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Got spanked two times from my father and deserved it. Got beaten by my mother 3.000 times for nothing. Nobody cared. That was in the 60s.
Nowadays it is forbidden to beat or even spank kids at my place. Violence in schools decreased. Violence in general all over the country decreased. If I go to a disco, I do that about once a year with students, I am the dangerous one - not the youngsters.
I am proud I did not beat my own children except for two or three times. I broke the circle!

Think about Japan. There is violence in any form an absolutely no-go.

Certainly nt wit a tree branch,bt I sure can spank my child anywhere,depending on d offence and how angry I am.Some issues jst nid to be treated "as e dey hot".

U spank or U dont spank ur kid doesn't guarantee if the kid will b good when he grows up..personally a little spanking won't hurt anybody-kids can be monsters sometimes, naija kids in particular.

Sometimes its really cool to look at things from many angles•humans react differently to issues and anger.most adults after all fight on the roads,isn't that babaric?they don't do so cos its in their habbit but because they av been provoked to an extent that they just have to give it back to their offender•@op and other commentors if u were probably told what that little child did you might actually do worse•now I have a story•
My neihbours wife woke up today by 6am and couldn't find her three children•she cried and wailed for hours•we had to rush to her flat only to hear her kids which she said goodnight to were nowhere to be found•we got to the childrens room and their clothes and shoe rack had been scatterd•kids of just about 6 4 and 3 years•after much waililng,the pastors wife called that her children came knocking on her door as early as 5am in the morning in the name of we came for holidays•three little children goin out as early as 5am•what would you call that?now their mom went there and drove them back home wit their loads let them sleep well and even served them food•with the mere word don't try that again•[Spareing the rod and spoiling the child]now if she had done what u found dat woman in your story doing would you blame her?

gsalvatore: ... naija kids in particular.

I know them. They are just as any others.

My neighbour doesn't beat her kids but she actually fight her kids! She beats them as if she is fighting with an adult.I don't pray to beat my own kids that way!

not at all

but not in united states, u go go jail.

u dont have to spank them... just give them the LOOK( ll beat the s h i t outta u when we get home)
.. they should understand what u mean.

Only the rod of discipline will drive out folly and waywardness that abound in most children. We must realise that from age 1-10 children are still in their cognitive stage. This is the period they learn/adopt habits and traits that will constitute their character later in life as an adult. To guide and mould the character of children and ensure that they do not grow wild, it become expedient to employ both the use of 'the rod of discipline' and loving/gentle rebuke, as well as praise/compliment. When a child exhibit a very bad behaviour, do not relent in beating it out of him/her and send a strong message that the behavior is unacceptable. On the other hand, do not also hesitate to lavishly praise and compliment his/her good behavior.
As a Nigerian i believe cane is a veritable and effective tool for correction which is necessary for weeding out acts of gross indiscipline from our children/wards.

Shaw007: yeah point taken,i gat it. . .slap,spank,cool. . .but tree branch?? Like,seriously??

LOL I didn't read what the OP posted, just answered the topic title. I prolly should have done that lol

Even in private, tree branches = extreme. Nah wa, did the pikin steal all the meat from the cooking pot ni?

Spanking for petty reason in public is very embarrassing fo the child and the witnesses. I've seen Nigerian parents screaming at their child for coming home later or for making one small mistake.

And most importantly, for a beating to be effective, the child has to understand what he/she did wrong and why it's wrong.

What the op described is child abuse not discipline. I live in Canada but I'm gonna spank my kids if they misbehave.

I'm all for correcting verbally and what not but when I see white kids acting cray all around, I know that spanking is necessary. Sometimes kids have to feel the warmth of fingers on their butt. As a kid, my dad wasn't strict but the occasional slap kept me in line.

LOL @ people thinking that physical is the only kind of abuse children face.

Physical

Verbal

Emotional

Na which one com be canning for public ehn..some parents sha dem dey disgrace parenthood sometimes

Kologie: Only the rod of discipline will drive out folly and waywardness that abound in most children. We must realise that from age 1-10 children are still in their cognitive stage. This is the period they learn/adopt habits and traits that will constitute their character later in life as an adult. To guide and mould the character of children and ensure that they do not grow wild, it become expedient to employ both the use of 'the rod of discipline' and loving/gentle rebuke, as well as praise/compliment. When a child exhibit a very bad behaviour, do not relent in beating it out of him/her and send a strong message that the behavior is unacceptable. On the other hand, do not also hesitate to lavishly praise and compliment his/her good behavior.
As a Nigerian i believe cane is a veritable and effective tool for correction which is necessary for weeding out acts of gross indiscipline from our children/wards.

if you like break all the bones for your pikin body all in the name of discipline...collect all the goodthing wey dem him body finsh with cane..after now you go say e no get human feelings wen him grow up

it is not good becos it can even bring disgrace to u and d child.if a child misbehaves beat him @ home and tell him d reason why u beat him. he wont misbehave again.correct a child in love.

