voghor12:

the past is the key to the future. it will help the man to know those things that are capable of bringing out the best in the woman. .

yemivictor:

@ D-reloaded,

Will you please stop addressing Nigerian guys in derogatory terms, _{trying really hard to contain my anger!} WTF is wrong with you?

If u've had issues with any naija guy in the past, you should be intelligent and broad-minded enough to know that AL[b]L NAIJA GUYS ARE NOT THE SAME![/b]

It beats me, but you can't just come on nairaland and drag naija guys in the mud with impunity!

And just so you know, just as you have engraved in your heart, sexist male pigs and arab oriented men (as you call it), we also have UNREPENTANT FEMINIST WHORES!!! Get it?

degubi:

Whether a woman tells man her past or not is not the issue, the issue is if the man would be mature enough to handle it appropriately or would use it to get back at her when she falls short of his expectation. Some women keep secrets of their past out of a concern that the man may not be able to handle such revelations and some men fail to realise that we all make mistakes,so there is always need to over look the past. But a woman should not be forced to reveal her past unless she wants to. And a woman should ensure that her man is aware of any scandal of the past,so that if he hears it from a third party he would know how to handle it.

iyc:

Hello all!!!!! I just hit on the subject, and its just a big laugh. Hey, what u do not know does not hurt you, they say. i believe and agree with them, its not so much about where u have been, but is about where you are and where u are going. Bleep HISTORY, KILL THE PAST!!!!!

degubi:

Whether a woman tells man her past or not is not the issue, the issue is if the man would be mature enough to handle it appropriately or would use it to get back at her when she falls short of his expectation. Some women keep secrets of their past out of a concern that the man may not be able to handle such revelations and some men fail to realise that we all make mistakes,so there is always need to over look the past. But a woman should not be forced to reveal her past unless she wants to. And a woman should ensure that her man is aware of any scandal of the past,so that if he hears it from a third party he would know how to handle it.

ariblaze:

don't ask if you can't handle it

kaylala:

WORD

But, how exactly are you supposed to know whether you can take it or not IF YOU DO NOT HEAR IT! _{extra-sensory perception?}

yemivictor:

But, how exactly are you supposed to know whether you can take it or not IF YOU DO NOT HEAR IT! _{extra-sensory perception?}

Don1DeMaco:

infact its very key in a relationship because it either makes the bond stronger or breaks it which is a win win for both parties

kaylala:

As a man or a right human being,i believe you should know your strength and weakness.

Do you agree with this?

Nihil-ce-M:

Men can't handle the truth. They are so insecure.

As for me, I told my ex about my first boyfriend and wether he accepted it or not was his cup of tea.

And you actually think women can handle the truth and don't have insecurities too! Better wake up girl, and stop living in a fool's paradise!

blueband:

It is very difficult to deal with.
Scenario 1:
Girl Friend:I used to date married men
Boy friend:Thinking to himself(I am stuck with someone who can do Under G,someone who has no respect for matrimony,someone who has no respect for herself)

Scenario 2:
Boyfriend:I used to hang around sanusi fafunwa picking up prostitutes
Girlfriend:Thinking to herself(what kind of beast is this man)
Girlfriend,now hears from her sister-your boyfriend carries prostitues.Girlfriend knows this is true,but her sister telling her does not reduce the pain.


Scenario 3:
Girlfriend:Whenver governors came to town,we used to go and sleep with them
Boyfriend:Hmmmm,I still love you darling.
On boyfriend's wedding day,his dad's friend recognise the bride to be someone who was his "tooth pick".He tells grooms father-"That girl is very lose".Grooms father tells son.It still does not reduce the pain the boyfriend will feel.(This actually happened to a friend,and couple is now divorced)

Scenario 4:
Girlfriend:I had an abortion for my boyfriend.He disclaimed the baby
Boyfriend hears his babe has had an abortion.He laughs over it.

There are somethings that can NEVER be erased from amn's mind and that is sexual promuiscuity.The man will always be insecure.To avoid spilling your past,live a high moral life.Many guys and girls do.Believe it or not!

yemivictor:

And you actually think women can handle the truth and don't have insecurities too! Better wake up girl, and stop living in a fool's paradise!