richarts: How long is too long?

You have just moved into a new town and the only place you could live temporarily is with:

A married uncle,
A married aunty,
A friend with his or her family,
A family friend,
A cousin,

In the order of arrangement, how long is too long staying with this set of people. I know some of us have experiences living with someone so you may want to be practical with your answers.

I wish to know if its an issue I have because once I start to reach a month living with anyone I start to feel like i'v overstayed.

Lest I forget too. Folks, how long would you not mind someone living with you. How long is normal?

Regards.

Kobojunkie:

@Poster, you need to learn to answer your own questions for yourself.

baby_123: When you dont take up responsibility for your feeding and helping out around the house. When you start fighting someone that accommodates you, or feel entitled to stuff that is not yours. When you cross boundaries and disrespect people in their house to prove a point that you will soon be homeless. As an adult, i think 2 weeks is plenty time

richarts: Its like peoples doesnt has anything to said.

Bawss1: For someone who just moved into a new town his/her first order of business should be to get his/her own place ASAP. Seriously the time it takes to quickly get one's own place should be long enough. This is how it should be even if one is on very good terms with the host, anything more just gives room for resentment and contempt to creep in and soil the relationship.

However some situations may arise where the guest is not able to get his own place quickly, he should then take up some meaningful responsibility in that household that will make things somewhat better for his hosts, maybe cleaning or helping with the groceries or some other stuff. He should not assume (maybe because his hosts don't say anything) that his presence is not a burden and so should make concerted efforts to reduce the "footprints" of his stay.

I have written all this because I realize that many Nigerians don't take these kinds of things into consideration. They just move in and make life difficult for their host. I'm sick of friends telling me they need a place to stay for a week then before you know 3 months have gone by and the friend is constantly raiding your fridge without replenishing, moving your stuff around, leaving dirty laundry about and basically trying to make your once pristine home into a hog pen that any herd of pigs would envy.

Bawss1: For someone who just moved into a new town his/her first order of business should be to get his/her own place ASAP. Seriously the time it takes to quickly get one's own place should be long enough. This is how it should be even if one is on very good terms with the host, anything more just gives room for resentment and contempt to creep in and soil the relationship.

However some situations may arise where the guest is not able to get his own place quickly, he should then take up some meaningful responsibility in that household that will make things somewhat better for his hosts, maybe cleaning or helping with the groceries or some other stuff. He should not assume (maybe because his hosts don't say anything) that his presence is not a burden and so should make concerted efforts to reduce the "footprints" of his stay.

I have written all this because I realize that many Nigerians don't take these kinds of things into consideration. They just move in and make life difficult for their host. I'm sick of friends telling me they need a place to stay for a week then before you know 3 months have gone by and the friend is constantly raiding your fridge without replenishing, moving your stuff around, leaving dirty laundry about and basically trying to make your once pristine home into a hog pen that any herd of pigs would envy.

baby_123: When you dont take up responsibility for your feeding and helping out around the house. When you start fighting someone that accommodates you, or feel entitled to stuff that is not yours. When you cross boundaries and disrespect people in their house to prove a point that you will soon be homeless. As an adult, i think 2 weeks is plenty time

richarts: Its like peoples doesnt has anything to said.

richarts: Its like peoples doesnt has anything to said.

Bawss1: For someone who just moved into a new town his/her first order of business should be to get his/her own place ASAP.

I have written all this because I realize that many Nigerians don't take these kinds of things into consideration. They just move in and make life difficult for their host. I'm sick of friends telling me they need a place to stay for a week then before you know 3 months have gone by and the friend is constantly raiding your fridge without replenishing, moving your stuff around, leaving dirty laundry about and basically trying to make your once pristine home into a hog pen that any herd of pigs would envy.

richarts: Its like peoples doesnt has anything to said.

richarts: Its like peoples doesnt has anything to said.

JESOX

Please what is the function of the 'Report' link, I wan report this guy make the ban am 4life

ItsModella: