My people, please help me 'cos am beginning to get confuse about this thing. Everybody is just disturbing me to get married especially colleagues in my place of work when am using our kitchen there. And at times I just get embarrassed. I was thinking there is still much I need to know or study about women especially because of their treacherous nature. I don't want a woman that would come and destroyed all that I've built for long or giving me some God forsaken children that I'll reject for her. Married men, please what are your daily experiences and challenges? Advice me please. It's a whole different ball game when it comes to marriage/settling with somebody you know merely for some months or a year.

How old are you?


And marriage has to do with maturity and ur self being not when other ppl think that u r ready.

There is no sure bet in marriage. You have to trust and belive, put in your best and expec that in return. But there is no assurance that you will get that in return bro.

Life is flawed

Bro, I think it better you stay single. You'll end up compounding your problems.

OP,i don't really get ur point...is it that you're be pressured to get married? Or you have not found the right one? Or you've found her but u've not courted for long??

So they are advising you to get married because you cook for yourself and that shouldn't be the norm?

My dear, try and have an open mind with ladies, talk to them, gist with them with no strings attached. Help if you are in position to without trying to get anything in return.

Be open to love...the problem might be that you are too safety conscious and at that suspect every girl that come s around you! Give love to the the society yua are in and I bet you, before 4 months you will find your angel!

Am talking from experience here...there is no rush.

Your angel might even be in that orphanage home with the kids helping out, she can be anywhere...just have and open mind and give love!

eyenCalabar: My people, please help me 'cos am beginning to get confuse about this thing. Everybody is just disturbing me to get married especially colleagues in my place of work when am using our kitchen there. And at times I just get embarrassed. I was thinking there is still much I need to know or study about women especially because of their treacherous nature. I don't want a woman that would come and destroyed all that I've built for long or giving me some God forsaken children that I'll reject for her. Married men, please what are your daily experiences and challenges? Advice me please. It's a whole different ball game when it comes to marriage/settling with somebody you know merely for some months or a year.

First work on yourself. You sound too arrogant,selfish and immature.

Vikin: So they are advising you to get married because you cook for yourself and that shouldn't be the norm?

My dear, try and have an open mind with ladies, talk to them, gist with them with no strings attached. Help if you are in position to without trying to get anything in return.

Be open to love...the problem might be that you are too safety conscious and at that suspect every girl that come s around you! Give love to the the society yua are in and I bet you, before 4 months you will find your angel!

Am talking from experience here...there is no rush.

Your angel might even be in that orphanage home with the kids helping out, she can be anywhere...just have and open mind and give love!

You are hitting it. Thanks.

Odunnu:
First work on yourself. You sound too arrogant,selfish and immature.

You are just saying that because you are a woman. Do you know what men passes through in the hands of women? C'mon, one needs to be bold about you guys else the person is doomed.

eyenCalabar:
I don't want a woman that would come and destroyed all that I've built for long or giving me some God forsaken children that I'll reject for her.

Smh!

Even if other married men share their experiences and daily challenges with you, if you are not ready to settle down, you are not ready!
You have to know that marriage is not a bed of roses it requires lot of hard work and commitments to make it work.

Odunnu:
First work on yourself. You sound too arrogant,selfish and immature.

And this I agree with.

binger: OP,i don't really get ur point...is it that you're be pressured to get married? Or you have not found the right one? Or you've found her but u've not courted for long??

Anyway, I have not found the right one but I've been involved in a relationship before and it wasn't too good so I worked out. Apart from some bits of pressure, I know am suppose to. But these people are just creating terrible stories everyday and at times, I feel going solo.

Odunnu:
First work on yourself. You sound too arrogant,selfish and immature.

@bolded,that's the most apt description.

cindyrella:

Smh!

Even if other married men share their experiences and daily challenges with you, if you are not ready to settle down, you are not ready!
You have to know that marriage is not a bed of roses it requires lot of hard work and commitments to make it work.

Hard work? I spent most of my day in the office and a woman doesn't expect me to do much of hard work. Am actually looking for/praying for one that would be able to anchor well for me when am away but...

binger: @bolded,that's the most apt description.

Immature? How pls? Maybe I've been using the wrong approach and this is why am here. Help pls. Throw more light.

eyenCalabar:

Hard work? I spent most of my day in the office and a woman doesn't expect me to do much of hard work. Am actually looking for/praying for one that would be able to anchor well for me when am away but...

