I've been married for 2 years and I love my wife. Before I got married I had this habbit of watching porn. My wife doesn't want me to watch porn anymore and I have stopped it. But sometimes when I am weak I watch it. About 2 weeks ago she caught me watching porn. Since then
She cries everyday she stopped cooking for me nor does she want to have sex with me. I begged her to forgive but she refused.I don't know what to do Sincerely I do want to watch it again. Pls I need your advice

I found it on a blog. I think his wife is fed up!

Kk broda uve got to stop that! Is she not trying for u? If yes, talk her out and rub minds together to make your home a sweeeet place! Watching indecency is bad!

1st!!!!

Ask ‎​ Ǧ☺ϑ to forgive ♈̷̴̩‎ђυ and keep asking for uя wife's forgiveness also, then ♈̷̴̩‎ђυ also av to sincerely and consciously stop it, she wud notice it with time and realize dat ♈̷̴̩‎ђυ av changed. Good luck

stop watching cos your wif dnt like it...And most importantly pray to God to over come d spirit of watching indecency..goodluck....

I just heard of someone who got divorced due to porn.

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chaircover: Fact number one, there will always be challenges in relationships and the only way to face these challenges is as a team and as a couple and anyone who tells you that they haven’t/are not/will ever face challenges is not telling the truth.

Agreed they all come in different sorts & levels, but at the end of the day, they are still things that will make the person going through it very unhappy.

Crying and stopping to cook, will not solve the problem in this case. The husband is the weak one at the minute and he needs his wife to be strong and to help him through it.

He clearly doesn’t want to carry on doing it, but the flesh is weak. So his helpmate/confidant/bone of his bone/best friend/lover/biggest fan/the one who promised to be with him for better for worse etc etc should pick up the baton and continue the race.

She should look at getting help for him in anyway she knows how and to attack the problem from the root. Her not cooking for him and not letting him near her etc will further make him feel guilty and rejected and that will make him carry on doing what he is doing and he will probably just learn to hide it better from her.

The 2 are one and his problem is her problem and vice versa. If I were that wife, I will be booking secular and spiritual counselling sessions for him, I will be educating myself on the topic (Thank God for Amazon where there is at least one book on almost all topics) and I will also be on my knees praying and fasting for this man.

I know that all this is easy to say and the first thing that will cross a woman’s mind if this happens is that “the man prefers these women to me” but the reality is that problems are meant to be solved and solving this problem anyway I can would be my priority cos no one is going to do it for me.

He asked for an advice not a dissertation, damn!

Guitarlife: He asked for an advice not a dissertation, damn!

Lmao!

chaircover: Fact number one, there will always be challenges in relationships and the only way to face these challenges is as a team and as a couple and anyone who tells you that they haven’t/are not/will ever face challenges is not telling the truth.

Agreed they all come in different sorts & levels, but at the end of the day, they are still things that will make the person going through it very unhappy.

Crying and stopping to cook, will not solve the problem in this case. The husband is the weak one at the minute and he needs his wife to be strong and to help him through it.

He clearly doesn’t want to carry on doing it, but the flesh is weak. So his helpmate/confidant/bone of his bone/best friend/lover/biggest fan/the one who promised to be with him for better for worse etc etc should pick up the baton and continue the race.

She should look at getting help for him in anyway she knows how and to attack the problem from the root. Her not cooking for him and not letting him near her etc will further make him feel guilty and rejected and that will make him carry on doing what he is doing and he will probably just learn to hide it better from her.

The 2 are one and his problem is her problem and vice versa. If I were that wife, I will be booking secular and spiritual counselling sessions for him, I will be educating myself on the topic (Thank God for Amazon where there is at least one book on almost all topics) and I will also be on my knees praying and fasting for this man.

I know that all this is easy to say and the first thing that will cross a woman’s mind if this happens is that “the man prefers these women to me” but the reality is that problems are meant to be solved and solving this problem anyway I can would be my priority cos no one is going to do it for me.

VERY well said!!!

chaircover:

So his helpmate/confidant/bone of his bone/best friend/lover/biggest fan/the one who promised to be with him for better for worse etc etc should pick up the baton and continue the race.

Am only interested in this part of your quote, because I was at a wedding over the weekend and the pastor said, "For Better for Best, For Richer for Richest'

I was wondering if the worst & poorer part has been removed.

