donchris999: Mugu of the highest level. Self-indictment on the yoruba women. See how you acknowledged that your women are promiscous and adulterous in nature like your men. I never knew till today that yoruba men have started marrying igbo women. So that is the easiest way to escape from your promiscous and adulterous nature. Instead of you lots to tackle the problem to the roots, y'all have given up turning to igbo women. So you have realized that our women are beautiful and faithful. Lol. How is your igbo wife guy. Whom are you lots leaving for your women, is it swines, because we igbo men and even hausa(the sharia kings) dont tolerate that promiscuity, adulterous, lazy and dirty things. We treat our women like queens that is why we dont engage in all this marrying several wives and concubines. I doubt igbo women will marry a yoruba man after one stupid yoruba man bathed an igbo lady with acid last year just because the lady refused to engage in the yoruba trademark which is "wife go and sale your body for your husband' lazy men, who use their wives to make money without qualms. What a culture. Pataki the isi aki. Now get out of my sight and go and take some hot slaps from your wife for being a dirty lazy Yoruba idiota of the ape planet. Mugu raise to power 70*70.

jidegirl12: Maa Jo lo mo n weyin E Pataki eeyan iyi... Agglomeration of balderdash

* back to work*

byvan: I wonder why no one is seeing that Vicoson's wife is getting it wrong somewhere.

vicoson: you are beginning to sound like smart alec. If you do not have comprehension problem, you would be able to see that I lay more emphasis on APPRECIATION. How will it come if one didn't do anything of note? You think you are the smartest person on this forum? I wonder the kind of values you'll inculcate in your children.

Pataki:

You must be living a sorrowful life if your posts depends on how many likes you get. If I had to cross check your profile, I won't be surprised if you are one of those jobless 'first to comment' crew. Long been on this forum to know what to say and how to bring my comment across. If you find it not real, move on! Pataki will spit out his mind not minding whose ox is gored!

Now coming back to your gobbledygook, every man is certainly proud. However, if your so-called pride exist just to be used to spite your wife, as an example the OP claiming that his wife barely has an O'level certificate while he is a graduate. That is utmost foolishness and pride in a relationship! No real man should ever come online and denigrate his own wife, mother of his own kids! Nor even draw comparisons between himself and his wife.

Everything the OP said was simply all about how good he is and what kind of devil and low life he married as a wife. A nagging man - what a disgrace to real men. Pffffff!

It seems you lot do not know how to respect your women.

Furthermore, kindly work on your written English. It is appalling. In the earlier days of NL, you would have been banned for this eyesore English you have subjected one to.

pekelepekele: Each time I attend a wedding party. I will look at the bridesgroom carefully , watch him dancing , kissing the bride and I will smile and say it on my mind that You go soon hear am . Women hmmm , it's not easy to control them

Pataki:

Oh oh! When last did you appreciate your wife for the even the little she does at home? You come here telling us she is dirty bla bla bla.

What I think of myself on this forum does not matter here. You brought your issue here possibly expecting that everyone will show empathy to your plight and join you in the cause of shouting your wife and mother of your kids down.

One thing I would teach my children is that: so far they have NEVER seen me making love (having sex) to their mother infront of them, I would also ensure that they would NEVER see me hate, fight, denigrate or insult their mother infront of them.

If the bedroom is where we make love (have sex), it should also be the place we settle our quarrels. Not going around like a spoilt brat sulking and spewing that forgiveness is a privilege for my spouse.

May God help us all - Amin!

vicoson: You obviously are talented at insulting people, you wouln't let any oportunity pass you by. What is your problem with someone's English? Men are not known for this kind of attitude. Apparently, you only know how to respect women must you pick a fight with everyone that disagrees with you? You must be deluded to think you can just come here and force this nonsense of yours down people's throat. It's enough please. Keep your opinion to your self.

vicoson: Mr. Man, learn how to correct people without insulting them. You obviosly know it all.

Pataki:

Oh oh! When last did you appreciate your wife for the even the little she does at home? You come here telling us she is dirty bla bla bla.

What I think of myself on this forum does not matter here. You brought your issue here possibly expecting that everyone will show empathy to your plight and join you in the cause of shouting your wife and mother of your kids down.

One thing I would teach my children is that: so far they have NEVER seen me making love (having sex) to their mother infront of them, I would also ensure that they would NEVER see me hate, fight, denigrate or insult their mother infront of them.

If the bedroom is where we make love (have sex), it should also be the place we settle our quarrels. Not going around like a spoilt brat sulking and spewing that forgiveness is a privilege for my spouse.

