Let’s say you’ve been careful about the people you date. In time, you’ll probably find yourself liking one person a lot. It looks like it’s getting serious.
If you find yourself moving in this direction, or if you are already in a serious relationship, here are other questions to think through and to talk about together:

1. Is our relationship about mutual trust? A relationship can’t survive without honesty and openness. If lies creep into the relationship, it’s time to get truthful, or call it quits.

2. Can we be ourselves when we’re together? If you have to be somebody you’re not, or if either of you feels you must put up a front, then you’re in the wrong relationship.

3. Are either of us overly possessive? Words and phrases like “smothered” and “jealous” come to mind. If one of you can’t move without the other one knowing it, then possessiveness is a big problem. If this happens, both of you need some space, and maybe you even need to back away from the relationship. These traits are red flags that your boyfriend or girlfriend may become abusive.

4. Do we regularly have good conversations? Chat room-type chatter is fine. But now and then you need to have a conversation that goes a bit deeper—that lets you know each other’s likes and dislikes, strengths and weaknesses, hopes and dreams.

5. Have we set physical limits? This question is extremely important and often difficult to answer, especially if a relationship has already become too physical. To avoid pushing the limits beyond the point of no control, you need to set agreed-upon limits early on. You also need to know why you need limits.

More questions worth asking: Do both of you understand why God wants people to save s*x for marriage? Do both of you clearly understand why s*x outside of marriage is so destructive? If you break up tomorrow, would you end the relationship with no regrets about your physical involvement? If you can’t answer yes to these questions, please talk with your youth pastor or someone else who can give you guidance in this critical area.

6. Do we have dates that include our friends? If your friends or family complain that they don’t see you anymore, your relationship has gotten way too exclusive.

7. Do we plan how we’ll spend our time together? With “nothing to do,” it’s easy to fill up your time by becoming more physically involved than you should. Do your best to begin each date knowing how you’re going to spend your time together.

8. Do we have a good understanding of what forgiveness means? People mess up. That’s just the way it is. That’s why it’s important to forgive each other. Holding grudges because you’ve been wronged kills a relationship. On the other hand, no one should say “forgive me” when they really mean “accept my faults and don’t expect me to change.” If you want to regain trust, if you want to keep the relationship healthy, then changes must be made.

The Bible calls these changes “repentance” (Acts 26:20, NIV), and it means that you will, with God’s help, stop doing the behavior that got you into trouble in the first place.

9. Can we disagree agreeably? Can you handle disagreements without screaming, sulking, or slamming phones or doors? And what about compromise? A relationship isn’t about winning, it’s about wanting what’s best for each other. If either of you must always win, you’re in a no-win relationship.

10. Do we keep God at the center? Jesus Christ needs to be the center of each of your lives and of each of your relationships. This obviously means being able to have good conversations about what God is teaching each of you. It also means that each of you is committed to personal spiritual growth. And it means having Christian friendships (apart from each other) that hold you accountable and help you live out your faith. All in all, an exciting faith adventure is key to an exciting dating relationship.
www.informationng.com/2013/02/10-questions-to-ask-yourself-before-getting-into-a-serious-relationship.html

Very nice tips.but i've not been able to answer #5...*muses*or is that i don't want to answer it?

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Most Important Question: Will there be abundant punny in this relationship?!?!

#11 hw old r u

#12; r u a virgin?

Nice one...

Nice one!

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yuzedo: Most Important Question: Will there be abundant punny in this relationship?!?!

most important answer: am i free 2 padlock ur pri.ck anytym anyday??

And what different does it make if u fail to ask yourself all the listed above?

Op #3 I don't agree with your point. Knowing where your partner is not being possessive. I had a gf and our problem was she knowing where I was and how I was doing, to me then it was being possessive. If you have nothing to hide then why hide where you are going to. I now realize if a woman knows your in and out she would be more relaxed cos in my next relationship my gf used to say I'm secretive, that I don't always want her to know my whereabouts. So in this age of messenging as my plans change and hers too, we tell each where we are, just incase something happens, you'll know where to start your search.

Lero15: #12; r u a virgin?

lolz u wan nail dem with dat questn?

Nice piece...

THE TRUTH IS BITTER, BUT I HAVE TO SAY THESE.. I HAVE OBSERVED THAT "ADMIN" HAS SUDDENLY TURN TO SEX ADVISER. ADMIN U AR NOT IN THE POSITION TO TELL US TO SAVE SEX FOR MARRIAGE WHEN HAVE YOU TURN TO IMMAN OR PASTOR ? ABEGI !!!!! ITS A FREE WORLD .

Hmmmm...

Blame GEJ for broken relationships

Men am gone be a playa for LIFE!!! Don't hate the player. . . hate tha game No time!!!

Str@ight to the point...kudos!

Nice one.will try and ask myself dis questions in my nex relationship.

