khiaa:

It can only change if the cheating person wants to change. Sometimes it is better to end the relationship and move on.

djeezy: like the saying, he who acquires has the right to dispose of. You are saying how it ought to be and I am saying how it is.

tosh_acer:

OK. Ask the Americans the questions then.

Baritone: yea, u're right but what are the chances of u meeting with a saint?.. He may not be good enough, He may not be socially active and all of that. marriage doesn't stop a man that's a hardlined cheater from cheating.. self discipline does.

pleep: lol, just go to sleep.

Cheat if you want, just stop wasting nairalanders time

niggi4life: HEHEHEHE, NICE1

khiaa:

It can only change if the cheating person wants to change. Sometimes it is better to end the relationship and move on.

I want to believe this thread was about Marriage and not Just a mere Relationship ,As I saw wives on the heading,one would think the gravity of what a Cheating partner entails is doing that you said??

We all know its different when its just a Relationship,and girls can do as you say and end it.

Now the question is and Should be, why are the women enduring a Cheating partner??

Why don't they call for a divorce on hearing the cheating prowess of their Men or Man" in Marriage??....but Men do without hesitation.

I think you Know why,.......

The bias is evolutionary to begin with...

This is the kinda question I think begs religious bases Answer in our traits as Men"

Maybe you Should ask God that didn't in the First place relate a Man's innocence to Chastity" but that of Women(Hymen)....LoL"

Might be wrong though...Pardon me Miss

khiaa:

Nothing more to say?

khiaa:

Sorry hun, I'm in America, that shyt don't fly here. : )

khiaa:

Sometimes, just like Nigerian women live with their cheating husbands without considering divorce.

switdick:

I want to believe this thread was about Marriage and not Just a mere Relationship ,As I saw wives on the heading,one would think the gravity of what a Cheating partner entails is doing that you said??

We all know its different when its just a Relationship,and girls can do as you say and end it.

Now the question is and Should be, why are the women enduring a Cheating partner??

Why don't they call for a divorce on hearing the cheating prowess of their Men or Man" in Marriage??....but Men do without hesitation.

The bias is evolutionary to begin with...

This is the kinda question I think begs religious bases Answer in our traits as Men"

Maybe you Should ask God that didn't in the First place relate a Man's innocence to Chastity" but that of Women(Hymen)....LoL"

Might be wrong though...Pardon me Miss

khiaa:

God or Man? My title is You Men Cheat On Your Wives All The Time, but it should have been MOST of you men. A lot of married couples forget that even though you are married you are still in a relationship, your wife is your lover and your husband is your lover, therefore my title is correct. If you have read my earlier posts my answer to that question of the wives seeking a divorce, well I said then and I say it now I think it is a matter of culture.

khiaa:

That is why SOMETIMES it is better to move on, why put yourself through hell, when the other person refuses and doesn't want to change.

Tropilo:

If u like cheat on ur hubby because u'r in America. We always know how to deal wit ur issues here.

Bring u home on Xmas visit and dump ur asz wit ur parents. Simple!

SLIDE waxie: why are u even tryoin to debate ds, are u plannin on a cheating spree?

Baritone: yea, u're right but what are the chances of u meeting with a saint?.. He may not be good enough, He may not be socially active and all of that. marriage doesn't stop a man that's a hardlined cheater from cheating.. self discipline does.

khiaa:

Oh my love, there is no such such thing as a saint.

agitator: he who pays the piper dictates the tune. In Nigeria men purchase wife/wives, so the wife/wives have no say. The man can throw her out of the house because in Africa majority of the men owns the house or pays the rent. There are rare cases where both contribute to building a house.

agitator: he who pays the piper dictates the tune. In Nigeria men purchase wife/wives, so the wife/wives have no say. The man can throw her out of the house because in Africa majority of the men owns the house or pays the rent. There are rare cases where both contribute to building a house.

outrage: [size=13pt]this is why you have got to love islam.

Its an obvious fact that men are naturally polygamous. That's why you have chance to fill out four slots, I mean with four wifes why would any one in their right sense cheat.[/size]

Baritone: Khia, I don't mean to sound too perfect, but in a way, rather than go through hell 'cos of the actions of someone, you could involve yourself in something that's tasking like a job, skill, just something that will take your time and mind off Him. Find happiness in showing love in another way like caring for lost pets, orphans. in that way, your happiness wont be tied to a man that's unwilling to change from the road that leads to death.

niggi4life: IF MY WIFE CHEATS ON ME AND I GET TO KNOW THATS THE END OF THE MARRIAGE, THERE'S NO TWO WAY ABOUT THAT..

switdick:

Please, you and I know the bone of contention is not about the title being wrongly phrased or not...as you read in my post,it answers the issue which is a question to we guys why we cheat and can't stand a cheating partner..

Speaking of Culture as you say, where on earth is it different from the norms here ??

It still boils down to relativity..

Yeah ratio at which Married Women divorce Cheating Men, not Close to Married Men divorcing Cheating Women... Which begs the big Question,Why'??

khiaa:

Ok!! #1 Just as much as men can't stand a cheating woman, we women can't stand a cheating man 10 times fold. In your society( Nigerian ) woman are expected to take alot of crap. Do you understand that women have feeling, how can a real man do this to his other half?

niggi4life: IF MY WIFE CHEATS ON ME AND I GET TO KNOW THATS THE END OF THE MARRIAGE, THERE'S NO TWO WAY ABOUT THAT..

khiaa:

My sweatheart, it doesn't matter how much time you spend yourself involving in tasks like a job, skill or whatever, at the end of the day you still have to go home to that person, and if there is no happiness at home you will be miserable.

carefreewannabe:

Honey, it's not about Nigerian society.
Men all around the world cheat. I have been to different countries, lived in different places.
Likewise women all over the world forgive or don't. Women in developing countries are more frequently forced to take it because of financial reasons but hey, even Independent women in highly developed countries forgive cheating. Have you forgotten about your former first lady's case, dear Hillary Clinton?

Also consider that polygamy is part of the African culture, hence cheating is often accepted on the male side. That doesn't mean that men are bigger cheates than anywhere else. This is my observation. And don't Forget that polygamy is illegal in Western countries but still many men have a mistress or two ...

However, there are decent, strong Nigerian man who believe in fidelity and monogamy and go for it. There are Nigerian men who take care of their wives as their "weaker vessels", not only providing for them financially but also emotionally. Don't get it twisted, cheating is not something solely Made in Nigeria

khiaa:

Ok!! #1 Just as much as men can't stand a cheating woman, we women can't stand a cheating man 10 times fold. In your society( Nigerian ) woman are expected to take alot of crap. Do you understand that women have feeling, how can a real man do this to his other half?

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