I would never disrespect my child in the public by insulting or spanking for any reason. If you report my child to me that he/she did something bad. I would apologise to you but go home and ask my child and correct him/her at home explaining why he/she should not do it again.

sessydoo: Let her come and try dat in the UK and she will never smell (talkless of seeing) the child again. Infact the correct usage of spank is to use your palm to slap a child at his buttock but to descend to using a branch of a tree (stick) to beat ur child in the public is barbaric. i dont subscribe to that, i will rather use my voice to correct the child

Hahahahahaha  guess u are not a nigerian so please leave d thread for true nigerians. And as a true nigerian ur parent is   flog u anywhere and any how and can use whatever she or he likes eg: koboko, pankere cane, wire, iron hanger, leather belt etc.

Culturally we are insensitive to young people. we refuse to understand that even children have feelings and can feel humiliated. It's wrong to humiliate your child like that and you even embarrass yourself in the process.
Things are changing now sha, apparently you can even call social in Nigeria for parents abusing their kids. I overheard a teacher saying she's going to call the police on a parent for abusing the child. I'm glad to see things moving forward.

meehn i'm gona beat the sh*t out of any seed of mine who misbehaves in public or wherever.

Felix_L: Got spanked two times from my father and deserved it. Got beaten by my mother 3.000 times for nothing. Nobody cared. That was in the 60s.
Nowadays it is forbidden to beat or even spank kids at my place. Violence in schools decreased. Violence in general all over the country decreased. If I go to a disco, I do that about once a year with students, I am the dangerous one - not the youngsters.
I am proud I did not beat my own children except for two or three times. I broke the circle!

Think about Japan. There is violence in any form an absolutely no-go.

Old school huh

Good to know I still have mates here. Tot I was the oldest!

.... If not, why not?

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ugochukwu15:

Hahahahahaha  guess u are not a nigerian so please leave d thread for true nigerians. And as a true nigerian ur parent is   flog u anywhere and any how and can use whatever she or he likes eg: koboko, pankere cane, wire, iron hanger, leather belt etc.

ya soo wicked•

Ujujoan:

Old school huh

Good to know I still have mates here. Tot I was the oldest!

Thank you. Pleasure is on my side.

Am in my mid twenties, tru wit sch and even working. But, u will not believe, dat my mummy can slap or trow plate, slippers at me, weneva i annoy her, both in public(her shop) or in private, unless am fast to run away frm her. But, guess wat?? Dat has instill so much respect & fear in me abt elders, i can neva talk back to an elderly person and i awyz behave well in public. because, i assume all elderly pple will behave like her if provoked. @poster, i tink a child shld b spanked both in private & public, afta that, the parents shld draw the child close with love & affection. That way, the child will neva feel demoralized.

Some children are violent & lack manners. The only way you can instil manners in them is to discipline them for any offense immediately regardless of the location. You don‘t allow some matters to cool down, if not, u‘ld lose the right proportion of annoyance you need to react & correct... What would you do if your child insults you in public as a parent? Some children are just exceedingly crazy. You just need to flog them anywhere! If not, they‘ll constantly take you for granted.

its not wise spanking ur child in public, they should rather be corrected. the spanking should be for places like home, but if u have failed at home in doing that, then dont xpect the child to be wisely in public. its not in him

Wat if d chld ran in2 d road.nd got hit by a car who wuld bear d brunt nd cry.a smple smack is enuf 2 drve d mesg nt being flogd lyk cows or chariots.am proudly naijarean and av neva bn flogd by my parents yet if ur reasnable u wuld knw am nt silly

nyere84: ... i tink a child shld b spanked both in private & public, afta that, the parents shld draw the child close with love & affection. That way, the child will neva feel demoralized.

You are right.
The subject is not easy and worth to discuss. If a child becomes the punching-ball, guilty for everything, it can get seriously injured. If you do not set borders at all it might be even worse.
I'd say, one should be use physical violence very carefully. Am glad that I found a woman that was never beaten because I know if she would beat me in a quarrel I'd hit back some day. Everyone regards me as a peaceful man. But that is only the surface. Got to much at my head as a boy.

To discipline a child in the open is embarrassing but sometimes not avoidable.

kaykay123: I can't believe people born in this country are sounding as if they were given birth to in western world,so you mean if my child misbehave publicly,I should take him to a secret place and discipline him,God I will never do that,even the bible said Spare the rod and spare the child,this is the same reason,I didn't allow my kids to grow up in the states,I remember when I was a child,my mom (my mentor) can discipline me anywhere,so tell me why I can't discipline my child in the open,when he misbehave in the open.Pls for christ sake we are Nigerian's and we should learn to behave like one.Thank you

oh yes!!! Behave like naija... Like being a corrupt leader, corrupt worker, value american, london, paris even south africa more than our own fadaland 'naija', preferring 2 use wat is produce(imported) by pple who were nt spank in public than use tins produce by pple who were trained wit d rod. Our leaders, our police, d agberos on roads(who even now use d rod on children's parent), cultist in our tertiary institution, arm robbers e.t.c were dey not publicly spank and trained wit d rod. Are u proud of them? Such actions only help to build an inferior generation/race. Will never support it.