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| I Don't Know What To Do by Akin1212(m): 8:57am On Sep 23, 2012 |
I am so in love with a girl and we started dating over a year ago, it took six months for this girl to accept me. We met in school. This girl had a boyfriend she claimed they've been together for 7yrs. But before we started dating her parents forcefully dissolved the relationship because they don't want her with the guy for reasons best known to them. At the early stage of our relationship the girl usually picks the guy over me if i ask her some choice questions but that has changed now. So last year december when they met at home she said she made it clear to the guy that she has a new boyfriend cos the guy was always calling her although it was the guy that first dated after their separation. But the guy will not give up. To cut a long story short, recently the girl came visiting and before she got to my place she deleted all the messages the guy sent to her so i would not get mad at her, i knew so i asked her and she admitted. So one day the guy called her and asked where she was and my girlfriend said she went to see 'someone' i looked into her eyes and she said she went to see 'someone like that'. So i got mad and asked for a break up and she wept profusely i mean non stop that i can't do this to her. She said i should trust her that she has nothing to do with the guy. She said she doesn't know how to tell the guy that he should leave her alone because he has health issues. Then i collected the number and call the guy that he should stop disturbing my girlfriend that he is trying to break us apart. And he sent this message to my girlfriend 'can't imagine you doing this to me after all your promises when we both spoke last. Why did you have to give him my number, you know this is between me and you. You now put me back into another dillema abi? I just want you to know that i don't deserve this from you if you can still remember the past. Tell the guy that i will get back at him i promise. Good day' this girl is a virgin and i feel like fighting this war to the end, as far as i'm concerned we love each other, we have done things together that she has never done before. I affect her positively and does the same to me. I don't want to leave her but i don't know what to do. Please advice me |
| Re: I Don't Know What To Do by 190: 9:06am On Sep 23, 2012 |
Nairalanders make una help this guy beg dat other boy now  |
| Re: I Don't Know What To Do by 190: 9:07am On Sep 23, 2012 |
Woman palava everywhere  Instead of boys 2 chase money, they rada chase women all ova 3 Likes |
| Re: I Don't Know What To Do by frank317: 9:33am On Sep 23, 2012 |
She is just a confused girl and obviously still loves the guy, u are just a second choice, the other guy already has a place in her heart. This is my concern though: she lied to u. Can u trust her? She is still makin promises to the guy, while still with u. I think ur confusion and jealousy is not helping u think straight. How long with u all continue in this love triangle? For this triangle to break, one person has to pull out. She is at the tip and holding the both of u at the bottom, but her grip is more on him. Can't u see he can't even go because she is not letting him go? U are just a pond in the chess game. The rest is urs to decide. NB: why do u think she is still a virgin? I don't think she is though, I think sexx is their bond. Beside if u love her because of ur presumed sexualy status, then that's selfish, let her go. |
| Re: I Don't Know What To Do by Akin1212(m): 9:41am On Sep 23, 2012 |
frank3.16:i really appreciate your contribution, but trust issue is a big issue i trust her and that's the best thing to do if you want to get the truth. She is a virgin and that's not because she told me it's cos i know. And that's also not the reason i love her. But one thing is sure i'll get to the end and not letting her go cos i'll feel like a loser. Thank you frank |
| Re: I Don't Know What To Do by Akin1212(m): 9:41am On Sep 23, 2012 |
frank3.16: |
| Re: I Don't Know What To Do by greedie1(f): 9:47am On Sep 23, 2012 |
O boy! So u r "someone lyk dat" to her? Lol bydway, ow do u knw she is a virgin? Pray tell |
| Re: I Don't Know What To Do by 190: 9:48am On Sep 23, 2012 |
What is it wif Guys and Virgins Once dey see one, dey begin 2 think wif their left nyash OP - sooner or later u'l end up getting dumped! Mark my words# u can thank me later# |
| Re: I Don't Know What To Do by frank317: 9:54am On Sep 23, 2012 |
