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Re: My Husband Spits On My Face During Quarrels by andyanders: 10:13pm On Dec 24, 2012
Princess1982: I have never been vain about my looks but come on now you called me ugly. please you don't even believe that. In all my 30 years your the first man who has ever called me ugly.


Don't mind him -ik121,you are cute and good looking. Maybe we need to give him glasses to see in-between. From his write ups, you will agree with me that he is from a violent home where he learnt his attitude from. His father must have been a violent person to his mum hence he never see anything wrong in spitting on a human being-wife for that matter. Princess, if I were you, the best answer to a complete compound fool, is to ignore him.

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Re: My Husband Spits On My Face During Quarrels by dayokanu(m): 10:52pm On Dec 24, 2012
Na wa oo

He is possesed by snake spirit. Dont be surprised if he starts biting you

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Re: My Husband Spits On My Face During Quarrels by fellis(f): 11:05pm On Dec 24, 2012
dayokanu: Na wa oo

He is possesed by snake spirit. Dont be surprised if he starts biting you

LMAO. You and coogar no well at all grin grin grin grin grin
Re: My Husband Spits On My Face During Quarrels by superior1: 12:30am On Dec 25, 2012
Not only those running Unclad on the street have mental problems,there are were alaso, your husband really needs to get help from mental health specialist, jokes apart.
Re: My Husband Spits On My Face During Quarrels by SisiKill1: 1:01am On Dec 25, 2012
dayokanu: Na wa oo

He is possesed by snake spirit. Dont be surprised if he starts biting you

Lmao at this and King Cobra cheesy cheesy cheesy

My bad! I know I shouldn't laugh but it's hella funny!!
Re: My Husband Spits On My Face During Quarrels by ik121: 1:06am On Dec 25, 2012
Princess1982: Sure women should respect their husband but nobody should have to walk on egg shells in a marriage out of fear of being abused.
even tho we'v nva agreed i tink i agree on u on ds 1 princess.
I know many nairaland olofofos wer busy enjoyin d tantrums we wer throwing at each oda tho u wer d 1 who started it initially.
Nobdy dzavs 2 be spat on.
Incase u misconstrued my position,
My point exactly was dat d 'Spitting Habit' of d husband doesn't call 4 a divorce atall cos dats wat d Op was xpectin 2 hear nd many wer teln her exactly dat, ignoring d wonderful attributes of d husband. Couples hv a way of setlin dia issues.
The husband ain't no monster.
This is christmas, away wit d hate. Show sum luv sister.
#Big hug.
1 Luv.

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Re: My Husband Spits On My Face During Quarrels by baby124: 1:08am On Dec 25, 2012
Speechless...
Re: My Husband Spits On My Face During Quarrels by Princess1982(f): 2:40am On Dec 25, 2012
No it doesn't cause for a divorce but they need some serious counseling. Ik121 I agree.
Re: My Husband Spits On My Face During Quarrels by Kobojunkie: 4:33am On Dec 25, 2012
Princess1982: No it doesn't cause for a divorce but they need some serious counseling. Ik121 I agree.

Who is to decide if it is cause for divorce or not? Isn't that all up to the woman who is the one suffering this? If she decides to divorce the man as a result, who here or anywhere can decide her wrong for taking such a step? Abeg !! People should focus on arguing issue not deciding whether or not a person can or cannot exercise their right to get a divorce or not. We all have different tolerance levels for different things. Some of us can tolerate somethings to an extent while others have absolutely no tolerance for this kind of stupidity at all.

If I had a spouse who dared to spit on me once, I would walk out that door and never near that house ever again. There are somethings I can bear in my life but this level of disrespect from one who proclaims to love me is not one of those things I can bear. Again, we all have different tolerance levels and no one can decide for the other when to get a divorce and when not to. All we can do is state how we would each react, and that is why I sure hope those of you commenting would at least be honest enough to try to put yourselves in the @Posters shoes so you can better give an opinion that might help at the end of the day.

