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Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by Ironi: 3:02pm On Dec 28, 2012
Have you ever thought of the numerous boyfriends who fcked your wife before you?

I guess you would say you had not been married then so it doesn't matter, but think about it, a fck today is not any different from a fck yesterday.

That is why the bible reaches against fornication.

If you are not a virgin before marriage, then you all have been fcking somebody and have been cheating even before marriage.

To me if you are able to forgive a fck which was done yesterday then you should be able to forgive a fck which was done today.

A fck is a fck, regardless.

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Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by achi4u(m): 3:05pm On Dec 28, 2012
chaircover: Honest answer!!!!! I dont really know and I pray that I never have to answer that question.

People never know how they are going to react until they get there. There are also so many things to consider at the time which may be very different from now.
one love
Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by ferdimako(m): 3:12pm On Dec 28, 2012
SAFO: What would be your reaction?

Would you immediately seek a divorce?

I don't claim to be a perfect man, far from it anyway and yet I've never cheated on my wife since we got married. I did mess around a bit while we were dating but there really wasn't a commitment in place so I don't feel as if I've acted unfairly.

Honestly, if my wife cheated I don't know if I would get a divorce (probably for the sake of the kids) but I would definitely stop loving her. I'm my eyes she wouldn't be the same person anymore. My wife is supposed to belong to me and the thought of her with some other guy would severely taint my perception of her. I wouldn't be able to look her in the face and not feel disgusted. I wouldn't want to touch her or comfort her anymore. In short I would despise her.

The mere thought repulses me and now that I think of it, it would probably do more harm than good to stay together. People always claim that you can forgive and forget but to what extent can one maintain this belief? Isn't marriage supposed to be a sanctified bond that can not be undone by anyone but God?

Do others share this belief or is this too extreme on one end of the spectrum?

but wait oh..how pesin wey one dick or hole no dey do, go come dey manage one now because of marriage? dis cheating shld be renamed and accepted as part of us.
Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by boban007: 3:23pm On Dec 28, 2012
its d worst thing to ever happen to anybody.my girlfriend dat i loved so much bought her a car,took her abroad cheated on me multiple times just when we were abt to get married.my life was not the same for 2yrs.i could not date any other babe&was so confused.she begged for two years & i took her back but realised i dnt luv her like before.i was very strict &hard on her.one day she came & moved her things that we should ve a break.i asked if she was seeing someone else she said NO.she swore with the holy bible,i almost believed her but cos of her past,i did a private investigation&discovered a guy in the uk had agreed to marry her.i was shocked the second time.when she knew i discovered,she ran back & said she doesnt luv the guy dat she was confused.i said ok, took her back & frustrated her life.never liked her again 4 life.she took me 4 a fool.i just can tell all the details.now im the biggest player in town.dont care if u hate me.there is no such word as love.trust me.

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Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by WhyAWhy(m): 3:25pm On Dec 28, 2012
Ironi: Have you ever thought of the numerous boyfriends who fcked your wife before you?

I guess you would say you had not been married then so it doesn't matter, but think about it, a fck today is not any different from a fck yesterday.

That is why the bible reaches against fornication.

If you are not a virgin before marriage, then you all have been fcking somebody and have been cheating even before marriage.

To me if you are able to forgive a fck which was done yesterday then you should be able to forgive a fck which was done today.

A fck is a fck, regardless.