Akin1212: i really appreciate your contribution, but trust issue is a big issue i trust her and that's the best thing to do if you want to get the truth. She is a virgin and that's not because she told me it's cos i know. And that's also not the reason i love her. But one thing is sure i'll get to the end and not letting her go cos i'll feel like a loser. Thank you frank Well u can trut her but has she acted in a manner that shows she deserve it? Honestly I tell people that trust is one of the ways we decieve ourselves. She is only a human and can't even trust herslf (as u can c). I can see u really want her which is only natural because nobody likes to lose. Words is what u need and not trust. U have to let go of all this confusion and jealousy and talk to her like a man who knows what he wants. Word, I mean the right words. Tell her what she needs to her, don't beg her talk sense to her. I don't know how constructive and meaningful u can b but talk to hear cos she does not know what she is doing, use ur words to motivate her to take a decision that will please u. Rmember the other guy is begging, he does not realize he has upper hand. Don't beg her, tell her what to do. Women like men who are incharge (don't confuse this with pride) make her feel indeted to pleasing u and proving to u that she can make a right decision. 1 Like |
| Re: I Don't Know What To Do by Akin1212(m): 9:58am On Sep 23, 2012 |
190: Woman palava everywhereis this an advice |
| Re: I Don't Know What To Do by greedie1(f): 9:59am On Sep 23, 2012 |
frank3.16:true |
| Re: I Don't Know What To Do by 190: 10:00am On Sep 23, 2012 |
^No its a warning |
| Re: I Don't Know What To Do by Akin1212(m): 10:06am On Sep 23, 2012 |
190: What is it wif Guys and Virginsi have always known you to be a good talker but with this you just blew it |
| Re: I Don't Know What To Do by 190: 10:12am On Sep 23, 2012 |
But bro ure pissin me off Hw can u claim she's a virgin and yet tossing u arund Like a loose ball - all in d name of a relationship Does she see herself like beyonce or rihanna and u я obviously Too slow 4my liking, she's gaming 2 old grown matured dudes Crackin y'all both heads togeda and ure here whinning Jeeez - do guys lik u stil exist, u really nid 2 take coaching lessons from me Cus dat gurl is in smooth control over ur life rite nw and pls drop those talks of she been a virgin |
| Re: I Don't Know What To Do by Akin1212(m): 10:18am On Sep 23, 2012 |
190: But bro ure pissin me offdo you know the girl from somewhere before? If not what i said about her. She's not what you think 190. Cut the crap and stop saying what you don't know. Do you even know what virginity is like? I don't believe in it. But this one is surely one i believe, you should know i'll have reasons. |
| Re: I Don't Know What To Do by Akin1212(m): 10:34am On Sep 23, 2012 |
I'M IN CHARGE |
| Re: I Don't Know What To Do by Nnekacherry: 10:47am On Sep 23, 2012 |
Frank is right, you realy need to talk some sense into her head and show her that you are in charge. It may even give her the courage to break off totaly from the other guy... Pls dont go fighting because of a girl, especialy one that called you ''Someone like that''.... Lol. |
| Re: I Don't Know What To Do by 190theclown: 10:58am On Sep 23, 2012 |
Nnekacherry: Frank is right, you realy need to talk some sense into her head and show her that you are in charge. It may even give her the courage to break off totaly from the other guy... Rotfl @ "someone like that" Can u imagine d effontery!! And d dude just told me he's in charge How lame can dis get further - hahahahaha!! |
| Re: I Don't Know What To Do by Onegai(f): 11:03am On Sep 23, 2012 |
She doesn't really like you. You're the guy around her helping her to heal over her ex. Women lose to possess things, there is NO way a woman who loves you will describe you as "someone like that". Women care when you change your fb status to "in a relationship", yet this girl is saying she went to see "someone" and "someone like that" after over a year of dating?! Your chances of getting hurt is steadily getting higher, and she'll probably move onto another guy. If she stays with you, it's not that she loves you, it's because she knows she has the upper hand. Tears come easy for 90% of women, shey you know? If you like, play a tight game and talk to her "like a man" or "beg", she'll stay for now. But remember, women can marry you and NOT love you and you will NEVER know. Though most likely in her case, she may end up with a new guy, not the ex (have seen your situation before, you may end up breaking up with her after wasting your time). Tell her to leave you and make up her mind, no contact for a month, and you, stop chasing waterfalls. And oh yeah, stop loving her virginity. Really. As a woman, it's an excellent tool for controlling men, because we know it trips guys. It doesn't make me a good person more than the next (I can show several virgins who will make your life hell, and several virgins who are sweet). |
| Re: I Don't Know What To Do by 190theclown: 11:08am On Sep 23, 2012 |
^aki na pawpaw I believe u've heard from a lady' dis tyme Fly wen nor dey hear word, dey follow dead body enta coffin U now know what 2do Leave dat gurl and her ex relationship alone in peace Ure intruding and ure obviously a threat 2dem Look for ur woman, there are lotsa single women evrywhere |
| Re: I Don't Know What To Do by pendo89(f): 11:20am On Sep 23, 2012 |
