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Nigerian Man And Jamaican Woman? by shayla(f): 11:16am On Jan 03, 2008 |
Hi everyone I'm new to the forum , I think its a gr8 place & would appreciate your comments I met a Nigerian Guy 2.1/2 yrs ago that I'm reallllly do like , in fact I think I'm in love!! the this issue is - although we're both over 35 & born in the UK. I'm Jamaican by birth parents & obviously culture. Can you forsee any future probs (cultural or otherwise) we are both financial secure , so financial gain ( either way ) is not an issue . my Que is can you forsee any probs that I cant |
Re: Nigerian Man And Jamaican Woman? by Seun(m): 1:30pm On Jan 04, 2008 |
Nigeria is a big country. It depends on his tribe. If he's Hausa/Fulani, he's a muslim. If he's Yoruba, he probably has a meddlesome extended family that will either not accept you or put you through hell, unless they are highly educated. If he's Igbo, he's too smart for his own good or yours. If he is Ijaw or Niger Deltan, his blood is too hot. If your boyfriend was born and bred in the UK then he's essentially a black Briton. Unless he was brought up with his extended family in which case the above still applies. Hehe. |
Re: Nigerian Man And Jamaican Woman? by anusule(m): 4:03pm On Jan 04, 2008 |
wrong. |
Re: Nigerian Man And Jamaican Woman? by shayla(f): 4:53pm On Jan 04, 2008 |
Thanks for your reply Seun I've just spent the last 15 mins typing a reply, but it disappeared when pressed send (i'll get used to this board yet!! (but out of time now, so will come back later) @Anusule , why do you say wrong? |
Re: Nigerian Man And Jamaican Woman? by oziomatv(m): 5:03pm On Jan 04, 2008 |
since both of you grew up in UK there must be an atom of bBritishculture in you. Nigeria shear the same bad culture with jamaica so I think in that aspect both of you can match. another thing is individual which is left for both of you to surt it out by yourselves. the rest is GOODLUCK |
Re: Nigerian Man And Jamaican Woman? by shayla(f): 3:01pm On Jan 05, 2008 |
thank you so much for your responses @Seun He's not my BF, he's someone that I know through work, I like him an awful lot, & I 'know' the "feeling" is mutual. you've pointed out ( quite rightly ) that we are both " Afro Euro" ( to coin a phrase) but having acknowledged this. I still feel that I need to take each of our "Birth Cultures" into consideration, particularly as some time in the future , its my intention to emigrate to much warmer climes. The prob is - in the past I dated for a few months a Nigerian guy, who himself whilst we dated couldn't do enough for me he was extremely attentive, & I couldn't fault him in the way he treated me. however whilst I got on extremely well with his male friends. whenever we went anywhere amongest Nigerian folks ( he took me to a lot of places) , I got nothing but evils (looks) from Nigerian women. which I couldn't (fully) understand because I believe no matter where in the world we come from we are all African regardless of origin/tribe. And I wonder if I were to enter a relationship. could I ever be fully accepted , I don't know if I would, & for the record yes!!! I do think family & community acceptance is important. contrary to what other ppl may think these days Also theres this element that's always lurking as to , women that are non-Nigerian, should be just seen as fun! ? I can honesty say that 99.5% of Jamaican men feel this way re non- Jamaican women. although, perhaps being more genuine, if the female is still afro/afri origin. Does this mode of thinking apply to a UK Niger male? @Oziomatv " Bad Culture" did I ask for that, pls , don't stereotype, Nigerians or Jamaicans. lol But yeah, the rest is Goodluck , I guess I'm just fishing around now& asking before the event , as opposed to 6mths down the line when I'm hook line & sinker oh , & r.e his tribe - I think its Igbo. |
Re: Nigerian Man And Jamaican Woman? by oziomatv(m): 3:22pm On Jan 05, 2008 |
People feel free to give Nigerians bad names even when we are not worst than others. so that why I said we shear things in common. I'm from Igbo tribe and am into mixed relationship with a whitelady for 6yrs still enjoying it so I found no reason you should be scare about it. go ahead. For our own ladies you don't have to border much cause I have the same problem with some whites and also with my own country women. they look at me as a betrayer to them and whites look at me as a treat to them. |
Re: Nigerian Man And Jamaican Woman? by shayla(f): 6:40pm On Jan 05, 2008 |
Thanks Oziomatv Obviously your enjoying your mixed relationship , which is gr8 , can I just ask, do you feel that either of you, have had to make any significant compromises, during / or because of your relationship? just curious |
Re: Nigerian Man And Jamaican Woman? by oziomatv(m): 7:08pm On Jan 05, 2008 |
Make your question clear for me to give you a clear answer. |
Re: Nigerian Man And Jamaican Woman? by shayla(f): 8:18pm On Jan 05, 2008 |
sorry , what I mean is have either of you (yourself or your partner ) experienced within your Nigerian community any difficulties (as result of your being a mixed couple) that you /or she , has had to /or choose to live with. in order that you both remain in your relationship. i.e with this guy I once dated , I had to endure almost constantly horrible looks from African females whilst out, this is something unpleasant that i would have had to live with in order to remain in that particular. relationship. I'm assuming before you entered your mixed relationship. you possibly dated a lady/ or ladies from your back ground /culture , as I have mine. Now I didn't have to endure any difficult experiences / or make any compromises when with a Jamaican man. (can you see where I'm coming from)? can I ask the Que - if you do / or did you have to make any compromises , does this not matter after a while? if I'm being too nosy just tell me |
Re: Nigerian Man And Jamaican Woman? by cuteNhot(f): 8:27pm On Jan 05, 2008 |
shayla: shayla/ sheila Somehow you don't come across as Jamaican. Jamaicans are inimitable in ALL respect. you are not sounding Jamaican in your style of writing. In fact you write more like a Nigerian. |
Re: Nigerian Man And Jamaican Woman? by shayla(f): 1:36am On Jan 06, 2008 |
" write like an Nigerian" Ha ha , thats a first. but wow!!! Jamacians "inimitable" I'll not ques you on that, but instead take it has a compliment But No! , I am jamaican very much so , although I am a very cosmopolitan person ( well travelled ) so perhaps this is the reason for me not chatting in de strickly yardieeee stayl lli lii eee I think I said this somewhere else this thread. ppl are always making generalisations (about other ppl) & the sooner they accept that everyones an individual literally the sooner they widen their scope of understanding . having said that your comment made me laugh , whats with shayla/sheila bit don't get it |
Re: Nigerian Man And Jamaican Woman? by oziomatv(m): 10:36am On Jan 06, 2008 |
shayla: In Nigeria we say birds of the same feather flies together. change your type of friends, stay with people that are in mixed relationship. Don't ask anybody that don't like mixed relationship advice to your personal problems. know what your partner like and don't and let him know yours. stop making too many friends it useless and dangerous to who is in mixed. your house should be exclusively for special invitees no casual entries. And don't be too jealous it makes things worst. I |
Re: Nigerian Man And Jamaican Woman? by Nobody: 4:51pm On Jan 08, 2008 |
My uncle is married to a jamaican. They both live in Germany. He grew up in Nigeria and he's very much an Igbo guy. The extended family dare not meddle in my uncle's family. I guess because the parents are dead. My mother is very close to his family and she has visited them twice and we get along very fine. |
Re: Nigerian Man And Jamaican Woman? by shayla(f): 7:15pm On Jan 08, 2008 |
Awe! @ stillwater: , that's nice!! Somehow, I think deep down, if a Jamaican, & I'd say for arguments sake - another person of African origin. cast their surface differences & "misconceptions" aside their relationship Or indeed friendship, can a "soupy rich " @ Oziomatv thank you for your response , although (if I'm honest) - you did put me off (quite a bit) |
Re: Nigerian Man And Jamaican Woman? by yankite(m): 7:16am On Jan 30, 2008 |
shayla i think this is easy and straight up,in anythign u do in life what u should always aim at it self satisfaction and fufilment cuz wether u get thign right or wrong u still cant satisfy people. in other words,wether or get married to a nija guy or even ur same jamo guy,the same set of peole hating will still hv some to say,(why did she marry a jamo guy who in a rasta man as beatifull as she is or why a naija man when there is a lots of charming and well educated jamo man in london too)so girl, this is somethign i tell everybody who is curious in ur kinda way, follow the voice of ur spirit mind,dat is the won that always gonna be through to u.all the best mami. |
Re: Nigerian Man And Jamaican Woman? by londoner: 4:44pm On Jan 31, 2008 |
Shayla, they say if it's not broke dont try to fix it, sometimes giving head space to problems that dont already exist can attract them into your life. Cross that bridge if and when you come to it, some people may have a problem, but then people have something to say about almost every relationship. Dont sweat the small stuff. |
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