, but submit to him? Hell NO!

sexkillz: A woman should never never ever submit to a man she is not married to. . . Ever! Respect him, yes, but submit to him? Hell NO!

Abbey2sam: Dont forget that we are africans, we should for once do us "AFRICANs" not alway coping the westhern culture...in my opinion i tink in a serious relationship the lady should try and be submisive considering how hard it is out there to get a husband,a guy can always pick a gurl to marry and leave his former gurl "attitude"......

bukatyne:
i m really enjoyin this topic and i agree wit sexrevives and Thoniaslim's points amongst others. i ve come to realize wit revelation that wat is obtainable in most Nigerian homes is not submission, it's servitude or wat a popular pastor calls 'glorified slavery'. A typical nigerian marriage only fulfills 1 out of d 3 reasons for marriage: companionship, prevention against adultery and child bearing and we all know d one they fulfill. initially, when i saw ...'wives submit to ur husbands...', i thought God was been sexist. However, on further study, i realized that the love God expects from men is much more indepth than even d submission of women. God compared His love for isreal to the love a husband has for his wife. i read 1Cor 13:1-8 and i realized that when a man loves genuinely, he lays it all for d woman. he believes d best of her. he can do anything to make her happy. she is his world and everything! King Solomon even said in Proverbs that 4 things amaze him and d last is 'how a man loves a woman'. when d man loves his wife, he esteems her above himself. he considers her first in all his decisions. when that loved woman submits, she esteems her husband above himself and considers him first so there is a balance. some people wonder y d man must love first; d man finds d woman and is d head (the source/building block of that family). a loved woman will do everything in her power to please her husband. she ll think of cooking his best meal, looking good for him, dressing him up to be outstanding, encourage him, believes in him and trusts him. when her husband brings suggestions/ideas, b'cos she knows that he loves her and has considered her before making that suggestion, she readily supports him and stand by him. a loved woman that doesn't submit has a problem and a husband that is expecting his wife to submit witout loving her unconditionally has a problem and is looking for a glorified slave. have a splendid day