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| Will You Attend A Friend's Wedding If You Were Not Invited? by 2scorehigh(m): 10:08am On Nov 28, 2012 |
A close friend of ours is having a wedding. Some of our friends said they won't be attending unless they were formally invited either verbally or through invitation card. Sensing some animosity mixed with pomposity there, I tried to be diplomatic by telling them that from my own experience, sometimes the celebrants or organizers of such functions 'neglect' close friends simply because s/he has already assumed that such friends know that they don't actually need any formal invitation to be invited since they are his/her homies. Besides, the number of people to be invited might be so big that some people might not get the invitation cards. They vehemently disagreed with me by saying that on the contrary, it means such a friend doesn't value you or your friendship at all, or s/he thinks you cannot give him a substantial amount of money or present and so your attending will only prove you are a 'long throat' person... So what about you? What do you think? Will you attend a friend's wedding if you were not formally invited? Will you remind or even demand an invitation from such type of friend assuming s/he fails to invite you? |
| Re: Will You Attend A Friend's Wedding If You Were Not Invited? by homedesign: 11:02am On Nov 28, 2012 |
If the person is really close then I will attend with or without an invite but that is if it is in Nigeria where we know 'everyone' is inherently invited! But if its outside the country, I may ask for an invite, just to be on the safe side. 3 Likes |
| Re: Will You Attend A Friend's Wedding If You Were Not Invited? by slimyem: 11:22am On Nov 28, 2012 |
It depends and is discretionary... For really close friends,i don't need an invite to know i have to be there.....but for acquaintances,casual friends or old-disconnected friends,i definitely need an invite!! 1 Like |
| Re: Will You Attend A Friend's Wedding If You Were Not Invited? by UnknownMember: 3:43pm On Nov 28, 2012 |
It will depend on what I suspect to be the reason for my not being invited.. If it is malicious or just an omission. 1 Like |
| Re: Will You Attend A Friend's Wedding If You Were Not Invited? by Nobody: 3:44pm On Nov 28, 2012 |
If you are not invited,it means you were never wanted there.stay away ! 3 Likes |
| Re: Will You Attend A Friend's Wedding If You Were Not Invited? by JAMBSOFTWARE: 3:44pm On Nov 28, 2012 |
I no fit try go.... If u mistakenly break bottle, dem go say, "hmmm. Who invited this one sef?? Nw he dn break one bottle here" 3 Likes |
| Re: Will You Attend A Friend's Wedding If You Were Not Invited? by johnkent(m): 3:44pm On Nov 28, 2012 |
You don't attend a wedding you're not invited to regardless of how close you are to the bride or groom. If they really want you there, you would have been invited. 2 Likes |
| Re: Will You Attend A Friend's Wedding If You Were Not Invited? by Dygeasy(m): 3:44pm On Nov 28, 2012 |
How would you feel when you get to the venue of the reception and the bouncer/gateman or whatever they call those at the entrance tell you it is strictly by invitation? 1 Like |
| Re: Will You Attend A Friend's Wedding If You Were Not Invited? by Dopefiend(m): 3:45pm On Nov 28, 2012 |
Depends on d closeness.some friends won't bother tellin u cos dey expext u to use ur discretion(howeva dat only applies to close frnds). |
| Re: Will You Attend A Friend's Wedding If You Were Not Invited? by david52: 3:45pm On Nov 28, 2012 |
As a typical omoluabi, I wont go too |
| Re: Will You Attend A Friend's Wedding If You Were Not Invited? by AkinDavid2: 3:45pm On Nov 28, 2012 |
I have done that in the past and my friend later apologized. Definitely there could be more reason than omission |
| Re: Will You Attend A Friend's Wedding If You Were Not Invited? by manny4life(m): 3:45pm On Nov 28, 2012 |
slimyem: It depends and is discretionary... Exactly! @OP, close friends don't need invitation, and whatever happened to asking? Formal invitation has it's own limitation, in fact the friends seeking formal invitation disappointed me. Formal invitation is just a respectful way of asking someone to do you the honor of coming out to your event which applies to people who you may or may not know directly. |
| Re: Will You Attend A Friend's Wedding If You Were Not Invited? by johnkent(m): 3:46pm On Nov 28, 2012 |
Unknown Member: It will depend on what I suspect to be the reason for my not being invited.. If it is malicious or just an omission.What is malicious about someone not inviting you to their wedding?? Weddings are expensive and most people can't afford to feed y'all. Sit your ass home if you're not invited!! |
| Re: Will You Attend A Friend's Wedding If You Were Not Invited? by johnkent(m): 3:47pm On Nov 28, 2012 |
