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Single Men Ask?
QUESTION:
Why can’t I find a girl that truly loves me for me?

Answer:
Remember, women don’t date a guy out of pity, only very few does that, and most times, such relationship hardly stand the test of time, so make yourself lovable and you will see thousands of lovable girls creeping to love you wholeheartedly.

Now, you may ask- how do I make myself lovable? Simply by pursuing your life dreams and not by reading all ‘GLOSSY MEN STYLE’ magazines telling you how to acquire 6 packs, 10 packs, etc, and how to woo any girl and get him to fall for you. Ask yourself this simple question: what happens next after she trips for my 6 packs and sexy look? When she finally accepts to date me, to go into a relationship with me, will she still be wowed? Will she still be satisfied with my real personality or will she be disappointed with agreeing to date me?

If that girl you had been dying to get her to accept you agrees to go into a relationship with you, will you be able to sustain the relationship financially (oh yes, no matter how we view it, and no matter how much we shout that women are being materialistic, there is still need for money to sustain a relationship, or won’t you be calling her, buying her birthday gifts, taking her out on a dates, etc?), morally and mentally? Or do you think relationship is all about taking a girl to the house and sleeping with her? Do you think relationship is just about sending her sms a million times a day professing the same love that you had been busy professing to a million other girls?

In summary, if you want to find true love, get busy with your studies, career, business, trade, passion, and pursue your dreams and goals in life, and believe me along the line love will find you naturally. But if you keep chasing after women and hoping to find love, you will only end up buying more pains and troubles for yourself because you will mostly end up with girls who don’t care about you but pretending to care just to get something from you for the time being. So be wise, stop chasing girls and first chase your life goals, and watch out.

QUESTION 2:
Why are nowadays girls too materialistic?

Answer:
This is no doubt one of the most frequently asked questions by single men today. You want to know why today girls are too materialistic? Believe me you may not want to know this truth. But since you insist, let me let the heavens loose anyway.

Women are what men shape them to be, that’s the harsh truth. The society has shaped our today women to believe in material things. You can see this in today musical videos, movies, magazines, and even in television adverts, so the women are left with no other option than to believe in material things.

For instance, if you as a guy see two girls, one wearing a decent gown, and a simple hair, and holding a simple Nokia smart phone, and another wearing a short mini skirt, tank top, Brazilian weave, GUCCI goggles, three earrings in one ear, GUCCI bag, blackberry Porsche and iphone, believe me, you will first admire the second girl, and may even go for her first before giving the first girl a glance. And even when you have an opportunity to go on a date with each of them individually, you will end up giving the first one say ten thousand naira, and the last one fifty thousand naira, and you go home whining that girls are materialistic when you are the one encouraging them and sponsoring their materialistic lifestyle.

In summary, majority of today girls are materialistic because the men want them to be materialistic. How do we explain a situation a man gives a girl hundred thousand naira for sleeping with him for a night? What do you expect this girl to believe in?

Some weeks back, I was chatting with a family friend, a prominent man, married, and guess what he was telling me? He was telling me and a friend how some girls they invited to keep some of their party members visiting Lagos company were charging more than what they used to charge just because the girls heard the men they were going to hang out with are politicians flying in from Abuja. I was shocked when I asked him how much the girls charged in the past and he said, fifty thousand naira, but now doubled it, so I pretended and told him that it may also be for the Christmas season, but when he left, I and my friend couldn’t stop shouting at how the men who are supposed to protect our sisters are busy exposing them and teaching them useless moral.

QUESTION 3:
Why do women cheat?

Answer:
The truth is that women aren’t as promiscuous as men because they are not polygamous in nature like men who can hardly be satisfied by one woman except those with high moral standard and strong self control.

Women cheat when their partner isn’t satisfying them emotionally and financially. Women love comfort and easy life, so they can be exposed to cheating when they lack money and their partner fails to provide this need. Women also feel emotionally starved easily, so when their partner careless about them, they tend to make up through cheating, but they are more likely to stop when their partner reassures them of his love more than men.

In conclusion, if you don’t want your woman to cheat on you, try and meet her emotional, material and financial needs, and believe me, the chances of her cheating on you will be very minimal. Talking about real girls, not runs girls anyway, *winks*.

QUESTION 4:
Why do girls prefer bad boys?

Answer:
No girl want a bad boy, but the issue is that the presumed ‘bad boys’ tend to possess more qualities that most girls desire in a man more than the assumed ‘good guys’.

You will agree with me that the guys we call or see as ‘bad guys’ possess these qualities:
- They have swag
- They have confidence
- They are good looking
- They are fashionable
- They look neat
- They are social, in fact they are extroverts
- They are funny
- They are witty
- They have good career, business and they do have some cash or have a way of making girls see money around them even if it doesn’t exist
- They are smooth talkers, hence they can make a lady picture a world that can only exist in heaven
The above reasons are the reasons it looks like girls prefer bad boys or tend to fall more for bad boys.