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Re: My Husband Spits On My Face During Quarrels by minute(f): 6:46am On Dec 25, 2012
Leave him. What a dirtbag.
Re: My Husband Spits On My Face During Quarrels by kulyie: 7:24am On Dec 25, 2012
ik121: even tho we'v nva agreed i tink i agree on u on ds 1 princess.
I know many nairaland olofofos wer busy enjoyin d tantrums we wer throwing at each oda tho u wer d 1 who started it initially.
Nobdy dzavs 2 be spat on.
Incase u misconstrued my position,
My point exactly was dat d 'Spitting Habit' of d husband doesn't call 4 a divorce atall cos dats wat d Op was xpectin 2 hear nd many wer teln her exactly dat, ignoring d wonderful attributes of d husband. Couples hv a way of setlin dia issues.
The husband ain't no monster.
This is christmas, away wit d hate. Show sum luv sister.
#Big hug.
1 Luv.
merry xmas o my broda,u want her to still put up with that dirty habit because of xmas sentiments,issokay. 8-)
 
Re: My Husband Spits On My Face During Quarrels by Winneygirl(f): 11:47am On Dec 25, 2012
@Op, wat Ur husband needs is a woman who can hold her ground!!Submissiveness and indecision ar boring somtyms.
Frm 2day, hold Ur head up high!!Set Ur own rules! Do all chores,serve his meals & maintain a clean, spacious, welcoming house.

If there's somthn he does which U dnt lik, just tel him once, in one sentence and close d chapter. Do not attempt 2make him undrstand.
E.g. "I noticed dat U leave d door open anytime U walk thru. I think its best if WE always close d door behind us everytime so we can be conscious of who walks into d house"
it starts wt littl thngs like dat.

Whn U disagree, no need 2 argue.
Just tell him in a cool calm voice, "I undrstand wat U ar talking abt. I will put it into consideration".
Whether U act on it now is up 2 U.
If he throws a tantrum, say nothing. Do nothing. Whn U can chip in a word, say "I hav heard U and will try 2work on it".
Remember, d magic that 1 sentence wud do, a thousand sentences wud neva achieve.
U dnt hav 2 do all he says, but U cn avoid d arguements and still have Ur way.

2defeat d strong-hearted,U need a diff. kind of strong-heartedness.

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Re: My Husband Spits On My Face During Quarrels by Gertynk: 1:45pm On Dec 25, 2012
ik121: Mama k'uku dat was lyk 3months ago bt it seems 2 me lyk 3years cos e don tay 2 me. She's ystdyz news so irrelevant.
At ur request i'd be glad 2 post pics of me nd my current working class babe 2 shame dat ugly pic of urs on ur profile.
See ur giraffe neck nd ur ugly black lips, psffff. Agadi nwayi wit ur ala dala ada. Amam n'ikpu gi n'otelegi n'eshi ushi. Otula rere ere.
you are a big fool, Iti akwu
 
Re: My Husband Spits On My Face During Quarrels by vanitty: 4:07pm On Dec 25, 2012
dayokanu: Na wa oo

He is possesed by snake spirit. Dont be surprised if he starts biting you

LMAO

@ poster
This is another form of abuse.
Think!
Re: My Husband Spits On My Face During Quarrels by Ezeego1(m): 5:32pm On Dec 25, 2012
tarababy:

I have spoken to the pastor,friends and family.He promised all of them he would stop but obviously he can't control his temper.
i have suggested anger management course but he has refused to ever attend such course.
He would destroy door,throw pot of stew in the sink and any disgusting thing when he is angry.
He is possesed with spirit of anger he cnt stop dat neva!.He nids deliverance dats d only remedy,so act fast nw
Re: My Husband Spits On My Face During Quarrels by slimchi2k2(m): 6:22pm On Dec 25, 2012
Kobojunkie:

This is exactly why I asked if you are human. The woman is here complaining to you that she is being spat on by the supposed love of her life and instead of worrying about the spitting you automagically assume she does SILLY THINGS to warrant being spat on. Do you realize how morose that is in itself -- that assumption that a human being can do something to warrant that sort of response ? If your own wife/husband spat on you whenever he/she got peeved, is this the same advice you would implement in your case? Would you be willing to change yourself so the offender continues in his ways only you the victim refuse yourself even more to ACCOMMODATE the offense?

