dupsy_tosh: if the guy left her cos of her virginity..then good riddance. is she a virgin cos she wants to please a man? unfortunately thats d case with most ladies and they feel they should be given a medallion for being a virgin. You should be a virgin cos u love God and want to please Him through your obedience.The bible says we should not be men pleaser. If u say u're keeping urself 4 one man and u see virginity as a treasure to be given to him, do u knw how many ladies he has slept wit and may still sleep wit after marriage? You just setting urself up for disappointment if u are seeking to please men in any way. And virginity is not about ladies alone, the Bible says the marriage bed should not be defiled, and since a woman cant defile herself dat means it goes for both genders. Whatever command God gives is for our own good, and one of the advantages of abstinence b4 marriage is wat ur friend experienced, u get 2 know who wants you for u or for ur body (though thats not the only guarantee, bt it helps). Another another advantage is people find it surprising that ppl change totally from who they were b4 getting 2 a high position where they r faced with various temptations, fact is God toughens us for greater battles through lesser engagements, if u find it difficult to bring ur body under ur control and abstain, how do u expect to do so wen faced with greater challenges. Abstinence helps build ur self-control. So if u are a virgin thank God cos its by His grace, without Him, u can do nothing (Jh 15:5), ur reward is with God, after all the Bible also says "though shall not steal", do you go around looking for accolades cos u don't steal?

Shez hawt:

You'd only lose him to a few minutes of pleasure....
Not Exactly, but accordinq to ur post... I'd say Yes....

segzi cres: To be sincere, I can't get married to a virgin. She has to be a boring girl with sentimental values to not have been appealing to men.........it's shallow, I know but that's just what I think

onila: am a virgin

vivian chinaza:

Nigerians and their stupid ways of calling whoever that do not agree with their views name. Baby, you are the one that's so cheap by tagging yourself.

You did not make this rule, God did. Marriage is undefiled, I agree, and whosoever breaks that commandment, sins against God just like every other sin. So going by the bible's standard that a sinner is filthy before him, he did not say forn..i..cation alone, it includes every other sin. So u have no right to call whoever that is having se..x cheap cos u are not having sex, its a personal decision.

Come to think of it, a virgin is anyone whose unclothedness has not been seen by an opposite sex and who hasn't had se....x, but a lot of our virgins are experts at giving BJs and all that, *let me not even go into that*

I'm not against virgins, they don't fascinate me either, I can't fathom why someone else's decision not to have se..x should. But I will NEVER marry a man I have not had sex with,,,,yea I said that. I have actually heard a lot of people say se..x is not important in marriage, especially church people but they lie big time. If se.x and sexua.l connection and compatibility is not important, why are there so much adultery in the house of God? Even the pastors are not left out?

Come to think of it, the bible even gave an exception for engaged couples to have sex provided they marry each other.

Whether bibles justifies it or not, I'm never gonna a man I have not tasted. call it whatever u want, I don't give a rat's azz about ur opinion. Let God judge me.

vivian chinaza:

Nigerians and their stupid ways of calling whoever that do not agree with their views name. Baby, you are the one that's so cheap by tagging yourself.

You did not make this rule, God did. Marriage is undefiled, I agree, and whosoever breaks that commandment, sins against God just like every other sin. So going by the bible's standard that a sinner is filthy before him, he did not say forn..i..cation alone, it includes every other sin. So u have no right to call whoever that is having se..x cheap cos u are not having sex, its a personal decision.

Come to think of it, a virgin is anyone whose unclothedness has not been seen by an opposite sex and who hasn't had se....x, but a lot of our virgins are experts at giving BJs and all that, *let me not even go into that*

I'm not against virgins, they don't fascinate me either, I can't fathom why someone else's decision not to have se..x should. But I will NEVER marry a man I have not had sex with,,,,yea I said that. I have actually heard a lot of people say se..x is not important in marriage, especially church people but they lie big time. If se.x and sexua.l connection and compatibility is not important, why are there so much adultery in the house of God? Even the pastors are not left out?

Come to think of it, the bible even gave an exception for engaged couples to have sex provided they marry each other.