This is the same reason why it's hard for me to marry a non-virgin. I haven't "fcked" any till now and don't intend to

Someone I will call my "Mrs." should not fck anyone before and after me! I make that crystal clear to ladies that I meet. If my spouse happens to cheat eventually, I will forgive and FORGET completely about her. FORGETTING might mean granting her an exit passage from this world! angry
Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by Truckpusher(m): 3:42pm On Dec 28, 2012
YOU'RE LIVING IN A FOOLS PARADISE.
WhyAWhy:

This is the same reason why it's hard for me to marry a non-virgin. I haven't "fcked" any till now and don't intend to

Someone I will call my "Mrs." should not fck anyone before and after me! I make that crystal clear to ladies that I meet. If my spouse happens to cheat eventually, I will forgive and FORGET completely about her. FORGETTING might mean granting her an exit passage from this world! angry

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Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by Ironi: 3:48pm On Dec 28, 2012
WhyAWhy:

This is the same reason why it's hard for me to marry a non-virgin. I haven't "fcked" any till now and don't intend to

Someone I will call my "Mrs." should not fck anyone before and after me! I make that crystal clear to ladies that I meet. If my spouse happens to cheat eventually, I will forgive and FORGET completely about her. FORGETTING might mean granting her an exit passage from this world! angry

I can also see why you want to marry a virgin, but killing her for that is crazy.

No man has the right to take the life of another, regardless. Between, why do you want to have the blood of another on your hand?

Your best bet is to divorce, but no killing.
Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by SirMethod: 4:01pm On Dec 28, 2012
It depends on when, why, where and with whom it happened.
_u can't forgive a wife that fuckt ur brother in ur bedroom in the nite coz u were tired n slept off in the sitting room.
but
_u can forgive a wife that was fuckt by armed robbers bcoz u didn't have money to give them.
Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by dammytosh: 4:02pm On Dec 28, 2012
It is easy to write. ..... "i will seek divorce..." You honestly wish.

protect your wife from bleeping around cos if she does, it is a matter of time you guys will move on.

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Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by fm7070: 4:04pm On Dec 28, 2012
bros12345: my wife will not cheat on herself neither will i destroy myself with another woman. so dont belong here

who told you that? maybe you're saying this cos you don't know what you don't know.
'overtrust' dey worry you.
Even Pastors and their wives are not left out in this.
It takes determination, contentment and the grace of God.
Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by Iaz93: 4:11pm On Dec 28, 2012
wazlee: 4give & [/b]4get simple[b]
TAAAAHHH!!!
Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by vanstanzy(m): 4:14pm On Dec 28, 2012
Broken and betrayed!!!
Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by Iaz93: 4:18pm On Dec 28, 2012
Ironi: Have you ever thought of the numerous boyfriends who fcked your wife before you?

I guess you would say you had not been married then so it doesn't matter, but think about it, a fck today is not any different from a fck yesterday.

That is why the bible reaches against fornication.

If you are not a virgin before marriage, then you all have been fcking somebody and have been cheating even before marriage.

To me if you are able to forgive a fck which was done yesterday then you should be able to forgive a fck which was done today.

A fck is a fck, regardless.
LAWD!!!
Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by Iaz93: 4:21pm On Dec 28, 2012
boban 007: its d worst thing to ever happen to anybody.my girlfriend dat i loved so much bought her a car,took her abroad cheated on me multiple times just when we were abt to get married.my life was not the same for 2yrs.i could not date any other babe&was so confused.she begged for two years & i took her back but realised i dnt luv her like before.i was very strict &hard on her.one day she came & moved her things that we should ve a break.i asked if she was seeing someone else she said NO.she swore with the holy bible,i almost believed her but cos of her past,i did a private investigation&discovered a guy in the uk had agreed to marry her.i was shocked the second time.when she knew i discovered,she ran back & said she doesnt luv the guy dat she was confused. i said ok, took her back & frustrated her life.never liked her again 4 life .she took me 4 a fool.i just can tell all the details.now im the biggest player in town.dont care if u hate me.there is no such word as love.trust me.
CHAI! MUGU!!!
Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by vanstanzy(m): 4:33pm On Dec 28, 2012
SAFO: What would be your reaction?

Would you immediately seek a divorce?

I don't claim to be a perfect man, far from it anyway and yet I've never cheated on my wife since we got married. I did mess around a bit while we were dating but there really wasn't a commitment in place so I don't feel as if I've acted unfairly.