Even worse, you are here suggesting there is a side for the man. The man is the one who spits on a fellow human being and you are here suggesting there could be an explaination for why he spits on his wife? Are you for real?
i do agree with u,but did u think that divorce is the solution,seperating the kids,i think in issue like this our focus first should be how the family we move on in peace,i ask u tips how such a person can change,u keep insultin me,if the wife in question is ur sister u just tell her to divorce,
if there's peace in that family did u think the man we spit on her,he abuse the woman yes everybody is against it,but can it change the man,no
before i will advise person in this kind of issue to sake for divorce,
i will try to know cause of the problem,there most be big problem in that family
disagreement,hatred,meybe cheatin,
am against spit on who ever,but this's husband and wife if i tell her to divorce am i goin to marry her,she tell us her husband use to spit on her
yes we all against that,i think next should be the tips how to change the man in question to make the family move on,or woman why ur husband use to spit on u,maybe the man have Psychological problem
Re: My Husband Spits On My Face During Quarrels by slimchi2k2(m): 6:35pm On Dec 25, 2012
Kobojunkie:

This is exactly why I asked if you are human. The woman is here complaining to you that she is being spat on by the supposed love of her life and instead of worrying about the spitting you automagically assume she does SILLY THINGS to warrant being spat on. Do you realize how morose that is in itself -- that assumption that a human being can do something to warrant that sort of response ? If your own wife/husband spat on you whenever he/she got peeved, is this the same advice you would implement in your case? Would you be willing to change yourself so the offender continues in his ways only you the victim refuse yourself even more to ACCOMMODATE the offense?

Even worse, you are here suggesting there is a side for the man. The man is the one who spits on a fellow human being and you are here suggesting there could be an explaination for why he spits on his wife? Are you for real?
@Kobojunkie
bro\sis i will love to see ur post in polite way,we are here to share ideas ok
seriously if there's tips i can use to change an adult pls i'm interest to know
waitin to hear from u about the tips tanx merry xmas
Re: My Husband Spits On My Face During Quarrels by breathless: 4:54pm On Dec 27, 2012
@ OP. Uve got a real BAD situation @ hand. Na play, na play LABA-LABA take dey enter bush o. I pray God 2 give u wisdom and understanding 2 handle dis well. 4 now, simply avoid confrontations, arguements, quarrels etc wt him. Answer him sir wenever he calls u, even wen he provokes u, take 3 long breathe, smile and simply tell him "u`re a fine man wt a good heart" (whether na true or not).
He`ll one day realize he`s so immature and childish and probably apologise. U`ll succeed.

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Re: My Husband Spits On My Face During Quarrels by SAFO(m): 5:11pm On Dec 27, 2012
My wife tried that once and once only early on in our relationship during a heated argument. See me see stars, Kai. My mind went blank and I d@mn near hit her with a closed fist, although I did pepper her face with the hottest slap you can ever imagine.

Needless to say she never tried that shyte again. Matter of fact anytime we argue now, she knows not to really set my temper off.
Re: My Husband Spits On My Face During Quarrels by Princess1982(f): 5:23pm On Dec 27, 2012
SAFO: My wife tried that once and once only early on in our relationship during a heated argument. See me see stars, Kai. My mind went blank and I d@mn near hit her with a closed fist, although I did pepper her face with the hottest slap you can ever imagine.

