It is sad 2 hear stories of pple trapd in an unhealthy r/ship & they can’t seem 2 get out of 4 one of two reasons. 1) They dont realize or accept dat d r/ship is unhealthy or 2) they dont hav d emotional strength or courage 2 break free tinkn dat if they stay dia tinz wil get beta. D trut is dat they seldom do. Usualy an unhealthy r/ship only gets progresivly worse ova time until the r/ship totaly disolves. By dis point d damage is already done 2ur emotional or physical health, self esteem, & personal confidence.
D worst part of being in an unhealthy r/ship is dat evry1 else can notice its -ve effects on u b4 u do. No mata how much they hint about it & suggest dat ur r/ship is not gud 4u or unhealthy, d mor u go in2 denial. Many times pple wil stay in an unhealthy r/ship jst 2 prove odas wrong. They say “Oh, he/she is not so bad.” “If u rily knw him/her like I do, u wud see they’re not bad pple”. D point is not dat they re bad pple, d point is dat d r/ship is bad 4u.
Usualy it teks a person 2 rily hit a low point in dia r/ship b4 dia eyes re opend 2 d damagin effects.
Dis is often even mor pronounced wen dia is a dependence of d oda person (weda its emotionaly, financialy, socialy, physicaly, etc) & u re focusd on wht d oda person can do 4u rada dan wht d r/ship is doin 2u. Dis type of unhealthy r/ship is d hardest 2 breakout of.
So, lets look at 12 r/ship tips dat address some of d warning signs u should look for? We understand that no 1 is perfect, but if u re xperiencin some of d 4lowin dynamics in ur r/ship wit ur partner, u may b in an unhealthy r/ship.
1. Over Control – They com on strong & quickly bcom jealous. Beware of some1 who falls deeply in luv wit u instantly & insists on being wit u at al times. Pressing 4 an early commitment & wantin 2 knw wia u re all d time re signs of control issues. Dont be fooled by d myth dat possesiveness & jealously is romantic & a sign of love, its a sign of controllin behavior.
2. Conformity – They want u 2 conform 2 dem. They criticize ur ideas, belitle ur feelings, & mek u afraid 2 disagree. They discourage u 4rm being ursef, but rather wht they want u 2 be.
3. Isolation – They attempt 2 isolate u 4rm frnds, family, activities & interests. They nid 2 b involved & managin evrytin dat u do. U hav 2 justify wht u do, wia u go, & who u see. They attempt 2 slowly gain control ova all aspects of ur life.
4. Psychotic Behavior – Their behavior is erratic, unpredictable, & mysterious. Unpredictable mood swings or behaviors. Droping out of sight 4 periods of time, being frequently unavailable, being less dan forthcomin about ways 2 contact them. These can be a sign of issues dat interfere with formin lasting r/ships or of some1 wit a hidden life such as addictions or even anoda r/ship.
5. Disjointedness – Their life doesn’t “jell.” A pattern of 4goten commitment, poor follow thru, & missd deadlines can be signs of some1 who wil continue thru life witout ever “getting it 2geda.”
6. Contradiction – They confuse u . There is inconsistency b/w wht they say & wht they do. Perhaps u re being told what they tink u want 2 hear or re trying to impress u.
7. Selfishness – They re self centerd. If they re only tinkin of demsefs, they wil ignore ur tots & feelings. They wil mek al d decisions. They wil answer 4u instead of letin u decide. If u get cut off in d middle of a sentence, they obviously weren’t realy listenin. Tek it as a warning, you don’t mata 2 dem.
8. Abusiveness – They hav no respect 4 oda pple & their feelings. They behav badly wit odas. Even if their behavior 2wards u is 5n, if they treat odas wit abuse, dishonesty, disrespect or manipulation, its pretty likely ur turn is comin. Abuse can be in d form of verbal, physical, emotional, or even psychological abuse. Don’t stand 4 it. Respect ursef enof 2 not tolerate disrespect or abuse 4rm any1.
9. Irresponsible – They don’t tek responsibility 4 their own actions. Wen ever tinz go wrong, it is because “they re idiots,” “d rules re stupid,”. They always portray demsefs as d victim. If they can’t see how their own behavior contributed to d problem, eventualy they wil blame u 4 wht is wrong.
10. Aggressiveness - Their temper scares u . Angry, jealous or controlin behavior wil likely get mor frightenin or violent ovatime. If u get a hint of violent tendencies u beta wake up & not wait around 4 it 2 happen. Once it happens its too L8.
11. Manipulative – They force u 2do tins u dont want 2 do. They presure u 2 b mor physicaly intim8 dan u re comfortable. They may presure & manipulate u 2get u in a situation wia they hav d uppa hand.
12. Alarming Behavior – Finally, learn 2 listen 2ur senses. They wil usualy giv u a feelin dat sometin is wrong. If u sense u re in an unhealthy r/ship & ur internal alarms bgan 2 ring, u nid 2 listen carefuly 2ur inner voice, because dat is an important clue dat tins may not b wat they ought 2b.
http://www.prelationshipinfo.com/relationships/12-warning-signs-of-an-unhealthy-relationship/

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@Op.. In as much as I want to agree with ur post, I still knw dat no one is perfect. Presence of one of these in a relationshp might nt be harmful.

Penssuwa: @Op.. In as much as I want to agree with ur post, I still knw dat no one is perfect. Presence of one of these in a relationshp might nt be harmful.

I won't dispute ur fact as well, but whereby 4 or more of my post involves, d victim wil beta tel.