Imagine a situation where a Man's wife is not available to Him as a result of child birth or menstruation, He can easily go to his other wife(if he has got one) and wouldn't have any course to go outside thereby reducing his tendency of contracting diseases,prevent unwanted pregnancy, leading to no cause for abortion and thereby solving several social problems

JustGood:

Many well educated and well bred women are 2nd/3rd4th/5th wives so anyone who says only illiterates and never do wells practice it should think again. They are also from both mainstream religious backgrounds.

It is about what everyone believes is good for him/her as an individual. BTW, we should be clamouring for individual freedom and liberty. So if someone decides to go into polygamy, they'll live with the consequences- positive or negative.

I'm sure there are advantages to it and there are disadvantages just like there are to every other thing and practice.

Ajisafe:

@ "Jezebel," "Hot Pant," HotFunmi,
@ "Olosi," +osisi (or whatever ignobly damned your name is),
@ other Anti-Great One ignoramuses and Christian Hypocrites on Nairaland forum,

Take note, for your own good.




"The Great Book verses are misquoted, to present that The Great Religion allows marrying unlimited number of women at the same time, but this is not true.


Modern non-Great Ones have always thought of polygamy as a "cruel liberty" given to Great Ones by their holy book. I think many people are under an incorrect impression that the The Great Book allows a man to marry more than one woman, with no stated requirements. It actually imposes certain restrictions and states the requirements which a man should meet to before marrying more than one woman quite clearly.

I would first like to make clear in the mind of readers the definition of word Polygamy, so that we are on the same page. Polygamy means a system of marriage whereby one person has more than one spouse. Polygamy can be of two types. One is Polygyny where a man marries more than one woman, and the other is polyandry, where a woman marries more than one man. In The Great Religion, limited Polygyny is permitted; whereas Polyandry is completely prohibited. Excerpt from Dr. Zakir Naiks research

Moreover, other religions allow Polygyny as well. Hindu religious scriptures tell that many Hindu avatars had several wives, for example, Krishna and King Dashrat had multiple wives. In Judaism it is said Abraham had three wives and Solomon had a hundred wives. Rabbi Gershom ben Yehudah (960 C.E. to 1030 C.E.) was the person who was against Polygyny, and even then Jews continued to marry more than one woman until 1950s when the Act of Chief Rabbinate of Israel was extended to place a ban on marrying more than one wife.

The Great Religion is a religion famous for allowing Polygyny. Some people have gone so far as to identify Polygyny as a specifically Great One practice. As mentioned above this belief is incorrect. In fact, Polygyny is actually mentioned in the Jewish and Christian portions of the Bible! Abraham, Jacob, Moses, David, and Solomon practiced it, among others. It is specifically legislated in Deuteronomy 21:18-17. Jesus mentions the wedding of a man with ten wives, without any condemnation in the Gospel of Matthew 25:1-13, while Paul places restrictions on Polygyny only for priests and bishops, as indicated in 1 Timothy 3:12.

The famous Christian thinker, Augustine of Hippo (354-430 CE), commented that Polygyny had recently been banned among Christians because it was not a Roman custom and Christianity was now thought to be the official religion of the Roman Empire. A later Christian thinker and reformer, Martin Luther (1483-1546), advocated for Polygyny on the grounds that what was lawful in the Bible should be acceptable to Christians.

A growing number of Christians today are calling for a return to the fundemental religion established by the Bible, which includes Polygyny. Web pages supporting this belief are:

http://truthbearer.org/ http://www.polygamy.net/ http://www.polygamy.com/Practical/From-A-Woman-Place.htm http://www.polygamy.com/Reviews/Polygamy-Reconsidered.htm http://www.polygamy.com/Practical/Ultimate.htm http://www.christianpolygamy.com/

Personally, I am in favor of Christians who are willing to restore their religion to the original form. Buddhism, in this case, is silent and no condemning of Polygyny can be seen. On the contrary, one could also conclude that this silence means no Polygyny should be allowed, but this couldnt be true because history tells us that many Buddhists married more than one woman during some times in history.

