"Sweedy, sorry i av not called you back, my boss has been on my case since morning. i ll call you once i close from work, luv u."

Thats the text my girlfriend saw on my phone this evening. And since then she has gone mute. Before friday evening, we had not seen each other for about 3months now, she is running her Msc in UI and just squeezed out some time to come see me.
Just last night, we had a talk where she questioned my fidelity and i boldy assured her there was no "substitute" despite how our long distance relationship keeps us apart for up to 4mths at a time.
I came back from work, dropped my phone carelesslly and went for a shower, but when i came out, the smilling "welcome back sweedy, how was your day" face had turnd to a Cruella Deville look alike with my phone in her hand.
Now WTF do i do? After my speech last night, how do i convince her am not cheating on her I met this oda girl in question about 3wks back,we chat,had lunch like twice but thats it. am just drawn to her cos of the open affection she expresses towards me but i have no intention of taking it futher than friendship. I luv my girl and in the 2yrs we have been together i have neva cheated on her or given her any hint that i might be.
How do i go about this, i need ur comments please.

Check urself man, frm ur narration l am nt convinced that u ve d serenity nt to fall 4 d nw lady. U went out wit someone twice n ur mind is amorously lurking 4 her, l doubt u can resist her if u were to be tempted. You deserve whatsoever u gt frm ur two yrs old relationship. Positive or otherwise, d choice is urs.

You have to make her believe you, that you dont have anything with the said girl in the picture. This is a one-on-one conversation btw you too, look into her eyes, tell her you love and cherish her. Since you don't have anything to hide thats why you kept your phone open without keypadlock.

Well, the text sounds somehow na. Okay flip the situation, if you found a text like that on her phone, what would you think?

Writing to another woman sweedy, I love you, etc, than your own girl..? To me, that is cheating. Not physical, but still. Anything you can not do in front of your spouses eyes; DON`T DO IT!
How would you feel if it was the other way around?

Damn, I would probably leave the house the same night if I was her. You got much work to do. And you should continue your contact with this girl..save your energy for your girlfriend, dude.

guys wud always b guys u kind of people are d 1ce spolin d nem of faitful guys lik me..

It was the gurl that sent me the text, and thats the first time she said "i luv you. We work in the same building and eat the same place across the street. i seriously have no intention of dating her.

Tried talking to my girl last nite, zero response, at least i got a "bye" this mornin when i left for work. She leaves 2moro

I gues nofin is certain yet..besides,she may as wel b cheatin on u(u neva can tel)..beta stil,dont b too emotional on issues lyk dis..talk to her lyk a man n dont try 2hard to convince ha..gudluck

Mynd_44: Well, the text sounds somehow na. Okay flip the situation, if you found a text like that on her phone, what would you think?

op pls answer d above question

smsgold:
op pls answer d above question

He would rather ignore it

She has every right to suspect u. Those keywords 'sweety' and 'luv u',are just way overboard.You might nt have feelings for the other lady,buh she does for u.So,convince your woman u aint cheating by letting her hear your conversation with miss. 'sweety' anytime u talk on phone.You could also quit getting too close to miss. sweety.

smsgold:
op pls answer d above question

i would ask her to explain, and if am satisfied i would let the matter die. She is a pretty lady and gets a lot of such text messages from guys. used to give me high bood pressure but am over it now.

knockturnal:

i would ask her to explain, and if am satisfied i would let the matter die. She is a pretty lady and gets a lot of such text messages from guys. used to give me high bood pressure but am over it now.

So what makes you think she does not have to right to be angry? You have just said it used to bother you too na.

are u not tired of this nigerian men/nigerian girls bs. *Yawns*

190-the-clown:
U should be happy

Aren't you a Nigerian Man

Have u forgotten we all are entitled to- 4wives

Mynd_44:
He would rather ignore it

Am shattered, that you have such a low opinion about me.

totalbaby: are u not tired of this nigerian men/nigerian girls bs. *Yawns*

Do I know you from sarah

Mynd_44:

So what makes you think she does not have to right to be angry? You have just said it used to bother you too na.

Yeah, it used to. But not anymore, at this stage in our relationship, i dont think any sensible lady would put it on the line just for a sleazy fling. Thats why i trust her not to f.up. I expect same level of trust from her.

knockturnal:

Yeah, it used to. But not anymore, at this stage in our relationship, i dont think any sensible lady would put it on the line just for a sleazy fling. Thats why i trust her not to f.up. I expect same level of trust from her.

