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If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by SAFO(m): 12:28pm On Dec 27, 2012
What would be your reaction?

Would you immediately seek a divorce?

I don't claim to be a perfect man, far from it anyway and yet I've never cheated on my wife since we got married. I did mess around a bit while we were dating but there really wasn't a commitment in place so I don't feel as if I've acted unfairly.

Honestly, if my wife cheated I don't know if I would get a divorce (probably for the sake of the kids) but I would definitely stop loving her. I'm my eyes she wouldn't be the same person anymore. My wife is supposed to belong to me and the thought of her with some other guy would severely taint my perception of her. I wouldn't be able to look her in the face and not feel disgusted. I wouldn't want to touch her or comfort her anymore. In short I would despise her.

The mere thought repulses me and now that I think of it, it would probably do more harm than good to stay together. People always claim that you can forgive and forget but to what extent can one maintain this belief? Isn't marriage supposed to be a sanctified bond that can not be undone by anyone but God?

Do others share this belief or is this too extreme on one end of the spectrum?

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Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by Callotti: 12:40pm On Dec 27, 2012
Not ma gaddem bizz!
Free world! kiss

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Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by byvan(f): 1:22pm On Dec 27, 2012
Adultery is unforgiveable to me.The purpose of the union has been defeated when a spouse shares his or herself with a woman or man of the street.I personally believe that no good can come from an adulterous marriage,calling it quits might be the only viable option.

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Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by adefash(m): 2:01pm On Dec 27, 2012
You cheat i cheat God no go vex. I cheat too.
Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by victorian(f): 11:45pm On Dec 27, 2012
awful, loss of words, perplexed,so angry, worked up, then finally calling it quits embarassed... cos the trust is gone.
Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by chaircover: 8:00am On Dec 28, 2012

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Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by Abujafood: 2:07pm On Dec 28, 2012
MAD
Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by wazlee(m): 2:10pm On Dec 28, 2012
4give & 4get simple

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Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by PStylish: 2:12pm On Dec 28, 2012
Bad!

The marriage died...
Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by jaymichael: 2:13pm On Dec 28, 2012
chei, that one hard small o to answer, if we want to be truthful to ourselves. except na person wey you don want pursue since na simple straight forward red card. but if na your "ADA OWERRI" and her record dey good in your books, na CONFUSION get you.

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Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by HyconBc: 2:15pm On Dec 28, 2012
Until then,can't say for now
Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by cbliss(m): 2:20pm On Dec 28, 2012
Honetsly for mi dat will be d end of d marraige in d true sense of d word !!!....even if we dnt get a divorce mayb 4d sake of d kids or smfin but still as far as I'm concerned....dts jst it !!!
Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by DANILSA(m): 2:21pm On Dec 28, 2012
jaymichael: chei, that one hard small o to answer, if we want to be truthful to ourselves. except na person wey you don want pursue since na simple straight forward red card. but if na your "ADA OWERRI" and her record dey good in your books, na CONFUSION get you.
SECONDED

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Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by jolaosho: 2:21pm On Dec 28, 2012
undecidedi will ask her what prompt her to do so
Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by arimahoseloka: 2:22pm On Dec 28, 2012
I wouldn't lie 2 u, immediately a lady cheats on u and u find out, ur perception of her indeed changes, and d love dies. Wen my gf dat i lovd so much cheated. I 4gave her, but tins couldnt be thesame i developed coldness to her, d love just vanished, i had to kal it quits.. To forgive is easy, but wil d heart do thesame..?

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Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by huninaija(f): 2:24pm On Dec 28, 2012
You're now changing your tune when a woman cheats, if its a man now he'll be claiming he's got the magic candle stick... undecided

Anyways for me sha it depends on who, with, WHAT, where and how he cheated on me before i can then make a decision...

But i would feel like iv been taken for granted and that, i am of no worth to him anymore, that i should have listened to my papa's advice to stay away from men at all costs lool... grin

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Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by greatgod2012(f): 2:25pm On Dec 28, 2012
Definately, i will feel bad, but one can never know what can be done until it happens.
However, i pray it never happen to me.

