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Guys, How Do You Feel About These Things? by [CHocolaTE](f): 11:38am On Aug 11, 2012

These are questions for men.
How do you feel when a female does things like sending you a recharge card or offering to pay the transport fare when you board a cab together?
These are things that society has designated to be the duty of men, so how do you feel or how would you feel if a woman does them? Would you feel emasculated or would you feel that she is desperate for male attention or would you simply be grateful?
I have tried things like that out, just to see the reaction I would get from the men and I didn't like their reactions. I have paid the fare for two guys I got on the same bus with before, one of them was embarrassed and tried to avoid looking at me and the other one outrightly told me that the man is supposed to pay for things like that.
I don't want to generalize with every single man based on my limited experiences, so I want to find out from more men.
Are you going to be ok with a woman paying the fare or even paying for food on your dates? Or sending you the occaisional credit card?

Re: Guys, How Do You Feel About These Things? by DIG1: 12:05pm On Aug 11, 2012

Depends on my relationship with d person, but @ d level I'♏, I don't expect a female acquaintance τ̅☺ offer me such goodwill, unless she is a senior female relative or family friend.

Re: Guys, How Do You Feel About These Things? by Acidosis(m): 12:30pm On Aug 11, 2012

DIG1: Depends on my relationship with d person, but @ d level I'♏, I don't expect a female acquaintance τ̅☺ offer me such goodwill, unless she is a senior female relative or family friend.

What if she (stranger) offers you a good or a better job. . ?

@Topic, I'll simply say thank you, and then I'll look for my own opportunity to bless another person be it a man or a woman. It might be God trying to reward you for the good you did in the past . .and he's not gender selective- he can use anyone.

As for the men ""wey dey form for inside ~~molue~~ bus"" , na dem sabi. . If they are that rich, they should be the one trying to give you a lift with a nice car. . .

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Re: Guys, How Do You Feel About These Things? by Acidosis(m): 12:32pm On Aug 11, 2012

DIG1: Depends on my relationship with d person, but @ d level I'♏, I don't expect a female acquaintance τ̅☺ offer me such goodwill, unless she is a senior female relative or family friend.

What if she (stranger) offers you a good or a better job. . ?

@Topic, I'll simply say "thank you" even though I'm not expecting the offer. . then I'll look for my own opportunity to bless another person be it a man or a woman. It might be God trying to reward you for the good you did in the past . .and he's not gender selective- he can use anyone.

As for the men ""wey dey form for inside ~~molue~~ bus"" , na dem sabi. . If they are that rich, they should be the one trying to give you a lift with a nice car. . .

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Re: Guys, How Do You Feel About These Things? by [CHocolaTE](f): 12:55pm On Aug 11, 2012

Acidosis:
@Topic, I'll simply say "thank you" even though I'm not expecting the offer. . then I'll look for my own opportunity to bless another person be it a man or a woman. It might be God trying to reward you for the good you did in the past . .and he's not gender selective- he can use anyone.

As for the men ""wey dey form for inside ~~molue~~ bus"" , na dem sabi. . If they are that rich, they should be the one trying to give you a lift with a nice car. . .

@bold, LMAO.
So what will your opinion of that woman be? What kind of woman would you take her to be?

Re: Guys, How Do You Feel About These Things? by [CHocolaTE](f): 12:57pm On Aug 11, 2012

DIG1: Depends on my relationship with d person, but @ d level I'♏, I don't expect a female acquaintance τ̅☺ offer me such goodwill, unless she is a senior female relative or family friend.

You might not expect it but you might experience it one day. What do you think would be your reaction? Will you like it or not?

Re: Guys, How Do You Feel About These Things? by ArQueBusieR(m): 1:40pm On Aug 11, 2012

I never accept such offers.

Re: Guys, How Do You Feel About These Things? by [CHocolaTE](f): 2:02pm On Aug 11, 2012

Why? Please don't tell me it is because you think women are inferior to men.

Re: Guys, How Do You Feel About These Things? by madeonline: 6:40pm On Aug 11, 2012

I gratefully say thanks ... Those are good old days sha! Now adays I don't get such dispriviledges!

Re: Guys, How Do You Feel About These Things? by val_dee: 8:01pm On Aug 11, 2012

Op, if done with pure intention there's nothing to worry about, but if done with the intention to manipulate then ...

As for me, I try to percieve the reason behind the offer before I accept or reject.

Re: Guys, How Do You Feel About These Things? by sauer(m): 8:51pm On Aug 11, 2012

I'd instantly fall in love with such woman cheesy

. If she's not religious, i just might consider marrying her on the spot. tongue

Seriously, I'd be impressed. I will however only consider it in a larger context. I'd be impressed nonetheless.

