Hey people answer this one if u please. Would u use endearments such as darling dear n luv for someone u are not dating or even hoping to date? How would u react if ur partner was to use such endearments to someone else?

I'd rather not use such terms,especially if these people are strangers. The ones to which such terms are directed,could get a wrong message.It happened to my husband. He had a habit of calling people(ladies) sweetie and all that.A lady in his office took it seriously and started sending him mails that ended with ''your sweetie''. You can now imagine how that ended.

Bottom line-i'll reserve such terms for the ones who are dear to me.

amsky:

Bottom line-i'll reserve such terms for the ones who are dear to me.

Even if the person is male n not related to u?

iice:

Yeah i do. . .but it's rare. . .and erhhhh they aren't usually sweet words. . .

Will it still count as an endearment?

Lord_Reed:

Will it still count as an endearment?

Just wondering same

well --erm iice do u mean like "goaty head dearie"?

Okay got it

Ok I see u rather use creative pet names than the standard fare. Kool. An idea worth emulating. ^{*Thinking of who to call Bruja*}

@ iice

lol

i find some naija girls in naija saying things like dearie, hun, etc etc and im like r u serious?

if u not my girl friend plz dont try to be funny with me. infact, i've told my girl friend to call me by name and she no wan hear

its very common here: people call you hun! " " some do it just before they rob you blind or beat the shit out of your guts

some will use it, just trying to be nice to yah!

of course i call him hun, lovey! babes! my heart ! as my mood dictates!

and if he annoys the crap out of me his name is shit-head! for just a few minutes!

how will i react if he uses such sweet words on others ?

amma do nuttin " " as long as i did not catch him doing the dirt! why loose ma cool?

@post
i dnt use them as endearment. . . mostly when my temper is flaring, that's when i use them.

ex" sweety, can you plz shut your trap?". . .

ikamefa:

how will i react if he uses such sweet words on others ?

amma do nuttin " " as long as i did not catch him doing the dirt! why loose ma cool?

Ok so say u say a text of his where he calls a lady u both know 'dear' how'd u react then?

Lord_Reed:

Ok so say u say a text of his where he calls a lady u both know 'dear' how'd u react then?

nuttin go shele! unless i see him and whoever in a compromising position !

na nuttin for nuttin oh! let him go ahead and call errbody dear or whatever!

nahh!! too cheesy. . . . i wouldn't even use 'em for the peepz im dating. . .
way too cheesy for moi. . . . . . . .

candie pie !

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nahh!! too cheesy. . . . i wouldn't even use 'em for the peepz im dating. . .
way too cheesy for moi. . . . . . . .

So wat do u call em den?

So what do u call em den?

i call 'em with their names or better yet give 'em sum kind@ nick name or just ''babe''. . . . .

But for 'em cheesy ''darlin'' ''sweety'' ''honey'' ''sugar'' waeva are way too cheesy and sometimes irritates the heck outt@ me if u use 'em to address me and vice versa . . .

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i call 'em with their names or better yet give 'em sum kind@ nick name or just ''babe''. . . . .

But for 'em cheesy ''darlin'' ''sweety'' ''honey'' ''sugar'' waeva are way too cheesy and sometimes irritates the heck outt@ me if u use 'em to address me and vice versa . . .

That's cos u r a guy, it kinda sound irky to my ears when guys use plenty of such endearments. I see it more like a lady thing.

I call everyone dear.

says who?

That's because you're a guy, it kind of sound irky to my ears when guys use plenty of such endearments. I see it more like a lady thing.

and how did u confirm this?

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says who?

and how did u confirm this?

Opps! My bad, forgot u're a girl, ignore my initial response.

Opps! My bad, forgot u're a girl, ignore my initial response.

Lol. . .jk

i was just draggin your legs. . . . . . . im a u dig me

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Lol. . .jk

i was just draggin your legs. . . . . . . im a u dig me

I don't dig i get sha

I don't dig i get sha

Cool . . . . .

lol. . . ice, u got me off ma chair.

@amsky. . . that's the more reason why i choose to call everyone by their names, except for some special "chosen" ones! For "dear" "darl" hon, all happens online. . . think whatever u want 'cus u can only dream but won't materialise.

@poster
I hardly use endearing words.but I use words like "goat head","ode","kingkong" and all other "hard" words.I can remember the very first day I called my ex "my dear",she was like "do you really mean am dear to you?,you always made me feel my head looks like that of a goat".I mean she was very happy to the extent that she bought me a boxer and singlet that very day. .

talk2sulta:

@poster
I hardly use endearing words.but I use words like "goat head","ode","kingkong" and all other "hard" words.I can remember the very first day I called my ex "my dear",she was like "do you really mean am dear to you?,you always made me feel my head looks like that of a goat".I mean she was very happy to the extent that she bought me a boxer and singlet that very day. .

Hmmm reverse psychology in order to induce intense feeling of pleasure after a sudden reversal of misconstrued aggression, hmmmm very interesting!

Lord_Reed:

Hmmm reverse psychology in order to induce intense feeling of pleasure after a sudden reversal of misconstrued aggression, hmmmm very interesting!

the thing is that she is very pretty and she seems to be a narcissist.And whenever we get to quarrel,she threatens me with the very fact that she is very pretty and have many guys flocking round her.and then I wasnt really on much bucks sha so In essence she stuck to me for love,though I still provided for her as she lacked nothing .but you know women my brother ,you cant predict them.so I always felt that complimenting her beauty will add more weapon to her arsenal so i decided to use the opposite which sometimes really deflated her and made her feel she is worth nothing to me.but deep down in me,I knew I loved her.but naturally,am not used to endearing words sha.maybe natural defense mechanism.call it anything you want.

I feel u joo! Only say make sure say she know well well say u luv am o!