i dont support adultery but if a woman can forgive her man ,the man should do the same for her if she commits adultery ,its 50/50 .no one should be used.

very difficult question

why would a man or woman cheat? Maybe it was lacking in her/his home but that is no excuse. its easy to say forgive, end the marriage, leave him/her but you may never know what might drive someone to do such. all i can say is may we not fall into such temptations. it could happen to anybody.

Yes. To err is human and to forgive is DIVINE.

I hv 2 generalise & say, 9ja men find it hard to forgive an adulterous woman.

hmm, but the love the husband have for his wife should be able to let him forgive her, afterall let him that have no sin cast the first stone. It all depends on the type anyways

i will forgive and she will continue to be the mother of her children but that mark the end of our intimacy moreover i will be preparing to bring in my new wife

Let us talk reality here. It is very difficult to forgive such. If you pretend to forgive, you will always remember the scene and will never love her again.

It's difficult to forgive him especially when he has done it so many times
But, we can always try although some women find it difficult
to forgive a partner that cheated, it's always good to forgive him so that
everyone can move on peacefully.

I can forgive her but thats the end of the marriage.

Only a very foolish wimp would forgive a wife caught cheating (forgive as in continue with the marriage). If you remember how long it took you to woo her, all the shakara she did as if her womanliness is beyond the reach of any mere mortal, how she put you through stress and sexual starvation during your dating/courtship years by claiming 'good girl' and saying 'no sex until marriage', how she pretended to be a virtuous woman and a good Christian, how hard you work to provide her with material comfort and cater to her needs, etc. . . .only to later find out that she has been opening her legs so easily to another man (or men) outside, the sheer disappointment and hurt is enough to drive a passionate man to murder. Your ego would be torn to shreds to imagine that what you worked so hard for, another man is getting so easily. How can I forgive such a trecherous animal? Her life is in serious danger if she doesn't leave my presence permanently. There can be no forgiveness for that, unless the man is really a naive fool. Like I always say, a woman who has the assurance that her man would forgive her no matter what, will always be emboldened to commit worse atrocities - knowing that the wimp she has for a husband would always forgive her. Not me.

pro01:

Only a very foolish wimp would forgive a wife caught cheating (forgive as in continue with the marriage). If you remember how long it took you to woo her, all the shakara she did as if her womanliness is beyond the reach of any mere mortal, how she put you through stress and sexual starvation during your dating/courtship years by claiming 'good girl' and saying 'no sex until marriage', how she pretended to be a virtuous woman and a good Christian, how hard you work to provide her with material comfort and cater to her needs, etc. . . .only to later find out that she has been opening her legs so easily to another man (or men) outside, the sheer disappointment and hurt is enough to drive a passionate man to murder. Your ego would be torn to shreds to imagine that what you worked so hard for, another man is getting so easily. How can I forgive such a trecherous animal? Her life is in serious danger if she doesn't leave my presence permanently. There can be no forgiveness for that, unless the man is really a naive fool. Like I always say, a woman who has the assurance that her man would forgive her no matter what, will always be emboldened to commit worse atrocities - knowing that the wimp she has for a husband would always forgive her. Not me.

what if you were the one caught? wld u want her to forgive u? v u cheated on ur wife/partner b4?

wendybaby:

what if you were the one caught? wld u want her to forgive u? v u cheated on your wife/partner b4?

I'm not married yet, and I don't look forward to cheating on my future wife. So the issue of being caught wouldn't arise. In any case a husband's cheating and a wife's cheating are not the same thing - and this is the truth, no matter how hard it is for you women to swallow. If you re-read my previous post you would see some of the reasons why a wife's cheating would be absolutely unforgivable. Clearly these reasons may not be applicable in a situation where the husband is caught cheating.

pro01:

. . . . In any case a husband's cheating and a wife's cheating are not the same thing -

Men are now the weaker sex with the fragile ego abi, arrant nonsense and utter tosh, mschewww, typical,  shior

Busy_body:


Men are now the weaker sex with the fragile ego abi, arrant nonsense and utter tosh, mschewww, typical,  shior

Don't mind them

Oya come and woo me endlessly (with lots of awoof gifts, recharge cards, etc etc), pay my 'groom price', do all the courtship spending, be the bread-winner of the household, let it be for you to worry about how to make money and 'take care' of me, and permit me to be a 'house husband' with a large monthly 'upkeep' allowance amongst other commitments on your part. Thereafter, if I am found to be unfaithful, it should definitely be considered more unacceptable and condemnable than if you were found to be unfaithful. Go figure.

