victorian: You, all are the best....thanks for the prayers and best wishes.. I will believe again...I won't give up..!...I won't give up...!...phew!... I won't.. God help me, I won't...thanks for the renewed strength injected in me.. Una try o... blowing u all a kiss.. Yeah am back....! Let's take the bull by the horns..... No bad experience will stop me from fulfilling another prt of my purpose on earth...thank you ...good matured minds here...will be more careful and wise in my choices.. So help me God!

freecocoa: ^Good for you.

to+by:

thanks bro, jus wish all guys will be tru lovers n ladies won't be pretenders n explorers of men. It touches me n hurt me sincrely when i see peeps like dis. Emotional touture is d worse kinda pain anybody can go tru cos it kills people slowly without people around noticing it.

richarts: As you wish so shall it be for you in Jesus name. Dont worry, dont marry ok? Then your prayers are answered.

Personally im a good guy but all I require is a faithful girl.

pc guru: @ OP i think we are in the same shoes we haven't seen someone that would make us think otherwise

teeowl: If you decide to become bitter or resentful @ the thought of marriage... that's ur choice. Whatever choice a person makes it is up to him/her to make it work.

victorian: Relationships these days, is nothing to write home about.. Initially when I see posts of men seeking to have kids only without being married, i often think at that time, that they could be making a huge mistake.. Like someone said marriage is not for everybody. 98percent of my relationships are with guys, who I thought are hardworking , good heart and have prospects, but unknown to me they are just coming to get what they can, also to make one's life miserable after marriage.... I wonder how a guy who claims works, will be asking of recharge cards?.... How to eat your food..? Claiming he is so broke at this time to even buy a meal...there is no day, he is buoyant to take care of himself..... Am not saying, spend on me... But please take care of yourself... Don't carry your load and place on my shoulders, cause u feel society expects me to be married.... Well, society expectation, is different from my peace of mind.
My most cherished and peaceful moments , is when am single....oh lord, the peace and money I usually save , then is incomparable....marriage is not for me, cos I can't be the only one taking care of my kids, the lazy husband and my good self.....nah, I can't carry that load... Married peeps, I hail..l. But count me out of being married.. At least, I command respect at my office, my environment, my church.. People hardly know am not married, unless I tell them so...
Am not in for all this cat and mouse games , between men and women.... Peace out.
Thses are my thots tonight ,while talking to my aunts that has been pestering me to get married...... Feel I have to share it, with my fellow Nlders.
why are u attracting broke guys...are you too old to attract rich cats.better start going for the rich guys cos competition in that area is fierce,plus you got to be hot.

victorian: Guys mentioning deliverance, av done that already on various occasions, I even completed one, two months ago... And the Pastors always say , my way is free and open.. All I need is for God to bring my own husband to me and really good men are scarce and I should be patient. That God who created me knows when is the right time...I said ok.. Am not ready for another deliverance , av been delivered long ago.
@ maclantunji, I will take up what u said about a colleague, but pls not now...I need to relax and clear my head.
@lovemijeje and flytefalls, it wasn't easy... I used 5years to pray and meditate for healing of the mind and soul.. My pastor said am really lucky to be sane at this moment, that someone weak wud av gone bonkers... But am still firm and calm... It's by Gods grace... God has been kind and good to me.
@youngalex, am ok with just friends..... I need positive people without hidden agenders around me... I will inbox you.
@loveablesam, I know marriage these days , is about sharing the family responsibility with the husband. Times have changed, am not lazy.. And it will be burdensome leaving everything for the man...And I will never be a liability, likewise the man shouldn't be too....but play his own financial role.... I am ok, with a 50-50 relationship.
Thanks everyone for the advices, thanks for your support....but funny some people here think am a lesbian, or I have lesbian friends? That's not true o..... My few friends are straight and married but only one of them is happy in her marriage, the rest have issues in their homes, and I rarely have the time to discuss family issues except during my hols.
Thanks guys and my fellow babes

D-Explorer:
Instead of this over grown woman to tell us that no man is looking her way, she decided to tag men as pests and lazy *spits at her face*

victorian:
Relationships these days, is nothing to write home about.. Initially when I see posts of men seeking to have kids only without being married, i often think at that time, that they could be making a huge mistake.. Like someone said marriage is not for everybody. 98percent of my relationships are with guys, who I thought are hardworking , good heart and have prospects, but unknown to me they are just coming to get what they can, also to make one's life miserable after marriage.... I wonder how a guy who claims works, will be asking of recharge cards?.... How to eat your food..? Claiming he is so broke at this time to even buy a meal...there is no day, he is buoyant to take care of himself..... Am not saying, spend on me... But please take care of yourself... Don't carry your load and place on my shoulders, cause u feel society expects me to be married.... Well, society expectation, is different from my peace of mind.
My most cherished and peaceful moments , is when am single....oh lord, the peace and money I usually save , then is incomparable....marriage is not for me, cos I can't be the only one taking care of my kids, the lazy husband and my good self.....nah, I can't carry that load... Married peeps, I hail..l. But count me out of being married.. At least, I command respect at my office, my environment, my church.. People hardly know am not married, unless I tell them so...
Am not in for all this cat and mouse games , between men and women.... Peace out.
Thses are my thots tonight ,while talking to my aunts that has been pestering me to get married...... Feel I have to share it, with my fellow Nlders.

victorian:
You, all are the best....thanks for the prayers and best wishes.. I will believe again...I won't give up..!...I won't give up...!...phew!... I won't.. God help me, I won't...thanks for the renewed strength injected in me.. Una try o... blowing u all a kiss.. Yeah am back....! Let's take the bull by the horns..... No bad experience will stop me from fulfilling another prt of my purpose on earth...thank you ...good matured minds here...will be more careful and wise in my choices.. So help me God!