Good day all and sundry, im just thinking about what can make one turn his/her partner's intimacy approach down.........
As for me, im yet to give a reason for that, i would have said, may be when im having my monthly flow, but alas, he already know when im on, so, he doesnt even make any attempt during the period, apart from that, i dont think there is any other reason for me to turn him down when he feels like and he has not for once turn my own down.
Now over to you peeps........wives, what can make you turn your hubby down when he asks for lovemaking/intimacy?
Husbands, what can make you turn your wives' intimacy approach down, lets share and learn from one another.
May God help us all.

If he is cheating,then I ll consider him a disease vector,therefore I can't be intimate with him.I don't see how one can be intimate with a man who physically or emotionally abuses her.On the grounds of serious ill health,I ll pass.Apart from these,I can't deny him for any other reason.

1. If he is cheating
2. If am ill. Abi he wants to kill me for my mother.
3. If he turned me down the last time I was in the mood its payback time

Anyways its wrong to turn ur partner down sha. Cos I can't imagine been turned down

byvan: If he is cheating,then I ll consider him a disease vector,therefore I can't be intimate with him.I don't see how one can be intimate with a man who physically or emotionally abuses her.On the grounds of serious ill health,I ll pass.Apart from these,I can't deny him for any other reason.

yes, thanks, i never thought of this b4, of course, i will turn him down, if i discover that he cheats.........that d essence of this thread, to educate ourselves, to learn from each other. Thanks.
May God help us all.

aadetoyin:
1. If he is cheating
2. If am ill. Abi he wants to kill me for my mother.
3. If he turned me down the last time I was in the mood its payback time

Anyways its wrong to turn ur partner down sha. Cos I can't imagine been turned down

yes, i agree with cheating.
Concerning illness, i believe since he will know about it, he wont even make attempt, abi, what do you think?
Lol @ killing you for your mother, that is another area........being abusive......that will be a total turn off for me too, if it happens, thank Gd, it hasnt happened to me and i pray it never happen.
As regards paying back mood, your temprament must be melancholy, thats one of our weaknesses.........being revengeful.....hhhmmmm, well, its not advisable in marriage, its cankerworm that eats up the love btwn couples, but the most important thing is that one of the parties shouldnt just start it, its hard to live with.
May God help us all.

** Takes a chair, popcorn, zobo and chills

biolabee: ** Takes a chair, popcorn, zobo and chills

dont just sit and be eating and drinking, tell us yours, abi,you never marry?........abeg share with us joor!

That he cheats shouldn't be an option.

One has already gotten the disease long time ago before discovering his cheating habit!

greatgod2012: dont just sit and be eating and drinking, tell us yours, abi,you never marry?........abeg share with us joor!

To turn down my partners.. hmm well (my hand is being forced here o)

1. I/The woman are not feeling well physically (ill or extreme exhaustion etc)
2. I have over had enough of the koko so the big man is chilling
3. The woman has her visitor things

* covers face*

greatgod2012:

yes, i agree with cheating.
Concerning illness, i believe since he will know about it, he wont even make attempt, abi, what do you think?
Lol @ killing you for your mother, that is another area........being abusive......that will be a total turn off for me too, if it happens, thank Gd, it hasnt happened to me and i pray it never happen.
As regards paying back mood, your temprament must be melancholy, thats one of our weaknesses.........being revengeful.....hhhmmmm, well, its not advisable in marriage, its cankerworm that eats up the love btwn couples, but the most important thing is that one of the parties shouldnt just start it, its hard to live with.
May God help us all.

Ha!!no try men and hormonesooo!!!18hrs before the labour of my first child started,my hubby wanted to be intimate.My waist was weighing about 200kg by then and having sex would have probaly killed me lol.I turned him down and he sulked his self to sleep.He only realised my condition 18hrs after labour started.

ayobase: That he cheats shouldn't be an option.

One has already gotten the disease long time ago before discovering his cheating habit!

So you expect a woman to be sleeping with a confirmed unfaithful hubby.Mehn I love my self way too much for that.The cheating hubby should not have any need for your services as his needs are well taken care of in the streets.For me its cheat alone,die alone.

byvan:


So you expect a woman to be sleeping with a confirmed unfaithful hubby.Mehn I love my self way too much for that.The cheating hubby should not have any need for your services as his needs are well taken care of in the streets.For me its cheat alone,die alone.

Yeah, of course!
But the deed has been long done.

So, let's be more positive about this thread......no one like her man cheating on her!

Cheating is not an option on this thread then!

ayobase:

Yeah, of course!
But the deed has been long done.

So, let's be more positive about this thread......no one like her man cheating on her!

Cheating is not an option on this thread then!

Well,I guess every woman is not wired the same way.My life is too important for me to risk while trying to please a public husband,am just not that woman.unless ofcourse you mean after the woman has forgiven,with the cheater scrutizing his body in the laboratory to make sure their is no Otapiapia lurking somewhere.

aadetoyin:
1. If he is cheating
2. If am ill. Abi he wants to kill me for my mother.
3. If he turned me down the last time I was in the mood its payback time

Anyways its wrong to turn ur partner down sha. Cos I can't imagine been turned down

Trust me, if you are ill and you engage in it, that sickness must go. Tested and trusted! I think it's a natural remedy!