I'm not justifying anything, I'm only rationalizing everything. And I really don't understand why you people want to have your cake and eat it.

it depends on the man.if he can forgive then do it.My hus will never forgive me so i will not try it.By the way what am i looking for in another mans pant.

prommy:

it depends on the man.if he can forgive then do it. My hus will never forgive me so i will not try it.By the way what am i looking for in another mans pant.

You see my point? If she knows her man would surely forgive her, she'll be emboldened to mess up. I know that for a fact. Once a woman knows that the man she's with is a weak wimp (only a weak man would so readily forgive such nonsense), she'll be ever ready to cheat on him with so much impunity. But once she has a positive fear of her man (e.g. a violent repercussion awaits; the marriage/relationship is over, etc), she'd think twice before creeping.

Forgive: YES, Forget: IMPOSSIBLE!!!

Unfortunately this is the case, it may well be the end of the marriage CONTRACT. It's a breach of contract no matter who is involved (Husband or Wife). I do not think any "limitation on liability" can apply in this case. If there are children, it beomes a bit harder to deal wth.

As for me, I pray I never find myself in any such situation.

She is Gone forever

pro01:

You see my point? If she knows her man would surely forgive her, she'll be emboldened to mess up. I know that for a fact. Once a woman knows that the man she's with is a weak wimp (only a weak man would so readily forgive such nonsense), she'll be ever ready to cheat on him with so much impunity. But once she has a positive fear of her man (e.g. a violent repercussion awaits; the marriage/relationship is over, etc), she'd think twice before creeping.

Whatz up bro?

The bolded above is pretty sick ain't it? Makes the whole marriage facade look bleaker and bleaker by the minute. Makes me feel sorry for "husbands" out there. No wonder men are dying at younger ages than their predecessors. Our forefathers married WIVES and didn't have to bother tolerating the nonsense from one woman. Hell, they would be busy nagging themselves to death while he gets his well deserved rest. Today, it's different.

The things women do in marriage appears to be a deliberate attempt to kill the man slowly by inducing heart ailments or mental breakdown through endlessly nagging and never ending demands. Being single for life seems more appealing with each passing day!

why is it so hard for a man to do this act and when a woman do it its like we committed murder, This isnt fair. In my marriage we were separated during the time i made this mistake does that count for anything, as well as him walking away from the marriage twice. As a woman its not easy for us to even think of are men sexing another woman either. I just feel like if i love him enough when can get through the past and move forward. He should be willing to do the same. I know some men that took their wives back and woman as well,

I will forgive her without thinking twice,because i forgave my girlfriend when she cheated on me. I will forgive her and we will both work on forgetting and making sure it doesn't happen again,infact i believe if done well we can come out even stronger in our marriage. The key is knowing what led to her cheating,very important, then we will take it from there as long as she is trully remorseful and willing to change.

well am not sure i will forgive her do you know what it take for a woman to loose her dignity? so people will be seeing me outside mocking me kojo she is gone

My husband would definitely forgive me,

^^^^ LOL really? but you wont forgive him instead you throw him out of his house LOL

Nonsence!!!!Women stick it out,Men send her away,....A generation of wacked mentality!

WHY NOT.ANY MISTAKE OR SIN COMMITTED SHOULD BE FORGIVEN.WE MUST 1ST OF ALL TAKE IN2 CONSIDETATION THE LIVING CONDITIONS OF THE COUPLES.THE MAN COULD BE A NAGGING N ANNOYING TYPE CAUSING THE WIFE TO MOVE ABOUT.I THINK THE MAN SHOULD ALSO EXAMINE HIMSELF BE4 TAKING ACTION.


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byvan: Nonsence!!!!Women stick it out,Men send her away,....A generation of wacked mentality!

As crazy as it sounds, nobody forced the woman to forgive

okewole:
Can A Hushand Forgive Wife Caught In Act?

To me not matter the circumstances, she is gone forever.

...would your judgement be the same if you were the offender?