bizmogul: Are you in a distance relationship? Do you worry about calling it quits but you love this person and can't let go? Your survival in a distance relationship depends on how the relationship got start. For example I spent sometime together with my girlfriend in school before I graduated and we got seperated by distance. Distance relationships could be very painful and tiring but in order to sustain it you need to apply the following.

1. There must be genuine love: I love my girl so much, right from the outset and she loves me in return despite the fact am not rich this has been the core of our relationship. Each time we talk about the past and how memorable it was being together the memories keep us alive.

2. Trust: without trust distance relationship goes dead. Trust issues begin to come up when one party begins to act differently, like myself I erased my thoughts from ‎​tinking my girl has someone else; I don't think about it no matter what, its not a perfect relationship but because we trust each other we keep going on and on.

3. Don't Listen To Friends: friends sure have a way of destroying distance relationships. I remember the times when I sit over a drink with a couple of friends, they make me feel like a loser, they make me feel like a complete idiot, asking questions like do you know what she is doing now? Maybe she is having fun with some other guy while you are here being the good guy. I almost fell for all that, it almost ruined my relationship but as I earlier said, trust is what keeps me going.

4. Regular communication: keep in touch at all times, say sweet things you will normally say to her, don't let her feel you are ever tired, with various communication gadgets blackberry,facebook,mobile phone,skype communication has been made easier.

5. Send a surprise gift from a distance: you know where she stays? Why not courier a package to her with a recent picture from you, a hand written note and some gift items. It helps.

6. Jerk off/self-service and get one of those intimacy toy(s).

I will stop for now, more updates coming soon.

sexy glow: Hmm..am learining.@ op does this work in marriage also,in a situation where hubby and wify work and live far from each other?

Eneze1: its easier said than done unless both parties are matured minds and have the fear of God.

fashizie: Risky venture
Works in 1 outa 50 cases.
When i say" works" i mean the ones that both parties dont screw n frolick in deciet
Ha first to coment.first time to achieve dis feat.can i get a first congratulation

unclenna: yes

kasheemawo: for u to call it off means u have been seeing someone else.

pretty_boi: @ bizMogul......I am in one too & every single thing you wrote up there I can relate to. Particularly, the one of friends trying to talk you off: "you dey here dey form love,ur chick go dey nack another person." It never moves me,my chick & I are no saints,we could fall,but we have the "honesty policy" condition going on whereby if we ever stray or cheat,let's talk about it. It may not have been 100% perfect, but it has helped us a super-great deal in our 4+ years relationship. Thank God.

emcemayo: I am in one as I write and quiting has never been on my mind, even though we will insh'llah be getting married in d first quarter of next year. Long distance relationship is not for everybody if you know you can't scale through no point, just pull out. As 4 me it helps me focus on other things and it very much keeps pre- marital sex @ bay. Ya!!!

~Bluetooth:

The guy is at one end shaggging another girl while his girlfriend at the other end is shagging another boy. . . . .i think distance relationship is an aggregate of confusion and an energy-demanding task.

Elueme: I was an ardent believer of a distance relationship working but am fast changing my take on it. Maybe it could work when your relationship had rooted before he/ she travelled but for a nascent relationship? It will take God's grace..just a personnnal experience.

Adary: I strongly believe that it is a thing of the mind(maturity). Was in one and it did not work out cos of lack of communication on his part... And am in another now and am enjoying it

unclenna: matured mind or not. Is only d fear of GOD that can make it work.

bizmogul:

Well... you ain't wrong

kh0lz: OUT OF SIGHT IS OUT OF MIND

APII: The only way to overcome the pain is to quit the relationship so you can have rest of mind.
For couples, either of you should abandon whatever you are doing and join the other period.
That's my candid advice or else you will have heart attack.

Vismat: may God bless u. That is the best thing to do it's only if we want to deceive ourselves. Right now, i'm in one and things are not going on well since he got a job in Lagos.

timifakay: Sacrifice is also necessary. You sacrifice your sleep to talk late at night, time you want to spend elsewhere, money you can spend on other things, pride when there is a misunderstanding, safety when you travel to meet the other party....

bizmogul: Are you in a distance relationship? Do you worry about calling it quits but you love this person and can't let go? Your survival in a distance relationship depends on how the relationship got started. For example I spent some time together with my girlfriend in school before I graduated and we got separated by distance. Distance relationships could be very painful and tiring but in order to sustain it you need to apply the following.

1. There must be genuine love: I love my girl so much, right from the outset and she loves me in return despite the fact am not rich this has been the core of our relationship. Each time we talk about the past and how memorable it was being together the memories keep us alive.

2. Trust: without trust distance relationship goes dead. Trust issues begin to come up when one party begins to act differently, like myself I erased my thoughts from ‎thinking my girl has someone else; I don't think about it no matter what, it’s not a perfect relationship but because we trust each other we keep going on and on.

3. Don't Listen To Friends: friends sure have a way of destroying distance relationships. I remember the times when I sit over a drink with a couple of friends, they make me feel like a loser, they make me feel like a complete idiot, asking questions like do you know what she is doing now? Maybe she is having fun with some other guy while you are here being the good guy. I almost fell for all that, it almost ruined my relationship but as I earlier said, trust is what keeps me going.

4. Regular communication: keep in touch at all times, say sweet things you will normally say to her, don't let her feel you are ever tired, with various communication gadgets blackberry, facebook, mobile phone, skype communication has been made easier.

5. Send a surprise gift from a distance: you know where she stays? You could courier a package to her with a recent picture from you, a hand written note and some gift items. It helps.

I will stop for now, more updates coming soon.

fashizie:
Risky venture
Works in 1 outa 50 cases.
When i say" works" i mean the ones that both parties dont screw n frolick in deciet
Ha first to coment.first time to achieve dis feat.can i get a first congratulation