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Re: Are We Living In A World Of Indecency Or Fashion by ronkebp(f): 10:12pm On Sep 27, 2012
coogar:


money does not entice some women - matter of fact, the only reason they would turn down a man's request is because he has money! they are aware such men are always sought after and they don't want to keep fighting concubines every now and then so they go for the dude with less dough and equal substance!


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this is part of where the moral upbringing comes in and self control, money is supposed to entice women because every woman loves comfort and money answereth all things, but for personal self worth and other things in place, some women will not fall irrespective of the packaging so instead of that as a criteria, other things or qualities come first...that is how i see it though.
Re: Are We Living In A World Of Indecency Or Fashion by dayokanu(m): 11:27pm On Sep 27, 2012
Nothing is new under the sun.
Re: Are We Living In A World Of Indecency Or Fashion by dayokanu(m): 11:32pm On Sep 27, 2012
ronkebp:

It is also an irresponsible man that will get a hard-on at every nippppllle or clapping bakaasi, ?

Its like saying only an irresponsible man would have an erectiion watching poorn.
Re: Are We Living In A World Of Indecency Or Fashion by slimyem: 11:50pm On Sep 27, 2012
At the end of the day,we can only talk,discuss and affect the immediate people around us as regards indecency.
We cannot save the world!!
Re: Are We Living In A World Of Indecency Or Fashion by SalemLord(m): 11:29am On Sep 28, 2012
chaircover: A lot of people are saying that it doesnt matter and everyone should mind their own biz but actually it does matter.

I have a question for the ladies saying it doesnt matter; if your husbands secretary wore seriously revealing outfits to work everyday will you feel comfortable with it?

The truth is that many of these girls (and some men too) dress to impress and attract the opposite sex. Well, lets be truthful here and just agree with that. We also have to agree that not all men can look and take away their eyes, and many want to taste what is beyond the flimsy dress and the half covered bossoms. Could this be one of the many reasons why marriages of today are breaking up left right and center due to infidelity?

All these girls called aristos certainly didnt catch their sugar pappys wearing turtle neck under iro and buba. . . .. yes yes yes a man that will cheat will cheat but he stands a greater risk if loosing it one day when the secretary has leaned over his desk with boobies falling out of her low cut flimsy top for the 20th time in one day.

Yes the idea is to mind ones biz but eventually somehow no matter how little, the decay in the society will affect us. We dont do drugs but I cant bury my head in the sand and say because we dont do drugs in my home, drugs in general doesn't concern me. It does and I have to teach my children about drugs and make sure that I explain the disadvantages of it because one day they may be offered it when I am not there. It concerns me because people on drugs can cause accidents, commit crimes to fund their habit.

