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Reasons Why Men Are Scared To Marry You by NEROSKY(m): 6:23pm On Oct 24, 2012
just saw this on my fb ,felt it will be nice 2 share it wif my follow NLs...

@sexkillz,don't act funny agn!

You are not married not because there
is no man ready for marriage as a good
number of men are looking for life
partners. The major reason Nigerian
men are now scared of marriage is
waywardness. Men are now afraid because they don’t know who to trust
and also not sure if that beautiful girl
they are interested instill has her womb
intact. They are also afraid because of the high
mountain ladies have suddenly placed
themselves on as no woman wants to
date a poor man any longer but are all
interested in those with good cars and
houses. A man recently told me why he does
not allow his girlfriends to come to his
house. According to him, he doesn’t
want a case wherea girl enters his
house only for her to refuse leaving
because of the beauty of the house and cars she will see. Isn’t it surprising how single ladiesnow
out-dress married women with good
jobs whose husbands are very rich?
You are not married because the single
men around you are wondering if they
will be able to meet up with your ever- demanding lifestyle. Even when they
know they can afford it, what makes
them believe you won’t take a walk
tomorrow if anything goes wrong? Another reason is that with your good
job and salary, they are evenafraid to
come near you as they wouldn’t want
to be turned down. I have a female colleague, a very pretty
girl who lives in her own house and
drives a posh car. She also has different
businesses to show for it. Recently, I
advised herto calm down a bit as
friends I introduce her to who ordinarily would have gone for her, all
run away after meeting her and come
back to me with the same word,
“Amara, this one go send me go
village.” Another reason you are going to grow
old in your father’s house is this: You
want a ready-made man instead of a
growing man with vision. Are you
aware that if you have not obtained
favour from God, the man will decrease instead of increasing when you enter
his house? Work on your character, the
words that come from your mouth,
your lifestyle, the way you carry
yourself, the way you dress, the places
you visitand then spend time trying to findfavour before God because it’s only
favour that can make your husband
increase the moment youstep into his
life. In fact, the moment a man proposes to
you, there must be some positive
movements in his finance if at all you
have obtained favour. It is never your duty to find a man.While
he is working trying to raise money to
sustain whoever he takes home to his
mother, you should get yourself busy
obtainingfavour from God for you to be
his source of blessing. A man knows when the wife is a source of blessing
and that is the only time he cherishes
you. In the previous paragraph, I said the
man should take you home to his
mother. I don’t understand why you
get married to a man who believes it’s
just between the two of you. Read the
Bible; they all took their wives home to their mothers. If a man cannot take
youhome to his people, something is
wrong. Isn’t it surprising how many of
us are married without knowing our
husband’s village and his mother’s
bedroom? Marriage, in the African culture, is not between the man and
woman alone, the two families must be
involved. Hey, you have to stop moving from one
prayer house to the other in search of
miracles that are not coming even after
you might have emptied your pocket.
Go back to your room; deal with your
character and bad nature thatis filled with pride and disrespect for the
elderly. Cut down on frivolities and that
is not all, deal with your party and aso
ebi spirit. You must also deal with that
thingthat gets you to aimlessly move
from one end of the street to the other all in search of precious souls to
destroy. Change that mentality that says
you use what you have to get what you
want; any man you get with your ass is
as filthy, unreliable and irresponsible as
you are. Common girl, go deal with yourself first
before you start blaming your step
mother of being the one keeping you
down. Stop blaming your neighbours
andfriends of standing on your way
toprogress. I just told you the bitter truth which your Alfa, Babalawo, pastor
and Imam may never tell you. Stop
wasting your time chasing shadows, go
and deal with yourself first before
complaining. I know of a wonderful lady who sings
so well that when she comesto lead in
worship, miracles take place. People
love her, but this lady is unmarried till
date. It is notbecause men don’t go to
her for marriage or because she is ugly; her number one obstacle is her
character. They say there are manyold
single ladies in our churches; I think I
know the problem and not that most of
them wasted their lives in frivolities only
to realise the last minute that they have to run into the church where they can
get a brother to marry. I am not trying to judge anyone’s past,
but the issue is that even when they
join those churches, their characters
don’t change. It’s really appalling how
some ladies talk to men simply because
they are in the same church. Some of them fight everyone in their
department in church while some live
their lives begging from one member to
the other. What do have to say about ladies who
fight for food during church meetings?
Those guys would be foolish to see the
stuff you are made of and still go ahead
to takeyou home to mama. I always tell ladies that if by the age of
30 no man had asked to know if you
are for sale, there is something wrong
somewhere; its either spiritual or
attitudinal, but the truth is that it is
always more attitudinal than spiritual. You have been fasting and prayingand
going for all levels of deliverance but it
seems nothing is working. What is your
character like after all the prayers and
religious devotions? It is sad whenI see
a single girl walk up to a married woman sitting with her husband and
telling the woman toget up because
she was there before her. You attend
functions with extra bags to pack food
and drinks and when it’s time to hit the
dancing floor, you do that as ifthere is no tomorrow. What do you expect
from life when you are the source of all
quarrels in your neighbourhood,
church and office? This is the moment of truth and if at all
you want to be delivered, your decision
to deliver yourself is the first step to
your breakthrough. What do you
expect from life when you are the
source of all quarrels in your neighbourhood, church and office?
This is the moment of truth and if at all
you want to be delivered, your decision
to deliver yourself is the first step to
your breakthrough. *The end*
Re: Reasons Why Men Are Scared To Marry You by okosodo: 8:49pm On Oct 24, 2012
You tried
Re: Reasons Why Men Are Scared To Marry You by mumumugu(m): 9:32pm On Oct 24, 2012
okosodo: You tried
. Do d men hav gud charater, are they faithful, not wayward?
Re: Reasons Why Men Are Scared To Marry You by Nobody: 1:39am On Oct 25, 2012
he is bored to the max!
Re: Reasons Why Men Are Scared To Marry You by NEROSKY(m): 1:06am On Oct 26, 2012
mondi_cheeks: he is bored to the max!
girls dont like d truth n dats y many of u goto redeem camp after 40 years of no marriage!
Re: Reasons Why Men Are Scared To Marry You by DExplorer1: 1:28am On Oct 26, 2012
Was this written in 1970s
Re: Reasons Why Men Are Scared To Marry You by 190theclown: 2:08am On Oct 26, 2012
which kind wahala come be this now undecided
Re: Reasons Why Men Are Scared To Marry You by Mynd44: 3:27am On Oct 26, 2012
I read the first line and realised that this is another load of bullshît
Re: Reasons Why Men Are Scared To Marry You by Nobody: 4:56am On Oct 26, 2012
NEROSKY:
girls dont like d truth n dats y many of u goto redeem camp after 40 years of no marriage!
And visiting d place has never helped!
Re: Reasons Why Men Are Scared To Marry You by Nobody: 7:58pm On Oct 26, 2012
NEROSKY:
girls dont like d truth n dats y many of u goto redeem camp after 40 years of no marriage!
Marriage doesn't define who a woman is there is more to life hun...21st century grin
Re: Reasons Why Men Are Scared To Marry You by Mynd44: 9:28pm On Oct 26, 2012
mondi_cheeks:
Marriage doesn't define who a woman is there is more to life hun...21st century grin
true
Re: Reasons Why Men Are Scared To Marry You by 2goodbobo(m): 10:16pm On Oct 26, 2012
Mynd_44: I read the first line and realised that this is another load of bullshît

