I always find myself digging into my wife's past, on facebook, nairaland, her phones, she has a really deep and not pleasant past, but yet i still dig and want to know mORE, nd now its affecting my marriage, i always pick her phones now, reAd through them thoroughly, everytime i see her chats with a man or i ex i get worried that she might still be d same old person. So she passworded her phones to keep me from bothering myself unecessarilly cos indeed i bother myself at every instance. NL i want to save my marriage, my fears is about to mess everything up. I love hee very much and dont wanna loose her. One advice from u might save my marriage.

See a shrink and stop being paranoid.
Also,You have to learn to trust her.

Hmmm@ op don't bother yourself about her her past and stop being paranoid by looking through her phone u will give urself heart attack by what u might find stop reading her messages before u kill yourself because of a woman because u will end up destroying your family and resent her .

butta: Hmmm@ op don't bother yourself about her her past and stop being paranoid by looking through her phone u will give urself heart attack by what u might find stop reading her messages before u kill yourself because of a woman because u will end up destroying your family and resent her .

Hmmmmmmm, u right. I refuse to settle for resentment
But really y should anyone in a marriage av details dat will upset d other party on his or her phone. Marriage is all about sacrifice

I wonder what kind of marriages people indulge in these dAys,can't she loose contact with these exes,if it makes her husband paranoid??Why keeping the exes contacts,is that necessary??well nah, una know as una dey take live,may be you chAt with your ex too,if you do,she has a right to retain hers.Marriage is simple but people just love complications,why?......pass word phone ke?


All these you ll give yourself heart ache advice sef,what's wrong with couple going through each others phones.To each his own sha.

byvan: I wonder what kind of marriages people indulge in these dAys,can't she loose contact with these exes,if it makes her husband paranoid??Why keeping the exes contacts,is that necessary??well nah, una know as una dey take live,may be you chAt with your ex too,if you do,she has a right to retain hers.Marriage is simple but people just love complications,why?......pass word phone ke?


All these you ll give yourself heart ache advice sef,what's wrong with couple going through each others phones.To each his own sha.

I tire o all this wives that keep keeping exs I wonder if they have plans of going back to this exs after getting married to another man

byvan: I wonder what kind of marriages people indulge in these dAys,can't she loose contact with these exes,if it makes her husband paranoid??Why keeping the exes contacts,is that necessary??well nah, una know as una dey take live,may be you chAt with your ex too,if you do,she has a right to retain hers.Marriage is simple but people just love complications,why?......pass word phone ke?



All these you ll give yourself heart ache advice sef,what's wrong with couple going through each others phones.To each his own sha.

Somebody finally gets my point. Y password like am her boyfriend.
I dont av contact of a single ex of mine on my phone.

Babz temmy:
Somebody finally gets my point. Y password like am her boyfriend.
I dont av contact of a single ex of mine on my phone.

@ op your wife must be a very dodgy woman for passwording her fone from u I bet u she is hiding somthing from u but don't go nosing into her fone cuz heart attack will catch u

butta: @ op your wife must be a very dodgy woman for passwording her fone from u I bet u she is hiding somthing from u but don't go nosing into her fone cuz heart attack will catch u

I decided to leave her with her passwords, she said she passworded hee phones to keep me from reading meanings to every detail on her phone.

seriously if your wife passworded her phone she is keep some thing from you

Scarpon: seriously if your wife passworded her phone she is keep some thing from you

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Thank you!!!!! So wat do u advice me to do? Am sad

ur marriage will come down if after ur research,it's less satisfying..u are paranoid,y dont u keep off d fone 4 a while nd hit on the main point:your wife.

shey den say marriage is based on trust,this one is'nt,op,sitdown nd
have a hearty talk with her or probably focus on your kids and still save your marriage.

Babz temmy: .
Thank you!!!!! So wat do u advice me to do? Am sad

Why can't you let this woman know that she can't keep this exes because you are not comfortAble with them,if she refuses,password your phones as well.Don't cheatoooooo,but stArt acting suspicious and carefree,see what she ll do.If this woman feel anything for you,you ll definitely see her worries,let's see what happens......


You are a man,damn it!!!just know what's going on In that phone,no man has the right to flirt with your wife while she is still under your roof.Put your feet down here please.......

mysticgal:
shey den say marriage is based on trust,this one is'nt,op,sitdown nd
have a hearty talk with her or probably focus on your kids and still save your marriage.

Its hard to focus on kids only,if you are still in love with your spouse,its easier said than done.

byvan:

Why can't you let this woman know that she can't keep this exes because you are not comfortAble with them,if she refuses,password your phones as well.Don't cheatoooooo,but stArt acting suspicious and carefree,see what she ll do.If this woman feel anything for you,you ll definitely see her worries,let's see what happens......


You are a man,damn it!!!just know what's going on In that phone,no man has the right to still flirt with your wife while under your roof.Put your foot down here please.......

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mysticgal: ur marriage will come down if after ur research,it's less satisfying..u are paranoid,y dont u keep off d fone 4 a while nd hit on the main point:your wife.

Okay so how do i take up d issue with her, an not suspecting her in anyway, i just feel d idea of her locking her phones means dere is a stranger somewhere, password is for strangers not 2 people dat had bin joined together. My opinion though

Kill yourself

CAMEROONPRIDE: Kill yourself

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Locking her phones means,there is something she doesn't want you to see.Cheating doesn't have to be the actual "do".

byvan:

Why can't you let this woman know that she can't keep this exes because you are not comfortAble with them,if she refuses,password your phones as well.Don't cheatoooooo,but stArt acting suspicious and carefree,see what she ll do.If this woman feel anything for you,you ll definitely see her worries,let's see what happens......