Take another example of the sms/bbm/internet speak the youth of today speak/type. Many cant even speak/write good English to start with and now they are making things worse. I have people writing me covering letters on CV's and using that annoying internet speak. If we are not careful, it will soon take over. Imagine someone starting a discussion with me on facebook saying "I" - instead of saying Hi or Hello.
i'm so much impressed by your comments, i don't know why most people here tend to show a holier than thou attitude which is so sarcastic in nature, we should face the truth and be bold to say it. The ladies & guys here defending indecency are not far from practising it or being the defaulter here, we should treat matters maturedly and not childishly. CC i really commend u. Thanks alot
Re: Are We Living In A World Of Indecency Or Fashion by SalemLord(m): 11:30am On Sep 28, 2012
slimyem: At the end of the day,we can only talk,discuss and affect the immediate people around us as regards indecency.
We cannot save the world!!
but we can try our little best
Re: Are We Living In A World Of Indecency Or Fashion by SalemLord(m): 11:35am On Sep 28, 2012
debrief08:
Well, it is not my business or responsibility to do fashion police for my husbands colleges or other girls and women he may come accroos with, It is my responsibility to be with a man who respects me, our vows and family so much that even if a girl is naked before him he will say " Thanks but no thanks". These ladies do not owe me or any wife any thing, My husband does, Temptation is everywhere, it is both of you who have decided to forsake all others who have the responsibility to keep that vow. Are we saying married men in Saudi dont have affairs? There where women are covered from head to toe? Affair is beyond the temptation of dressing, it is about the thrill of sneaking and lack of self control.
In most cases of people I know most men even go for less attractive women than their wives.
Loose girls can dress the way they want but the man who saw all these girls and decided to hang on to one should hang onto that one, it is not their responsibility to keep our marriages
until u realize the fatality of indecent dressing and its effect on marriages then u wouldn't have the guts to say such.
Re: Are We Living In A World Of Indecency Or Fashion by SalemLord(m): 11:40am On Sep 28, 2012
debrief08:
I agree but whatever happens it is me and my husband not the fault of any of these ladies. i also get tempted by wealthier men who will give anything for an affair, I say No thank you and that is it. So would I now blame them for having too much money and throwing it at my face if i decide to cheat? If I decide to cheat as an easy way to get my RR Sport it would be a conscious choice and not the fault of the man who saw m weakness and greed and used it for his benefit.
I would never blame the other woman should my husband cheat, my marriage is between me and him no one else
when u realize that the other girl ur husband is seeing is pregnant then we would know if this will be ur response or not, and also we would know if he has jeopardized with his faithful vows.
Re: Are We Living In A World Of Indecency Or Fashion by SalemLord(m): 11:45am On Sep 28, 2012
kulyie: even if i see dem,my purpose for comin to work is to treat d documents for d day,account to my boss n live,i am so into wot i am doin dat i am less bothered weda someone os dressin decently or indecently,d bottomline is dat wen u r nt idle,u will not notice anybodys dressin,its people who dont av work dat take dia tym to study peoples dressing from head to toe,by d way wot is my buisness,am i her father,mother,boss or relation.nigerians should learn to mind their buisness for once and nigeria will b a beta place for all
if u should mind ur business, nigeria would be the worst habitation ever and don't tell me u don't ever have time for urself or break from work. We should stop being hypocrites and stop all these deception that is why nigeria is where it is today.
Re: Are We Living In A World Of Indecency Or Fashion by SalemLord(m): 11:47am On Sep 28, 2012
honeypie311: How u dress will determine how u ll be addressed. Yes, evry1 want to blend with d latest style n fashion but i say we do it in a sensible way. And as for sagging, extreme clevage exposure, tatooing, crazy haircuts(4 girls), tommy exposure, if u tink all these are stil a fashion trend, i'll say u C.RA. Z Y n must be locked up. If d above listed are curbed out of our daily dressings, imagine how modest we ll look like.
i'm happy this is coming from a reasonable lady. Kudos
Re: Are We Living In A World Of Indecency Or Fashion by SalemLord(m): 11:53am On Sep 28, 2012
coogar:

i grudgingly agree - the environment also plays a role here! a dude who has been used to going to em beaches and seeing jugs all the time would have been used to such stuff than a complete villager who is seeing such for the first time!
king solomon how many did he see was he still satisfied or was he a villager?
Re: Are We Living In A World Of Indecency Or Fashion by Nobody: 11:54am On Sep 28, 2012
SalemLord:
when u realize that the other girl ur husband is seeing is pregnant then we would know if this will be ur response or not, and also we would know if he has jeopardized with his faithful vows.
First they are responsible for rap3 now they are responsible for broken marriages. God forbid that a man would actually ne held responisble for his own actions.
Re: Are We Living In A World Of Indecency Or Fashion by coogar: 12:04pm On Sep 28, 2012
SalemLord:
king solomon how many did he see was he still satisfied or was he a villager?