May God help us all - Amin!

Pataki:

Pray tell, what was insulting in my quoted comment above

I will openly apologize if you deem whatever statement therein as insulting.

Pataki:

Now it becomes glaring why exactly your community has rejected you. You are highly unstable in your thought process. No coherent flow of thoughts and words. Must really be sheer agony on your clan having a demented goat in their midst all these years. See why I called you a child with mental issues. In medical terms you are clearly a bipolar gerbil!

1. You and the other dunce claimed I am looking for married women on the forum.

2. You now state I have an igbo wife (Orisirisi!).

3. You now stated again....you doubt if Igbo ladies would even date Yoruba men based on your demented thought process.

I could go on and on.....breaking down your foolishness to you. However suffice it to say that tribalism does not make you articulate. See Achebe for further reference.

Igbo ladies appreciate a real man. A man who does not drag his wife in open shame like the OP. A man who respects his wife as his equal regardless of educational status or background. You reek of foolishness. You are incoherent in your words and you need mental help. You are truly a living disaster waiting to explode in the hands of an innocent igbo lady! May God help the woman who has the misfortune of saying or has said: "yes I do" to your goat-shaped mouth!

Ewure jati-jati!

biolabee: donchris i dont get u at all

first u diss the man saying he is trying to ingratiate himself with the ladies then you launch a ballistic assault against the SW

I am tempted to think all is not well somewhere

donchris999: Biolabee, i was trying to caution that pataki the isi aki on how he denigrates men even when a woman is at fault and instead of him to direct his insults on me he went all over to my tribe. Now go back and check who involved tribe and you expect me to cowardly give in to the insults on my tribe. I dont do tribe thing in the family section, i hardly even post here self not to talk of tribe fights. I only do that in the politics section. Anyway pataki the isi aki is one of the dirty yoruba men giving the yoruba people a bad name. He is a criminal that is claiming to be an angel. He needs to start taking men and women as equals and not always denigrating, insulting and abusing men anyhow.

Pataki:

Once a tribalist, forever a tribalist. It does not matter whichever board you choose to display your sheer inanity.

Denigrating, insulting and abusing are synonyms. Stop trying to use words that are way beyond your intellectual capacity. Olodo oshi.

I take men and women as equals. I have even repeatedly stated that here to the OP. Not that you would even foolishly notice though. Too much drivels drives through your brain, for you to even know how to think articulately.

Just today, another Nigerian man cheated on his wife and when found out slit the throat of his wife. The story is right here on the family board. This is what Pataki is strongly against - Nigerian men who subject their wives to emotional and physical torture resulting in most cases to loss of life.

If I defend women here, that is because I believe a man should exude more maturity in marriage. A real man is a pacesetter. That is how we are designed. We are expected to be leaders in our home in good deeds and by good example. You want a forgiving wife - show her forgiveness. You want a selfish wife - show her selfishness. You want a lazy woman - show her laziness. How hard is this concept to grasp in your dull idiotic skull!

Pataki does not chase women here. I have no ulterior motives to my stand on marriages esp. when it bother on we men! I have seen good examples in my life and I am indeed proud to see a working relationship. Go back to your village and address the people who did not show you good qualities of a man.

Didinrin omo.

Pataki:

Once a tribalist, forever a tribalist. It does not matter whichever board you choose to display your sheer inanity.

Denigrating, insulting and abusing are synonyms. Stop trying to use words that are way beyond your intellectual capacity. Olodo oshi.

I take men and women as equals. I have even repeatedly stated that here to the OP. Not that you would even foolishly notice though. Too much drivels drives through your brain, for you to even know how to think articulately.

Just today, another Nigerian man cheated on his wife and when found out slit the throat of his wife. The story is right here on the family board. This is what Pataki is strongly against - Nigerian men who subject their wives to emotional and physical torture resulting in most cases to loss of life.

If I defend women here, that is because I believe a man should exude more maturity in marriage. A real man is a pacesetter. That is how we are designed. We are expected to be leaders in our home in good deeds and by good example. You want a forgiving wife - show her forgiveness. You want a selfish wife - show her selfishness. You want a lazy woman - show her laziness. How hard is this concept to grasp in your dull idiotic skull!

Pataki does not chase women here. I have no ulterior motives to my stand on marriages esp. when it bother on we men! I have seen good examples in my life and I am indeed proud to see a working relationship. Go back to your village and address the people who did not show you good qualities of a man.

Didinrin omo.