Honestly, if my wife cheated I don't know if I would get a divorce (probably for the sake of the kids) but I would definitely stop loving her. I'm my eyes she wouldn't be the same person anymore. My wife is supposed to belong to me and the thought of her with some other guy would severely taint my perception of her. I wouldn't be able to look her in the face and not feel disgusted. I wouldn't want to touch her or comfort her anymore. In short I would despise her.

The mere thought repulses me and now that I think of it, it would probably do more harm than good to stay together. People always claim that you can forgive and forget but to what extent can one maintain this belief? Isn't marriage supposed to be a sanctified bond that can not be undone by anyone but God?

Do others share this belief or is this too extreme on one end of the spectrum?

I share ur views 100%. To be married (even with kids) and not cheat on ur wife is a very great achievement and i'll advice u to stay that way. Respect ur matrimonial bed at all times. U carry ur matrimonial bed wherever u go, ur body belongs to her alone and its the matrimonial bed i speak of.
There is bound to be very stiff temptations coming ur way for u to cheat. Just stay away from too much alcohol, inviting another lady over to ur house when u re alone, amongst many other things.
THUMBS UP GUY! wink wink wink

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Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by gwas(m): 4:36pm On Dec 28, 2012
That is the only offence i can never forgive my wife, for a woman that cheats on his husband is capable of doing anything. And when i say anything i mean "ANYTHING".
Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by vanstanzy(m): 4:36pm On Dec 28, 2012
ferdimako:

but wait oh..how pesin wey one dick or hole no dey do, go come dey manage one now because of marriage? dis cheating shld be renamed and accepted as part of us.

Huh!!! shocked shocked shocked shocked shocked
Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by stachys: 4:39pm On Dec 28, 2012
in d good old Biblical day d Bible commanded any women dat cheats 2 b stoned 2 death. men were permited 2 marry as many wife as their hearts desire [b][/b]. King Solomon in d Bible was even d wisest man dat ever lived cos he had 250 wives... so u c MEN DON CHEAT. THEY SIMPLY FOLLOW THEIR HEARTS grin grin grin
Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by Koolking(m): 4:41pm On Dec 28, 2012
jaymichael: chei, that one hard small o to answer, if we want to be truthful to ourselves. except na person wey you don want pursue since na simple straight forward red card. but if na your "ADA OWERRI" and her record dey good in your books, na CONFUSION get you.

Why would "Ada Owerri" (What does it even mean?) do something so debasing and brought avoidable shame to her family? It therefore means "Ada Owerri" has been an impostor all the while.

Please don't try to rebrand adultery/cheat, because no word justifies adultery

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Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by missmaybelline: 4:47pm On Dec 28, 2012
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blessed4ever: You must forgive your spouse, and pray for the salvation of his or her soul. Divorce is not permitted by God, and never an option.

U r kidding me, right?
Dis must be a joke
Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by gwas(m): 4:47pm On Dec 28, 2012
WhyAWhy:

This is the same reason why it's hard for me to marry a non-virgin. I haven't "fcked" any till now and don't intend to

Someone I will call my "Mrs." should not fck anyone before and after me! I make that crystal clear to ladies that I meet. If my spouse happens to cheat eventually, I will forgive and FORGET completely about her. FORGETTING might mean granting her an exit passage from this world! angry
Bro, you go reach Galilli O.
Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by ghettodreamz(m): 4:48pm On Dec 28, 2012
Singing......I'm Walking Away ..... by Craig David grin grin grin grin


Seriously, GOD forbid bad thing.
Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by Billyonaire: 4:54pm On Dec 28, 2012
If my spouse cheats, I reward her with a brand new house. I have already had that in mind. New House and some millions to live good and away from me. So i can enjoy myself and once in a while come and tab away match. Truth is, marriage is overated. I dont think I can risk my kids future of togetherness cos a woman cheated. I will keep her for the sake of my kids but she will be just another woman.
Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by J12(m): 4:57pm On Dec 28, 2012
huni_naija: You're now changing your tune when a woman cheats, if its a man now he'll be claiming he's got the magic candle stick... undecided

Anyways for me sha it depends on who, with, WHAT, where and how he cheated on me before i can then make a decision...