and you were told bôôbs were the motivating factor for king solomon to marry 600 wives?
Re: Are We Living In A World Of Indecency Or Fashion by SalemLord(m): 2:11pm On Sep 28, 2012
coogar:

and you were told bôôbs were the motivating factor for king solomon to marry 600 wives?
citing an example, never said it was about the boobs
Re: Are We Living In A World Of Indecency Or Fashion by SalemLord(m): 2:13pm On Sep 28, 2012
debrief08:
First they are responsible for rap3 now they are responsible for broken marriages. God forbid that a man would actually ne held responisble for his own actions.
open ur eyes and face reality
Re: Are We Living In A World Of Indecency Or Fashion by SisiKill1: 3:47pm On Sep 28, 2012
I find it truly ironic and a wee bit amusing that a person who opened a thread to condemn other people's mode of dressing can say someone has an "Holier than thou" attititude. I tell ya, sometimes, you just gotta throw your hand in the air in resignation. cheesy cheesy

While I understand what CC is saying. . .yes, the hooker dressing can lead men to temptation and it will be proactive to take a stance against it. I can't help but wonder for how long will one do that? After chasing the secretaries with the Boobies hanging out of the office, where next. . .the stores? The Gym? In the Airport? On the Streets? In the malls? In the parking garage? Where does it end and how much energy would one expend on this arduous task?

I have to agree with Debrief that whatever happens in a marriage should lay squarely on the people in it. Where does trust come into it if I have to play "Wifey - The Nakid bosom Chaser" to keep him from cheating? If a man decides to cheat because he catches a glimpse of boobies here and there then it is on him. . .HE broke the vow HE took.

Is this naive? I mean to count only on trust? Maybe but honestly, I'd take this over the alternative. . . undecided

@ Topic
Yeah, there are people dressing indecently out there but except you wanna carry kobokobo and start playing Street Monitor, I don't how you can change it. The most you can do start a change in your home first. . .who knows it just might spill outward and before we can say Jumping Jeepers, is that a Nippple I see?" everyone is gonna start dressing decently.

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Re: Are We Living In A World Of Indecency Or Fashion by Nobody: 6:07pm On Sep 28, 2012
Sisi_Kill: I find it truly ironic and a wee bit amusing that a person who opened a thread to condemn other people's mode of dressing can say someone has an "Holier than thou" attititude. I tell ya, sometimes, you just gotta throw your hand in the air in resignation. cheesy cheesy

While I understand what CC is saying. . .yes, the hooker dressing can lead men to temptation and it will be proactive to take a stance against it. I can't help but wonder for how long will one do that? After chasing the secretaries with the Boobies hanging out of the office, where next. . .the stores? The Gym? In the Airport? On the Streets? In the malls? In the parking garage? Where does it end and how much energy would one expend on this arduous task?

I have to agree with Debrief that whatever happens in a marriage should lay squarely on the people in it. Where does trust come into it if I have to play "Wifey - The Nakid bosom Chaser" to keep him from cheating? If a man decides to cheat because he catches a glimpse of boobies here and there then it is on him. . .HE broke the vow HE took.

Is this naive? I mean to count only on trust? Maybe but honestly, I'd take this over the alternative. . . undecided

@ Topic
Yeah, there are people dressing indecently out there but except you wanna carry kobokobo and start playing Street Monitor, I don't how you can change it. The most you can do start a change in your home first. . .who knows it just might spill outward and before we can say Jumping Jeepers, is that a Nippple I see?" everyone is gonna start dressing decently.
Thank you oh, First of all my husband does not run a one man business where I can go and bully his colleagues and Junior workers and tell them what to wear, The day I try that, na query my husband go get.
Maybe it is the Nigerian system where wives can go and harass junior workers they perceive as "seducing" their husbands. A man who doesnt respect his vow doesnt respect his vows simple. He will chase small girls, office girls, shop girls, sometimes you will go with him to fast food joints and he will slip his card to the attendant right in your presence, Nigerian women we know this yet we always choose to demonise the other woman. I will say this a million times, that woman can only get in if your husband invites her. Simple. I am not naive, I have been there, seen it, got the TShirt, The other woman is not the problem.

