I think the divorce settlement law should be introduced in Nigeria to protect women as well as the child support law to protect children. Any civilized society ought to have such laws in place to protect women and children.

So many men insist on their wives being full housewives; so many men dont allow their wives to study further after marriage; women are forced to put their careers and studies on hold due to pregnancy or marriage; so many women help their husbands achieve emotional stability which helps the men perform well in the office, but when they separate/divorce the guy keeps everything while the woman leaves with nothing plus the responsibility of taking care of the kids. Now ask yourselves, is that fair?

What is your take on this?

sure it should be so, considering the type of nation we are in, i think such laws sgould be in place.

clockwise: sure it should be so, considering the type of nation we are in, i think such laws sgould be in place.

Women are constantly abused and children neglected by some useless men, something must be done about this. I'm thinking of lobbying for this in the house of assembly.

Why can a man marry many women but a woman cannot? Is there a law against women keeping more than one husband at a time in Nigeria? Polyandry is allowed in India; its advantage is that it makes men to sit up to their responsiblities in order not to be replaced.

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Women are constantly abused and children neglected by some useless men, something must be done about dis. I'm thinking of lobbying for dis in the house of assembly.

dose vagabonds in d house of asembly are too selfish

It's a welcome idea.
For my area, there are lots of single married women with 5, 6 or even more children. Their husband have divorced/abandoned them & are not taking care of the children. If this law exist, it can help them.
But some chop-ur-money ladies ll take that up as a biz. Marry a richman & divorce after some months. Nija own go come worse pass anywhere in the world.

Okiki_Oluwa: But some chop-ur-money ladies ll take that up as a biz. Marry a richman & divorce after some months. Nija own go come worse pass anywhere in the world.

There will also be prenuptial agreement to protect the rich from greedy ladies who are simply out to marry for the money.
In all, the advantages of such laws far superceeds the disadvantages.

It's a prenuptial agreement which can be regarded as a contract. The legislators need not legislate on it. If both parties can agree on writing a prenup in Nigeria then it ipso facto becomes a contract and the court will enforce it for the woman in case of divorce. The rate of divorce in Nigeria is very minimal unlike the US so Nigerian women do not actually think of prenup.

chaircover:

The men too will wise up and only marry women of equal or almost equal financial clout or refuse to get married at all.

lol

Please Nigeria has very effective divorce settlememt and child support laws. people seldom use it.

Nigerians are smarter when it comes to raising families. We don't see courts as best places to decide the future of our children. A couple usually stay together for the sake of their kids even when the marriage is not working. You may see a milder form of separation where the husband lives and works at Abuja, and his wife and kids reside at say Enugu. The kids can visit their dad during holidays, and the man can visit his family at Enugu, he continues to pay the rents and provide food and clothing until the kids become adults. That's a better way to than involving lawyers. If you don't want to stay married, that's a personal decision. Why destroy lives bc of that as people do in US in the name of Divorce. some Ignorant Africans simply abuse and misuse the divorce process in US thereby hurting their kids.

If you don't wanna stay married

1. Start a discussion with your husband, get a house and plan to move out and tell him the date.
2. Agree on what you will take from the house (car, property, kids' favorite toys, etc)
3. Have a discussion about custody/visitation that's best for your kids interest. most men will let the woman keep the kids as long as they can visit the kids. 4. Once you have agreement have a lawyer draw a consent agreement, which both of you will sign and file in court.
The separation, custody and child support becomes official.

You don't need court cases that wastes money on legal fees. Smart people don't.

