My friend whom lost his dad last 2 week,funeral is holding today....and women from different homes,have been cooking since morning....

His friends who don't care about the death of his father are busy pointing at the beer and wine they will drink, and how many they will finish tonite.

I don't see any reason why we should cook, i asked someone and he said to celebrate what he did when he was alive....

i want to ask if it is encouraging to cook and dink at funerals and your reasons

Because it is not easy to die.

Adufaye: My friend whom lost his dad last 2 week,funeral is holding today....and women from different homes,have been cooking since morning....

His friends who don't care about the death of his father are busy pointing at the beer and wine they will drink, and how many they will finish tonite.

I don't see any reason why we should cook, i asked someone and he said to celebrate what he did when he was alive....

i want to ask if it is encouraging to cook and dink at funerals and your reasons

I am with you on this question @OP. The Claim is that the partying is to celebrate what the departed did during his time here but in many cases, the departed mostly endured life and did nothing worth celebrating.

To me it is sort of like throwing a birthday bash for someone who has no clue that you are doing that in the first place, is not present and really does not give a darn.

Olodo 1: Because it is not easy to die.

hm . . . . interesting! And one would think that the fact that death is guaranteed for all humans, animals and most everything including the earth itself, it would be the easiest thing for all?

it depends, if d person is kind of old is lyk celebration dat's y it wil title lyk CELEBRATION of LIFE, GLORIOUS HOME EXIST e.t.c. Bt if d person is stil young i think is nt necessary because it is untimely death (may it nt be our portion in Jesus name)

Emusan: it depends, if d person is kind of old is lyk celebration dat's y it wil title lyk CELEBRATION of LIFE, GLORIOUS HOME EXIST e.t.c. Bt if d person is stil young i think is nt necessary because it is untimely death (may it nt be our portion in Jesus name)

If you must celebrate why ONLY celebrate the old when NO one is guaranteed to live to old age? I mean why is dead UNLUCKY when you are young and a hoot when you are old? Who makes that decision?

In celebration of a life well spent. Lol.

Frankly it's a default program, most people just follow the general convection, they just don't know why themselves, lol.

As for me,i believe u celebrate when its an elder that is involved. But if its an untimely death,there is no need to cook. The only worse thing i've seen in such condition is to fry akara or puff-puff which most peeps wont eat sef. As for the older ones,na party tinx o

Adufaye: My friend whom lost his dad last 2 week,funeral is holding today....and women from different homes,have been cooking since morning....

His friends who don't care about the death of his father are busy pointing at the beer and wine they will drink, and how many they will finish tonite.

I don't see any reason why we should cook, i asked someone and he said to celebrate what he did when he was alive....

i want to ask if it is encouraging to cook and dink at funerals and your reasons

im also with you by your question and im just coming back from one. they even go as far as sharing gifts. my question remains WHY?

So that people can cook & eat when you die. Do me I do you.

Cause people go chop your own too when you die, so why not chop others while you are alive?

You know your Nigerian peeps - very hungry bunch

Just try anounce that you won't be cooking when any of your parent dies, I pray they live long o, then wait to see how many people go show.

In Islam You can only cook for those who are coming for a far distance e.g people that are coming from kaduna to lagos or from zaria to abeokuta...

if item 7 no dey any gathering , people no go come.

for d remember of d dead person.

Frankly I don't understand the concept of cooking nd celebrating when someone passes ,you see pple coming around telling u will pay this nd that its really disgusting come to think of it someone passed nd you are billing the family before they can bury the dead SHM throwing are party cos someone died to me is an ugly trend folks go as far as borrowing to do this,I don't buy the idea and when such persons where alive was he/she taken care of by the family?

Cos is not easy to die

no ideal cooking in burial for people. where i come from, people cook and send to the mourning family for a minimum of 3days.

When my dad past away i was faced with the same dilemma. Although i do not support all the fanfare & carnival like celebration. But when people come from far & wide to commiserate with you they deserve to eat at least. It's the only fair thing to do. The dead are dead but life is for the living. My 2cents

GooD question @op.
My kid sis came bak frm a buddy's father's burial with "a big ceramic tray" wit d man's portrait on it, "a big towel" d man's pix on it too.

She told of d assorted variety of eats n drinks...
D man in question is nt dat old, jst one grand child.
For me, its nt really *a celebration of life* death.
I cud nt help bt imagine wot U jst asked.

Told her dt som of deir villa ppl wil be praying God for such feast again....SMH

because mst f our ppl ar nt idealistic and irrational. Rather, they ar dogmatic, blindly following traditions that ar meaningless, jst to feed their greed.

Florence :It has been in practice for long,But I think it can be changed now.

I always believe its not right especially if the person died at an unripe age. But if its at an old age..there is no qualms bout dat.

for my village na competition ooooooo

It's a disgraceful charade!

More like celebrating the fact that someone is dead.

And for me, death is not/never a joyful occurrence.

Because funerals are filled with hungry folks!

Well, as for me, i'll just give u this passage from the bible as quoted below....

A good name is better than fine perfume, and the day of death better than the day of birth. Eccl. 7:1 NIV

In islam if a person is dead the family are in grive as such exempt from cooking. The responsibility lies with able neighbours and relatives. And also the foodstuff is part of his/her inheritance which is unlawful to touch before its shared among its rightful owners

oluface: In Islam You can only cook for those who are coming for a far distance e.g people that are coming from kaduna to lagos or from zaria to abeokuta...

What difference does it make?! Cooking is cooking.

We cook and eat after funerals because we cooked and ate the time the dead was born.