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Re: Are We Living In A World Of Indecency Or Fashion by ronkebp(f): 6:45pm On Sep 28, 2012
dayokanu:

Its like saying only an irresponsible man would have an erectiion watching poorn.

An irresponsible man would "always" have an erection while watching porn, there are some porn movies that does nothing to the senses or the body, it is just there, and there are some, before they start you are drooling, so when a man is having an erection at every nipppple, and i repeat, at every baaakaasi, there is a serious problem of self control and lack of it there. There is nothing anybody can tell me.
Re: Are We Living In A World Of Indecency Or Fashion by Nobody: 1:04pm On Sep 29, 2012
ronkebp: An irresponsible man would "always" have an erection while watching porn, there are some porn movies that does nothing to the senses or the body, it is just there, and there are some, before they start you are drooling, so when a man is having an erection at every nipppple, and i repeat, at every baaakaasi, there is a serious problem of self control and lack of it there. There is nothing anybody can tell me.

i have to ask: do you hear what you are saying, and do you actually believe it?!............ do you believe your husband is a responsible man? if yes then here is your experiment for the day, and to make it even more understandable to you how we men function, tell your hubby beforehand that it is an EXPERIMENT.......so simply go online, choose a por.no of any kind (girl + boy), put it on, ask your man to get UnCloth, then ask him to BE RESPONSIBLE AND NOT HAVE A HARDON while watching it....... the result may shock you.
pls come back to us with the result, lol!

btw here is a side experiment for all you people that dont know what type of freak your husband is:
go online, find some por.no with stuff that may seem GROSS to you, bestiality/hom.osexuality/fem dom etc, then do the exact same thing as mentionned above. and then watch and learn.
pls ladies, do not blame MBJ for what you may discover about the husband you thought you knew.

thanks me later!
Re: Are We Living In A World Of Indecency Or Fashion by ronkebp(f): 3:56pm On Sep 29, 2012
MRbrownJAY:

i have to ask: do you hear what you are saying, and do you actually believe it?!............ do you believe your husband is a responsible man? if yes then here is your experiment for the day, and to make it even more understandable to you how we men function, tell your hubby beforehand that it is an EXPERIMENT.......so simply go online, choose a por.no of any kind (girl + boy), put it on, ask your man to get UnCloth, then ask him to BE RESPONSIBLE AND NOT HAVE A HARDON while watching it....... the result may shock you.
pls come back to us with the result, lol!

btw here is a side experiment for all you people that dont know what type of freak your husband is:
go online, find some por.no with stuff that may seem GROSS to you, bestiality/hom.osexuality/fem dom etc, then do the exact same thing as mentionned above. and then watch and learn.
pls ladies, do not blame MBJ for what you may discover about the husband you thought you knew.

thanks me later!

MBJ, there are p/or/ns and there are po/r/ns, and i will repeat it again, not all p/o/rn should give a reasonable man a hard-on. i cannot count how many po/r/no movies i have watched with my hubby, i know when he is rocking hard and when he has this "nonsense" look all over his face,he means, this is just crap, they are not even good enough, so you want to tell me that your or the men's senses, have nothing else to think about but to having arousals anytime they watch movies and see babes, so anything and any lady can rock your boat? Anything goes kinda man.....ooopsss!!! what won't i see.....lol.

Just because men are men, is not enough reason for most of them if not all should be thinking with their penis/es, that is why many of them especially in Nigeria are being killed by M.A.G.U.N
Re: Are We Living In A World Of Indecency Or Fashion by coogar: 4:06pm On Sep 29, 2012
ronkebp:

MBJ, there are p/or/ns and there are po/r/ns, and i will repeat it again, not all p/o/rn should give a reasonable man a hard-on. i cannot count how many po/r/no movies i have watched with my hubby, i know when he is rocking hard and when he has this "nonsense" look all over his face,he means, this is just crap, they are not even good enough, so you want to tell me that your or the men's senses, have nothing else to think about but to having arousals anytime they watch movies and see babes, so anything and any lady can rock your boat? Anything goes kinda man.....ooopsss!!! what won't i see.....lol.