But i would feel like iv been taken for granted and that, i am of no worth to him anymore, that i should have listened to my papa's advice to stay away from men at all costs lool... grin

Can you give a scenario for a better explaination? ? ? undecided
Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by J12(m): 5:01pm On Dec 28, 2012
boban 007: its d worst thing to ever happen to anybody.my girlfriend dat i loved so much bought her a car,took her abroad cheated on me multiple times just when we were abt to get married.my life was not the same for 2yrs.i could not date any other babe&was so confused.she begged for two years & i took her back but realised i dnt luv her like before.i was very strict &hard on her.one day she came & moved her things that we should ve a break.i asked if she was seeing someone else she said NO.she swore with the holy bible,i almost believed her but cos of her past,i did a private investigation&discovered a guy in the uk had agreed to marry her.i was shocked the second time.when she knew i discovered,she ran back & said she doesnt luv the guy dat she was confused.i said ok, took her back & frustrated her life.never liked her again 4 life.she took me 4 a fool.i just can tell all the details.now im the biggest player in town.dont care if u hate me.there is no such word as love.trust me.

You bought a car for your girlfriend, sponsored her foreign trips et al and you never cheated on her? I don't believe you
Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by mercylicious: 5:38pm On Dec 28, 2012
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Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by mercylicious: 5:39pm On Dec 28, 2012
If u divorce her, what is d probability dt d next woman u'll marry will nt do same?
My advise- if she is truly repentant, forgive her for d sake of ur kids. Bt if she is not, it is better safe than sorry. Stay away from her cos d next thing is to poison or kill u so dt she can be free to flex.
Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by aribolseg(m): 5:54pm On Dec 28, 2012
Personally I don't pray 4 such, cos its like a scar dat can't be erased buh I can forgive ,forget and still LIVE wit her.

I tink we've giving dis SEX of a ting too much emphasis dis days. Sex isn't as sacred as it used to be. In dis present generation, hardly do we guard our chaste b4 marriage.

Tell me how its easy for a lady whose ex gives her earth shaking heavenly feeling, later got married to anoda guy whose sex life is incomparable. And u want her to be in silence for d rest of her life. Though its possible buh isn't easy. sex is an emotional tin and it takes a special grace to erase such Old feelings especially if ur spouse doesn't give u better or sometin close to wat ur EX does.

See nobody holy pass. I've had some sex life in d past and I pray not to meet some of my ex ever again. Even after getting married, I doubt I can resist dem just by mere thoughts.

In summary When ppl cheat attimes its nt that dey really wanted to buh dey can't help it. Satisfy ur spouse to d fullest, don't form holy, I tink if it requirees u to be on alomo or viagra, or canine style, pls DO.
Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by Nobody: 6:25pm On Dec 28, 2012
Sit and know from her why she'd love to cheat on me -- Lets say if at all am being Upright cool
Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by Cutejay(f): 6:38pm On Dec 28, 2012
As the saying goes "what u don't know wouldnt kill you" i just hope and pray my husband doesnt cheat on me. After my experience with my ex i made up my mind never to go through a guys phone again,and for the past 1yr and 4months i av kept to that and still keeping to it even my husbands phone when i get married i doubt if i would go through it. U can do ur thing but don't let me find out else' i reserve my comment!
Re: If Your Spouse Cheated, How Would You Feel? by Aggrippa(m): 6:50pm On Dec 28, 2012
byvan: Adultery is unforgiveable to me.The purpose of the union has been defeated when a spouse shares his or herself with a woman or man of the street.I personally believe that no good can come from an adulterous marriage,calling it quits might be the only viable option.

its your duty to demand an explanation for thier cheating from Barrack Obama of the white house, this OP post is obviously more than police question

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