GraceBestowed: So, that man has come along, you're happy, super excited, and thanking God! There are some things we need to understand, because just as the bible says that 'a person's gift makes room for them', it is their character that will keep them where the gift has taken them to. Some mistakes are easily written off, some aren't, in whatever you do, DON'T

1. BE EAGER - marriage is not a do or die issue; to be fulfilled within a marriage, you have to be fulfilled as a human being first, then you can go into a union, and complete another person! Don't be pushy, because this will put a man off, and cause them to feel as though you're exerting too much control; men LOVE to be in control!

2. MAKE THE FIRST MOVE - allow him to make the first move! I know that there are some women out there with strong personalities, but all in all, he remains the man, the head; even if God has shown you that he's your husband, WAIT for him to make the first move! I cannot stress enough how important this is!

3. BE DISRESPECTFUL - no man wants a woman with an attitude problem! As women respond favourably to emotions, men respond favourably to respect. The beginning of the end is when you start to treat him with disdain!

4. LAY ALL YOUR CARDS ON THE TABLE - I know that it is normal to show emotions, but don't overdo it, please! It is very easy for someone else to take you for granted if they realise that you're extremely fond of them, no matter how much they seem to love you!

5. TALK TOO MUCH - please, keep your mouth shut about your relationship. Don't go telling A-B-C about how he got mad at you, what he said today, or how he told you he felt! It is not necessary!!

6. BE AFRAID - you need to be able to say how you feel, with respect, understanding that he is the man God has placed above you. You are allowed to say if you're upset, if he disappointed you, or if he did something wrong. Insecurities can also cause fear within a relationship, if you feel super insecure, ask yourself if you're ready to enter this relationship of give and take!

7. BE RETIRING - NOW is the time to talk, the time you can put your points across, your expectations, and aspirations! You want 7 children, now is the time to speak up; you have a calling on your life, raise your hand up and talk; you want to hold down a job, no problem, open up! Nothing is too trivial to bring up, communicate!

8. BE NAIVE - understand that men are a completely different set of species from women, every single one unique, according to maturity (in life and in Christ)! Chronological age is just a number; bottom line, men don't think like women, at all!

9. BE IDLE - being a 'liability' is not what's up, most men want their potential wives to be up to something; it doesn't, necessarily, mean working, but just an indication that you will not drown without Him, and that you're able to hold it down when he's not around.

10. GET INTIMATE - this goes without saying within a Christian courtship, but I'm saying it anyway! If you're kissing, sleeping together, or engaging in any intimate activities, then you're committing fornication - there's no two ways about it. If you can't wait, get a marriage blessing!

Remember to give Him thanks, in everything!

All His Love

Chinwem:


Thanks for this. Quoted for future reference

yuzedo: You have br..easts so I agree with ALL you said!

delkuf: Though this is coming late, but u said it all. expecially #10

deols:
Nothing wrong with making the first move either. If u are bold enough to want to make it/make it and he can not deal with it, he most probably isn't your ilk.

deols:
The golden rule is- Be yourself. There is a man for every type of Woman. Yours will find you and you may find him.

GraceBestowed: So, that man has come along, you're happy, super excited, and thanking God! There are some things we need to understand, because just as the bible says that 'a person's gift makes room for them', it is their character that will keep them where the gift has taken them to. Some mistakes are easily written off, some aren't, in whatever you do, DON'T

1. BE EAGER - marriage is not a do or die issue; to be fulfilled within a marriage, you have to be fulfilled as a human being first, then you can go into a union, and complete another person! Don't be pushy, because this will put a man off, and cause them to feel as though you're exerting too much control; men LOVE to be in control!

2. MAKE THE FIRST MOVE - allow him to make the first move! I know that there are some women out there with strong personalities, but all in all, he remains the man, the head; even if God has shown you that he's your husband, WAIT for him to make the first move! I cannot stress enough how important this is!

3. BE DISRESPECTFUL - no man wants a woman with an attitude problem! As women respond favourably to emotions, men respond favourably to respect. The beginning of the end is when you start to treat him with disdain!

4. LAY ALL YOUR CARDS ON THE TABLE - I know that it is normal to show emotions, but don't overdo it, please! It is very easy for someone else to take you for granted if they realise that you're extremely fond of them, no matter how much they seem to love you!

5. TALK TOO MUCH - please, keep your mouth shut about your relationship. Don't go telling A-B-C about how he got mad at you, what he said today, or how he told you he felt! It is not necessary!!

6. BE AFRAID - you need to be able to say how you feel, with respect, understanding that he is the man God has placed above you. You are allowed to say if you're upset, if he disappointed you, or if he did something wrong. Insecurities can also cause fear within a relationship, if you feel super insecure, ask yourself if you're ready to enter this relationship of give and take!

7. BE RETIRING - NOW is the time to talk, the time you can put your points across, your expectations, and aspirations! You want 7 children, now is the time to speak up; you have a calling on your life, raise your hand up and talk; you want to hold down a job, no problem, open up! Nothing is too trivial to bring up, communicate!

8. BE NAIVE - understand that men are a completely different set of species from women, every single one unique, according to maturity (in life and in Christ)! Chronological age is just a number; bottom line, men don't think like women, at all!

9. BE IDLE - being a 'liability' is not what's up, most men want their potential wives to be up to something; it doesn't, necessarily, mean working, but just an indication that you will not drown without Him, and that you're able to hold it down when he's not around.

10. GET INTIMATE - this goes without saying within a Christian courtship, but I'm saying it anyway! If you're kissing, sleeping together, or engaging in any intimate activities, then you're committing fornication - there's no two ways about it. If you can't wait, get a marriage blessing!

Remember to give Him thanks, in everything!

All His Love

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kambo: ur prose reaks of typical christian style, dats y mst xtians live double lives nd ar unromantc. 1. I respect women who can make the first move. Despite our notions abt it. Women who can walk up to u, look u in eye , introduce themselves and acquiant- with civility. Not timidly. Always always get my hat doffing.

miketonic: I think your post is bias..because it reeks of Christianity perspective . Not everyone in here is Christian or catholic. Some are Muslim, Jewish,Hindu, or etc. I disagree on number 10. I also disagree on the part tha male have to approach a female first. I think that's alo fashion . Matter of fact, I disagree on everything you said cuz ur a female and you don't know what guys want. Lol this is just a typical female rant post.

yuzedo: You have br..easts so I agree with ALL you said!

yuzedo: FRONT PAGE!!!!!!!!! Whoop! \\ (^o^) //

I really think these are well-spoken words, all of them true. I didn't merely agree because you have nice breeasts.. Not like I've seen them or nuin, and you know, I'd be glad to and all, but.. Oops! I digress!

esere826:

Stop talking about her bwests
it is se.xual harrasment referring to her bwest

She's worth more than her bwest
she is an intellectual human just like like u and I, but with bwest

she's doing a great job in showing that bwest do not define a woman,
and guess what brother....
her bwest is yet to come

Jan8: Don't kiss?!!! Wtf!!! All these rules sef don tire me...
Majority who don't follow most of them are doing well and you're here...
I'm not condemning the post tho. Nicely written

sammy.young:
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