Just because men are men, is not enough reason for most of them if not all should be thinking with their penis/es, that is why many of them especially in Nigeria are being killed by M.A.G.U.N

you cannot blame men for the way they think - nature wants them to think like that! thinking it is not irresponsible cos i am sure the men @ the vatican also cop eréctions, acting on it is the koko!

the acting on it is also a grey area - is the tempter tempting enough to tempt the man?
Re: Are We Living In A World Of Indecency Or Fashion by ronkebp(f): 4:19pm On Sep 29, 2012
coogar:

you cannot blame men for the way they think - nature wants them to think like that! thinking it is not irresponsible cos i am sure the men @ the vatican also cop eréctions, acting on it is the koko!

the acting on it is also a grey area - is the tempter tempting enough to tempt the man?

Why does a naked-mad woman,with se/x/y bo.o.bies does not give some men hard-on, although there are men that have stooped so low to go and have sex/u.al intercou/rse with crazy women, especially at night (disgusting)....

Nobody is blaming men for the way they think, i only hate when they have chosen to think in a certain way and call it "the norm".
Re: Are We Living In A World Of Indecency Or Fashion by coogar: 4:24pm On Sep 29, 2012
ronkebp:
Why does a naked-mad woman,with se/x/y bo.o.bies does not give some men hard-on, although there are men that have stooped so low to go and have sex/u.al intercou/rse with crazy women, especially at night (disgusting)....

because she's dirty, stinking and unkempt! i don't even take a second look at such cos its not about the boobies - it's the total package! the men boning those mad women in naija are mad men themselves and those who are into ritualism!


Nobody is blaming men for the way they think, i only hate when they have chosen to think in a certain way and call it "the norm".

what nature bestows on men is the "norm", isn't it?
Re: Are We Living In A World Of Indecency Or Fashion by Nobody: 10:04pm On Sep 30, 2012
Ooops
Re: Are We Living In A World Of Indecency Or Fashion by Nobody: 10:05pm On Sep 30, 2012
@Ronkebp
Are you saying that since your man only get aroused by all the women who do what he likes ( in these movies), it makes him responsible? It doesn't matter what the girls do in these movies because BEFORE they do the do, they will get nekkid and that would trigger the hardon. If they start to do some stuff that is against your religion then the said man may lose the hardon....... But that's only afterwards.

As for the mad woman, if she keeps quiet and his clean, how you go know that she is mad (if you met her in a hotel room)? Believe me, bent over and with her cheeks spread wide, she may look just as good (if not Better) as any common housewife out there..... And her lips on a cokc will have the exact same desired effect as any lips.
Re: Are We Living In A World Of Indecency Or Fashion by ronkebp(f): 10:14pm On Sep 30, 2012
I am not saying my husband is responsible or not responsible, i am saying that it is not every Po/r?no movie that should make a sane person high, have a hard-on or wet panties, it is not every lady that you see should make your rod hard...all you have to do is train your mind and body....if you get aroused by everything in skirt and you are proving to the world that your are an "able man" by so doing, that man has a major problem...Simple!!!
Re: Are We Living In A World Of Indecency Or Fashion by coogar: 10:26pm On Sep 30, 2012
ronkebp: I am not saying my husband is responsible or not responsible, i am saying that it is not every Po/r?no movie that should make a sane person high, have a hard-on or wet panties, it is not every lady that you see should make your rod hard...all you have to do is train your mind and body....if you get aroused by everything in skirt and you are proving to the world that your are an "able man" by so doing, that man has a major problem...Simple!!!