QUESTION 5:
Do girls Love Intimacy?

Answer:
Yes, they do because they are also human with vein and blood. But the truth is that their libido isn’t as high as that of men, with few exceptions which are not common anyway.

Girls Love Intimacy, they want sex but they want to be sure you are the one, and they want to be sure you will be there for them after the act, and not jump off to meet another girl. A girl wants to share her emotion with someone she can trust, someone she know has her at heart and will never go boasting publicly how he slept with her, and how she was crying and screaming, which most guys of today do foolishly to feel like heroes, while looking silly.

Finally, girls feel more guilt after sex than men. They see sex as emotional engagement while guys see it as a game, and most often take it as fun and not as an emotional commitment, which is why most girls tend to pretend they don’t like sex.

Nice one... A reference for all.

I like.

@OP....Who are you? *confusionist mode*

Nice 1!!! Aweva,it ll b gud if ladies in d house cn testify to ds

latestsunny: Nice 1!!! Aweva,it ll b gud if ladies in d house cn testify to ds

Thumbs up, nice analysis. But there's always more to issues like this than your above stated opinions.Thumbs up anyway.

Risky_mallam: Thumbs up, nice analysis. But there's always more to issues like this than your above stated opinions.Thumbs up anyway.

noted and thanks for stopping by

This is true. But I don't understand why man say sexxx is a game to them because once his gf/fiancé/wife decides to play the same game elsewhere, they become even more emotional than a woman would if she caught him cheating. Secondly I don't think being polygamous is in anyone's nature because cheating is choice. There is a reason why people divorce once a spouse cheats, it's because that spouse chose to be reckless, not because it's in their nature to do so... Most women stay faithful to their men who cant satisfy them, because they know cheating is a choice. Everyone was given self-control it's ur choice to use it or simply please ur selfish needs. If women didn't have self-control trust me, 95% of the men on earth would be sharing them, most of these men cannot blow a woman's mind in bed.Cheating in never in one's nature, it's simply one's inability to control his cravings. Most of u have realized that ur gf gets more excited about shopping than getting in bed with u because she knows that u are much more appealing in the spending field than u are in the intimacy field

mondi_cheeks: This is true. But I don't understand why man say sexxx is a game to them because once his gf/fiancé/wife decides to play the same game elsewhere, they become even more emotional than a woman would if she caught him cheating. Secondly I don't think being polygamous is in anyone's nature because cheating is choice. There is a reason why people divorce once a spouse cheats, it's because that spouse chose to be reckless, not because it's in their nature to do so... Most women stay faithful their men who cant satisfy them, because they know cheating is a choice. Everyone was given self-control it's ur choice to use it or simply please ur selfish needs. If women didn't have self-control trust men, 95% of the men on earth would be sharing them, most of these men cannot blow a woman's mind in bed.Cheating in never in one's nature, it's simply one's inability to control his cravings. Most of u have realized that ur gf gets more excited about shopping than getting in bed with u because she knows that u are much more appealing in the spending field than u are in the intimacy field

The last part of your comment just left me screaming: OMG! Hahahaha

DailyNews: Single Men Ask?
QUESTION:
Why can’t I find a girl that truly loves me for me?

Answer:
Remember, women don’t date a guy out of pity, only very few does that, and most times, such relationship hardly stand the test of time, so make yourself lovable and you will see thousands of lovable girls creeping to love you wholeheartedly.

Now, you may ask- how do I make myself lovable? Simply by pursuing your life dreams and not by reading all ‘GLOSSY MEN STYLE’ magazines telling you how to acquire 6 packs, 10 packs, etc, and how to woo any girl and get him to fall for you. Ask yourself this simple question: what happens next after she trips for my 6 packs and sexy look? When she finally accepts to date me, to go into a relationship with me, will she still be wowed? Will she still be satisfied with my real personality or will she be disappointed with agreeing to date me?

If that girl you had been dying to get her to accept you agrees to go into a relationship with you, will you be able to sustain the relationship financially (oh yes, no matter how we view it, and no matter how much we shout that women are being materialistic, there is still need for money to sustain a relationship, or won’t you be calling her, buying her birthday gifts, taking her out on a dates, etc?), morally and mentally? Or do you think relationship is all about taking a girl to the house and sleeping with her? Do you think relationship is just about sending her sms a million times a day professing the same love that you had been busy professing to a million other girls?

I wish our nigerian men would read more of your article and learn.esp that guy that writes with red 'bic'.

