I need ur advice,d man i love do not care abt my welfare.I av been lookin 4 job 4 a year now and he has never since then give me money.Im stayin wit my bro.even when i told him i was broke,he didnt give me money.what shd i do abt him?

will u move in wit me?
am a welfare director in my area
i know all about welfare, _{from ab initio to the break up}

If your man can't help you in times of need, DUMP HIM. enuff said.

@poster
Tell him how you feel and what you are going through.I believe that if he really loves you,he cant be that insensitive to your plight.talk it over with him and watch how he reacts to it.But I would advice that you strive to become more independent.He can't give you a job,he can only inform you of a job opening.I suggest you find your likes(job seekers) and form a network with them.by so doing ,you can land yurself a nice job and consequently depend less on him.He will also respect you the more.Cheers.

@ poster

what exactly is your welfare? you love him or his money, you said you are staying with your brother so to a reasonable extent he (brother) should take care of your necessities. am not ruling out the role of boyfriend but i guess its secondary, may be he is saving for you peoples wedding or something, i guess the problem we are experiencing in our society these days : most young girls put parental roles on the shoulders of their boyfriends and when the guy isnt meeting up its an excuse for a breakup, talk more to your brother for assistance i guess in that way you earn more respect from your boyfriend.

goodluck

i smell phoney all over this thread. pls can we move on to other life-changing issues!

madamkoko:

If your man can't help you in times of need, DUMP HIM. enough said.

This is funny coming from someone who is dating an ugly, golddigging man and cant let go.
@Poster, I understand what you mean, as much as i advocate for a woman to be independent, its alsoreassonable sometime that her man should help out. You could talk to him, tell him you need some assistanace. However, you have to be really diplomatic about it, let it not be as if you are demanding from him.
Its good to have a man or a woman who ill be there for you at your low moments.

This is funny coming from someone who is dating an ugly, golddigging man and can't let go

You don't mean it

You could talk to him, tell him you need some assistance

She has done that several times without success, that was why she is here

Find a job baby, pls try ur best. . . . i for once don't like collecting money from my man, he knows what to do. If u've bn sleeping wt this boyfriend of urs, then i must say u're loosing twice. Stop giving him sex and search for a job.

Hey pple,let us be sentimental sometimes here, its not all abt money, yeah i dont agree one should love because of money, but come on, this is a girl that has no job, why does it feel ok for d guy to collect what she can offer, (love/sex) and in return he can not assist. "IS A FRIEND IN NEED NOT A FRIEND INDEED ANYMORE"? I hate it when people sound unrealistic. If the girl has a job, no issue here, but she doesn't. i hope u all sound what you potray to be.

Aisha2 and to all of you stupid people on this site, if you have nothing to say SHUT IT,

Is anything wrong in sharing an expereince, REAL OR NOT??

Why not take that ANGER and actually FIX your goddamn country,

I'm WHITE, lived in Nigeria, love Nigerian men, and my papa mad lots of MONEY OFF you FOOLSS!!!!!

sO If you have any insults, insult your foolish politicians.

madamkoko:

Aisha2 and to all of you stupid people on this site, if you have nothing to say SHUT IT,

Is anything wrong in sharing an expereince, REAL OR NOT??

Why not take that ANGER and actually FIX your goddamn country,

I'm WHITE, lived in Nigeria, love Nigerian men, and my papa mad lots of MONEY OFF you FOOLSS!!!!!

sO If you have any insults, insult your foolish politicians.

Ole . . . u wish u were white

what are u doing on this website in the first place? seun. . . .see what u have caused, u created this webiste as a nigerian forum and now un-cultured, white wannabe and useless pple will join and start talking trash about men like ur dirty yansh!

@busta

Confirmed! Madamtoto is seriously ill and confused in the head.

madamkoko:

Aisha2 and to all of you stupid people on this site, if you have nothing to say SHUT IT,

Is anything wrong in sharing an expereince, REAL OR NOT??

Why not take that ANGER and actually FIX your goddamn country,

I'm WHITE, lived in Nigeria, love Nigerian men, and my papa mad lots of MONEY OFF you FOOLSS!!!!!
sO If you have any insults, insult your foolish politicians.

Have told you several times today that you are psychological disturb and you kept proving it to everyone.

How did you become white abeg this girl needs to be admitted into a psycho ward fast

First of all, it's very rare for a white person to call his/her father papa nor do they brag about their wealth.

This babe can lie

aisha2:

This is funny coming from someone who is dating an ugly, golddigging man and can't let go.

Lmfao girl you are mean, but abeg add p ussy eater to that list

MADNESS IS WORRYING ALL OF YOU, EEH NI ISE SHEY,

Na so u dey follow my post thru out this thing,

I'm glad that I can fascinate yáll

I'm white, lived in Nigeria for 17 yearsssss!!!!!! BELIEVE IT OR NOT.

I need your advice,d man i love do not care about my welfare.I av been lookin 4 job 4 a year now and he has never since then give me money.I'm stayin wit my bro.even when i told him i was broke,he didnt give me money.what should i do about him?

Remember he aint yo father. . . .must u foist everything on him?
If you're not cool with the way he's behaving. . . .then let go of him. . .savvy?

Note: This is just my own view, Therefore any negative comments attributed to me as a result of my comment would result to harsh rebuttal by me

I'm white, lived in Nigeria for 17 yearsssss!!!!!! BELIEVE IT OR NOT.

Congratulations homebwoi! but who the heck cares?

madamkoko:

MADNESS IS WORRYING ALL OF YOU, EEH NI ISE SHEY,

Na so u dey follow my post through out this thing,

I'm glad that I can fascinate yáll

I'm white, lived in Nigeria for 17 yearsssss!!!!!! BELIEVE IT OR NOT.

This black mamba that stays at oshodi oke. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . let's pretend you are white WTF are u looking for here, they are better forums on the internet to share your white folly.

madamkoko:

Aisha2 and to all of you stupid people on this site, if you have nothing to say SHUT IT,

You must be stupid too to be on the site of stupid people.

Girlfriend, it is not only that you love him but do u do things that make him happy? i think u need to look inward or search yourself

Bring him to the forum so that we can hear his own part of the story !

You must be stupid too to be on the site of stupid people.

^{Rolling on the floor}