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Worried that you're about to
get bonked with the breakup
stick? Here are some tip-offs
to an oncoming ouster -- and
some advice to help you stop
the madness, or step off before you get stepped on.
Split-up Sign #1: You never get to hear that cute cell
phone ring you downloaded
just for him The Symptoms: You guys used to talk several
times a week, but lately, the
calls come less often. He says
he's busy at work, but it just
doesn't ring true. Just like
your phone.
What's Behind It: After the initial rush of crush endorphins, he's
worried that he's become
whipped. Regular check-ins
are a sign, to him, that he's
really getting committed, and
the routine makes him feel trapped. Hence, his little phone
rebellion.
Salvage it: Become less available. Make cool plans,
particularly ones that he'd
find fun, and become
tantalizingly busy. Once he
sees that as an independent
chickie, you're not going to entrap his free spirit, he
should snap out of it.
Scrap it: Allow your calls to slack off at exactly the same rate,
until nobody is calling
anybody. Voila:
uncomfortable conversation
averted.
Wrong Tactic: Calling obsessively and
hanging up on him. He may be
immature, but he is capable of
seeing right through that
blocked number on his caller
I.D.

Split-up Sign #2: Your sheets are distressingly un-
mussed.
The Symptoms: There's been a negative
change in your sex pattern - in
other words, you're just not
doing it as much.
What's Behind It: There could be several reasons for the doin'-it
decline: a health problem,
maybe work woes. Or there
could be a real issue at hand:
he's tired of the same-old
same-old, and his libido has taken a snooze.
Salvage it: Give it a few weeks, to be
sure there isn't some
temporary trouble that has
nothing to do with you. Then
invite him over, and greet him
at the door in a French maid outfit. With a feather duster.
Scrap it: If weeks become months and the spark seems
to have truly faded, the
"we'd-be-better-friends-than-
lovers" speech might actually
work here -- and might even,
for once, be true.
Wrong Tactic: Asking about it directly. Men are fragile
creatures, and a direct assault
will surely scare the
groundhog right back into his
den. And a girl with her hands
on her hips, nagging "Why won't you have sex with
me?" ... Not alluring.

Split-up Sign #3: When it comes to making plans... he
won't.
The Symptoms: God forbid you buy tickets to
anything -- you eat your
heart out while he decides if
he'll be able to make it, even
with a healthy three-week
lead time.
What's Behind It: Making plans equals planning
for the future. Planning for
the future equals
commitment. Commitment
equals FEAR! Get it? Your guy
might resist the nonrefundable package deal
to New Orleans. Or he might
get spooked each Saturday. It
sorta depends on his
personality.
Salvage it: This is bad behavior, and there's
only one way to tame it:
Disappear. Give him one
chance to get on board, and
then make alternate plans --
ones he can't join in on. Yes, it stinks -- you have no
boyfriend for, like, three
weeks. But if he's worth
keeping, he'll get the hint.
Pronto.
Scrap it: Then again, if he's not worth keeping --
this tactic will prove it, and
you can move on without
guilt. Hey, you gave him a
chance to come along.
Wrong Tactic: Trying to make rules and insisting that he come to
Saturday game-night or suffer
an hour-long tirade. Sheesh.
Are you his girlfriend, or his
mom?

Split-up Sign #4: He gives you the "I Need Space" speech
The Symptoms: As symptoms go, this is a pretty
obvious one -- he actually
communicates a desire to not
be around you as much.
What's Behind It: This is often a panic-inducing
situation, but it doesn't have
to be. Yes, sometimes "space"
is a euphemism for "buh-bye."
But sometimes, it really does
mean that he'd like to re- adjust the relationship so that
a little absence can make his
heart grow fonder.
Salvage it: Give him space. As requested. Allowing him as
much space as you can stand,
while still making your
presence known (with
sporadic check-in e-mails, a
card in the mail, a song dedicated on the radio), can
make you absolutely adorable
to him.
Scrap it: If you suspect he's more of an
astronaut than you can stand,
trump his space request by
saying you should see other
people. And mean it.
Wrong Tactic: Saying "No, you can't have space." That is
guaranteed to backfire:
instead of taking a little space
now, he'll take all the space he
needs -- by leaving the
relationship.

Split-up Sign #5: As Sting nearly sang it, "Every little
thing you do is un-magic"
The Symptoms: The very things about you that he used to find
cute, he now finds irritating --
and seems to be picking petty
fights over everything you
do.
What's Behind It: This is more common than you'd
think - and while it can mean
he's tired of you, it more
likely is a sign that likes you
more than he wants to admit.
And that you're spending too much time together, stirring
your spoon in your coffee cup
around ... and around ... and
around....
Salvage it: Don't even play into his irritation.
Give him a little breathing
room - either let his comments
roll off your back, or
gracefully bow out every
time he throws a fit over nothing. A little free time
should let him know he's
stepping out of bounds. Scrap it: If he's really indulging in some very bad manners,
you're excused from
politeness yourself. Take
yourself out of an
uncomfortable situation
altogether-and don't return his calls.
Wrong Tactic: Crying, apologizing, and
changing when you clearly
didn't actually do anything
wrong. This just sets up a
pattern that will only get
worse as time goes on.

Split-up Sign #6: You just have that sick feeling in your
gut
The Symptoms: An intangible sense that things
just aren't going right.
What's Behind It: Well, it could be paranoia. Or you
could be right. Unfortunately,
computer technology has not
developed enough for us to
diagnose this one for you.
Salvage it: Try a straightforward conversation.
Remember that guys don't
generally like those, so do it in
a way that really sounds like
friends talking, and make it
clear that while you'd like to stay with him, you don't
want to keep him in a
situation that truly doesn't fit.
Scrap it: If you've been having the same gut feeling
about him, maybe you're
both right. But in the absence
of identifiable problems, you
owe him the same
conversation.
Wrong Tactic: Committing a pre-emptive
dump. If it turns out that you
really were just being
paranoid, and in fact he's
preoccupied by a problem at
work, you could end up being the worst kind of bad guy. As
a result, he'll be so hurt he'll
dump the next girl... and a
new cycle of dumpages will
be unleashed upon the world.
You don't want to be responsible for romantic
Armageddon. So as
uncomfortable as it might be,
you've got to do the right
thing.

source: http://www.lhj.com/relationships/divorce/dating-tips/six-signs-youre-getting-dumped/