Bolushalom: Sorry, no offence, i think HE should break up with u.

Mindependent: Jealous Bitches!!!

Mindependent: Was that supposed to be a reply that helps me?!?! And I can never fall into the old age/desperation category I have guys at my beck n call

Mindependent: So I think my serious relationship with my boyfriend is going down the drain and I don't know what to do.

He recently asked me to stop all contact with all my male friends which I did unwillingly

I love him very much but he is very insecure ,although I cheated on him in the past he should have moved on and trust me but he is still insecure

I now realise breaking contact with my male friends was stupid and I miss one of them in particular (I hope I'm not in love with him) lol

Where you guys come in , what is your opinion, should I break up with him or what? Please I need your help its a big dilemma for me + sorry for the essay

Mindependent: Wetin be dat? Abeg o I just wanted someone to help with my problem

Mindependent: Then you really don't know me cos if you did I bet you'd be one of the guys at my beck n call,I guess it won't hurt to be single for once but then again vals day approaches and well he is well to do so thanks for your help or lack of guys.i think I've made my decision

Mindependent: Oh wow now that's just plain rude, f.uck you !

Mindependent: Oh wow now that's just plain rude, f.uck you !

Mindependent: Jealous Bitches!!!

honeric01:

You obviously do not have any problem, rather you're the problem yourself.

Mindependent: Then you really don't know me cos if you did I bet you'd be one of the guys at my beck n call,I guess it won't hurt to be single for once but then again vals day approaches and well he is well to do so thanks for your help or lack of guys.i think I've made my decision

honeric01:

Yes, you've been screwing everyone, that's why you're becoming a problem to anyone who decides to "treat" you better. you see why the dude's running away from you? maybe because you're a problem he thinks would be too big for him in the future?

dmcdad:

You call them jealous bitches? I don't think you are ready for the aftermath of opening a thread like this. You had better shove your a$$ well and keep an open mind if you are to thrive in a virtual world such as this. Besides, there ain't nothing jealous about their responses, you are just too short-sighted to think out of the box.

Anywayz, I don't think you are anyway in-between shylla and carybdis. Where you are now is where you craved to be, and I doubt you'd put yourself in this if the situations are unpleasant...

When I was reading your post, I was ruminating what kinda guy you have as your boyfriend, but at the latter part of your post I discovered it's not about the guy you are dating, but about you. I discovered why he told you to halt further communications with all male friends. You are just the cause of your problems.

Firstly, you have cheated on him before.
Secondly, you have a crush on one of your male friends he asked you to halt communication with.

Now tell us, what is the dilemma about? I think unfaithfulness is turning out to be your other name, and you are failing to realize it now that it can be averted once and for all. I pity your boy friend because he will never know security in this relationship of yours but would always be filled with insecurities. And how do you expect him to be secured when you cheated on him before now, and as if that was not enough, you still have crush on one of your male friends. What do you think? That he doesn't have a clue of the aces you might be having up your sleeve? And who knows, you might also be playing your cards close to your chest to see how you can cover all tracks that might lead to traces and all that.

The thing with you is, you are a confused girl who doesn't know what she really wants. I guess your guy is the faithful type that doesn't give-in to games and all that crap. What is wrong with you that you are going haywire? Do you think a good guy is easy to come by these days? The way I see it, you are only looking for what will give you heartbreak. Because, you don't know the plans of the guy you are crushing (the devil you know is way better than the angel yet unknown). If eventually you end up with that other guy you are crushing and he dumps you as most men would, then all men becomes the same (as most girls would say today).

Well, you have your life to live, but if you must thrive as a lady who is focused and have a great future ahead of her, then I think you should just stick to your present guy and look forward to making things work out hook, line and sinker while you pursue your future...