Re: Guys, How Do You Feel About These Things? by tellwisdom(m): 9:50pm On Aug 11, 2012

[CHocolaTE:
]These are questions for men.
How do you feel when a female does things like sending you a recharge card or offering to pay the transport fare when you board a cab together?
These are things that society has designated to be the duty of men, so how do you feel or how would you feel if a woman does them? Would you feel emasculated or would you feel that she is desperate for male attention or would you simply be grateful?
I have tried things like that out, just to see the reaction I would get from the men and I didn't like their reactions. I have paid the fare for two guys I got on the same bus with before, one of them was embarrassed and tried to avoid looking at me and the other one outrightly told me that the man is supposed to pay for things like that.
I don't want to generalize with every single man based on my limited experiences, so I want to find out from more men.
Are you going to be ok with a woman paying the fare or even paying for food on your dates? Or sending you the occaisional credit card?

Madam, abeg come help me pay my food money fr mama erica shop, Im there now embarassed

Re: Guys, How Do You Feel About These Things? by claremont(m): 10:01pm On Aug 11, 2012

A Nigerian lady and I shared a taxi on a certain day, she paid my fare when we got to the destination. I have never forgotten that experience, not because I was financially handicapped, but because I have already been conditioned by my culture to foot the bill under these circumstances. Unfortunately, she got posted out to a different unit afterwards, I for don marry the babe sharp sharp! grin

Re: Guys, How Do You Feel About These Things? by Kingsleyinfo(m): 10:55pm On Aug 11, 2012

there is nothing wrong with a lady paying the bills if she feels like it.
but if she has ulterior motives behind it, then she has just wasted her time.
i don't see ANYTHING special if a woman pays, or if a man did the paying.
let him who is comfortable enough do the paying.
but if she tries to make a big fuss about it, i will reposition her sharp sharp grin

i always pick up the tab when i go out with a lady,
but there was this girl i went out with one time, and she paid the bills after lunch.
the next date we had i just paid the waiter before she could open her purse.
and to be frank i really dont like getting things for free from my friends, i believe in sharing the burden even when am out
with my guys, so if a lady offers to pay, i would allow her, but certainly i would not ask a lady to pay.

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Re: Guys, How Do You Feel About These Things? by sauer(m): 11:09pm On Aug 11, 2012

tellwisdom:

Madam, abeg come help me pay my food money fr mama erica shop, Im there now

Re: Guys, How Do You Feel About These Things? by Gabriel_sylar(m): 11:26pm On Aug 11, 2012

when u pay a guys fare....U MAY GIVE HIM AN ER.E.C.T.IION and compound his problems............. grin

Re: Guys, How Do You Feel About These Things? by hornipipe: 11:51pm On Aug 11, 2012

Gabriel_sylar: when u pay a guys fare....U MAY GIVE HIM AN ER.E.C.T.IION and compound his problems.............

true man

Re: Guys, How Do You Feel About These Things? by Billyonaire: 1:07am On Aug 12, 2012

I dont use cab, and may probably not use cab for the rest of my life. I dont know how to advise you.

Re: Guys, How Do You Feel About These Things? by tchaik(m): 2:06am On Aug 12, 2012

Billyonaire: I dont use cab, and may probably not use cab for the rest of my life. I dont know how to advise you.

WE GET THE MESSAGE!!!
cool

Re: Guys, How Do You Feel About These Things? by [CHocolaTE](f): 7:09am On Aug 12, 2012

Gabriel_sylar: when u pay a guys fare....U MAY GIVE HIM AN ER.E.C.T.IION and compound his problems.............

Lmao. For some guys sha. For others you are going to shrink the 'thing' because you emasculated them by assisting them financially. grin

sauer: I'd instantly fall in love with such woman . If she's not religious, i just might consider marrying her on the spot.
Seriously, I'd be impressed. I will however only consider it in a larger context. I'd be impressed nonetheless.

I thought things like this are common overseas where the women are more liberal?

val_dee: Op, if done with pure intention there's nothing to worry about, but if done with the intention to manipulate then ...

I do things like that to help out. I am comfortable financially and so I just want to be able to help other people/be generous to them. I find it hard to go on a date with a guy and eat all that expensive food and then expect him to handle the bill alone. Especially when I am probably well off than him in terms of finance.
@the guys that spoke well of it, I feel una jare. I don't like this culture of ~~longthroat~~ financial dependence our society is trying to promote for women.

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