Needless to say she never tried that shyte again. Matter of fact anytime we argue now, she knows not to really set my temper off.
I don't blame you because, if somebody spit on me I would of had the same reaction.
Re: My Husband Spits On My Face During Quarrels by slimchi2k2(m): 5:34pm On Dec 27, 2012
breathless: @ OP. Uve got a real BAD situation @ hand. Na play, na play LABA-LABA take dey enter bush o. I pray God 2 give u wisdom and understanding 2 handle dis well. 4 now, simply avoid confrontations, arguements, quarrels etc wt him. Answer him sir wenever he calls u, even wen he provokes u, take 3 long breathe, smile and simply tell him "u`re a fine man wt a good heart" (whether na true or not).
He`ll one day realize he`s so immature and childish and probably apologise. U`ll succeed.
WELL SAID,
 
Re: My Husband Spits On My Face During Quarrels by slimchi2k2(m): 5:47pm On Dec 27, 2012
SAFO: My wife tried that once and once only early on in our relationship during a heated argument. See me see stars, Kai. My mind went blank and I d@mn near hit her with a closed fist, although I did pepper her face with the hottest slap you can ever imagine.

Needless to say she never tried that shyte again. Matter of fact anytime we argue now, she knows not to really set my temper off.

can ur wife beat u if u are the one spit on her face
Re: My Husband Spits On My Face During Quarrels by Nobody: 6:54pm On Dec 27, 2012
dayokanu: Na wa oo

He is possesed by snake spirit. Dont be surprised if he starts biting you

grin grin

My elder brother use to bite his wife when they start their wahala! grin grin

The kids are no different cos they bite themselves when the war starts. The wife does nothing, me I don tire to talk, once the fight starts, I watch from angle.

See biting galore!

I guess we have judas in my family. Biting judas.
At post, am sure your kids have taken over ( if you have any). You alone have to stop the abuse.
Re: My Husband Spits On My Face During Quarrels by SAFO(m): 6:59pm On Dec 27, 2012
Princess1982: I don't blame you because, if somebody spit on me I would of had the same reaction.


Thanks, and i'm definitely the type of person that doesn't condone hitting a female. For me to do that I had really reached my limit.

slimchi2k2:

can ur wife beat u if u are the one spit on her face

I would never spit on another person..... Period.

To me that's even worse than hitting.

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Re: My Husband Spits On My Face During Quarrels by chaircover: 8:44pm On Dec 27, 2012

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Re: My Husband Spits On My Face During Quarrels by babymama3: 2:28am On Dec 28, 2012
tarababy: I have been married to my hubby for 5 years now.For the past two years anytime we have disagreement or quarrel,he would spit on my face.I have had a heart to heart discussion with him to stop this disgraceful habit and he promised to stop but still did it four days ago.

Even my mum came all the way from Nigeria to plead with him here in England to stop spitting on me. Anytime I call my mum about this matter,she would start crying saying my husband is laying a curse on me and nothing good will come out of me if he continues.

I am losing interest in this marriage because there is no hope that he would ever change.I do not think any normal man would spit on his dog,let alone his wife.
He says he sees me as a poo at that moment and that his why he does it.HE is the type that loses his temper easily and would do nasty thing,which he later regrets .He is a forty year old man,who has refused to grow up.

married and matured minds in the house, do you think am wasting my time with this man?

After the above I was waiting to hear more then you told us

tarababy:

I have spoken to the pastor,friends and family.He promised all of them he would stop but obviously he can't control his temper.
i have suggested anger management course but he has refused to ever attend such course.
He would destroy door,throw pot of stew in the sink and any disgusting thing when he is angry.

I am still waiting to hear more
Tell us how many times he has slapped ,pushed and beaten you up
How many lies you have told to cover up the bruises,you fell down the stairs or hit a door etc
Girlfriend stop being economical with the truth
The signs are all over

It could be your funeral one day
Get out and get out fast

A word is enough for the wise
A man with wicked killer instincts who would not attend anger management classes or counseling and would not listen to the advise of anyone including your own mother in her pain of seeing her child abused.
You are losing yourself esteem daily by accepting to live this way.it is up to you to put an end to it since he can't.

Get out fast!
Marriage is not a do or die

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