FXKing2012:
Why the anger?

Unluvable*:


Because he's among the dxy populace offended by a dxx specie for not wanting to deal with an xy whose wallet is empty
Hope I got the damn analysis

esere826: To avoid angry and unproductive outbursts
let us quickly move to finding solutions to the malady afflicting our societal marital/mating structure
and clear the backlog of unattached females in our society

The preceeding narratives should be useful to both guys and gals

I'll be using Pastor Paul Adefarasin as a case study and weighing his relationship against my model developed in Post #3

eagle,eye:

Like someone already said, there are exceptions to the rule. "Love" is not the norm in Nigerian relationships, it's an exception.

"I love you" from a girl could mean different things.

IamAthens: You are a foooooooooolllll. Its eida u do ashawo or wait 4 dangote et al pikin 2 kip u as a mistres. No go wrk 4 ur moni dey dia dy wait 4 man.

esere826: ^^^

Nna
me and you apparently have this in common:
We no dey use woman matter play

Chei!! see scientific analysis

esere826:

Assumption: For long term mating, you want to start nailing a particular 'class' of girls outside ur present laegue

Steps include, but not limited to:
Like everything else in life, it first requires planning and an acceptance of some false start
Examine the kind of men they seem to like
What is the gap between the guys and u?
What can be changed, that you want to be changed to breach that gap
for example type of education, type of company those guys hangout with etc

Identify your target
place her on the the scale i have prepared
What do u have that is greater than what she has, and she aspires for
accentuate such value
*isolate her if need be. This reduces natural tendency to compare you with others
Get into her mind and then redefine and shape her values to fit into urs

She's all yours when you are through with this


*isolation should not be taken literarily in this text

esere826:

Assumption: For long term mating, you want to start nailing a particular 'class' of girls outside ur present laegue

Steps include, but not limited to:
Like everything else in life, it first requires planning and an acceptance of some false start
Examine the kind of men they seem to like
What is the gap between the guys and u?
What can be changed, that you want to be changed to breach that gap
for example type of education, type of company those guys hangout with etc

Identify your target
place her on the the scale i have prepared
What do u have that is greater than what she has, and she aspires for
accentuate such value
*isolate her if need be. This reduces natural tendency to compare you with others
Get into her mind and then redefine and shape her values to fit into urs

She's all yours when you are through with this


*isolation should not be taken literarily in this text

esere826:

you forgot to add

.....And cofee maker

AjanleKoko:

Interesting premises sha.

The kind of chicks I dated in uni were what I considered to be easier marks for me. Not much drama, averagely okay, and met my criteria for form above substance. A few 'hidden gems', i.e. chicks that were fine and from an above average background, but didn't roll with the 'it' crowd. Those ones did not give me much hassle, as I had an above average rep, not doing badly in school, and I didn't have to be a club boy or anything to roll with them. More importantly, I no get money to burn, or other efizis

When I started life after school, the entire picture changed. I decided to 'step up' to the chicks that prolly would not have fit into my dating criteria in school, or would have not gone out with me out of social pressure. That presented a different type of challenge, but a richer and more rewarding dating pool.

In fact, I even spent time and resources chasing a daughter of one of the richest and most recognized names in SW Nigeria. Of course it didn't fly eventually, but I got so close that I ended up getting closely connected to that family nonetheless. And what eventually clicked into marriage for me was Grade A stuff

brokoto: chilo.

esere826: Ajanlekoko made a fine point that spells like me


I understand the dynamics of dating, but prefer stretching Upwards and sideways
This would invariably mean that some chicks like their male counterparts would label me a gold digger
I dont player hate chicks when they diss me

I instead learn my lessons, improve my value, dust my khaki and get ready for the next moutain climbing

phaya: @Op your post is so intelligent that MOST people are afraid to comment! Keep it up!!! Thank your stars you are already taken or else.... :-/

blaise26.abj:
@ Op; while i admire the simplicity of your analysis, i believe the dynamics of mate selection is much more complex and should not be limited to finances.

phaya: @Op your post is so intelligent that MOST people are afraid to comment! Keep it up!!! Thank your stars you are already taken or else.... :-/

platinumricky: *dashes to grab a seat* this topic is so on point!

esere826:

Your suggestion actually waltz me towards the subject I initially intended to pursue. i.e the dwindling pool of male lovers:

My observation/hypothesis shows that the 24 to 29 age demography of women (lets call this Dxx)
have a short supply of 'right' men in that same 24 to 29 age demography (Lets call this Dxy)

In Nigeria, The 'right' men can be found more in the 32 to 42 years demography (Dyy)
Unfortunately, Dyy men that are single are few

Consequences:
1) As the Dxx ladies gradually approach the nothern age boundaries of their demography they unconciously or conciously start 'lowering' their standards for mates
2) With Dyy type males in 'short' supply, and a strong need to satisfy the aspirational instincts to mate with Dyy type men, Dxx ladies tend to throw themselves at the few single Dyy men. In the absense of this, they 'tend' to cheat with Dyy men that are married

esere826:

Nigerian girls like all other girls around the world fall in love
The idea behind my writeup, is that love is largely quantifiable and can therefore be valued
Within the brutish nature of the Nigerian society, it is only natural that love shares the same denomination as money

esere826: To avoid angry and unproductive outbursts
let us quickly move to finding solutions to the malady afflicting our societal marital/mating structure
and clear the backlog of unattached females in our society

The preceeding narratives should be useful to both guys and gals

I'll be using Pastor Paul Adefarasin as a case study and weighing his relationship against my model developed in Post #3

tpia@:
Topic

The govt has to get involved at some point, at both the local and national level.

Bring in husbands for the women.

I think they (govt) know what to do.

Dont just leave these things to babalawos and crime lords only