tpacalipse: Are we saying eloping is not a good option if it is the only way their lives can be preserved? I still dey laugh! It is someone who has not seen wahala that calls himself a man, when the trouble comes no body will tell you b4 u become elopee. I have seen a man who was ready to kill his child because the child was about to marry frm a family he detested.

cyril83: do you believe the party planning and family disapproval are just too much pressure sometimes. One shouldn't get worried about what your family want, you have to do what you want.

sunny t:

Thats my point

jessybarbie: Reasons why Couples 'elope' may include the feeling of been completely in love and caring less about others. A relationship is about the two people involved that's why the bible said 'the man will leave his parents and be with his woman till death'

Smartie gurl: If everybody around you is against your love affair,then why insisting?

alexwrld:


Now let me pose this question to this thread: Who is getting married: You or the people around you? Why don't they win your heart by standing by your decision?
Whether you are a Muslim or a Christian..Both religions insist on your happiness. Islam and Christianity both are strictly against the idea of marrying off a girl against her wish. Then tell me who is wrong?

I have seen parents forcefully marrying her daughters to the grooms they choose....Such women will never become a loyal wife. And trust me, the people who orchestrate such marriages have never fallen in love. It is pointless to take their advice either....So keep eloping...Live for love; Live for truth

alexwrld:


Now let me pose this question to this thread: Who is getting married: You or the people around you? Why don't they win your heart by standing by your decision?
Whether you are a Muslim or a Christian..Both religions insist on your happiness. Islam and Christianity both are strictly against the idea of marrying off a girl against her wish. Then tell me who is wrong?

I have seen parents forcefully marrying her daughters to the grooms they choose....Such women will never become a loyal wife. And trust me, the people who orchestrate such marriages have never fallen in love. It is pointless to take their advice either....So keep eloping...Live for love; Live for truth

Smartie gurl: and you will live happily ever after? My gosh......to me is better you dnt elope at all, if you love the being why eloping? Manup/Womanup to posses your possession than running away. Are you gonna run 4eva? Guez no.

meamanda: Love is not meant for cowards...they just pretend to fall in love..have sex and move on...And such people shamelessly call themselves 'a practical'

Shame..Shame!!

Smartie gurl: and you will live happily ever after? My gosh......to me is better you dnt elope at all, if you love the being why eloping? Manup/Womanup to posses your possession than running away. Are you gonna run 4eva? Guez no.

eagle,eye:


Thank God some people are getting the point. Love is an action word and not a passive word. When you Love, you will fight any obstacle that tries to stand in the way of your love.
Like I said before, Eloping may not be the word. But moving out of prying eyes and people who meddle in your affairs.

It is better to Love and fail, than to never have Loved at all.

@meamanda, I concur, Love is not for cowards.

alexwrld: Very well said

I have suffered the pain and embarrassment of the events that took place after my wife and I eloped. But there was no other way.....we'd have been killed in broad day light.

sunny t:

I’ve also been wondering why people elope when everyone is against their union, but I see it as a sign of not being thoughtful and loving with the heart.( There is diff btw loving with the heart and loving with the head,) I know most young people can do it so let me explain b4 u buried me.

Most (not all) lovers who eloped had come to regret their actions, I’ve seen many like that and there is something about love, it ends in regret (not all times)

Matured people, come let’s reason together, I’m referring to people who had been in like 10 different relationships. Have you observed that when you started dating someone (like your 1st or 2nd guy/gal), the feelings was so strong at 1st but after sometime the love start dwindling away, u might have seen it over and over again. What if you eloped with the person? Where are your 1st three boy/girl friends?

For a starter, eloping wouldn’t be a surprise (e neva get experience, e no know anything), but I will be surprised if a matured person do it. Why not do everything to prove to your people that you believe this person is the best for you? Why not reason out things with them? Couldn’t they have seen what you didn’t? The madness is, when you have problem or need help, you will still come back to these same people, your parent which you disobeyed, disrespected, rejected.

doe-eyed:

Guys n Gals,
Some CRITICAL reasoning is needed here,
Not only personal preferences or allusions, which are sometimes shortsighted.
This is an educational forum not just for "laughs"


The thread read...... why do reasonable people elope

It's a question seeking reasons behind an action deemed a societal taboo carried out by people deemed "reasonable"?

Let's offer reasons n solutions not biased judgments.

Thanks.

iyabde: This is a thread that struck a chord in my heart. I feel if the couple are matured enough,then they can elope.
Personally I kind of eloped,my husband's family never liked me,for reasons beyond me,so we both looked to God and he saw our hearts.
We just went to the registry and did our thing. 3 yrs on we r still together(totalling 6 yrs together).
Of course we hv our issues ,his people still won't talk to me (sad) but hey! I hv the love of my life...we are happy and going stronger in Christ.

Aggrippa: what do you mean by "reasonable pple"?