From above, it is proven that none of the scriptures restricted Polygyny but in The Great Religion, The Great Book is the only book on the face of the earth which recommends marrying only one woman at a time. The only verse in The Great Book about quantification of wives is this: Marry women of your choice, two, or three, or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one. [Al-The Great Book 4:3]. Far too often I have seen this verse quoted by non-Great One brothers, who quote only the first part of the scripture, and leaving off the piece admonishing those who cannot deal fairly with all his wives to have but one. The Great Book, in later verses, clarifies this point as well: Ye are never able to be fair and just as between women, [The Great Book 4:129]"

Source: http://www.thecheers.org/article_507_Polygamy-in-The Great Religion.html

nwando:

singing to the marines.

Polygamy is evil and cruel to women especially the first wife
There is no woman begging her husband to go out and bring in bed mates.
If there are they need to see shrinks.
Even the women of the "great religion" are fighting against it[/b]People do so out of lust,a wandering eye and a need to fulfill their urge to cheat on the legitimate wife.
[b]and as usual it's the male that justifies this sleeping with 4,called marriage
the prophet that allowed you marry four, married multiples of 6,how come?
give me a break.

nwando - Polygamy is evil and cruel to women especially the first wife
There is no woman begging her husband to go out and bring in bed mates.
If there are they need to see shrinks.
Even the women of the "great religion" are fighting against it
People do so out of lust,a wandering eye and a need to fulfill their urge to cheat on the legitimate wife.
and as usual it's the male that justifies this sleeping with 4,called marriage

blacklion:

nwando,

as you are a woman, please help us understand some of your fellow women agree to become 2nd, 3rd and 4th wives?

ekene dili chukwu and alex ekwueme are two prominent igbo polygamists - ekene had 3 and alex has 2.

why did your fellow women who are their junior wives accept to become their 2nd or 3rd wife? did they not know that these men are poygamist before marrying them?

we all know that in olden days, women are given by their parents into polygamous marriages. even today, this is happening in the m u s l i m north. but what about the south?

who is forcing southern women to marry polygamists? yet there are so many igbo and yoruba ladies who are junior wives

it takes two to tango

as you are condemning men who are polygamists, you must also condemn your fellow women who agreed to become 2nd and 3rd wives

Ajisafe:

Yet, you refused to learn. Why must it be about The Great Religion and the Great Ones? Seriously, you need reading glasses -- your religion and those of others support marrying multiple women. Only The Great Religion forbids this habit. It is clearly delineated in the esteemed Qur'an. God knows that it's not humanly possible to love multiple women (wives in this instance) equally, so He ordains it that we should marry one. Jews, Christians, Buddhists, Hinduists all glorify polygyny, but you and other sick Christians chose to ignore that and only attributed the practise to the Great Ones. Abraham, David, and others all practised polygyny, and who knew what your "lord and savior," Jesus, would have done had he lived longer than his 33 years on this earth. Maybe Jesus would have practised polygyny also had he not been cut down in his prime. Just maybe.

deols:

A person who is not financially okay is not allowed to practice polygamy in The Great Religion. Many of the people who do, don't follow the rules and that is why you don't see the benefits. you need to also understand that it is not compulsory.

Imagine a situation where a Man's wife is not available to Him as a result of child birth or menstruation, He can easily go to his other wife(if he has got one) and wouldn't have any course to go outside thereby reducing his tendency of contracting diseases,prevent unwanted pregnancy, leading to no cause for abortion and thereby solving several social problems.

michelin89:

separation is not divcorce. Until you break your union under the law, you are still husband and wife. A better solution would be to enforce the law so that in case of death, all the man's properties would be automatically handled over to the first wife even when there is no will that states so. You don't think any woman by then would dream of becoming a second wife when she knows that, in the future when the man dies, she could become a wreckless frustrated second hand wife!

blacklion:

nwando,

i think we are agreed that where a man marries a woman with the vow of her being the only wife for life, it is wrong for him to marry more wives and wrong for other women to accept to be his junior wives.

now how about a man who married the first wife under native law and custom and so never made any vow or commitment to her either while they were dating or during the native law and custom ceremony that she will be the only wife. Is it wrong for him to marry more wives in future?

What if he always made it clear that he can stay with only one woman and will most likely marry more wives in future? Since the woman went ahead to marry him knowing his intention, can she complain after that he is a polygamist?

i hope you know that many people in nigeria are still formally married even though they have separated years ago and no more live together for a very long time. Maybe the man does not want to legally divorce the wife so that in future their kids will not be mocked as coming from a broken home. Now assuming the man takes another wife under native law and custom, is he now a polygamist even though he has not co-habited with the first/legal wife for many years?

