fellis:
@bold,
Anyway after my last comment Tgirl requested that her thread should not be derailed any further so I am going to do the respectable thing and stop the arguments.

finally.................. phew!

I dated older ladies twice.d problem with the two of them was that they were both in a hurry to marry me.the more they pampered me the more irritated i became.eventually we broke up. One of them was begging me to marry her even when she knew i was married. Another thing is that they tend to pretend being happy with everything u do just because they dont want to lose u even when they are not really happy with what u are doing.

adefash: I dated older ladies twice.d problem with the two of them was that they were both in a hurry to marry me.the more they pampered me the more irritated i became.eventually we broke up. One of them was begging me to marry her even when she knew i was married. Another thing is that they tend to pretend being happy with everything u do just because they dont want to lose u even when they are not really happy with what u are doing.

badoo

ITbomb: Oh my dear Tgirl4real, you never told me it would get worse to this level.
So now you are ready to grab any available man not like before.
If you would sponsor the wedding, I'm interested

Lol

So, when are we going to see ur mama?

Ha
Anyway good for the ladies but for men you have to think twice even tenice if permitted

I have always dated older ladies,apart from wealth they are vast in experience,maturity in decision making and general understanding of a man's emotional needs....For marriage alot of factors come into play...is she submissive(irrespective of economic status),sincere,trustworthy and accomodating with special kitchen skills(i love good food..lols)..with a plumpy sexy body..if all these are in place no wahala..am game

My 28 yrs old Male cousin is on the verge of marrying a 34 year old lady (who is older than him wit 6 yrs & 6months).. The lady looks like she is 25 years Old ..She is very respectful and totally submissive..she has neva exchanged words with my cousin or had neva disrespected my cousin...she practically honored him wit her life through out their 2 and half yrs old relationship even when my cousin was broke.

She was submissive to him b4 she started working about a year ago when my cousin was jobless and she is even more submissive today that she is even richer.

Note: SHE LOST HER VIRGINITY TO MY COUSIN 2YRS AGO AT THE AGE OF 32 AND SHE IS STILL FAITHFUL TILL DATE..DO THINK MY COUSIN SHOULD DUMP HER DUE TO HIS PARENTs PRESSURE?

teeo: I would have loved to marry someone older too but I trust my mum she wouldn't agree. I love my mum soo mucch so I won't want to hurt her.

It's about the love u have for your mum,the truth is that you're still too young to make such decisions. I love my mother so much,she rained fire & brimestone but when the time came for me,the woman of my choice & guess what? My wife is older than me,so what u need is GROWTH.

tical: My 28 yrs old Male cousin is on the verge of marrying a 34 year old lady (who is older than him wit 6 yrs & 6months).. The lady looks like she is 25 years Old ..She is very respectful and totally submissive..she has neva exchanged words with my cousin or had neva disrespected my cousin...she practically honored him wit her life through out their 2 and half yrs old relationship even when my cousin was broke.

She was submissive to him b4 she started working about a year ago when my cousin was jobless and she is even more submissive today that she is even richer.

Note: SHE LOST HER VIRGINITY TO MY COUSIN 2YRS AGO AT THE AGE OF 32 AND SHE IS STILL FAITHFUL TILL DATE..DO THINK MY COUSIN SHOULD DUMP HER DUE TO HIS PARENTs PRESSURE?

What else is he waiting 4 after dating 4 2 1/2 years? It's his future that matters and what he wants for himself. If the gal in question has all the qualities he desires in a wife, abeg make e carry go.

stevio: It's about the love u have for your mum,the truth is that you're still too young to make such decisions. I love my mother so much,she rained fire & brimestone but when the time came for me,the woman of my choice & guess what? My wife is older than me,so what u need is GROWTH.

True talk, am 26 and already working hoping to settle in a few years but I still feel marrying someone older might not go down well with my mum. Just soo u knoww I have dated very older ladies

tical: My 28 yrs old Male cousin is on the verge of marrying a 34 year old lady (who is older than him wit 6 yrs & 6months).. The lady looks like she is 25 years Old ..She is very respectful and totally submissive..she has neva exchanged words with my cousin or had neva disrespected my cousin...she practically honored him wit her life through out their 2 and half yrs old relationship even when my cousin was broke.

She was submissive to him b4 she started working about a year ago when my cousin was jobless and she is even more submissive today that she is even richer.