...If he has become uninteresting/unexciting..

Vikin:

Trust me, if you are ill and you engage in it, that sickness must go. Tested and trusted! I think it's a natural remedy!

T topic: am still thinking....
For cheating, I will throw him out!!! Unless I don't know.

We never have enough of our self due to nature of our job, so the time he is around...na fire fire! Most times we have to call an ambulance to stand by!

Vikin:

Trust me, if you are ill and you engage in it, that sickness must go. Tested and trusted! I think it's a natural remedy!

She is right!!!!! . . . . it sure gets rid of ovulation cramps amongst other things

slimyem: ...If he has become uninteresting/unexciting..

It really cures malaria and fever...joke apart..after engaging in it, drink a small bottle of water, sleep, wake up and tell me how you feel.

Vikin:

It really cures malaria and fever...joke apart..after engaging in it, drink a small bottle of water, sleep, wake up and tell me how you feel.

I think its a psychological thing.More like what you have conditioned yourself to believe.
If serious malaria attacks you,I doubt sex will work any wonder.

Its been proved oooooo!!!!! . . . sex does cure some illness and am speaking from experience

http://www.steadyhealth.com/articles/Sex_as_cure_a608.html

Don't mind slimyem, keep taking all those capsule for malaria, while u can just enjoy the natural remedy and get cured .

Don't be scared, just try it and confess.

chaircover: Its been proved oooooo!!!!! . . . sex does cure some illness and am speaking from experience

http://www.steadyhealth.com/articles/Sex_as_cure_a608.html

im really learning here, sometimes, when im very tired, my hubby will say, "let me shake out tiredness out of your body thru great s..ex, i often think its because he's in d mood, but, to be sincere, i do feel relaxed after d heavenly feelings, as slimyem said, i usually think its more of what im conditioned to believe, i never knew its proved...........time to start asking for more, i guess....lol......olomi lo ma re....
May God help me.
may God help us all.

greatgod2012:
im really learning here, sometimes, when im very tired, my hubby will say, "let me shake out tiredness out of your body thru great s..ex, i often think its because he's in d mood, but, to be sincere, i do feel relaxed after d heavenly feelings, as slimyem said, i usually think its more of what im conditioned to believe, i never knew its proved...........time to start asking for more, i guess....lol......olomi lo ma re....
May God help me.
may God help us all.

I must be a very bad wife then because on the very odd occasion when I am very very tired, I will cuddle up to my man and say to him not tonight dear, I will make it up tomorrow and we end up having a better time the next day rather than me doing it half asleep. I personally prefer quality over quantity . . .but that is something that works for us and its not for everyone.

chaircover:

I must be a very bad wife then because on the very odd occasion when I am very very tired, I will cuddle up to my man and say to him not tonight dear, I will make it up tomorrow and we end up having a better time the next day rather than me doing it half asleep. I personally prefer quality over quantity . . .but that is something that works for us and its not for everyone.

no! Never! Tiredness differs, there are some that d man wont even dare make attempt......lol

greatgod2012:
no! Never! Tiredness differs, there are some that d man wont even dare make attempt......lol

You mean you are never ever tired?

Pls send me some of that super strength ooooo

chaircover: Its been proved oooooo!!!!! . . . sex does cure some illness and am speaking from experience

http://www.steadyhealth.com/articles/Sex_as_cure_a608.html

Madam,I hear you o but I still think its not that hard and fast.
I wouldn't pity anyone who gives up their drugs for sex anyways.

Vikin: Don't mind slimyem, keep taking all those capsule for malaria, while u can just enjoy the natural remedy and get cured .

Don't be scared, just try it and confess.

My faith never reach that level my sister..

slimyem: Madam,I hear you o but I still think its not that hard and fast.
I wouldn't pity anyone who gives up their drugs for sex anyways.

Ha! no one should give up their drugs o!

But some illnesses never needed drugs in the first instance . . .such as ovulation cramps, mild headaches etc . . .and the "natural" drug does the job as well as oyinbo drugs & with no side effects

chaircover:

You mean you are never ever tired?

Pls send me some of that super strength ooooo

no, i tried to answer your previous question where you asked if you are a bad wife for refusing to be intimate as a result of tiredness, who no go get tired? ,when i no be stone, abeg, i do, but when im really very tired, my hubby wont even dare make attempt..........he doesnt tempt me turning him down.
May God help us all.

If
he cheats, abuses(of any kind).
when baby is barely 3-4weeks old(post natal hormones I guess). when we
want to select the sex of the next baby(pre-ovalution tins). when I am
really tried,also if I am fasting and praying to God for favour.
Apart from the above mentioned, hubby is welcomed anytime,anyday and anywhere including menstrual days *winks*

enjoying ma popcorn.. hmm so s,ex is also an analgesic.. ajesara poki poki

obyikye: If he cheats, abuses(of an kind).
when baby is barely 3-4weeks old

yes, another point there, when i just put to bed, and the body is still "wet"........he wont even make attempt, im always d first to make first attempt....lol.....

When I'm extremely tired almost everyday .... Poor guy.

He knows it's every angle during vacations and weekends.

Besides sex ages women faster... there're other ways to explore intimate satisfaction , BJ and many more

Lord have Mercy!