I was born and raised catholic . My boy frnd is Protestant. My parents hv disapproved of the union because he is non catholic. I don't knw what to do. Pls advice me. Also is it really bad for one to marry frm outside his/her denomination?
Ps: this is normal with most catholic parents

Yh. I xee tinz lyke diz on the reg.
It feelz lyke arranged marriage in a way...
Itz a pity parentz put too much emphasis on the requirement for deir childrenz marriage instead of being content their wardz are doing it for love & Happy wif their partners ....

Ofcourse they have their reasons because their will likely be conflicts in faith later in the future.

Have you thought about how you want your chiildrent to be raised,do you want the, to be raised catholic and do you think he will agree to that.

You have to understand that he may likely agree to every requirement you ask of him now,but when you eventualy get married,he will demand you follow his own way since he is the head.

If you are willing to renounce catholism or allow your children to be raised non catholic,then I see no reason why you shouldnt marry him but if otherwise,then your parents might have a point.
They probably have seen most of marriages like this and how it turned out to be.


Understand Love is not sufficient to have a blissful marriage,compatibility and other factors must be factored in.

Ur parent can only advice nd sugest.d last decision is urs to make.

U nid to discus wit ur patner to be

wil u do a church weding? Where? Catholic or protestant? Each church has its rules. Wil each patner continue in church or wil one have to change church? Etc

^true that.

k2039: Ofcourse they have their reasons because their will likely be conflicts in faith later in the future.

Have you thought about how you want your chiildrent to be raised,do you want the, to be raised catholic and do you think he will agree to that.

You have to understand that he may likely agree to every requirement you ask of him now,but when you eventualy get married,he will demand you follow his own way since he is the head.

If you are willing to renounce catholism or allow your children to be raised non catholic,then I see no reason why you shouldnt marry him but if otherwise,then your parents might have a point.
They probably have seen most of marriages like this and how it turned out to be.


Understand Love is not sufficient to have a blissful marriage,compatibility and other factors must be factored in.

Well said

If you are letting your parents decide your matrimonial life, then you are not yet ready to get married. Wait till you are able to make your own decisions.

B4 xtainity in africa there were inter-tribal marriages and the pple were happy. I think pple are takin many things out of context and besides many parents want their daughters to 'settle-down' with a 'bigman'. That good by the way.

But my opinion is that if that prostestant is highly 'loaded' and vry successfull all those conditions will not count. Its all about what is stand to gain. Catholics are not always discriminatory wen it comes to the issue of marriage. This incident is a one-off thing.

I am not a catholic sha.

true2god: B4 xtainity in africa there were inter-tribal marriages and the pple were happy. I think pple are takin many things out of context and besides many parents want their daughters to 'settle-down' with a 'bigman'. That good by the way.

But my opinion is that if that prostestant is highly 'loaded' and vry successfull all those conditions will not count. Its all about what is stand to gain. Catholics are not always discriminatory wen it comes to the issue of marriage. This incident is a one-off thing.

I am not a catholic sha.

No there were no inter-tribal marriages!

or else the tribes would have become extinct by now.

anyways the point is that , religion hardly maters when it comes to marriage. it is tribe.ethnicity and bloodline that matters. so dont see what religion he/she is . even if he is Pagan like me, marry him, aslong as he/she is from your tribe and is of your blood.

diva90: I was born and raised catholic . My boy frnd is Protestant. My parents hv disapproved of the union because he is non catholic. I don't knw what to do. Pls advice me. Also is it really bad for one to marry frm outside his/her denomination?
Ps: this is normal with most catholic parents

Good day,

I saw your post and really wasn't happy with the thought that your parents might want to decide who you can or cannot marry. But your post in the most recent thread you created suggests that this might not be true afterall. The post:

diva90: What does it mean when a guy doesn't call anymore, does it mean he has lost interest? I'm so angry and disappointed even though I am trying hard to be strong about it. I gave my heart to this guy only for us to have a series of arguments of recent and then he suddenly doesn't call me anymore. He has refused to be open and tell me what the issue is, I have given up on him and the relationship because I do not believe that a man should be the source of my unhappiness. But I still want to knw why men suddenly stop calling women when they have issues....what do u think nairalanders?

Suggests that you and this guy have been having issues with the relationship and the decision to give up on the guy was entirely yours. So, I really do not see the basis in creating this thread. Or are u suggesting that you have another guy apart from the one you spoke about in the above post who u are also considering for marriage?

striktlymi:

Good day,

I saw your post and really wasn't happy with the thought that your parents might want to decide who you can or cannot marry. But your post in the most recent thread you created suggests that this might not be true afterall. The post:



Suggests that you and this guy have been having issues with the relationship and the decision to give up on the guy was entirely yours. So, I really do not see the basis in creating this thread. Or are u suggesting that you have another guy apart from the one you spoke about in the above post who u are also considering for marriage?

Good detective work! Are you in anyway related to Bruce Wayne?

striktlymi:

Good day,

I saw your post and really wasn't happy with the thought that your parents might want to decide who you can or cannot marry. But your post in the most recent thread you created suggests that this might not be true afterall. The post:



Suggests that you and this guy have been having issues with the relationship and the decision to give up on the guy was entirely yours. So, I really do not see the basis in creating this thread. Or are u suggesting that you have another guy apart from the one you spoke about in the above post who u are also considering for marriage?

She could be talking of another guy.

Todaynatoday: Good detective work! Are you in anyway related to Bruce Wayne?

Lol I tire

diva90: I was born and raised catholic . My boy frnd is Protestant. My parents hv disapproved of the union because he is non catholic. I don't knw what to do. Pls advice me. Also is it really bad for one to marry frm outside his/her denomination?
Ps: this is normal with most catholic parents

it is not normal with catholic parents. In fact, it is more normal with pentecostals to reject marrying a catholic unless the catholic changes from his faith. Catholics, especially post vatican II catholics are more open to other christians than other christians are to them. Other christians think catholics are not christians

advocate666: If you are letting your parents decide your matrimonial life, then you are not yet ready to get married. Wait till you are able to make your own decisions.

Good point!! What has church denomination got to do with love & marriage? Smh for some people!! I thought only muslims restricts their children from getting married to non-muslims?

seriallink:

Good point!! What has church denomination got to do with love & marriage? Smh for some people!! I thought only muslims restricts their children from getting married to non-muslims?

Really?! What planet do u live? Christian families do not restrict their kids from marrying non-Christian? Cmon! It is so bad dat the denominations are a major issue. Quit being a hypocrite.

souldust: it is not normal with catholic parents. In fact, it is more normal with pentecostals to reject marrying a catholic unless the catholic changes from his faith. Catholics, especially post vatican II catholics are more open to other christians than other christians are to them. Other christians think catholics are not christians

I don't agree with this

xmasgift:
Really?! What planet do u live? Christian families do not restrict their kids from marrying non-Christian? Cmon! It is so bad dat the denominations are a major issue. Quit being a hypocrite.

Not in my family!! So, the hypocrisy part is not applicable to me!