donroxy: Career shdn't take-over the responsibilities of woman in the house....

Full house-wife is also boring...

I will stay in the middle.....little carrer,big-homie...!!!

MissRaissa: but please avoid being disrespectful towards anyone.

gree-die:
...
housewife? hell no! dat ll be a sin.... against humanity.

MissRaissa: Greetings all,

I am new to Nairaland. This is my very first topic. How exciting! I've heard quite a lot about this forum and I was told some people on here can be quite harsh.

I just wanted to bring up this topic because it’s so close to home.

This question is particularly directed to men but women are more than welcome to provide me with their input.

Men, do you prefer a housewife or a career woman? I want you to be completely honest about your answers, but please avoid being disrespectful towards anyone.

Please explain the reason for your preference.

I am looking forward to seeing all your responses. :-)

mondi_cheeks: I want to be a career woman who spends all day at home planning on how to chop her husband's money

Kaxmytex: 2 my own perception....career woman wey go 4get say im get pikin nd husby 4 hauz o,i fink dat iz bad

and as 4 d housewify tinz,i fink i luv dat....d woman go dey help me massage my body anytym m bak 4rm work ,she go takes gud care of d kids properly nd dere won't b "m so tired" anytym when i wan...........*coughs*

MissRaissa: You all make a good point. I honestly can't see myself as just a housewife. I feel like I need to be an example for my future children, especially if I end up having daughters. I have nothing against housewives, in fact I strongly believe being a mom [/b]is one of the hardest jobs in this world. It is a FULL TIME job with no vacation or time off.

I am looking forward to being a wife/mother one day BUT I also need to have a career. I must have another identity other than being just so and so's wife. I love the idea of being independent.

Chrisbenogor:
Can I kindly correct that to say being a GREAT mom is the hardest job in the world, women do not have it easy.

MissRaissa:

I agree with you. I think it's great to have a balance. Thanks for your input.

obitee69:

So typical!...I know ur from imo state.

vivian chinaza: I'm gonna be both. A career woman to the core who would also have ample time for her husband, kids and family.

Chrisbenogor: Dear OP,
I think it's a choice as with both sides comes different challenges. The personalities of the persons involved also plays a great role as to what they would find more suitable. The housewife has the pros of having a woman who would be at home all the time and tend to the family, on the other hand career woman can also lend a very good hand in reducing the financial burden as well as also fulfil their dreams to become relevant in society.
The way I see it, no holy grail method to marriage exists, it ultimately boils down to both people regardless of whichever path is chosen to make success of their union by remembering what's most important to both of them and if these things match, some men like me would go any length for my family some others want loads of money and a huge empire or even a great career and may or may not care as much, same applies for women here.
The traditional housewife I think is evolving and it's inevitable that with time both couples have to pay attention to the home to cover for the other. Personally I dont want a sit at home wife no one deserves that unless they want to, ultimately the kids would grow and leave, then what?

iagdb:

Being a total housewife can turn a woman into a couch potato, a gossip, a nag! she notices every mistake her husband makes...she watches videos that encourage her to pry into her husbands dealings, which often causes trouble, etc.
Being a total career woman can turn a woman into a man! career can be exhausting and not allow the woman take on some homely responsibilities, and rather, she'll employ hands to do her roles. If she has a homely understanding man...then it could be perfect, they've just swapped roles, but you cant cheat nature at the end of the day, but i see where this works well, with understanding.
It could also be combined, but a housewife+career woman combo...hmm, u go tire o! except ur career is teaching and the likes.
Being a Combo woman makes u a super woman/ man, but u may not live long (lol!), and one will suffer sometimes if not most times.
For women who want to combine, and be effective all round, you may want to start up your own business in the line of ur career (consult or something), that way, you are your own boss, and can still do homework with you kid, or gist on the new guy shadowing your daughter, or give ur husband a great meal, and nice massage, and do movies with the family!
Otherwise, you will miss out on all these things, and can never get it back, and later blame ur husband for not loving you.
Be wise!

gree-die:
i can be a career woman, a loving wife and a good mother...
housewife? hell no! dat ll be a sin.... against humanity.