africanrapper: Having a similar challenge too.

She's smashing hot. Her office is the next office from mine. Initially, she showed signs of wanting me to ‘toast’ her. Just this week, I did. To my utter shock, she’s now singing a different tune: “Uche, I want to be alone. I don’t want a boyfriend”. We should just be friends…blab la bla.
Now, I’m like WTF? Why did you show all those signs of wanting me to do toast you? Why the mixed signals?
Meanwhile, I’m dying to date this chic, ‘cos I think she has bright prospects.


What do i do?

Ejiné: [img]http://i.qkme.me/Bet.jpg[/img]

sadeiyare:

Wrong move. You want to gamble with a pontential wife's heart and act a player to get her ; bro I don't believe you like this girl like you profess

Punteke:
I really like the girl, I didn't say I was going to ask the neighbour out NO!, I am jus going to flirt around with her to see how the other girls reaction goes. Hopefully I pray it turns out positive.. I really like her and I know she likes me too. Buh the whole friends *ish* is not going down well with me,want to date her.. Maybe my mistake was letting her know how I really felt and not playing the normal games.

freecocoa: So you guys rather we treat you badly to avoid misreading the whole thing?
I don't know how I can manage not to treat someone I consider a friend nicely.

africanrapper: Having a similar challenge too.

She's smashing hot. Her office is the next office from mine. Initially, she showed signs of wanting me to ‘toast’ her. Just this week, I did. To my utter shock, she’s now singing a different tune: “Uche, I want to be alone. I don’t want a boyfriend”. We should just be friends…blab la bla.
Now, I’m like WTF? Why did you show all those signs of wanting me to do toast you? Why the mixed signals?
Meanwhile, I’m dying to date this chic, ‘cos I think she has bright prospects.


What do i do?

Okija_juju:

WTF!!!!

Is this guy doing what I think he is doing
?!!

jaxxy: @op Dude!!! U still askin girls 4 permission 2 date dem? Dats 4 losers oh u just shot u self in d leg wit dat lousy as$ question and she saw u as kinda dull witout knwing.

She shows u d green lights all u needed 2 do ws do ur job and u start asking her "shud I do my JoB"?

Ur skill needs sharpen up or u may continue loss hot lovly girls 2 dat foolish question u asked, only d slow babes wait 4 dat question.

Honestly I don't even ask dat question after doing my job I just say "ure my babe now" smiling and she always says yes smiling back at me! dats d confirmation u want init?! now do u see how its done?

Yeah last lesson: even if she doesn't give any greenlight I create d greenlight hv u heard of dat b4? I guess nt I learnt 4rm d best so u can learn it 2...give u more shortly 8

U knw wot JoB means rite Not neccessarily slipin wit her bt any thing dat rocks her boat!

Johncuba: U wonda wat dis gals hav in mind whn dey give u dis everglowing greenlight...Dia is dis gal dat has bin frequentin my place since i came bak 4rm skul showing signs lyk i should go ahead nd ask ha out..Always dressing sexily nd making me feel lyk am wasting too much tym wit d whole 'friends' talks nd all..Just ystaday i decided 2 bite my own share of d cake only 4 d gal 2 get sooo upset nd start saying shit...She even vowed nt 2 come around my place again...Hu cares 2 me its just good riddance to bad rubbish....

Ejiné: [img]http://i.qkme.me/Bet.jpg[/img]

Gabrielsylar:
The summary of the advice is UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES SHOULD U MAKE WOMAN OR WOMEN AN ISSUE........When u take women issue too emotional u start becoming irrational and opening countless threads on nairaland....if she says friends...FINITO JUST DO FRIENDS.....The biggest problem is acting like a wussbag and losing out completely with the chick...train ur mind to be able to like plenty girls without oversampling a woman...that's why a guy should have a time consuming career it helps him boost his immunity against women emotional complicatioins that renders him weak and lacking authority oer his life

shadrach77:
my two cents - when a lady says "let's just be friends" it's one of three things; (a) she is not interested and doesn't want to hurt you by saying 'no' so she is trying to let you off by being diplomatic (b) she needs you around her to act as a shield to ward off other guys (c)she needs you around her to act as a bait in attracting another suitor which she is eyeing - now in the last two scenarios, she is indirectly using you. Whenever i find myself in such situation, i'll just ignore her "friendship" and seek greener pasture elsewhere

Limaoscar:


OMG!!!!!!......you're horrible!!!!

africanrapper:
Having a similar challenge too.

She's smashing hot. Her office is the next office from mine. Initially, she showed signs of wanting me to ‘toast’ her. Just this week, I did. To my utter shock, she’s now singing a different tune: “Uche, I want to be alone. I don’t want a boyfriend”. We should just be friends…blab la bla.
Now, I’m like WTF? Why did you show all those signs of wanting me to do toast you? Why the mixed signals?
Meanwhile, I’m dying to date this chic, ‘cos I think she has bright prospects.


What do i do?

Means you never reach. So go work harder and make more cheddar and you will get a resounding Yes.

Gracious10:


Bc men hardly understand differences between friendship gestures and that of a relationship. A lady can just be friends with you and yet don't want to date you but that una yeye hormones will always translate female relations as wanting to date you especially if you are helplessly attracted to her.

I have so many male friends and I don't think any of them hasn't asked me out. They aren't bad people but friendship should be what it is. Love ruins things.