there lies the problem.....
if a small class size of female pörnstars can make some men get dizzy, how much more the vast number of women the men of today encounter on a daily basis? to make matters worse, some of these women even initiate the process! abeg, it's sometimes hard to disobey the simple laws of nature! it's very possible but it's hard to criticise men who can't keep it zipped!
Re: Are We Living In A World Of Indecency Or Fashion by Nobody: 8:31am On Oct 01, 2012
Train your mind and body?! Bwaaaah! You clearly have no idea about the male brain and body then..... A man can decide to do nothing about a Hardon but there is NOT much one can do about it, if a hardon creeps in (unless looking elsewhere, and even that may not help)

You Are using your female brain to try to think for us men...... Lol, and this is where you are failing.
The male body and mind is way different than the female one. Most potent man would get a rock hard cokc if they see a fresh pair of tittays or bootays, especially if that man has mounted the same toto for a few yrs.

Why do you actually think that many fukc women that are uglier and less sexy than their wives at home? Why do you think some sleep with their maids?

Shiiiit, we don't even have to see any nekkid females to have hardons, just go to bed and when you wake up.....,, voila! Yet you come here and talk about "training your mind and body", lol that's a nice joke! Some men have been trying to tame the tiger in their pants ALL THEIR LIVES, and they are not any closer to succeed.
Re: Are We Living In A World Of Indecency Or Fashion by ronkebp(f): 7:01pm On Oct 01, 2012
Too bad, when Nigeria men start to tell eachother the truth things will begin to auger well...a man that cannot keep it zipped because he encounters batallion of women daily, i repeat is an irresponsible man. A man that has a pointed trouser whether married or single, anytime he sees a prettylin, has a big problem, if he is suffering from Se?x/ual addiction wahala, then we know where the problem lies, if he thinks he is well and has a pointed trouser every time HE SEES A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN, he needs to have a RETHINK and do a thorough check-up.
Re: Are We Living In A World Of Indecency Or Fashion by coogar: 7:13pm On Oct 01, 2012
ronkebp: Too bad, when Nigeria men start to tell eachother the truth things will begin to auger well...a man that cannot keep it zipped because he encounters batallion of women daily, i repeat is an irresponsible man. A man that has a pointed trouser whether married or single, anytime he sees a prettylin, has a big problem, if he is suffering from Se?x/ual addiction wahala, then we know where the problem lies, if he thinks he is well and has a pointed trouser every time HE SEES A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN, he needs to have a RETHINK and do a thorough check-up.

ronkebp, stop blaspheming!
responding to stimuli is not an act of irresponsibility - acting on those feelings could be irresponsible but the feelings are inevitable unless the man is suffering from erëctile dysfunction.
Re: Are We Living In A World Of Indecency Or Fashion by dayokanu(m): 7:19pm On Oct 01, 2012
ronkebp: Too bad, when Nigeria men start to tell eachother the truth things will begin to auger well...a man that cannot keep it zipped because he encounters batallion of women daily, i repeat is an irresponsible man. A man that has a pointed trouser whether married or single, anytime he sees a prettylin, has a big problem, if he is suffering from Se?x/ual addiction wahala, then we know where the problem lies, if he thinks he is well and has a pointed trouser every time HE SEES A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN, he needs to have a RETHINK and do a thorough check-up.

Ronke, take all the priest in vatican and all the Pastors to watch Porn and all of them would have an errection As long as they sit down to watch it. provided they dont have health issues.

The only rememdy is to leave the environment or refuse to act on the stimuli/errection. But that they wont react? thats a Big lie
Re: Are We Living In A World Of Indecency Or Fashion by ronkebp(f): 9:43pm On Oct 01, 2012
coogar:

ronkebp, stop blaspheming!
responding to stimuli is not an act of irresponsibility - acting on those feelings could be irresponsible but the feelings are inevitable unless the man is suffering from erëctile dysfunction.

So you are saying you always have an erection when you see any pretty lady? because if you do, then i know where your answers are coming from.

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