Note: SHE LOST HER VIRGINITY TO MY COUSIN 2YRS AGO AT THE AGE OF 32 AND SHE IS STILL FAITHFUL TILL DATE..DO THINK MY COUSIN SHOULD DUMP HER DUE TO HIS PARENTs PRESSURE?

The girl could be the best thing to happen to your cousin but as is often the case, most people don't appreciate what they have until they lose it and then it is too late!

tical: My 28 yrs old Male cousin is on the verge of marrying a 34 year old lady (who is older than him wit 6 yrs & 6months).. The lady looks like she is 25 years Old ..She is very respectful and totally submissive..she has neva exchanged words with my cousin or had neva disrespected my cousin...she practically honored him wit her life through out their 2 and half yrs old relationship even when my cousin was broke.

She was submissive to him b4 she started working about a year ago when my cousin was jobless and she is even more submissive today that she is even richer.

Note: SHE LOST HER VIRGINITY TO MY COUSIN 2YRS AGO AT THE AGE OF 32 AND SHE IS STILL FAITHFUL TILL DATE..DO THINK MY COUSIN SHOULD DUMP HER DUE TO HIS PARENTs PRESSURE?

so she is everything he wants in a woman n the gap is just 6 years and he is still dillydallying
Aya won lode mehnnnnn

hmmm... peaceful older lady vs trouble younger shrew I know what I will do
Wife and Pregnate her sharperly

venchi: JUST FINISHED MY TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE, ABOUT TO WED ON 29TH OF MAY 2013, THEN I CAN START LIVING WITH MY WIFE , BUT NOW NO AN EXPERIENCE ABOUT THAT. BUT MAN MUST BE A MAN. YOU ARE THE ONE MARRING HER NOT HER MARRING YOU. YOU HAVE THE FINAL SAY NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS. EVEN THOUGH SHE IS RICHER , OR HAVE UPPER HAND INTERNS OF INCOME. DO NOT ALLOW HER USE AGE ADVANTAGE ON YOU. GOD HAS MADE IT SO , THAT A MAN MUST BE THE HEAD OF THE FAMILY. SHE CANNOT MARRY HERSELF.THAT IS WHY SHE NEEDED A MAN IN HER LIFE.

interesting viewpoint so i guess you can marry yourself if you dont want a woman abi?

Tgirl4real:

What else is he waiting 4 after dating 4 2 1/2 years? It's his future that matters and what he wants for himself. If the gal in question has all the qualities he desires in a wife, abeg make e carry go.

Easy advice, easy to accept but difficult to 'act'

Dated an older lady before, and must confess she was the best I ever had. She was 12 yrs older than me. I entered into the relationship for the experience and the fling and I must so thank my stars for kicking me into it. She was matured; knws what she wants and how to get it, nuffin close to what obtains with younger girls. She knws when to up the ante and when to keep it slow or low. The sex was a plomb. Guess the saying that nuffin beats experience is no fluke.

On the other hand, most young men are sexually attracted to ladies much older than them. Just a few would realise it, and a much fewer proportion would get a go at it.

When I was 15years old I dare not walk up to any girl of 20years let alone 25years to toast else I will get some very hot slaps.Then you will hear things like 'you nor get respect?','you nor know your age? n bla bla bla.
But now when the same guy is 25years old and she is 30 or even 40 years you will begin to hear 'age is just a number','what matters in marriage is love','I love him'
Ladies why?
#stolen 4r a nairaland post

Had one before ,but every now and then she wants my mouth on her punny and my lips went completely red .

My sister got wind of the situation and bullied her out my life.

This is one topic I like to put interest in discussing. Older Women in Nigeria can't speak for other African countries go for the younger guys when there Marriage age is becoming a threat to them. Most tend to act dumb and easy in the eyes when courting but takes over the marriage when she becomes a legal wife after some Months whilst some push it to a year. And as for older women here they prefer to play the motherly role dictating, and not showing respect after a while in marriage Lastly the issue of women aging fast than Men. I will say many even the younger ones Don't keep fit and eat right.

If there is love and the age differences is not more 6 years,i think there is no problem.

sexy-excalibur:
When I was 15years old I dare not walk up to any girl of 20years let alone 25years to toast else I will get some very hot slaps.Then you will hear things like 'you nor get respect?','you nor know your age? n bla bla bla.
But now when the same guy is 25years old and she is 30 or even 40 years you will begin to hear 'age is just a number','what matters in marriage is love','I love him'
Ladies why?
#stolen 4r a nairaland post

NAWA OOO..

Tgirl4real:

Lol

So, when are we going to see ur mama?