Do people just post without asking some basic questions?
1. The law for Divorce Settlement and child support in Nigeria is well provided for in the Matrimonial Causes Act sections 71 to 73. Covers ancilliary releifs in a divorce petition.
Furthermore there is the Child Rights Act that provides for Children Born outside a marriage done Under the Marriage act(customary marriages and children born out of wedlock).
If people are not aware of the Laws doesn't mean they do not exist!
Pre-nuptial agreements are illegal in nigeria becuase Parties cannot use agreements to oust or fetter the jurisdiction and discretion of the judge.

i.:
Do people just post without asking some basic questions?
1. The law for Divorce Settlement and child support in Nigeria is well provided for in the Matrimonial Causes Act sections 71 to 73. Covers ancilliary releifs in a divorce petition.
Furthermore there is the Child Rights Act that provides for Children Born outside a marriage done Under the Marriage act(customary marriages and children born out of wedlock).
If people are not aware of the Laws doesn't mean they do not exist!
Pre-nuptial agreements are illegal in nigeria becuase Parties cannot use agreements to oust or fetter the jurisdiction and discretion of the judge.

Maybe like every other thing, Nigerian's like to leave the erring party to God and suffer in silence. But when they see their mates doing same abroad they start looking for the law. But there are no structures in place to catch a disappearing ex, and anyone can just disappear into thin air in Nigeria. Hardly any citizen records are kept to keep people in compliance. To make these laws work, so much needs to be done.

baby_123:

Maybe like every other thing, Nigerian's like to leave the erring party to God and suffer in silence. But when they see their mates doing same abroad they start looking for the law. But there are no structures in place to catch a disappearing ex, and anyone can just disappear into thin air in Nigeria. Hardly any citizen records are kept to keep people in compliance. To make these laws work, so much needs to be done.

GBAM!

Madam baby! The question asked by the op was if the laws where there, yes the laws are there but the issue of enforcement of the said laws na another matter! When the politicians continue to steal money meant for proper Data management of Nigerians how can the Law be enforced? However it should be noted that in the african Society(ps before western influence) one doesn't marry an individual but his/her family! If you want child support a wife should pressurize her in-laws(ex). That is where society will aid in the enforcement of the Law!

Not only should it be inplaced but women should also receive a settlement when they divorce the husband like most civilized countries where the assests are divided up 50/50.

agiboma: Not only should it be inplaced but women should also receive a settlement when they divorce the husband like most civilized countries where the assests are divided up 50/50.

Erm not necessarily.It actually depends on who is richer.Maddona paid out to Guy Ritchie.If i was very wealthy before i met my wife/hubby i dont think its fair for assets to be split 50/50.Kids (if any)must be the priority in all this my opinion though.

Madam Aigboma! The wives get as much as 50 even 60% or as low as nothing in Nigeria! It depends on the circumtances of the case as well as the Judges discretion. I can say awards I have seen in court that make no sense.

i.:
Madam baby! The question asked by the op was if the laws where there, yes the laws are there but the issue of enforcement of the said laws na another matter! When the politicians continue to steal money meant for proper Data management of Nigerians how can the Law be enforced? However it should be noted that in the african Society(ps before western influence) one doesn't marry an individual but his/her family! If you want child support a wife should pressurize her in-laws(ex). That is where society will aid in the enforcement of the Law!

And if the family chases the woman away? It does happen. What can she do? Confiscate their property or rob them?

Where';s David Mark?

Must we copy the west in everything?

Why cant the west eat with their bear hands?

why cant the west allow polygamy??

The Op is looking for way to be jobless like my fallow neighbor, she got 4 kids from different father, jobless and live on food stamp...

Singing Lucky Dube --------♫♫ Am going back to my root'♫ ♫, Reggae Music is all that I know'♫ ♫♫ ♫.

@OP Now am going back to the natural/ancient way of marriage, Man and Woman coming together as One to Build a happy Family.

music continues -------- ♫♫ Am going back to my root'♫ ♫, Reggae Music is all that I know'♫ ♫♫ ♫.

Yes.

It would keep a lot of fornicators and adulterers in check

FXKing2012: I think the divorce settlement law should be introduced in Nigeria to protect women as well as the child support law to protect children. Any civilized society ought to have such laws in place to protect women and children.

What is your take on this?

My take on this is that you are one of those people who want to further destroy the fabric of our society with these alien cultures. I have had many friends who came from broken homes and where the fathers continued to fund their education, upkeep, everything.

