centje: I have little knowledge of islam. So i didn't undertand some parts of the article. But i have two friends here,on nairaland, who practice it,maybe i will learn from them.

My question is wont these rituals around sex make it too cumbersome?

centje: I have little knowledge of islam. So i didn't undertand some parts of the article. But i have two friends here,on nairaland, who practice it,maybe i will learn from them.

My question is wont these rituals around sex make it too cumbersome?

snubish: @op, very graphic post, the instructions are clear though.
"good thing that shyness does not prevent nairalanders from learning and teaching their religion"

Rukemi291:

Thank you. I am also very shy but getting married in a few days time. So i browsed about wedding, found this very rich material and decided to share it.

Rukemi291: 4. What to say at the time of making Love. When a Muslim man is about to enter his wife, he should always say first: Bismillahi, Allâhumma jannibnâ ash-shaitân, wa
jannib ash-shaitân mâ razaqtanna [In the name of Allâh, O Allâh, keep us away from the devil, and keep the devil away from that which You may grant us (ie. offspring).] About this, the Prophet said:
"After that, if Allâh decrees that they will have a child, the devil will never be able to harm that child". [al-Bukharî]

Rukemi291: 5. How he should come to her. It is allowed for a Muslim man to enter his wife in
her va.gina from any direction he wishes - from behind or from the front. About this Allâh revealed the following verse: "Your wives are a tilth unto you; so approach
your tilth when or how ye will" [al-Baqarah
2:223]. On the authority of Jâbir who said: "The Jews used to say that if a man entered his wife in the va.gina but from behind, their child would be cross-eyed! Then Allâh revealed the verse: "Your wives are as a tilth unto you; so approach your tilth
when or how ye will;" [al-Baqarah 2:223]. The Prophet said : "From the front or the back, as long as it is in the vagi.na". [Al-Bukharî and Muslim]

Rukemi291: 7. Making Wudhû’ between 2 acts with one's wife. When a Muslim man has had sexual intercourse
with his wife in the legal manner and then wishes
to return another time, he should first perform
wudhû’, based on the statement of the Prophet : "When one of you comes to his wife and then
wishes to return another time, let him perform
wudhû’ between the 2 times (In another version,
the same wudhû’ which he performs for prayer) for
verily, it will invigorate his return."[Muslim, Ibn Abi
Shaibah and others].

Rukemi291: 9. The Bathing of Husband and Wife together. It is permissible for the husband and wife to bath together in the same place even though he sees her private parts, and she sees his. This is established by a number of authentic hadîth , among them: 1.. On the authority of 'ﺁ'ishah (radiAllâhu anha)
who said: "I used to bathe with the Prophet from a single container of water which was placed between us such that our hands collided inside it. He used to race me such that I would say: `Leave some for me, leave some for me!' She added: `We were in a state
of Janaba (i.e. the state of having slept together).'"[Al-Bukharî and Muslim]. 2.. On the authority of Mu'âwiya ibn Haida, who
said: "I said: `O Messenger of Allâh, which of our unclothedness is allowed, and of which must we beware?' The Prophet answered, "Guard your unclothedness except from your wife or those whom your right hand possesses." (So it is permissible for both spouses to look at and touch the body of his or her companion even the private parts). He said:
`O Messenger of Allâh, what about if the relatives live together with each other?' The Prophet answered : "If you can make sure that no one ever sees your unclothedness, then do so." He said: `O
Messenger of Allâh, what about when one is alone?' The Prophet said: "Allâh is more deserving of your modesty than are the people"."[Ahmad, Abu Dawûd, at-Tirmidhî and others: Sahîh].

Rukemi291: Source:
www.islaam.net/main/display.php?part=full&category=116&id=891

I am sure there are some reservations about some of the points. Please, let's discuss them. Jazakumullahu khairan.

kulyie: am really suprised reading this,so you mean a couple cannot do ouch,hush,am cuuming,etc when making love

kulyie: very educative but my reservations are that does it mean when you are having issues regarding your s3x life as a muslim and you have talked to your partner about it and there is no change,you cant discuss it with like maybe your mom,elder sister or something.2.to digress a little how do muslims try and make a rape victim recover from the trauma of rape she has gone through and three how do you punish a rapist in islam,thanks

kulyie: very educative but my reservations are that does it mean when you are having issues regarding your s3x life as a muslim and you have talked to your partner about it and there is no change,you cant discuss it with like maybe your mom,elder sister or something.2.to digress a little how do muslims try and make a rape victim recover from the trauma of rape she has gone through and three how do you punish a rapist in islam,thanks

maclatunji: @Kulyie, you have a lot of questions about Islam and I believe it is motivated by a genuine desire to learn. I would suggest that you type your questions on this website and search http://www.searching-islam.com and learn at your leisure.

This does not mean you should not ask questions here or that people should stop answering you. I am just giving you this tool to enhance your study.

kulyie: ok,thanks tunji but you seem to have a lot of knowledge to the websites of many islamic issues.are you an islamic cleric,youth leader or kewu teacher (people that teach kids arabic in islamic school,i dont know what you people call them) just curious thats all

maclatunji:

I am just an average Muslim that went to Ile Kewu (Quranic School) and did IRK in secondary school. I don't really teach kids, more like adults in my spare time the little I know. I know very little and always seek to learn more. Youth leader? Hmmmm... I am a kind of leader.

How I became that, I am not sure yet. I just find myself doing certain things in certain positions.

Besides, I am blessed with great skill when it comes to searching for things online so that one doesn't make me an 'Islamic expert'.

That's about it.

maclatunji:

I am just an average Muslim that went to Ile Kewu (Quranic School) and did IRK in secondary school. I don't really teach kids, more like adults in my spare time the little I know. I know very little and always seek to learn more. Youth leader? Hmmmm... I am a kind of leader.

How I became that, I am not sure yet. I just find myself doing certain things in certain positions.

Besides, I am blessed with great skill when it comes to searching for things online so that one doesn't make me an 'Islamic expert'.

That's about it.

kulyie: ok,now i understand.but you have great knowledge about islam,not little because there is no question i ask you as per islamic issues,that you dont have the appropriate websites for.you know you can make a living out of your knowledge of islam e.g being an islamic pre marriage or marriage counsellor,a secondary school teacher of islam or a graduate assistant lecturer in islamic studies in the university instead of wasting your knowledge,convert it to money.its just my own thinking though,thats just what i feel

maclatunji:

LMFSO! #Money. God provides from the sources he has approved for me. I hustle a lot so I appreciate your business sense. These little things I do are my own ways of giving back to the community and society whilst serving God as best I can. If I am insightful, I will thank God for his mercies and not complain at all.

#Alhamdulillah

Rukemi291: Wow. it's over a yeat

SugaryBelle: Welcome back.So how was it on your wedding night? Did you perform the necessary rights?

Rukemi291:

Oh wow. yes we did. Alhamdulillah we now have a soon to be 7 months old son.

SugaryBelle: Wow congratulations.thank God for you.