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Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by caesaraba(m): 2:27pm On Dec 28, 2012
I'd be broken. Definitely would wreck the marriage.
Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by disqus: 2:30pm On Dec 28, 2012
[color=#990000][/color] cryAdios
Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by Engineer1985: 2:31pm On Dec 28, 2012
I pray it doesn't happn, cos it can be very painful
Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by moneyhungry(m): 2:33pm On Dec 28, 2012
Marriage is Prison cuz A wedding ring is the world's smallest 'HANDCUFFS'... for now, i'm single n free!!!!
hooray!
Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by Gabrielsylar(m): 2:33pm On Dec 28, 2012
Why can't be thread be “what will u buy ur wife is u found out she dosent cheat“ haba....too much negativity
Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by moneyhungry(m): 2:35pm On Dec 28, 2012
jolaosho: undecidedi will ask her what prompt her to do so
silly.

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Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by Archmed: 2:37pm On Dec 28, 2012
Its very painful...Not easy to forgive a spouse that cheated..Its very disgusting but the most painful thing is you forgiving but not forgetting because d likelihood that he/she will cheat again is very slim(for the spouse with conscience)I cheated on my spouse once and d thought of doing it again makes me sick!..u dont come out being the same again.

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Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by bros12345: 2:40pm On Dec 28, 2012
my wife will not cheat on herself neither will i destroy myself with another woman. so dont belong here
Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by k2039(m): 2:47pm On Dec 28, 2012
If I never cheated on her, then I will have to terminate her appointment as my wife.There was a fidelity clause when we took our marital vows.
Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by nollywood20: 2:47pm On Dec 28, 2012
If the cheat repents, forgive.
But if the cheat does not repent, the punishment is inevitable.
And you can never predict when, how and where the punishment will happen.
1 year, 2 years or even 10 years.
When it comes to love and marriage, I am totally Italian.
And that is why I love Mario Puzo's Fools Die.

“I'll tell you the only real truth. Cu*nt is where it all begins and where it all ends. Cu*nt is the only thing worth living for. Everything else is a fake, a fraud and just poo.”
― Mario Puzo, Fools Die


And that is why I love Orikinla Osinach's Diary of the Memory Keeper.

Because as fools lie
So fools die.
It is not my fault that the fools lie
And it is not my fault that they die.
They choose to lie, so they choose to die.
~ Orikinla Osinachi


That is why there is heaven and hell.
The good go to heaven, but the evil go to hell.
The choice is yours.

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Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by xpensive05: 2:51pm On Dec 28, 2012
i'll be dissapointed.......... COS SOMEBODI WANTS 2 DIE!!!!!
Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by keneri(m): 2:52pm On Dec 28, 2012
..."there was a marriage"
Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by blessed4ever: 2:57pm On Dec 28, 2012
Are you into the business of marriage and divorce? Are you married to more than one person? Repent!! Marriage is for better and for worse until death separates (Matthew 19:3-6). ‘Wherefore they are no more two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together let no man put asunder (separate)’. Amend your ways and God will bless you. Proverbs 28: 13 says, ‘‘He that covers his sins shall not prosper, but whoever confesses and forsakes them shall have mercy.’’ You must not therefore hide your sins. You must repent of them, confess and forsake them.
Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by blessed4ever: 2:59pm On Dec 28, 2012
You must forgive your spouse, and pray for the salvation of his or her soul. Divorce is not permitted by God, and never an option.
Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by blessed4ever: 3:00pm On Dec 28, 2012
He that commits sin is of the devil, I John 3:8 (I John 3:cool. If you are into lying, cheating, bitterness, keeping malice, pride, manifesting anger, quarreling, unforgiveness, hatred, envy, contention, strife, bitterness, speaking evil of others, taking or giving bribe, selfishness, deception, kidnapping, smuggling, falsification of documents, swearing, extortion and other sinful character dispositions, you must repent.
Such evil and wicked character will hinder the manifestation of abundant blessings upon your life. If you are into self-service, fornication, adultery, prostitution (private or public), patronizing prostitutes, abortion, lesbianism, homosexualism, watching Indecency (I Corinthians 6:9-10), or any form of immorality, you need to repent.
Whatever be the area of your sin, you must repent and make amends. Are you into idolatry, do you make or use charms, rituals, bow down to images, do you rob or steal? Are you into cultism, whether open or secret cult? Do you practice witchcraft? Do you smoke cigarette or hemp? Do you sell them or offer them to people? Do you smoke or sniff hard drugs such as cocaine, heroin, captain black, hashish or other banned drugs or snuff? Are you lusting - lusting after men or women, covetous, alcohol drinking? You must repent and give your life to Jesus Christ.

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