James and Juliet(not real names-for the purpose of this forum) were dating which later resulted to marriage that was blessed with a child.Though due to the pregnancy that resulted during their dating period,they rushed and hold the marriage instead of aborting the pregnancy,although the two agreed during the dating that they will marry each other.The marriage was held,though they lost the baby on the day of delivery.Presently they have another child.It appeared that till now(more than four years after the marriage)the dowry has not been paid due to lack of money,as they are finding it difficult to cope with the husband's little salary,let alone to save money that will pay the dowry and finish the little things that remains in the marriage rites.
However,the basic fact is that there is NO PEACE in the Union.They always have one misunderstanding or the other,no peace of mind in the union.The wife can challenge the hubby in any slight issues,likewise the hubby to the wife to the extent that most of the friends have known about their frequent misunderstanding and quarrel.Most of their quarrels can result into the husband laying hand on the wife.Wife can hardly listen to husband likewise husband to wife.The husband will tell the wife she can leave that he is fed up with this kind character and frequent quarrell.The wife has taken the husband to police stations up to three times.
The last misunderstanding they have last time in which the wife took the husband to police station,and that day before the husband will come back from work,the wife has packed all her belongings and left the house to unknown place without picking the hubby phone which she later started picking after like three weeks and d hubby reported to the people and later noticed that the people knew where she is staying.The wife later started visiting the hubby on occassional basis after like her five weeks she packed out and she had concluded with the people that the condition for her to finally return to him is until the dowry and other things are paid which the hubby accepted and fixed a time for it.Now,from cross examination it appears that each of them have a peace of mind now they are apart than when they are together and the hubby has confided to me that he is more at peace now they are apart.That he is now considering what is actualy wrong in this union for marriage is meant to bring joy and happiness.Is this union really the wish of God.is something not wrong somewhere?.How can he feel at peace now they are apart than when they are together?,should he go ahead and pay the dowry and start being again together which to him is like invitation of unhappiness or should they simply quit and each go their way?.Please advise.

I think........they are not meant to be together!

However, i also think, they can both work on it, if they want to.

I believe they can work this out if they want to.its very easy for a marriage to degenerate to this once there is no tolerance.They should start working on their issues from a safe distance,that way they could proceed with the completion of marriAge rights when they are ready to stay married.

The bible made it clear,stay single if you can,but get married instead of burning with passion.it further added,those that are married will enconter many problems in life.