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men and women can be just friends but boundaries need to be established in the friendship

99% of men, if given the opportunity will bleep their female friends, whether they're bold enough to show their intentions or not. guys only become friends wit females due to some form of attraction, or why do u think pretty girls on facebook get so many "friends" request? most girls come into these situations with genuine intentions of being just friends (i'll explain dat later) but 99% of men would wanna see u Unclad. some may be too shy to ever attempt to express such intentions, so the girl thinks otherwise. lets take an example, if a guy friend walk in on u Unclad, most girls who thot they were just no-strings-attached friends would scream molestation, but 99.9% of guys would bleep their female friends if she walks in on them Unclad.

most girls excuse of having mostly boys as friends is cos guys are more understanding n wit less drama, but the truth is ur girls are ur real friends thats why they can tell it like it is n thus cause friction n stuff from keeping it real, but ur guy friend always plays the nice understanding guy cos of what is seated deep inside their mind. some of these girls tho are just attention whores who feed off attention from the opposite sex cos of low self esteem

It is very possible, but sometimes it end up in something else, i have a friend whose fiancee used to be his best friend, they both had issues in their respective relationships, and today they r lovers, affection starts when you see some1 u care 4 goin thru difficult times in their relationship, offering a shoulder 2 lean on sometimes lead to somefin else, but it's easier if the 2 pple involved have relationships that's working,

I never eat since morning so i nor fit think well for now when i rooster my beans finish i go talk my veiw,

Omolola1: yes it is very possible but then some mutual feelings arise at times

Yeah you are right but you can still fight it out, one must not sex all opposite sex now you can just have some as pals.

efuah: I totally disagree with you! Why? Because it's common, it's about time we erase that perception or stereotyped idea off our brains. I have a lot of male friends, cus am attracted to great brains (intellectuals), i learn something good from such people.  Besides life is not only about sex / romance, there's a lot to it that just that!  Once you respect yourself, principled, set of rules for ya life, u know when to do this n with whom u do it. . . not all opposits attract!  I'ts amazing that most men find it difficult to bliv that a woman can't have a male friend and by all means! there must b something going on btn then. . . that's merda!!  I call that "shallow thinking". . . we need to grow up for once!  I don't give a hoot if u call me a flirt for relating wt guys (intellectuals at that).  If my partner trusts me, your mistrust na mess, so leave it where it belong, garbage!

I totally agree with ya, cus right now I'm together with my best female friend, we slept d same bed head to legs, nothing happen.

Story... its either u are an impotent or suffering from something, cos a complete man will not sleep with a woman and nothing happens.

papine: IS THERE ANYTHING ''LIKE JUST FRIENDS'' ?
LET ME REMIND YOU HERE THAT '' JUST FRIENDS'' MEANS
[b]1 NO SEX
2 NO PASSION FOR EACH ORDER
3 NO LUST
4 NO SECRET DREAMS AND DESIRES [/b]FROM MY OWN POINT OF VIEW, IT IS VERY DIFFICULT FOR A MAN AND A WOMAN TO BE JUST FRIENDS, PARTICULARLY IF THEY WERE ONCE LOVERS
OR WHAT DO YOU THINK.

''just a friend'' also means
:not spending for her and not demanding from him as if he's ur boyfriend or husband.

I have either had feelings for a female friend or they've had for me. Only one person has managed to control theirs around me and we're really great friends. So yes, it's possible but rare