In America, men are not responsible, especially black men. They go around having children like rabbits when they can't even tie down a job. Naija guys are hardworking and are born hustlers. Go to any African country and hear what the women say about their men compared to Naija guys.

We don't need these alien laws in our society where there is still a lot of sanity. Tomorrow they will come out to say we should allow gay marriage and gay couples to adopt kids from orphanages...GOD PASS DEVIL!

I think it will be abused.

Noooooooooooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It can only work in a society that discourages Polygamy.

stagger:

My take on this is that you are one of those people who want to further destroy the fabric of our society with these alien cultures.

What fabric? You mean the fabric that allows men to have children all over the place without being able to take care of them? Or contributing one kobo to their welfare while their mothers do all sorts to raise them? In Nigeria a man can just disappear and abandon his family, and go somewhere else to raise a new one without any repercussion. If you can skin dive, you better be ready to pay till the child is settled. Nothing wrong with this at all. After all, no one pushed you or forced you. You took that decision to be an adult and have unprotected s*ex. So as an adult, do adult things and take care of your responsibility. Surely, that is not too much to ask.

the law should be implemented. the divorced woman and her children need to be protected. someone says the law has been there but ofcourse hardly implemented because the divorced woman cant go to court. there is no law that isnt been exploited by pple, so the issue of greedy people is out of the question. for every good initiave, bad pple will wanna scam off it.

baby_123:

What fabric? You mean the fabric that allows men to have children all over the place without being able to take care of them? If you can skin dive, you better be ready to pay till the child is settled. Nothing wrong with this at all. After all, no one pushed you or forced you. You took that decision to be an adult and have unprotected s*ex. So as an adult, do adult things and take care of your responsibility. Surely, that is not too much to ask.

madam, can you pls show us the statistic of men in Nigeria having children all over the place?

how many f Nigerians go for court weddding??

You hardly see a child in Nigeria without no father even thou his father his been killed by BOKO.

I have been seeing ya comments on family section.. All i can say for now is , You learn Negatively.

There is a law on that. I know cos my cousin has used it before. They delay a lot, maybe they do dt to see if d couples can reconcile. Whoever gets custody of the children gets child support of a specific amount - again, I don't know how they calculate it.

Bt please, avoid divorce except its based on faithfulness . Try and use all available means to settle ur dispute eg. parish priest, family system etc

seedord247:

madam, can you pls show us the statistic of men in Nigeria having children all over the place?

how many statistic of Nigerians go for court weddding??

You hardly see a child in Nigeria without no father even thou his father his been killed by BOKO.

I have been seeing ya comments on family section.. All i can say for now is , You learn Negatively.

I have seen many people who grew up without fathers and their MOTHER's ONLY raising them. By the way, keep following my comments while able bodied men like yourself get a job or take a break to think.

FXKing2012:

Women are constantly abused and children neglected by some useless men, something must be done about this. I'm thinking of lobbying for this in the house of assembly.

Why can a man marry many women but a woman cannot? Is there a law against women keeping more than one husband at a time in Nigeria? Polyandry is allowed in India; its advantage is that it makes men to sit up to their responsiblities in order not to be replaced.

LMAO Polyandry? Are you not going too far.
Though I support the topic Nigeria needs such laws to protect women and children, Polygamy is part of our culture such laws can be made to accommodate it.
If you say Polyandry for women or no polygamy, imagine the number of legislators who are polygamist, the your bill not see second reading

baby_123:

I have seen many people who grew up without fathers and their MOTHER's ONLY raising them. By the way, keep following my comments while able bodied men like yourself get a job or take a break to think.

I dont follow you neither do i have something to learn from a obsolete being...

Give us the links of children being neglected by their fathers....

Thats u how end up being put to shame by davidlan when u went out of point...

get your fact right before spitting your venom's out.... If you being used by Cheap road side hawkers, dont put the blame on 70 millions nigerians men.

NO to divorce settlement but
YESSSS to child-support.