But it does not mean she can't be jealous. She will get over it dude. Don't worry

Ok to be on "the same level of trust". Just tell her to give her number out to another guy and she can go on lunch dates and receive calls and love messages from him.

knockturnal:

Yeah, it used to. But not anymore, at this stage in our relationship, i dont think any sensible lady would put it on the line just for a sleazy fling. Thats why i trust her not to f.up. I expect same level of trust from her.

totalbaby: Ok to be on "the same level of trust". Just tell her to give her number out to another guy and she can go on lunch dates and receive calls and love messages from him.

I presently give her the priviledge to mix up with other guys and i dont monitor her calls(she received a call from a male friend, laughing and gisting for over 20mins last nite,tho she wasnt talkin to me.). If you are a pretty lady, am sure you get unsolicited love SMSs from guys. Sweety or Sweetheart is now a generic term not necessarily associated with lovers

Mynd_44:
But it does not mean she can't be jealous. She will get over it dude. Don't worry

She just left my place without telling me, now am in deep doodoo!

knockturnal:
She just left my place without telling me, now am in deep doodoo!

Lol

Well I dnt give my no out to any and every guy and in a relationship why do I need all the attention from those silly men when I have a man at home. I have a feeling she does those stuff to get back at you for your womanising ways. Anyways I don"t know what kinda relationship u are in or are u in an open relationship?

knockturnal:
I presently give her the priviledge to mix up with other guys and i dont monitor her calls(she received a call from a male friend, laughing and gisting for over 20mins last nite,tho she wasnt talkin to me.). If you are a pretty lady, am sure you get unsolicited love SMSs from guys. Sweety or Sweetheart is now a generic term not necessarily associated with lovers

totalbaby: I have a feeling she does those stuff to get back at you for your womanising ways. Anyways I don"t know what kinda relationship u are in or are u in an open relationship?

U seem to have your mind made up about me, am no womanizer. i take my present relationship very seriously. We have plans to tie the knot by october this year so no, its not an open relationship.
Also i dont think just because you have a man at home, u should dismember yourself from society.

Off course not. That's not what am saying. Am saying it"s not that appropriate for a man to be indulging with gals who say I luv u and the women too. Am sowi ok I guess different strokes for different folks. As long as you are happy. Good luck with the wedding hope everything works out for u. :-)

knockturnal:
U seem to have your mind made up about me, am no womanizer. i take my present relationship very seriously. We have plans to tie the knot by october this year so no, its not an open relationship.
Also i dont think just because you have a man at home, u should dismember yourself from society.

Mynd_44: Well, the text sounds somehow na. Okay flip the situation, if you found a text like that on her phone, what would you think?

my thoughts too...

my boyfriend did the same, chatting with chics on BB and talking all sorts with them ("I miss you" "can't wait to have you in my arms" bla bla bla). When I confronted him, he came up with the same bloody excuse abt not being intimate with them.... Like if it were you, how would you feel seriously??

You really need to convince her, if not you'll never be able to earn her trust again. So, i suggest u introduce her to the other lady before she leaves for IB.

nwachineke00:

my thoughts too...

my boyfriend did the same, chatting with chics on BB and talking all sorts with them ("I miss you" "can't wait to have you in my arms" bla bla bla). When I confronted him, he came up with the same bloody excuse abt not being intimate with them.... Like if it were you, how would you feel seriously??

That guy needs to be slapped. Seriously.

And you took that from him? Thank God I am not a woman ooo

Becacia_Barbie: You really need to convince her, if not you'll never be able to earn her trust again. So, i suggest u introduce her to the other lady before she leaves for IB.

Thanks B.Barbie,but she already left without telling, this ll make things that much harder. think i ll give her sometime to calm down 1st

pls, how did you and boyfriend deal with that issue?? In my case, i did not have any text of that sort on my phone. This other girl is just easy on the endearments, she has a sweet name for nearly every person she knows

nwachineke00:

my thoughts too...

my boyfriend did the same, chatting with chics on BB and talking all sorts with them ("I miss you" "can't wait to have you in my arms" bla bla bla). When I confronted him, he came up with the same bloody excuse abt not being intimate with them.... Like if it were you, how would you feel seriously??

@totalbaby Thanks, i guess i have learnt my lesson.