Kcxee: Let’s say you’ve been careful about the people you date. In time, you’ll probably find yourself liking one person a lot. It looks like it’s getting serious.
If you find yourself moving in this direction, or if you are already in a serious relationship, here are other questions to think through and to talk about together:

1. Is our relationship about mutual trust? A relationship can’t survive without honesty and openness. If lies creep into the relationship, it’s time to get truthful, or call it quits.

2. Can we be ourselves when we’re together? If you have to be somebody you’re not, or if either of you feels you must put up a front, then you’re in the wrong relationship.

3. Are either of us overly possessive? Words and phrases like “smothered” and “jealous” come to mind. If one of you can’t move without the other one knowing it, then possessiveness is a big problem. If this happens, both of you need some space, and maybe you even need to back away from the relationship. These traits are red flags that your boyfriend or girlfriend may become abusive.

4. Do we regularly have good conversations? Chat room-type chatter is fine. But now and then you need to have a conversation that goes a bit deeper—that lets you know each other’s likes and dislikes, strengths and weaknesses, hopes and dreams.

5. Have we set physical limits? This question is extremely important and often difficult to answer, especially if a relationship has already become too physical. To avoid pushing the limits beyond the point of no control, you need to set agreed-upon limits early on. You also need to know why you need limits.

More questions worth asking: Do both of you understand why God wants people to save s*x for marriage? Do both of you clearly understand why s*x outside of marriage is so destructive? If you break up tomorrow, would you end the relationship with no regrets about your physical involvement? If you can’t answer yes to these questions, please talk with your youth pastor or someone else who can give you guidance in this critical area.

6. Do we have dates that include our friends? If your friends or family complain that they don’t see you anymore, your relationship has gotten way too exclusive.

7. Do we plan how we’ll spend our time together? With “nothing to do,” it’s easy to fill up your time by becoming more physically involved than you should. Do your best to begin each date knowing how you’re going to spend your time together.

8. Do we have a good understanding of what forgiveness means? People mess up. That’s just the way it is. That’s why it’s important to forgive each other. Holding grudges because you’ve been wronged kills a relationship. On the other hand, no one should say “forgive me” when they really mean “accept my faults and don’t expect me to change.” If you want to regain trust, if you want to keep the relationship healthy, then changes must be made.

The Bible calls these changes “repentance” (Acts 26:20, NIV), and it means that you will, with God’s help, stop doing the behavior that got you into trouble in the first place.

9. Can we disagree agreeably? Can you handle disagreements without screaming, sulking, or slamming phones or doors? And what about compromise? A relationship isn’t about winning, it’s about wanting what’s best for each other. If either of you must always win, you’re in a no-win relationship.

10. Do we keep God at the center? Jesus Christ needs to be the center of each of your lives and of each of your relationships. This obviously means being able to have good conversations about what God is teaching each of you. It also means that each of you is committed to personal spiritual growth. And it means having Christian friendships (apart from each other) that hold you accountable and help you live out your faith. All in all, an exciting faith adventure is key to an exciting dating relationship.
www.informationng.com/2013/02/10-questions-to-ask-yourself-before-getting-into-a-serious-relationship.html

11. DO U HAVE THE MONEY? CAN U AFFORD TO DASH HER MONEY WHENEVER SHE WANTS? MONEY FOR MAKING HAIR, DOING NAILS, MONEY 4 SHAWARMA, CLOTHES, JEWELS IF UR ANSWER IS NO THEN GO FIND MONEY SHARPLY

[size=28pt]1. Is our relationship about mutual trust? A relationship can’t survive without honesty and openness. If lies creep into the relationship, it’s time to get truthful, or call it quits.[/size]

[size=18pt]This is enough for everyone who wants to go into a relationship.
But unfortunately, especially in Nigeria, the motive most girls go into any relationship with guys is for their own selfish gratification using their sexuality for the bargains. So they lie and the guys too lie in their romantic game of wits trying to outsmart each other. They cheat and lie from one relationship to another, because they don't want their new targets to find out the truth about them. Only very few of the girls and guys are honest and transparent. And I thank God I have finally found one of the rare breed of Nigerian girls; beautiful, brilliant, diligent, honest and intelligent. [/size]

sheff: And what different does it make if u fail to ask yourself all the listed above?

You are standing on a long thing.

Hehe Clear throat.

I like No 5.

D earlier all dis OPs realise dere r no set rules in makn a relationship or marriage work, d beta. Me don tire 4 al dis 10 ways 2, 20 ? 2 ask, 30 tins 2 do threads. We don hear, tank u. It al depends on d individuals involvd. Haba.

Way to go OP.With so many ladies flocking around me these days,I have no other option than to define the relationship.I've got no plans to give anyone false hope talk more of getting someone heartbroken.

[s][/s]u are right