Pataki:

Once a tribalist, forever a tribalist. It does not matter whichever board you choose to display your sheer inanity.

Denigrating, insulting and abusing are synonyms. Stop trying to use words that are way beyond your intellectual capacity. Olodo oshi.

I take men and women as equals. I have even repeatedly stated that here to the OP. Not that you would even foolishly notice though. Too much drivels drives through your brain, for you to even know how to think articulately.

Just today, another Nigerian man cheated on his wife and when found out slit the throat of his wife. The story is right here on the family board. This is what Pataki is strongly against - Nigerian men who subject their wives to emotional and physical torture resulting in most cases to loss of life.

If I defend women here, that is because I believe a man should exude more maturity in marriage. A real man is a pacesetter. That is how we are designed. We are expected to be leaders in our home in good deeds and by good example. You want a forgiving wife - show her forgiveness. You want a selfish wife - show her selfishness. You want a lazy woman - show her laziness. How hard is this concept to grasp in your dull idiotic skull!

Pataki does not chase women here. I have no ulterior motives to my stand on marriages esp. when it bother on we men! I have seen good examples in my life and I am indeed proud to see a working relationship. Go back to your village and address the people who did not show you good qualities of a man.

Didinrin omo.

vicoson: @donchris999 The expletive laden tirade going on here is becoming very ugly. I know people have learnt from my experience but this tirade? I didn't bargain for it. Thanks for your solidarity. Leave Pataki alone. He is on his own and he knows it. Go grab a bottle of beer and calm your nerves. By the way, things are beginning to take a better shape in my home now. Thanks everyone, including Pataki!

50calibre: How the hell did you manage to get ensnared in the trap of an mbaise woman, an illiterate one for that matter? Haven you heard the saying " if you get caught between a snake and an mbaise woman, kill the mbaise woman first" mbaise women are like leeches, they contribute nothing positive to your life, apart from sucking you dry.

Gather your thoughts together, make plans, go to a marriage court and dissolve the marriage. Nigeria is dysfunctional, with money you would get custody of the kids. Take your kids and go drop them with your people, they are better off there than with her.

personaldomest:

Generalizations are unacceptable. Stop stereotyping people. People are who they are irrespective of tribe or Nationality. Stereotypes are degrading. Saying that women from a particular tribe bad is just as horrible as generalizing that all Nigerians are corrupt.

vicoson: My wife says she did me a favour by marrying me, so I should be happy she married me.

We've been married for 3 years with 2 kids. Prior to our marriage we dated for about a year. She even moved in with me when she had accomodation problem for 6 months. During this period I saw hell. She showed me no respect, was playing her games very openly. Her phone rings 24/7, multiple love sms.

When I talk about settling down together, she would say her parents won't agree because my place is far-I'm from Akwa Ibom and she is from Mbaise. Obviously she did not want to marry me but she wouldn't just leave.

She travelled twice to check out some suitors while she was still leaving with me and I got to know from another source. She didn't deny it but said her sister's gave her the connection. One of those guys is an illiterate drug pusher.

Finally things got to a head. I dicovered condoms hidden in her handbag, I had to throw her out of my house. Somehow somehow, we hooked again but this time I only wanted to use her. Not quite long she took in. Although both of us had earlier agreed we won't marry each other, she later claimed she has started loving me but I did not love her anymore.
I went ahead and married her. I even did elaborate wedding. From day one till today, it has always been trouble.

Complaint, complaint,complaint. Nagging,nagging,nagging. She is at the centre of the universe, everybody must worship her, she must be in charge.

Trust me, with this pride I made sure she wields zero power in my house.

Before I forget, I am a Mechanical Engineer, she doesn't have a good O-level.

Yes, my emotions are on vacation, is it my fault?

vicoson:
I love those kids n they look like me.

vicoson:
I did not marry her because I loved her but I felt she will appreciate the fact that I married her against all odds. I was wrong. I think it was a conscience thing and I'm happy I did the right thing. Now I have to send her packing because I'm not sure I can give her what she wants. She wants romance which I don't have.

hbpeze:


how is your marriage with ur woman.its been 2 years now

vicoson:
. This is actually funny. The last two years were very rough but the last two months was perfect. What changed? She went to places in search of the cause of our problems and was told some funny stuff. Though she always thought my people were the reason behind our issues, this time around, all fingers pointed to her people. Not that I believe in those stuff, but I just count myself lucky that our problems were not compounded by a fake prophet. As she has decided to be a wife these few months, we've not been having any issues and I pray it continues. Thanks for your concern.