Akin1212: I am so in love with a girl and we started dating over a year ago, it took six months for this girl to accept me. We met in school. This girl had a boyfriend she claimed they've been together for 7yrs. |
| Re: I Don't Know What To Do by Nobody: 11:46am On Sep 23, 2012 |
Hmmm, well, allow her choose whom she wana be with....its just like you forcing her to stay with you. |
| Re: I Don't Know What To Do by Akin1212(m): 11:59am On Sep 23, 2012 |
Guys i thank you all for your contributions. She has taken a stand long before i posted this, and i understand the way you guys sees everything but please let's look at it from the other part atleast a coin has two sides. Fine i understand that she may still love the guy on one side on the other what if she doesn't? The promises the guy said in the text was just about talking to him normally because she doesn't. It pained me when she referred to me as someone like that, but she admitted she was wrong and for the yorubas i hope you still remember the saying....... Eni ti o bati mo ese re ni ese ko ni pe lori ikunle. Where did you guys put the forgiveness part. For those that thinks i'm with her because she's a virgin, please don't be mistaken, i didn't know she was before i ask her out. And we're not together for sex that's why it's hard to leave. The guy usually tells her anytime she shuns him he ends up sick, why would she want to make him sick? But that is not enough reason to not take a stand. I 'm not a coward, i know how to be in charge and i am. You are not here when the whole saga happened although i appreciate your contributions but some talked as if they know her. Pls she's not promiscuous. She's just confused and it's on my part to understand. And if it fails i'll just learn from it. Now 190 said something about guys like me being around, yeah and i'll be around for as long as i can. I believe in the cause of love and that's how it will stay. |
| Re: I Don't Know What To Do by 190theclown: 12:02pm On Sep 23, 2012 |
Fine i understand that she may still love the guy on one side on the other what if she doesn't? Thank God u understand shes in love with the other guy keep living in a world of denial shes either gona sleep with that dude before u or already slept with him mark my words man! |
| Re: I Don't Know What To Do by Akin1212(m): 12:04pm On Sep 23, 2012 |
190-the-clown:she may i said not is. Why can't you think otherwise? |
| Re: I Don't Know What To Do by RealBitch(f): 12:05pm On Sep 23, 2012 |
Akin1212: I'M IN CHARGE*raises left eyebrow* |
| Re: I Don't Know What To Do by frank317: 12:26pm On Sep 23, 2012 |
But I wonder why all this fuss and headbanging for a virgin girl whom the two of u will just b looking into ur eyes from morning till night. If u get her now what will u do with her? Why go through all these troubles and heart ache for tea without suger? Why not kukuma avoid all thes heartache wen u know u have no mission. Imajin the other fallin sick for a girl whom he know knowledge of the colour of he tighs,. Lust is the drive that pushes or desire for a woman, what is urs in this case. Ok why not snap her picture and put in ur room and assume the picture loves u, afterall there is no difference. |
| Re: I Don't Know What To Do by 190theclown: 12:43pm On Sep 23, 2012 |
RealBitch: *raises left eyebrow* [size=18pt]Raises one leg up#[/size] |
| Re: I Don't Know What To Do by obowunmi(m): 1:30pm On Sep 23, 2012 |
You want to fight this war to the end because you THINK she's a vaargin.....hehehehehehehehe |
| Re: I Don't Know What To Do by Akin1212(m): 3:10pm On Sep 23, 2012 |
obowunmi: You want to fight this war to the end because you THINK she's a vaargin.....hehehehehehehehei don't think so. I know. Doesn't that tell you something |
| Re: I Don't Know What To Do by Nobody: 3:57pm On Sep 23, 2012 |
Akin1212: i don't think so. I know. Doesn't that tell you somethingfrom your responses so far, it seems your mind is already made up on what to do.....you were just looking for someone who share same view with you,hence, your bringing it to NL....if you say you wana fight to the end, no worries man, its good to know you in control of everything.....if you loose the fight, you will gain knowledge. If you win, you will rejoice...... I dont see anything in taking risk sha....go on with your fight joor, wish you well.  |
| Re: I Don't Know What To Do by Nobody: 3:58pm On Sep 23, 2012 |
Akin1212: i don't think so. I know. Doesn't that tell you somethingfrom your responses so far, it seems your mind is already made up on what to do.....you were just looking for someone who share same view with you,hence, your bringing it to NL....if you say you wana fight to the end, no worries man, its good to know you in control of everything.....if you loose the fight, you will gain knowledge. If you win, you will rejoice...... I dont see anything in taking risk sha....go on with your fight joor, wish you well.  |
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