A Father's Case Against Breast-Feeding

In an article published on Wednesday in The Atlantic, one dad makes his case against breastfeeding, saying that the "breast is best" mindset added insult to injury after his wife struggled to nurse their son.

Betsy really wanted to breastfeed. She tried. Really hard. It wasn't easy," Chris Kornelis, music editor at Seattle Weekly, writes. "There were problems with the 'latch' and with Thomas getting enough to eat. We went to a lactation consultant, rented a pump, and were up every two hours for a hazy routine of turning on the machine, attaching the tubes, applying the supplemental nipple system, and trying to feed a crying baby. There wasn't much milk, but there were plenty of tears."

They turned to formula, and almost immediately their lives changed for the better.

Highlights of how their lives changed for the better according to the author

1) That meant that I could get up on my own and feed Thomas while his mom went for six hours of sleep,

2) I got to bond with my son. I got to sing him songs and tell him stories. Those hours of father-child bonding were a good thing. I got to take him to my parents' house for the day—without worrying about having enough milk or keeping it cold—and give Betsy an afternoon to rest.

3) Betsy and I got to go away for a long weekend—to be together, to work on our marriage, something that was not just good for us, but good for the baby, too.

He further states that the whole breast is the best campaign can make some parents feel like failures.

He is not alone in his stance against breastfeeding, some men have shared on how watching their wives breastfeed ruin their sexual appetite. Infidelity is a side-effect of extended breastfeeding, he writes, and "the positive effects of extended breast-feeding should be considered in light of the negative effects on the marriage."

Some women may feel that, when it comes to breastfeeding, dads shouldn't have a say at all. But Kornelis isn't actually making a case against breastfeeding; his article is more of a case against pressuring people to do what doesn't work for them, which makes sense, wrapped in a complaint about "ideal" being the same as "only," which doesn't.

The problem isn't which feeding method moms choose, it's the fact that parents who are striving to be perfect don't stop to consider what works best for them—and that some people think "breast is best" is a personal attack instead of a medical suggestion.

Bottle Company's Bizarre, Sexist Ad Campaign Really Annoys Moms

Over the past few days, bottle maker Bitty Lab sent out the following Tweet at least 12 times, according to an original story posted on Care2.com:



That tweet was followed with this one:



Where to even begin?

Annie Slaughter, the writer of the original Care2.com story, wrote:

"This offensive marketing tactic presumes that a woman, or at least her breasts, belong to a man. It also attempts to create a false competition between the baby and the father, when the father should be supporting the mother in providing the best care and nutrition for her baby."

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Daresh: Men have always been stupid, nothing new in that. The slightest excuse sends them to another womans arms. Will I deprive my child or kill myself for them? HELL NO!!

Billyonaire: Dont mind them. Just take your drugs.

Daresh: Men have always been stupid, nothing new in that. The slightest excuse sends them to another womans arms. Will I deprive my child or kill myself for them? HELL NO!!

Dr Muzungu: An infidel will find just about any excuse for his infidelity, lol.

cleric: you are just a clown!

Daresh: Men have always been stupid, nothing new in that. The slightest excuse sends them to another womans arms. Will I deprive my child or kill myself for them? HELL NO!!

Mickey19: This space is for sale.

megareal: I don't particularly care about the methods as long as it works for the baby. My sister's twins weaned themselves off breastmilk when they were just a month old. Nothing could make them change their minds. They went for solids. Cerelac and custard. I think the baby should determine how they want to be fed.

Daresh: Men have always been stupid, nothing new in that. The slightest excuse sends them to another womans arms. Will I deprive my child or kill myself for them? HELL NO!!

gunpoint: I don't mind been breastfed myself

Billyonaire: Dont mind them. Just take your drugs.