Whether bibles justifies it or not, I'm never gonna a man I have not tasted. call it whatever u want, I don't give a rat's azz about ur opinion. Let God judge me.

Lexoria: [
And who said they won't see it as a gift.Men!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Always putting words in our mouth,making laws for us and even telling us whats best for us....smdh

Saintp:

u r testing ur guys cos u want 2 be sure d will satisfy u after marriage rite? why do we like deliebrately challenging God? do u know dat though he is good in bed now, his dick can go dumb 2months after marriage? wot will u do? let me tell u a real life story. A guy told d church dat his wife must get pregnant be4 wedding n d church said d will nt be part of it, dis guy said 2 hell wit d church n got wedded in anoda place wit his pregnant babe. few months after, d lost d baby after 2 days of delievery n since then d wife is yet 2 get pregnant again. it is now 5yrs. d guy is now confused.
plz lets stop deliebrately challenging God. it could be dangerous.

free2ryhme:


female virgins has more value than males one

Saintp:

u r testing ur guys cos u want 2 be sure d will satisfy u after marriage rite? why do we like deliebrately challenging God? do u know dat though he is good in bed now, his dick can go dumb 2months after marriage? wot will u do? let me tell u a real life story. A guy told d church dat his wife must get pregnant be4 wedding n d church said d will nt be part of it, dis guy said 2 hell wit d church n got wedded in anoda place wit his pregnant babe. few months after, d lost d baby after 2 days of delievery n since then d wife is yet 2 get pregnant again. it is now 5yrs. d guy is now confused.
plz lets stop deliebrately challenging God. it could be dangerous.

Shez hawt:

What ur point on d "must have sex b4 marriage" Re yhue jez tryna figure out if he is good in the sack or wat, So you're sayinq even if u met the best man in the wrld, as lonq as he doesn't accept ur terms, U'd blow him oFF? If that's the case Happy Hunting

souldust: my dear, the person i replied when you quoted me is a woman. Before i said what i said, i asked her if she would see it as a gift and if she would value her man if she was the first he slept with and her answer was "TBH, i wouldnt". Thats a woman like you talking.

She is not alone in this.infact there was a thread like that here on NL. You can find out

ayswags: And how is virginity the greatest gift a woman can gyf a man is it precious than gold i dont nid a virgin just nid a tight punny 2 fhuck cos virgins tend to think lyk they are queens and making u think they are doing u a favour dating u mtcheew

trolling: so what's her role as a woman,if it's not pleasimg him n vice versa

buoye1: Am presently dating 1 and we agreed on not having sex till we get married.....I love her nd wnt hurt her....[size=15pt]I hope we can be 4eva[/size]

vivian chinaza:

Yes I would blow him off.... The last time I checked, there is no best man nor woman on earth. But before I blow him off, we must have talked about it.

adconline:

Why bother knowing my genotype? You can find out once we are married? Why bother knowing my family? You can find out once we are married. Why bother knowing my fertility count? Why not wait until we are married? Why bother about my job and finances? Let's wait until we are married! Why is it that it's only S3X that can wait until we are married?

dupsy_tosh:
Don't pick my words out of context, definitely couples should aim to please each other, am talking about using virginity as a leverage

vivian chinaza:

Nigerians and their stupid ways of calling whoever that do not agree with their views name. Baby, you are the one that's so cheap by tagging yourself.

You did not make this rule, God did. Marriage is undefiled, I agree, and whosoever breaks that commandment, sins against God just like every other sin. So going by the bible's standard that a sinner is filthy before him, he did not say forn..i..cation alone, it includes every other sin. So u have no right to call whoever that is having se..x cheap cos u are not having sex, its a personal decision.

Come to think of it, a virgin is anyone whose unclothedness has not been seen by an opposite sex and who hasn't had se....x, but a lot of our virgins are experts at giving BJs and all that, *let me not even go into that*

I'm not against virgins, they don't fascinate me either, I can't fathom why someone else's decision not to have se..x should. But I will NEVER marry a man I have not had sex with,,,,yea I said that. I have actually heard a lot of people say se..x is not important in marriage, especially church people but they lie big time. If se.x and sexua.l connection and compatibility is not important, why are there so much adultery in the house of God? Even the pastors are not left out?

