I met this guy in December and we have been talking for three months. We talk everyday and he comes to see me every few weeks (we live in different cities). So I really like him and I think he likes me too. Here is the problem. He has never come out to say he wants a relationship with me or asked me to be his girlfriend. He never even held my hand or tried to kiss me. A few weeks ago he told me he never starts anything out as a relationship because he wants to get to know the person first. I understand that, it is a good approach to dating. However it has been 3 months. Isn't that enough time for him to know if he likes me? How do I know if I should keep waiting for him? How long is too long to wait for someone to make up their mind about you? I don't want to wait too long and miss other opportunities and at the end of the day he says he decided he just wants to be friends. Please advise me.

Maybe u ask him wht he wants4rm u since its been 3 mnths guys ve been jst friends.
Bsyds,wz wrng wit u makn d first muv?(jst curious)
if he says he dnt wnt2jump strt into somtn serious wit u,dnt u tink d dude is married?
Me tink u shd be patient wit him&c hw tinz unfold&if ur stil impatient,shift to plan B....
Makn him jealous by reducn ur attention towards him wit ur othr male folks&c hw he reacts.
Mayb he wil then c the need to opn his mouth sharp sharp.
Good luck!

You are on d wait cos some serious minded guy who will sweep you off your feet hasn't come. By d time someone who knows what you 're worth even before d expiration of two months shows face, you will quickly give d present guy a booth meanwhile in d meantime don't do anything you'll regret later, let him take his time while you be on d lookout for dt bobo dt will make up his mind quick quick, i tell you it wont take long.

I think d guy is a learner. Encourage him to make up his mind.

A guy who said he loves to get to knw a girl better b4 proposin is a learner? Na u help am talk dt one?
The guy knws exactly wot he wants...u jes wait till u're 31. Ok?

3month is overdue, my sugestion is that, that guy is looking for a wife not a girl friend, this friend might make is ways to 1 or two years, i doubt if you can wait for him. He is still observing you.

My little advise is take ur attention somewhere and just be friend wife him. There many guys. By the way i am a guy dat talk quick quick. Where in abj u stays?

Thanks for all the advice so far. To answer your questions no I can't say anything to him cuz I don't want to look desperate or worse be rejected. Also i know hes not married cuz i know his family a bit. I thought about moving on but I like him so much. He's everything I want in a partner. Im always scared that what if the time I decide to walk away ends up being the time he was planning to take things further...I've never been in this situation before. Normally I meet a guy, we get to know each other, discover we have a good connection, and in a month or so he asks me to be his girlfriend. This guy is totally different from my prior experiences so I don't really know how to react. So I just wait...

ABJgal: Thanks for all the advice so far. To answer your questions no I can't say anything to him cuz I don't want to look desperate or worse be rejected. Also i know hes not married cuz i know his family a bit. I thought about moving on but I like him so much. He's everything I want in a partner. Im always scared that what if the time I decide to walk away ends up being the time he was planning to take things further...I've never been in this situation before. Normally I meet a guy, we get to know each other, discover we have a good connection, and in a month or so he asks me to be his girlfriend. This guy is totally different from my prior experiences so I don't really know how to react. So I just wait...

better, that guy dont what to walk into you life and walk out. He just want to get in and remain, thats why he is still delaying it. Just take ur mind of him, n just be friends, who knows he might talk in less than a year time.

I can't tell you to go all out for him.
Just wait patiently while always in a subtle way be giving him the green light.
And pls for the sake of a serious guy, even though u like him a lot , don't give in to sex at the first asking.
Here is a tip
After ending a conversation on fone , call him back after like 15 mins and remind him of something he said and you did not get it clearly , once he say it , just say ok and end the call immediately, resist the temptation of starting a new conversation unless he call back.
The reason:
the guy would spend some time thinking , 'wow this girl really listen to what I said, and why would she ask about that, let me call her.'
imprint ur image as much as possible in a guy's mind by making him think of u.

ABJgal: Thanks for all the advice so far. To answer your questions no I can't say anything to him cuz I don't want to look desperate or worse be rejected. Also i know hes not married cuz i know his family a bit. I thought about moving on but I like him so much. He's everything I want in a partner. Im always scared that what if the time I decide to walk away ends up being the time he was planning to take things further...I've never been in this situation before. Normally I meet a guy, we get to know each other, discover we have a good connection, and in a month or so he asks me to be his girlfriend. This guy is totally different from my prior experiences so I don't really know how to react. So I just wait...

madam just tale d bull by d horn n ask him eat he wants frm u.. dat not bin cheap dat just knwin wats up...

Three months n ur frettin?! Gal.get a grip! What is galfrd sef? Is it not stil ur frd dat is a gal? U rily tink ur d only galfrd he has? plsss! Grow up,hav oda malefrds dat u dnt Bleep lyk him,hav u neva heard dat sayin about puttin all ur eggs in one basket?! Dnt b a learner or a slowpoke,BE WISE!!

Here we go again. You like the guy, he is all you want and he is not asking you. What is keeping you from doing the asking? Or is there some rule that says men must be the ones asking?