Yield: So, do you think it's best to leave a relationship if a partner has ...let's say, two certain characteristics that you don't like? And these characteristics aren't anything terrible at all, some people might even consider them to be good things, but they bother you. You have expressed your concern to this individual and he/she's trying to work on one, but the other is going to be more difficult to change - because it's just the way he/she is. Again, they're not terrible things and some might consider them to be good characteristics, but you aren't keen on them. Apart from these two things, this person is wonderful, close to being perfect, if there's such a thing as perfection. Apart from these two things, he/she has all the qualities you're looking for in a partner. What would you do in a situation like this? Do you simply accept the person the way they are or do you end the relationship because of those two things that bother you?

Yield: So, do you think it's best to leave a relationship if a partner has ...let's say, two certain characteristics that you don't like? And these characteristics aren't anything terrible at all, some people might even consider them to be good things, but they bother you. You have expressed your concern to this individual and he/she's trying to work on one, but the other is going to be more difficult to change - because it's just the way he/she is. Again, they're not terrible things and some might consider them to be good characteristics, but you aren't keen on them. Apart from these two things, this person is wonderful, close to being perfect, if there's such a thing as perfection. Apart from these two things, he/she has all the qualities you're looking for in a partner. What would you do in a situation like this? Do you simply accept the person the way they are or do you end the relationship because of those two things that bother you?

DoubleFaith:

My dear, it's very simple. If you can live with those 2 things you dont like after confirming that he/she cant change, then your relationship is perfect that is if you dont always bring it up as an issue.
Just know that CORE traits cannot be changed permanently. It's either you learn to accept it and do not bring it up as an issue in your relationship Or you move on. Simple!

Mrs..Chima:
Wrong people are hooking up for the wrong reasons.

Atheist:-D:


Really? So what are the "right" reasons?

Mrs..Chima:


The kind where relationships are strong and commitments are evident.

Atheist:-D:


I agree. it is best to try and live with it or move on. Trying to get the person to change is a no no.

What about if the person changed from what you wanted into something you are not keen on? Would you end it or hang on?

DoubleFaith:

The point is CORE traits. He/she cant change his/her core traits permanently. Other minor traits can be changed permanently. Most times the change is gradual, so change from good to bad is noticeable and can be checked.

Mrs..Chima:
Wrong people are hooking up for the wrong reasons.

DoubleFaith: It is the bitter truth that most people 'in love' dont want to hear. They believe they can change him/her.
But the Bad News is you cant. He/She alone can.

Atheist:-D:


Core traits can be changed permanently. Nothing is 100% guaranteed when it comes to character. It is unlikely but it is possible.

DoubleFaith:

I will agree with you, it can be changed permanently ONLY by the person. He/she alone can make the decision, disipline himself/herself and be dedicated to it. But for you to go into a relationship thinking you can change your partner's CORE trait permanently, I beg to disagree.

Kosigift:

I agree dat u can't change a person, d worst news is, even d guy alone may not be able to change himself!
Surprised? Don't be.
Or how do u xplain a situation where sumone wants to change from a particular habit wholeheartedly BUT still falls back to his old self each time he tries...

DoubleFaith:

My dear, it's very simple. If you can live with those 2 things you dont like after confirming that he/she cant change, then your relationship is perfect that is if you dont always bring it up as an issue.
Just know that CORE traits cannot be changed permanently. It's either you learn to accept it and do not bring it up as an issue in your relationship Or you move on. Simple!

DoubleFaith:

Your wrong reasons could be somebody's right reasons. So go for that choice you can Live with without complaining.

Atheist:-D:


Core traits can be changed permanently. Nothing is 100% guaranteed when it comes to character. It is unlikely but it is possible.

Yield: So, do you think it's best to leave a relationship if a partner has ...let's say, two certain characteristics that you don't like? And these characteristics aren't anything terrible at all, some people might even consider them to be good things, but they bother you. You have expressed your concern to this individual and he/she's trying to work on one, but the other is going to be more difficult to change - because it's just the way he/she is. Again, they're not terrible things and some might consider them to be good characteristics, but you aren't keen on them. Apart from these two things, this person is wonderful, close to being perfect, if there's such a thing as perfection. Apart from these two things, he/she has all the qualities you're looking for in a partner. What would you do in a situation like this? Do you simply accept the person the way they are or do you end the relationship because of those two things that bother you?

DoubleFaith:

The point is CORE traits. He/she cant change his/her core traits permanently. Other minor traits can be changed permanently. Most times the change is gradual, so change from good to bad is noticeable and can be checked.

Mynd_44: The only change I believe people do is to change for the worse......... Cannot get into a relationship with the belief that my partner would change that's like playing Russian roulette

SLIDE waxie: dude, there is nothing like a minor traits. It is only a behavior or attitude u picked up dt can be changed. The ones in ur gene stay forever!

DoubleFaith:

...and that is like playing it taking 'Physics' into account. (A properly maintained & lubricated weapon with a single round in the cylinder will be subject to the laws of gravity meaning the full chamber which weighs more will usually end up near the bottom of the cylinder).

SLIDE waxie: most times, problem doesn't exist, we creat them! With ur explanation, u jes made complications for yourself!

Listen, there are some simple issues dt some people overlook, others get heated over it.
It doesn't matter if the person is trying to change, nobody can truly change.

It is only a behavior dt u pick up dt u can change, those in ur gene will alwys be there!

So, if u can't live with it, let it go!

It's very easy to note these traits: the person simply can't do without it in 3weeks. If it happens, pls dnt bother!

Atheist:-D:


Core traits can be changed permanently. Nothing is 100% guaranteed when it comes to character. It is unlikely but it is possible.

Mynd_44:
That is for a perfect condition and all other factors ignored.....but you forget that in real life, those factors come into play and the machine might not be perfectly lubricated so Booooooom!!!!!! You just got shot

DoubleFaith:

You got it mixed up man. I mean with the perfect condition the weapon has, the full chamber ends up near the bottom altering the odds further in the player's favour.

Mynd_44:
Perfect conditions only exist in books.........

HURUCHI:


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