You are a man,damn it!!!just know what's going on In that phone,no man has the right to flirt with your wife while she is still under your roof.Put your feet down here please.......

follow this step if u think she is the stubborn one follow this step.
WARNING: with caution ohh

Scarpon: follow this step if u think she is the stubborn one follow this step.
WARNING: with caution ohh

Thanks NL got all d answers i need. God bless you all

Man grow up and be the man. Let your wife change her mobile line and everything she use's to have contact with these ex's or those you feel she might be flirting with. You are not dating a girl friend, that's your wife and you have right to everything she has right to. You have to draw a line, make sure she abides by it and if she continues to go astray, my friend am so sorry to tell you...she can't be trusted. Far from this, you have to learn to trust your wife and stop feeling insecure cos it can't settle emotional torture your are going through. Simply tell her to change every contact she has that may bring these ex's back and be happy with her once again. Period!

I had a case like this before, I live at Abuja and my gal lives in PH. When I went to visit her I noticed there was one particular number calling her, so I checked her phone it was one of her male friend's that I know very well. When I came back to my base this findings was actually disturbing me seriously, so I had to tell her to cut off that guy from her life, that the calls are becoming too much. I told her to delete the guy from her FB friends, BB Messenger and all that. She started all these their "You don't trust me any more", I told her I trust her like I trust my self but she should not let this guy to be as free as he was with her and if she love's me she should do what I said. This lingered to little argument over the phone, I had to cut the call for her to know I was damn serious. After about 30 minutes I checked her FB friends I couldn't find the guy among her friend's and when I came for a business meeting with some of my Investor's at Enugu I had to rush to PH to see her but brother, I had to stumble on her by surprise, lo and behold the guy was no where to be seeing in her BB messenger and no more calls with him and when she came to Abuja to see me, there was no call too cos she stayed more than 2 weeks. I asked her what she told the guy by deleting him virtually in everything under her possession, she told the guy I was feeling somehow and she loves me so much to gamble with that. If a girlfriend would do that, how much more a wife you married with your own money My Brother, guide your home, be incharge and be the man, stop chicken out!!! Your wife should have her say but let there be line drawn for everyone living under your roof. My 2 cent!!!

Just as a bfHmmmmm,nawaooooh.she really trusts you to fall for this ultimatum,hopefully you won't dump her after her sacrifices.


Married to her now?

Awwww! This is too sad.

Just sit her down and talk to her about it. Tell her how you feel about the wholestuff. Ask her how she would feel if you were doing same. I'm sure there are things she would wanna let you in on. Maybe there's something she would wanna talk to you about. To sum it up, just have a heart-to-heart talk with her

byvan: Just as a bfHmmmmm,nawaooooh.she really trusts you to fall for this ultimatum,hopefully you won't dump her after her sacrifices.

That was long ago, we are together now.

Tashamania: Awwww! This is too sad.

Just sit her down and talk to her about it. Tell her how you feel about the wholestuff. Ask her how she would feel if you were doing same. I'm sure there are things she would wanna let you in on. Maybe there's something she would wanna talk to you about. To sum it up, just have a heart-to-heart talk with her

I have password on my phone too and she doesnt even know my pAssword, sometime ago she was also in dis shoes, but am a man i have a right to passwords but i dont think as a woman she should be doing all that

Babz temmy:
I have password on my phone too and she doesnt even know my pAssword, sometime ago she was also in dis shoes, but am a man i have a right to passwords but i dont think as a woman she should be doing all that

Now here we go again on what a woman is meant to do and not...

For Godsake, she's your wife and she has everyright as you do in the house. Is marriage not about two becoming one? I hate that I(single) have to be the one preaching this to you. This is what you should know already.
Creating or rather having your password already doesnt help this, rather it compounds problem. There's nothing to hide, from the look of things, you are not the saint nor the best here and I wouldnt crucify her for putting passwords on her accounts too.

You are both guilty of the same crime. Remember the saying "Two blind men cannot lead each other". One just have to let go for the other here, and in this case, you been the man and a stronger vessel and also the one complaing should that. And it is only when this has been done that my previous post comes to play. It is well.

Babz temmy: I always find myself digging into my wife's past, on facebook, nairaland, her phones, she has a really deep and not pleasant past, but yet i still dig and want to know mORE, nd now its affecting my marriage, i always pick her phones now, reAd through them thoroughly, everytime i see her chats with a man or i ex i get worried that she might still be d same old person. So she passworded her phones to keep me from bothering myself unecessarilly cos indeed i bother myself at every instance. NL i want to save my marriage, my fears is about to mess everything up. I love hee very much and dont wanna loose her. One advice from u might save my marriage.

Mistake number one was digging into her past after marriage ,unless she gave you a wrong signal that made you to embark on this fruitless ,painful and wasteful journey.

If she's innocent of what i stated above, but with your twisted mind and stupidity that knows no boundary you decided to dig up her past after marriage then you're so insecure and you're marriage is about to hit the rock.

Finally ,on a lighter note ...if you feel cheated by her past sexcapade then go drink anafralin,viagra and all the gbogbotigbo and bleep the hell out of her..... the problem is, that place na rubber you no go fit break am

Babz temmy:
I have password on my phone too and she doesnt even know my pAssword, sometime ago she was also in dis shoes, but am a man i have a right to passwords but i dont think as a woman she should be doing all that

You are a man??meaning what?no one has a right to any password the spouse won't know of,what do you think marriage is??where you flex your muscles,screw up and say you are a man?Bros I think say nah reasonable person I dey talk to.You never need peace for your marriage,your wife has a right to her password then.

^ don't mind d selfish man
Men!!!
Hian