What or where is the bullshit in the first line you read? The op just hit the nail on the head jor
Re: Reasons Why Men Are Scared To Marry You by Mynd44: 10:24pm On Oct 26, 2012
2goodbobo:

What or where is the bullshit in the first line you read? The op just hit the nail on the head jor
The fact that he went "men are looking for this or that"
generalization is just crap
Re: Reasons Why Men Are Scared To Marry You by 2goodbobo(m): 10:45pm On Oct 26, 2012
The fact that he went "men are looking for this or that"
generalization is just crap[/quote]


He said "some good number of men" and that aint generalisation. Some is not all but part of all.
Re: Reasons Why Men Are Scared To Marry You by CzarChris(m): 12:40am On Oct 27, 2012
Interesting, very interesting. Call me old school, but this brother just hit the nail on the head.
I met a very young girl sometime ago, we got chatty she gave me her number, and at the point of me keying my number in her phone both her sim n phonememory where filled up, i had to retoast her, b4 she deleted a number to add mine, a student o not a bizwoman. Well she acted like a hoe nd was treated as one. What of the one that before you walk 15poles with this girl over 18boys will greet her. Well, i read and interpreted the situation and went my way. I took another shopping(as a test o) what she was picking droped my jaw, well she's history. One even had the guts to ask me to pay her "salary", i was like WTF? For what? I might give a small something here and there, buy u stuff. But we ain't married and am not your father. Give your parents some responsibilities and have some dignity. The truth is 97% of guys ain't dunces. You might think you eating him mugu. He only losses money, you, your dignity. To get a chic in Naija, as easy as clicking a finger. But to get a wife? Lord have mercy.

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Re: Reasons Why Men Are Scared To Marry You by NEROSKY(m): 8:20pm On Oct 27, 2012
thought teach them

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