Come to think of it, the bible even gave an exception for engaged couples to have sex provided they marry each other.

Whether bibles justifies it or not, I'm never gonna a man I have not tasted. call it whatever u want, I don't give a rat's azz about ur opinion. Let God judge me.

I.Joan:

No offense meant, but u sound cheap!!!

vivian chinaza:

Ok, let's do this, let me tell u 3 real life stories that happened around me. Btw, I wasn't talking about pregnancy cos that no one has control over.

The first story goes like this; a lady I know very got born again and started going to church, met a brother in the church, the 'holy spirit' directed them to get married. As the church doctrine, se..x wasn't allowed neither was visiting the guy alone as the guy had a post in the church bla bla bla...... Fast forward, after much prayers they got married. But something happened on the wedding night, it turned out the this guy's joystick was extremely big that the lady cried all through the love making, according to her. The next day, she ran back to her pastor who counselled her to endure, that sex wasn't that important in marriage. But deep down in her, she knew that there was chance in hell that she would live and endure such pains for the rest of her life. She went home, talked to the parent and filed for a divorce. Just after one night!

The second story goes like this; a guy married a girl, yea the same no sex rule was applied bla bla bla...... Fast forward to the wedding night, he found out that he couldn't make love to his wife without a tissue because of the excessive fluid that oozes out of this lady's body. They are still married anyway but the man cheats and the woman is aware that her husband cheats. You can imagine the emotional punishment.

The third story goes like this; the couple were very normal but they didn't connect sexually. Se.x for them became a chore. The guy was my colleague in the office, so one day he opened up to me, I felt so sorry for him. He felt stuck in the marriage as he couldn't cheat like other men do,,,,,, this crack started affecting the foundation of their marriage. A lot of issues started coming up and today they are no more a couple.


There are a lot we don't know too, if only the couples with speak up. But with the rate of adultery I have seen in the church these days, I simple make deductions myself.

There are so many things I'm gonna taste a guy for o from the connection to the size of his joystick, yea I said it to how compatible we are, is he a 10sec man or a 3hours man? Does he have silly habits that I can't stand?

Se..x comes with a lot of emotion, at least for me. Its either I hate u after the act, or I love u more. *yea, it does not happen to only guys, it happens to ladies as well* And this is a chance I'm not willing to take . Like I said before, u can call it whatever u like. Vivian is not a good girl that plays by the rule

free2ryhme:


female virgins has more value than males one

Saintp:

I understand u very clearly. U took dat decision cos u want 2 secure ur future. Good as it sounds bt may i remind u dat its still nt a gurantee for good se..x life in future. We hav also seen guys who where monsters in bed be4 marriage bt became 1 min men after marriage and vice versa. Such is d irony of life.So u dnt hav 2 take ur future into ur hands alone by blantantly disagreeing wit d bible.Think abt it.
My worries wit dis generation is dat we sin against God without any REMORSE and JUSTIFY our sins using our own quack wisdom. I know i'm nt even qualified 2 say dis,i'm also guilty of fornication,however, we must rise up 2 d truth, sex before marriage is fornication and according to d bible it is a SIN. We can ask God for forgiveness instead of justifying it.

Soso990240: abeg,u be virgin? I wan cm marry u nw nw..i like it when my way is tight.

you seriously believe all virgins are tight

d light: virginity still remain a treasured gift for any lady across cultures and it will ever be. Purity before marriage helps to strenghten the cord of marriage as the couples learn to trust each other even in face of doubting circumstance, there won't be suspicion of any kind about they move or what they do while they are not together and once trust can be established any other thing is secondary.

huni_naija: Nothing is wrong with marrying a virgin, notin is wrong in marrying a non-virgin...

There are virgins who have done blow up jobs, oral, or from behind and are just trying to hide behind the cloak of "virginity"

What am i trying to say? Virgins or not we are all not perfect and have made mistakes, what should matter is the character of the person and not what's beneath or behind there legs!