Just focus on giving love, i hope you find a good woman that will always appreciate it and pay back with good.

Wish you the best!

Mynd_44: There is no sure bet in marriage. You have to trust and belive, put in your best and expec that in return. But there is no assurance that you will get that in return bro.

Life is flawed

So, what's the way forward?

eyenCalabar:

Anyway, I have not found the right one but I've been involved in a relationship before and it wasn't too good so I worked out. Apart from some bits of pressure, I know am suppose to. But these people are just creating terrible stories everyday and at times, I feel going solo.

Kai! Bro,u need to free your mind from these hearsays. Avoid prejudice and do not be biased when entering your next r/ship. Women are beautiful creatures,there is nothing to be scared of. All you have to do is tame them.How? By taming yourself.in doing so,you will attract the right kind of girls and u'll be left to choose your perfect match. As for marriage,what u put into it is what it gives u.#'GIGO'

eyenCalabar:

Immature? How pls? Maybe I've been using the wrong approach and this is why am here. Help pls. Throw more light.

My point is demystified in the post above^^

binger: My point is demystified in the post above^^

I got you now though I have my personal challenge with them.

eyenCalabar:

You are just saying that because you are a woman. Do you know what men passes through in the hands of women? C'mon, one needs to be bold about you guys else the person is doomed.

Bros, the appropriate clause is: men pass through...
Men=plural noun
Passes=singular verb

Subject-Verb Agreement: Plural noun should go with plural verb and vice versa for singular noun and verb.

How do you identify singular verb? Once you add "s" or "es" to the verb, it becomes singular otherwise, it's plural eg sings, reads, writes, watches, passes, chases etc.

eyenCalabar: But these people are just creating terrible stories everyday and at times, I feel going solo.

Terrible stories? Do you care to share if you don't mind?

Whenever they start with the marriage pressure, just keep silent. If possible, take your leave. The more you talk, the more they intensify their pressure.

It's your life, so take your life.

ferhyntorlah:

Bros, the appropriate clause is: men pass through...
Men=plural noun
Passes=singular verb

Subject-Verb Agreement: Plural noun should go with plural verb and vice versa for singular noun and verb.

How do you identify singular verb? Once you add "s" or "es" to the verb, it becomes singular otherwise, it's plural eg sings, reads, writes, watches, passes, chases etc.

Chai! Teaching must be your hobby

ferhyntorlah:

Bros, the appropriate clause is: men pass through...
Men=plural noun
Passes=singular verb

Subject-Verb Agreement: Plural noun should go with plural verb and vice versa for singular noun and verb.

How do you identify singular verb? Once you add "s" or "es" to the verb, it becomes singular otherwise, it's plural eg sings, reads, writes, watches, passes, chases etc.

You're supposed to be made a MOD,so u can teach people the use of English

binger: Kai! Bro,u need to free your mind from these hearsays. Avoid prejudice and do not be biased when entering your next r/ship. Women are beautiful creatures,there is nothing to be scared of. All you have to do is tame them.How? By taming yourself.in doing so,you will attract the right kind of girls and u'll be left to choose your perfect match. As for marriage,what u put into it is what it gives u.#'GIGO'

I love you!

eyenCalabar:

You are just saying that because you are a woman. Do you know what men passes through in the hands of women? C'mon, one needs to be bold about you guys else the person is doomed.

And vice versa. A woman is in hot soup the day she marries wrongly.

ferhyntorlah:

Bros, the appropriate clause is: men pass through...
Men=plural noun
Passes=singular verb

Subject-Verb Agreement: Plural noun should go with plural verb and vice versa for singular noun and verb.

How do you identify singular verb? Once you add "s" or "es" to the verb, it becomes singular otherwise, it's plural eg sings, reads, writes, watches, passes, chases etc.

Thank you ferhyntorlah but you've not contributed to the main subject under discussion here. What's your view for me?

OP by posting this you are not man enough to get married. If you are, you would have taken it personal upon a graet reflections of what you really want.

binger: Chai! Teaching must be your hobby

Quite the opposite; I don't have a flair for teaching. I just correct wrongs when I see such.

geezyk: You're supposed to be made a MOD,so u can teach people the use of English

Hello geezyk, hehehehehehe.
GNS 101: Use of English lmao! MOD ke? Mbanu!

eyenCalabar:

Thank you ferhyntorlah but you've not contributed to the main subject under discussion here. What's your view for me?

Please scroll up, you'll see my 2cent after the lecture post.