bukatyne:

I hope you saw the mail I quoted.

Maybe the bolded is really what she's talking about.

bukatyne:

I hope you saw the mail I quoted.

Maybe the bolded is really what she's talking about.

Sexily Endowed: I was being sarcastic. Maybe i am taking it the wrong way but what i understood from her was she wants a man to help her with her domestic chores. If she is not cut up to do domestic chores than why does she not get a maid to help her do those chores she finds difficult to do on her own. Why must it involve blk men as if she thinks white men are doing chores at home. Wake up and smell the coffee woman otherwise you will end up alone because no man wants a nagging woman.

bukatyne:

I wonder how you inferred she nags or who told you she is scared to end up alone.

Why this inherent disrespect towards women? Is she NOT allowed to have a choice?

What is wrong with a man doing chores at home? A husband and wife live in a home and the man does no chores? What does he do when she is cleaning? Must she have a maid?

I think the OP is a very wise person. She has decided the kind of home she wants and the 'likely' set of men who can she can build such an home with. I believe this is far better than marrying a man and hoping, praying, fasting etc. that he changes from how she met him to who she wants him to be.

My problem is her thinking that only a race can give her that. There is the good, bad and ugly everywhere.

Subomi-luv:
I have come to a realisation that it would be best to marry a white man. Ever since i was younger i always felt this attraction to white men, there is just something so sexy and a lil taboo abt white men that i just cannot get out of my system. But its not only physically but mentally too. White men do not have the same complexes and villager mentality as some of the blk men do. They really know how to make a women feel special and carry their weight around such as helping the lady with chores lovingly, just the way they are also on top of the corporate ladder. The Alpha males. They strive to be the best and they uplift you and empower you instead of insulting and accussing you of feminism. I was watching a youtube video of britpopprinces with her white husband and the way this guy is damn no blk man would do the same as he does. Even white men do not have any mishaps abt blk women wearing weaves or being darker or lighter. They see you for yourself. I guess in the past i was shy to admit it. Scared what would ppl say or think. Scared of the stares etc. So i have missed out on some good white guys in the past because of this plus i thought that all just want blk women for one thing. But things are changing, ppl are different. Dnt judge a person based on hearsay and stereotypes. So women this is now 21st century. Do what you need to do. Date who you want whether white, asian, black, nigerian or non-nigerian. You have only one life to live and be with someone who will make you happy and fit your personality. I love white men and i cannot lie.

oyinbogirl: Most white guys are happy to help out around the house, esp when both parties work and all. Go for what attracts you, you know your own feelings best....you will surely find the right one to treasure you

Mrs.Chima:
Safo why u cockblocking?

Becacia_Barbie:
I loveeeeeeeeeeee white Men as well....have alwys wanted to marry one..ever since i was a lil girl, and i hope i will.

Idowuogbo:
visa tinz... we understand.

Sexily Endowed: You are a joke, seeing i am not from London how can i have the same london based IP adress? You talk to much kid really you need to get a life. I remember that old thread were you not accussing shymexx of being untouchablebella? Just because you have 1 million alt accounts i have my high suspicions you are otumfour/petroldollar/abrantie and all the other idiots up in this forum. Get a job because it seems you do not have a life. You need help really. This must be abt the msdarkskin thing lol shame

2buff: This is interesting! .... Because a lot of my nigerian female friends have told me they can't marry white men because they are too polite and too nice.
Apparently they like stubbornness of black/Nigerian men who can command them just by looking at them or telling them to "Sit Down!" even if they don't want to.

Fellas just be yourself. Don't let the OP start making you "re-think" your ways. A woman will never admit to certain things (unless you are close friends), but at the end of the day, it is what their very souls respond to...whether they like it or not.

I hear a lot of married white men bitching and complaining about their "old bag" at home who disrespects them and doesn't treat them like the man of the home. You think the relationship didn't start off all lovey dovey? It is because in the process of the lovey dovey many years back, the man never asserted his dominance nor did he ever use his voice and natural authoritative standing, until it became too late.

The result, 5-10 years later, is then a wild woman who has little to no [size=18pt]natural [/size] respect for her HUSBAND because she grew too free and comfortable with hardly any boundaries placed on her. For a woman, respect must be on the instinct level, and not just superficial, for her to in-turn be a good wife.

2buff: This is interesting! .... Because a lot of my nigerian female friends have told me they can't marry white men because they are too polite and too nice.
Apparently they like stubbornness of black/Nigerian men who can command them just by looking at them or telling them to "Sit Down!" even if they don't want to.

Fellas just be yourself. Don't let the OP start making you "re-think" your ways. A woman will never admit to certain things (unless you are close friends), but at the end of the day, it is what their very souls respond to...whether they like it or not.

I hear a lot of married white men bitching and complaining about their "old bag" at home who disrespects them and doesn't treat them like the man of the home. You think the relationship didn't start off all lovey dovey? It is because in the process of the lovey dovey many years back, the man never asserted his dominance nor did he ever use his voice and natural authoritative standing, until it became too late.

The result, 5-10 years later, is then a wild woman who has little to no [size=18pt]natural [/size] respect for her HUSBAND because she grew too free and comfortable with hardly any boundaries placed on her. For a woman, respect must be on the instinct level, and not just superficial, for her to in-turn be a good wife.

bukatyne:

Interesting!

A wife should have boundaries placed...

hmmm...

Marriage means different things to different people...

bukatyne:

Interesting!

A wife should have boundaries placed...

hmmm...

Marriage means different things to different people...

Shollypopz: Thanks for the unsolicited information

For someone that is supposedly westernized, u want to tell me u haven't met white guys that are just like African men in believing they are the head and sh1t. Those that believe their wives should be stay-at-home mums and.....
Especially the Southern religious ones

There are plenty of men in our generation who do not think like the average NL guy and do not have those backward-chauvinistic mentality. Surround yourself with educated black men(ones from good school and good/comfortable family background), you can always tell by their appearance. No responsible, hard working black man gives a sh1t if u wear weaves or if ur hair is permed or not. As long as u don't look a hot mess, u're good. Most African men I know do not even care

Shymexx and his kinds are tHe bottom of the barrell, stop judging young naija men by the rubbish that comes out of NL men a$$es. Most of the guys on here are touts and meat sellers in real life.

Flytefalls:
I think I'm going to follow ShymexxLion, he had me listening to Anthony B last night. #JahRastafari.KingOfKings!

There is a Jamaican man here (work) I'm gonna punch if he doesn't stop chatting about Jamaican supremacy in the Caribbean. Then he wrongly assumed the Columbian girl opposite me was from Spain because she speaks Spanish (he actually said she must be from Madrid or Barcelona kmt). Can I put a Batman call out for ShymexxLion please to educate his bredrin Mandem, before I join the OP and hate on Jamaican men

Subomi-luv:
Maybe i am unlucky because i am yet to meet those tons that you are talking abt. Yeah am sure you will get some who wil say once in a blue moon i may help her. Yes there are high divorce rates but i think for me if you marry someone you truly love and both strong in faith and do things to keep marriage good and respectful then it would work. I mean i could get married to a blk guy and get a divorce. Its not abt stats. I"m not saying white men are perfect. What am saying is culturally they are different too. Alot of these white men in relationships with white women and in household its common. While in african its abt what is a girls duty vs a mans duty.

bukatyne:

We all know that blacks would lead in that department if there was no stigma against divorce