In summary, if you want to find true love, get busy with your studies, career, business, trade, passion, and pursue your dreams and goals in life, and believe me along the line love will find you naturally. But if you keep chasing after women and hoping to find love, you will only end up buying more pains and troubles for yourselfbecause you will mostly end up with girls who don’t care about youbut pretending to care just to get something from you for the time being. So be wise, stop chasing girlsand first chase your life goals, and watch out.

I agree with this summary, had a very nasty experience in which a lady was hoping to settle down with but she wasnt faithful. So what did I do? Fortunately, I got admission for further studies, and I decided to forget all and made my studies my baby, consoling myself that after the programme, I will have “my baby” ie my certificate, hence I spent on “her” like crazy and then I will dump/divorce “her”(higher degree). And it paid off, I came out wit almost distinction grade, becos I channeled my time, resources and energy and the blessing of God and refused to be distracted. And to cut the long story short, I met the woman with who am with today in a miraculous way. So definitely guys, try and forget em, marry your studies and it will surely pay you now academically and emotionally, you would understand yourself since you are not distracted.peace

nne3870:
I wish our nigerian men would read more of your article and learn.esp that guy that writes with red 'bic'.

em some1 wit the cl**n ending handle

nne3870:
I wish our nigerian men would read more of your article and learn.esp that guy that writes with red 'bic'.

i agree with what dailynews said but it doesn't have to always be the guy that will do the spending.that's the archaic mentality we have here in nigeria and we men are to be blamed for it cos we aint doing nothing about it.is it a sin for the women to spend for their guys too?.is it bad for a lady to foot the bills of a guy once in a while?

When a guy pays every ish for a gurl, buys her clothes, pays her school fees, pays her other bills, at a certain time; such a guy tends to be autocratic in such relationship and the lady has no say cos the guy is virtually the one sustaining such relationship.such relationship don't usually ends well and it ends up with the guy having excess power and the gurl wont do shît cos if she should counter him, the goodies will stop coming.

EVERY guy will choose an independent lady any day any time that can contribute to the relationship financially, romantically and other wise over a dependent lady that depends on a guy paying every goddamn stuff shikena!!.i for one, will do so

hisblud: em some1 wit the cl**n ending handle

lol..she meant 190

lalaosky:


When a guy pays every ish for a gurl, buys her clothes, pays her school fees, pays her other bills,

Oh please no nigerian guy can do all of the above and no nigerian responsible lady would sit back and expect a guy to do everything for her.

If you must know, women love being independent but d society percieves an independent lady as 'wild' and sometimes promisciuos especially if she owns a car. Such ladies may not be humble enough to date any man cos she feels she has everything a man can offer her.

Back to the issue at hand,whether you like it or not what sometimes sustain a rltnshp are gifts, am not saying it should be one sided but a woman needs to feel loved and how else can you express your love??
Am not saying you are wrong but a man should also know his roles in a relationship

hisblud:
I agree with this summary, had a very nasty experience in which a lady was hoping to settle down with but she wasnt faithful. So what did I do? Fortunately, I got admission for further studies, and I decided to forget all and made my studies my baby, consoling myself that after the programme, I will have “my baby” ie my certificate, hence I spent on “her” like crazy and then I will dump/divorce “her”(higher degree). And it paid off, I came out wit almost distinction grade, becos I channeled my time, resources and energy and the blessing of God and refused to be distracted. And to cut the long story short, I met the woman with who am with today in a miraculous way. So definitely guys, try and forget em, marry your studies and it will surely pay you now academically and emotionally, you would understand yourself since you are not distracted.peace

Hisblud, u just added HONEY to the tea, thanks for those words of advice

nne3870:
Oh please no nigerian guy can do all of the above and no nigerian responsible lady would sit back and expect a guy to do everything for her.

If you must know, women love being independent but d society percieves an independent lady as 'wild' and sometimes promisciuos especially if she owns a car. Such ladies may not be humble enough to date any man cos she feels she has everything a man can offer her.

Back to the issue at hand,whether you like it or not what sometimes sustain a rltnshp are gifts, am not saying it should be one sided but a woman needs to feel loved and how else can you express your love??
Am not saying you are wrong but a man should also know his roles in a relationship

@the bolded,that's what i'm saying.in nigerian, most times it's one sided.that the poor mentality that has bedridden us. And about the fact that i stated concerning where men pays almost everything for girl, i aint lieing.i've seen a guy that trained his Gf fro sec school till she graduated.i'm dead serious.it's not a new thing, it happens whether you'll believe me or not

a prosperous new year in advance to you @nne

lalaosky:

i agree with what dailynews said but it doesn't have to always be the guy that will do the spending.that's the archaic mentality we have here in nigeria and we men are to be blamed for it cos we aint doing nothing about it.is it a sin for the women to spend for their guys too?.is it bad for a lady to foot the bills of a guy once in a while?