manny4life:Go look up the definition of an invitation and then come back and repost. |
| Re: Will You Attend A Friend's Wedding If You Were Not Invited? by Nobody: 3:49pm On Nov 28, 2012 |
If it's strictly not by invitation, I'll go. |
| Re: Will You Attend A Friend's Wedding If You Were Not Invited? by carsellerz: 3:49pm On Nov 28, 2012 |
dont say i am a gate crasher..i even attended one last month..but it was due to the fact that I was not always around for him to have officially invited me..all the same if he/she is my friend, it will do me a great honor to be there..shekinaaaaa |
| Re: Will You Attend A Friend's Wedding If You Were Not Invited? by UnknownMember: 3:51pm On Nov 28, 2012 |
johnkent: You dont get it... My homeboy is having a wedding, does it look to you like my attending is to go and feed or to go and share his day with him?! If its a case of we had beef and he decides not to invite me, then thats malicious, but if its a case of 'I forgot to invite you', then Imma show up and surprise him/her anyways.. Not everyone attends a function because of food.. I dont even eat cooked food at such occasions.. 3 Likes |
| Re: Will You Attend A Friend's Wedding If You Were Not Invited? by carsellerz: 3:52pm On Nov 28, 2012 |
johnkent: Then he can issue out "INFORMAL" invites as well |
| Re: Will You Attend A Friend's Wedding If You Were Not Invited? by manny4life(m): 3:53pm On Nov 28, 2012 |
johnkent: Expert, please explain to the novice without knowledge what an invitation is. |
| Re: Will You Attend A Friend's Wedding If You Were Not Invited? by salolo(m): 3:56pm On Nov 28, 2012 |
yes |
| Re: Will You Attend A Friend's Wedding If You Were Not Invited? by Nobody: 3:59pm On Nov 28, 2012 |
It depends on the level of our friendship. If a close friend had already informed me of his or her wedding and probably requested i help out with the plans and events,i wouldn't expect a formal invitation. But there are some friends i will require such formal invitation before attenting. 2scorehigh: or s/he thinks you cannot give him a substantial amount of money or present and so your attending will only prove you are a 'long throat' person... However,We need to stop this our mentality of organising events to make money out of them. Its really annoys me. Plan events according to your financial capacity,not expecting people to give gifts and monies or to make profit out of your occasion. 2 Likes |
| Re: Will You Attend A Friend's Wedding If You Were Not Invited? by Nobody: 4:01pm On Nov 28, 2012 |
Sometimes the reason behind omission is usually bc of how busy the celebrant is; anyway a close fren deserves an invite it might not be formal per se but word of mouth. In the absence of word of mouth then I will assume you don't want me there. |
| Re: Will You Attend A Friend's Wedding If You Were Not Invited? by Nobody: 4:01pm On Nov 28, 2012 |
jammyng: If it's strictly not by invitation, I'll go. Things must hard at your end  1 Like |
| Re: Will You Attend A Friend's Wedding If You Were Not Invited? by Nobody: 4:01pm On Nov 28, 2012 |
Sometimes the reason behind omission is usually bc of how busy the celebrant is; anyway a close fren deserves an invite it might not be formal per se but word of mouth. In the absence of word of mouth then I will assume you don't want me there or I am irrelevant. |
| Re: Will You Attend A Friend's Wedding If You Were Not Invited? by ESULAALU: 4:03pm On Nov 28, 2012 |
Unknown Member: GOOD! KEEPING IT CLEAN. HOW FAST YOU LEARN PADWAAR. DONT ABUSE IT THOUGH,INSULT ANYONE AND I WILL BE BACK ON YOUR CASE. |
| Re: Will You Attend A Friend's Wedding If You Were Not Invited? by Nobody: 4:04pm On Nov 28, 2012 |
If I am invited whether verbally or formally be sure I will be there anything outside that count me out.even if the person na my papa. That's my principle. That shows you have self worth |
| Re: Will You Attend A Friend's Wedding If You Were Not Invited? by playahP(m): 4:06pm On Nov 28, 2012 |
I'd stay home and smoke my weed cos that's juss all I need! |
| Re: Will You Attend A Friend's Wedding If You Were Not Invited? by dilbert100: 4:08pm On Nov 28, 2012 |
no   |
| Re: Will You Attend A Friend's Wedding If You Were Not Invited? by emmaatuo(m): 4:08pm On Nov 28, 2012 |
Its simple, if u don't invite me, I assume u don't want me there... For crying out loud, how difficult is it to invite someone? Informal or formal |
| Re: Will You Attend A Friend's Wedding If You Were Not Invited? by shekone(m): 4:13pm On Nov 28, 2012 |
as for me its depends on d kinda frnd...if its a really really close frnd ehen!.. no need...buh if jst lik frnd frnd......seriously i Ian gate crashing d weddin.... |
| Re: Will You Attend A Friend's Wedding If You Were Not Invited? by Bongii04: 4:13pm On Nov 28, 2012 |
I wudnt attend such o,especially if i ws informed by a stranger. |
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