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By inference, one party can actually opt out if things are going worse or if they are becoming poorer. Because to me it simply means that before man and God the couple vowed for a rosy future.
In other words the Pastor that read their vows for them is giving them a loop hole for divorce.
I think this is really scary. And it got me worried all through the weekend.

chaircover: Fact number one, there will ..........

Are you are professor? Damn!

@op, help him to conquer this problem since he really wish to change, not cooking for him, not talking to him may just escalate d problem of d man and push him further to d wall, you are his partner......two is better than one, if one is falling, d other will help in lifting up.....says d bible. He is falling now, help to lift him up. So stay by him, admonish him always, he needs u now more than b4, prove your love for him, love conquers.
May God help you......... Amen.

@Abali, that is d modern day marriage, when its rosey, im for u, when its not.....i no dey o.

My brother, dont get scary, be faithful to God and he shall guide u, he shall provide that partner who will stay thru thick and thin for you. "Fear not".......says d word of God.
May God help us....amen

chaircover:

You are right, Ive been to a few weddings where the couple refused to say the for better for worse line but said for better for best. Even the Bible said that we will go through trials so I dont know where this better and best is coming from. To me its just indirectly telling the couple that everything is always going to be rosy, which is not a true reflection of a real marriage.

. Its just a reflection of the fact that most of the churches of nowadays are fashioned after the sayings of men. As a Christian I know I'm a realist I will face trials. They will say there's power in tongue so just say what's good and forget the bad.so when reality comes they'll scatter the marriage without thinking twice

bigass: . Its just a reflection of the fact that most of the churches of nowadays are fashioned after the sayings of men. As a Christian I know I'm a realist I will face trials. They will say there's power in tongue so just say what's good and forget the bad.so when reality comes they'll scatter the marriage without thinking twice

Hey there, not meaning to be rude but each time I come across your handle it stares in me unholy desires. For a young man trying hard to be celibate in this perverse generation I must admot your handle is something of a tool in the devils hand to distract and tempt me with erotic thoughts.
Would it be too much a request if I asked that you desist from leading me into temptation by changing your handle ?
I do look forward to a positive response from you and do have a great christmas.

bigass: I've been married for 2 years and I love my wife. Before I got married I had this habbit of watching indecency. My wife doesn't want me to watch indecency anymore and I have stopped it. But sometimes when I am weak I watch it. About 2 weeks ago she caught me watching indecency. Since then
She cries everyday she stopped cooking for me nor does she want to Be Intimate with me. I begged her to forgive but she refused.I don't know what to do Sincerely I do want to watch it again. Pls I need your advice

Indecent movies are mostly for teenagers and unmarried guys.

Its absurd for married men to engage themselves in watching it.

The disadvantage there is that even if your wife turns a blind eye on it, it could corrupt your kids, cos sooner or later, they might stumble into one of the cds...and believe me after watching it, they would definitely praticalize what they've learnt so far.

So in order to have a good home...I'd say, refrain from indecent movie.

To the guy in question...I'd say...apologize to your wife, take her out on a picnic, or to watch a move, buy her lots of gifts, and propose to her a second time (on your kneels this time) and I'm sure she would forgive you.

Good luck.

This happened to a colleague at work. His wife stopped cooking stopped sex move out of their joint room to another room. The guy begged his wife but she didn't bulge. After few months things didn't return to normal he continued to beg her still no bulge at that he felt pushed to the walls and damned everything. He abandoned all his responsibility and started having extra marital affair. It was too late before she came to her senses that dialogue and helping the husband was the best option. Porn is bad but her reaction is worse.

Smh.

But my wife and i both watch p0rn. My mistress joins me at times and i make her do what we are watching and she loves it. We all find it amusing and nothing to be worried about. We even record some of our sessions and watch again while having breakfast in the morning.

It is a free world ladies & gentlemen so enjoy it. By the way, any tribal bashing thread tonight? It has been long i engaged in efight o

Your wife cries everyday because you watched por.n ..... SMH!
Get her a bucket and have some takeaway restaurants on speed dial!
Nonsense

Table Leg :
Your wife cries everyday because you watched por.n ..... SMH!
Get her a bucket and have some takeaway restaurants on speed dial!
Nonsense

You are obviously not married.