When a guy pays every ish for a gurl, buys her clothes, pays her school fees, pays her other bills, at a certain time; such a guy tends to be autocratic in such relationship and the lady has no say cos the guy is virtually the one sustaining such relationship.such relationship don't usually ends well and it ends up with the guy having excess power and the gurl wont do shît cos if she should counter him, the goodies will stop coming.

EVERY guy will choose an independent lady any day any time that can contribute to the relationship financially, romantically and other wise over a dependent lady that depends on a guy paying every goddamn stuff shikena!!.i for one, will do so

Lala, u are ryt but u have to understand that this issue of man providing for his woman is a natural ideology which came abt as a result of d fact that men in d olden days were d ones that usually worked n got paid while women stayed indoors n kept d home, so u dnt expect someone who doesn't have to give.

And even as we speak now, more men are working n earning money than women, so where will the women get the money to give or spend on their guys when they aren't working or earning?

I am only against ladies who are working, doing biz and earning but still keep bordering their lovers with virtually all their life needs, that totally absurd yet, a man needs to show love to her woman via gifts, encouraging words, emotional support, and good counsels that will help her excel in both her career and general life endeavours.

All the same, Lala is ryt in some ways, so its left for us (guys n ladies) to stay in between d lines to ensure successful relationships n marriage tnkx Lala

nne3870:
Oh please no nigerian guy can do all of the above and no nigerian responsible lady would sit back and expect a guy to do everything for her.

If you must know, women love being independent but d society percieves an independent lady as 'wild' and sometimes promisciuos especially if she owns a car. Such ladies may not be humble enough to date any man cos she feels she has everything a man can offer her.

Back to the issue at hand,whether you like it or not what sometimes sustain a rltnshp are gifts, am not saying it should be one sided but a woman needs to feel loved and how else can you express your love??
Am not saying you are wrong but a man should also know his roles in a relationship

nne, there are men who foot virtually all their woman's bills in Nigeria. But u are absolutely ryt wen u said a man shud shw that he loves his woman via offering of gifts, n not just gifts, in so many other ways.


But I think y men of today are crying out loud that women are being too materialistic is d fact that most ladies now make money and financial acquisitions a yardstick for choosing and agreeing to date a guy, which is where they always get it wrong cos its absolutely wrong from all angles

DailyNews: Lala, u are ryt but u have to understand that this issue of man providing for his woman is a natural ideology which came abt as a result of d fact that men in d olden days were d ones that usually worked n got paid while women stayed indoors n kept d home, so u dnt expect someone who doesn't have to give.

And even as we speak now, more men are working n earning money than women, so where will the women get the money to give or spend on their guys when they aren't working or earning?

I am only against ladies who are working, doing biz and earning but still keep bordering their lovers with virtually all their life needs, that totally absurd yet, a man needs to show love to her woman via gifts, encouraging words, emotional support, and good counsels that will help her excel in both her career and general life endeavours.

All the same, Lala is ryt in some ways, so its left for us (guys n ladies) to stay in between d lines to ensure successful relationships n marriage tnkx Lala

thanks man...nice write up.we need more of this bruv...a propsperous new year to you in advance

DailyNews: nne, there are men who foot virtually all their woman's bills in Nigeria. But u are absolutely ryt wen u said a man shud shw that he loves his woman via offering of gifts, n not just gifts, in so many other ways.


But I think y men of today are crying out loud that women are being too materialistic is d fact that most ladies now make money and financial acquisitions a yardstick for choosing and agreeing to date a guy, which is where they always get it wrong cos its absolutely wrong from all angles

EOD!!

@O.P...I have one for you,BRAVO...but don't you think you should change ur handle..?*just a thought*

Long gist, as for me just open the pot and lemme kill the red meat and I bounce. Then it becomes kill-able anyday anytime, just a call.

Hmm I skimmed this but what I read what nice. Good job OP

lalaosky:

thanks man...nice write up.we need more of this bruv...a propsperous new year to you in advance

Wishing you a more prosperous 2013 than you had in 2012! May God see us all through to the new year ahead, ciao!

Fkforyou: @O.P...I have one for you,BRAVO...but don't you think you should change ur handle..?*just a thought*

lolz, change me handle wow, that's a good new year proposal.... ....thanks man, and thanks too for stopping by to say "hi"

SniperInADiaper: Hmm I skimmed this but what I read what nice. Good job OP

u did more, tnks

9jacrip: Long gist, as for me just open the pot and lemme kill the red meat and I bounce. Then it becomes kill-able anyday anytime, just a call.

DailyNews: