Siena:

If your spouse is a lawyer or doctor, you're telling me you should have access to her confidential and business issues?? Jesus! What would you want with them? If you feel the Confidentiality Clause is a load of bull, you tell her clients, and see how fast they'll drop your spouse. Not to talk of the legal implications that will ensue. If she's a lawyer or doctor, she could even be struck off the register.

Ujujoan:

Before nko?

He wont be my first and last e-stalker na . . . Na today?

jennykadry: ^^^ if you were not married I would have added you to the list of my e-husbands. But that your wife is not to be trusted. I won't be alive to tell my story after she is done with me
That strong akpuruka woman

bjcole:
I will say here emphatically that any home where friends know more about you than your spouse, then it is not healthy, you are only pushing the evil day, it will surely come. I was doing like that before and i can tell you how much regrets i have for that.

bjcole: @ jennykardy & her cronies, pls dnt bend the rule to suit what you do in your homes. we need to promote togetherness not individualism. Ask yourself why are marriages breaking this. People seems to promote their profession more than their marriage

@ Uju dnt let anybody confuse u, there is no any disrespect whatsoever in picking your spouse phone if you wish so.

afam4eva:
Do couples use protection normally?

bjcole: @ Uju dnt let anybody confuse u, there is no any disrespect whatsoever in picking your spouse phone if you wish so.

bjcole: My brother you are not getting it, nobody is saying you come home to discuss day to day activities with your spouse, it is unnecessary, but i bet you will run to him\ her when one of those your supposed private, business or confidentiality lands you into wahala to seek his\ her help and advice, in fact your spouse is involved automatically.

bjcole: @ kobojunkie, i completely agree with you, if you dont want ur spouse to know about ur professional privacy keep it in your office or clinic. some even argue of if u r a lawyer or medics wit loads of private issues, will you want ur spouse to know, d rule is keep no secret from each other, if ur spouse stumbles on ur phone or checks if he/she wishes & sees anything abt ur profession, it is nt a secret u r keeping from him, its just that u dnt see any reason telling him/her.

bjcole: @ kobojunkie, i completely agree with you, if you dont want ur spouse to know about ur professional privacy keep it in your office or clinic. some even argue of if u r a lawyer or medics wit loads of private issues, will you want ur spouse to know, d rule is keep no secret from each other, if ur spouse stumbles on ur phone or checks if he/she wishes & sees anything abt ur profession, it is nt a secret u r keeping from him, its just that u dnt see any reason telling him/her.

Mrs..Chima:
It is sad to see that some people would rather their spouse to lose their job, business, and practice in the sake of "we are one" mentality.

bjcole: madam dnt run away from d point, no spouse is interested in d client information except you caused it by creating suspicion or ur spouse is just suspecting but u sort that out, i dont knw how. but to say because i m doctor, lawyer or what, my spouse cannot pick or read my texts, i dont know, may be we r rewriting d rule.

bjcole: If u get into any trouble because your spouse sees a confidential info on your phone, its your cross, you have to carry it. @ siena i m nt discussing what works for you or me, i m telling you about one of the principle of marriage. I can tell u that lots feel they see their spouse texts even though they appear as if they are bother. Now i still cant see d offence in picking my spouse to read her text message disrespectful. If i ve to many confidential info, i keep it my office. I browse

dayokanu:

What a load of bull. Your job is different from your personal life.

Even with your pastor, Do you think he discusses every issue with his spouse? You mean every personal confession made to your pastor or Priest is leaked to his wife? So if Someone came to your Pastor to confess he is cheating on his wife with a church member you think your Pastor would go to his wife to inform her?

So if you work as a State Security Operative, you also have to divulge all your work business to your wife? Including the Hotel the President would be sleeping and his travel schedule? Just because you are supposed to be one?

So you think Barack Obama told Michelle that they were going to get Osama Bin Laden 2 days before the strike? Or are they not supposed to be one? Or why was he hiding stuffs from his wife?

An attorney defending a criminal would tell his wife that the guy killed someone but he is just lying in court?

Or the doctor would tell you that when IBB came to the Hospital he came to treat mental illness?

dayokanu:

What a load of bull. Your job is different from your personal life.

Even with your pastor, Do you think he discusses every issue with his spouse? You mean every personal confession made to your pastor or Priest is leaked to his wife? So if Someone came to your Pastor to confess he is cheating on his wife with a church member you think your Pastor would go to his wife to inform her?

Kobojunkie:

Fortunately/unfortunately, the answer is yes many of the times. I have heard some pastors, including mine say it outright that we should not expect to tell him something and not have his wife know of it.

Also, this discussion has been about PERSONAL DATA, not WORK DATA. We all know that WORK usually happens AT WORK. And not at home. Anyone who works at state department and brings his work home, is only creating problems for himself since State Department requires that employees not do that at all. I worked with the State Department and I know that we were required not to take work data home. If you want to work from home, you are usually provided a separate Laptop, and you VPN into secure networks etc to do that. A lot of companies have adopted that approach to securing their data since they do understand that people want to work from home but the home is not a SECURE environment.

Efemena_xy:

In that case, thank goodness I'm catholic.

Our priests are celibate - that way, I don't have to worry about my "confessions" leaked out to another soul...

Efemena_xy: ^^ Meaning??

Kobojunkie:

um . . . [b]do you know how many people around the world have filed cases against priests for HOLDING on to information on behalf of criminals and molesters? [/b]I think recently, one priest here was sentenced to some years for not informing the police after a criminal confessed to him.

Anywho, in the case of the one pastor there, his wife also happens to be a pastor and sort of serves as his conscience.

Efemena_xy:

In that case, thank goodness I'm catholic.

Our priests are celibate - that way, I don't have to worry about my "confessions" leaked out to another soul...

Efemena_xy:

No, I don't know how many people around the world have filed cases against priests for HOLDING on to information on behalf of criminals and molesters.

What has that got to do with my going to confessions to "bare my soul" if I so wish? Did I indicate in my post that I've got criminal intentions of any sort? How does that apply to me or the post I made reference to?

And secondly, do you think people would go for confessions if they know the priest would divulge their information to others?

Thirdly, what has this response of yours got to do with the topic of this thread??

Honestly Kobo! Stay on track and stop derailing!

bjcole: @ kobojunkie, i completely agree with you, if you dont want ur spouse to know about ur professional privacy keep it in your office or clinic. some even argue of if u r a lawyer or medics wit loads of private issues, will you want ur spouse to know, d rule is keep no secret from each other, if ur spouse stumbles on ur phone or checks if he/she wishes & sees anything abt ur profession, it is nt a secret u r keeping from him, its just that u dnt see any reason telling him/her.

Kobojunkie:

um . . . do you know how many people around the world have filed cases against priests for HOLDING on to information on behalf of criminals and molesters? I think recently, one priest here was sentenced to some years for not informing the police after a criminal confessed to him.

Anywho, in the case of the one pastor there, his wife also happens to be a pastor and sort of serves as his conscience.