By Blacklion,
michelin,

do u know that there are women lawyers, doctors, accountants, bankers, permanent secretaries etc who are second or third wives to their husband? do you know that many of these women married their husbands long after they finished schooling and were already established in their professions/careers? even if such a law as you propose is enacted, there will ALWAYS be women willing to be second wives. the law will only deter the gold diggers who married the polyamous men solely for their money. but it won't deter women who have their own means but just want a husband to call their own - along with half-a-dozen other women - and be father to their kids.

even if such a law as you propose is enacted, there will ALWAYS be women willing to be second wives

hotfunmi - Because they were under the law handed down to them by religion and ridiculous culture. How many of these women do you see today getting married as second, third wives?

By Tpia,
like Simibrazil pointed out when she was here, make all of them practice menage a trois, or menage a million, for inside bedroom.

ie no need for sex by appointment. Just have the frigging sex at the same time, with all the wives "working" on the husband. 

By Blacklion,
come lagos, make ah show you big girls working for mtn and zenith bank who are third wives today. from there, make we go abuja, make ah show you lawyers and perm secs who are 3rd wives today

the fact is that women do not all reason the same way - just like men. there will always be women prepared to share men while the nwandos and michelins see it as an abomination. every woman's situation is different and she will respond to such issues based on her situation

e.g. the marriage options available to a 35 year old naija woman doctor in naija are not the same as she would have in the us. in america, she is an extremely hot cake just for being a doctor alone and dozens of naija guys will be begging for hand in marriage. even nurse and pharmacist sef, them dey beg them for marriage talk less of a whole doctor. but in naija, 35 year old female doctors are 2 for ten kobo. come to LUTH or UCH and you will see them plenty. so the one that is in naija's options will be more limited and she then considers being a second or third wife.

as for my personal take on polygamy? you women una wahala too much! one woman's wahala is more than enough for me for a lifetime!!!

but i respect the right of those men and women who feel they can cope with polygamy to do so as long no one is conned or forced into it

Just have the frigging sex at the same time, with all the wives "working" on the husband. Angry Undecided

Hot.Funmi:


And the 'menage a billion' will soon turn to 'menage a heart attack' one day for you.

blacklion:

eat egusi, edi ka ikong, efo riro, ogbono and nsala soup ALL at the same time?

e no go sweet laik that. na nsala today, egusi tomorrow,

variety is the spice of life but all at the same time na extreme greediness

blacklion:

michelin,

do u know that there are women lawyers, doctors, accountants, bankers, permanent secretaries etc who are second or third wives to their husband? do you know that many of these women married their husbands long after they finished schooling and were already established in their professions/careers?

Yes o!

e.g. Dr. Doyin Abiola and even many more of MKO's wives were very well educated!

So what are we saying here, that they didn't know what they were doing?

THINK AGAIN!

The summary of this thread is that, much as a man will take a second wife out of greed and selfishness . . .

Will an educated woman also be a 2nd or 3rd wife to a man out of the same greed and selfishness!!

I keep stressing it on this forum that no gender is guiltier than the other on any issue whatsoever!!!

Capish!!!

michelin89:

@ deol

You must be a man. What woman with brains would allows her husband to sleep with someone else? You are just too stupid to be real. You must be a man!

michelin89:

separation is not divorce. Until you break your union under the law, you are still husband and wife. A better solution would be to enforce the law so that in case of death, all the man's properties would be automatically handled over to the first wife even when there is no will that states so. You don't think any woman by then would dream of becoming a second wife when she knows that, in the future when the man dies, she could become a wreckless frustrated second hand wife!

yemivictor:

Yes o!
e.g. Dr. Doyin Abiola and even many more of MKO's wives were very well educated!
So what are we saying here, that they didn't know what they were doing?
THINK AGAIN!
The summary of this thread is that, much as a man will take a second wife out of greed and selfishness . . .
Will an educated woman also be a 2nd or 3rd wife to a man out of the same greed and selfishness!!
I keep stressing it on this forum that no gender is guiltier than the other on any issue whatsoever!!!
Capish!!!