WTFuck
As in to see my parent and ask for my hand in marriage.
In that case lets forget about the whole wedding stuff , find somewhere and start making babies

ITbomb:
WTFuck
As in to see my parent and ask for my hand in marriage.
In that case lets forget about the whole wedding stuff , find somewhere and start making babies

Awoof.. See ya mouth

Dating or getting married to an older lady has nufin to do wit ur family or mom deciding for you. As for mi she's older than me wit 2yrs and if u r not told u won't know despite that their is always a point she proves, smtyms bin bossy which I rly do not fancy at all and I look straight into ha eyes to iron ishus out.

What am I saying..sometimes its on d disadvantage to the both of you if the factual is not none and the basis is not stated, buh the advantages cud be as many as u wud love to it. To me, its gives me the priviledge to to daily man up, increase in my adventure(not s3x like).

To crown it all I love her truely no cause for alarming

ITbomb:
WTFuck
As in to see my parent and ask for my hand in marriage.
In that case lets forget about the whole wedding stuff , find somewhere and start making babies

ROFLOL

Are u for real at all?

Aint u d guy? U should be d one taking me to mama. *hiss*

And what makes u think I am older than you?

I'm just 21 o.

nahinbdis:

The girl could be the best thing to happen to your cousin but as is often the case, most people don't appreciate what they have until they lose it and then it is too late!

My wife is 3 yrs older than l am and she is everything you described up there and more. We are on our 3rd year of marriage now and she is the best choice l could have made!

I'm happy for you.

I noticed that the men are freer to comment. I doubt any other lady has commented on this thread apart from me. So, it is safe to say the men are more open to the idea of marrying an older lady. The women on the otherhand may not mind but certainly don't want to be discussing it. Hmmm...

Tgirl4real:

I'm happy for you.

I noticed that the men are freer to comment. I doubt any other lady has commented on this thread apart from me. So, it is safe to say the men are more open to the idea of marrying an older lady. The women on the otherhand may not mind but certainly don't want to be discussing it. Hmmm...

U r right. I did date a girl older than me too by a year. Since then I get attracted to older lady easily than younger lady. Is it normal or what do they call it in psychology

sam4xadams:
U r right. I did date a girl older than me too by a year. Since then I get attracted to older lady easily than younger lady. Is it normal or what do they call it in psychology

I'm sure it's not the age u are attracted to but sum'n about their personality. There's absolutely nothing wrong with it.

It looks like it's hard to find sensible, matured young ladies with great personality these days.

dealslip:
Really? i thought a man can marry himself. No where did God say a man is superior to man. Neither does nature itself. Men have been admonished to love their wife just like Christ loved the church and give his life for her.if any of you here wants to be considered a man. He must fufil the criteria above. A woman is actually independent that is why God expects a man to leave his parents and cleave to his wife not vice versa. Women are there as helpers because men can't do it all alone. i hope you all understand.

'Cleave to his wife'....guess she should also be doing the bills then......lol...just saying

Tgirl4real:

I'm sure it's not the age u are attracted to but sum'n about their personality. There's absolutely nothing wrong with it.

It looks like it's hard to find sensible, matured young ladies with great personality these days.

On point jare.....there is always something to get attracted to in an older lady, most especially if she's in shape...something most young girls aren't bothered 'bout anymore...me I don't mind dating a pretty one o.. It all boils down to what you want in her.
Matter of factly, I should find one soon

Tgirl4real:

I'm sure it's not the age u are attracted to but sum'n about their personality. There's absolutely nothing wrong with it.

It looks like it's hard to find sensible, matured young ladies with great personality these days.

It's not the money,. It's something I can't explain. Sometimes after talking to a lady I inquire about age I found out that she's older than me two or 4 years

sam4xadams:
It's not the money,. It's something I can't explain. Sometimes after talking to a lady I inquire about age I found out that she's older than me two or 4 years

Am I the one in your shoes or you in my shoes..lol...the age always comes later for me too....

coogar:

3 years difference can still fall into the same age group.



hmmmm....



i think it depends on the individual.
some men allow such to overwhelm them whilst some see age as a mere number. some women can be of help by not making their older status a big issue.



this where the man's self-confidence must come into play. if i am married to a woman of 3000 years of age i would still be the authority in the relationship. i am the one with the balls not her.



nature puts women at a disadvantage from the onset. nothing can change that. you just need to scan through all the religions and see where they place women.

You say 3 years, the same age group?? You must be kidding. Not 1 or 2 years but another couple of mnths making 3 years, you are kidding.