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Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by StateOfMind: 11:28pm On May 08, 2013 |
cinder66: I realy feel for you, what more can kill a man faster than an infidel and ungrateful wife. Divorce her asap and take ur daughter far away from her reach. Now what is her gain cos am sure the cork did not stick in her punny for more than 30min. No wonder some men call us fish brains, if she no marry now, she go D̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣̥γ̲̣̣̥ cry foul. Mtcheeeeeeeeew So this woman's infidelity makes it acceptable for men to call you fish brains? You should be ashamed of yourself for that statement. @Op, I'm so sorry about what you are going through. Its obvious you can not forgive or forget what this woman did, if na me nko?. File for a divorce and remove yourself from this misery, its not worth it. ....And by the way Op, did you by chance notice any signs of waywardness when you were courting or you were too carried away with her beauty and intelligence? A lactating mother who engages in unprotected sex with her boss\family friend is too loose and has probably been that way for some time. P.S -if cheating can so damage a man's psyche like this, I think our men should think twice before doing the same and stop seeing it as a norm or what should be accepted by the female folks. May God help us all - 25 Likes |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by coogar: 11:32pm On May 08, 2013 |
*Semuhle*Baby*: how can she be good to her kid when she's screwing another man while lactating? the kid is not being punished, the kid is being protected before her mother pass her whorish genes to the little child. 6 Likes |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by Nobody: 11:35pm On May 08, 2013 |
coogar:Well you are not God so only he can judge her. Her being a LovePeddler or cheating does not mean she is not taking care of her child. I hate when people use anger to separate their children from their fathers or mothers. It is not right. If he feels she is a bad mother he can take her to court. But because she cheated should not be used against her because the child and remember she is 2yrs old, will suffer in the long run. 5 Likes |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by biolabee(m): 11:36pm On May 08, 2013 |
coogar: Yes you have a point but I still believe toddlers are best kept with their mums Grandmas are not better off and the father still needs to hustle The new wife may be worse Let her stay with the wife 1 Like |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by biolabee(m): 11:37pm On May 08, 2013 |
*Semuhle*Baby*: I agree The second wife will always maltreat the step kid - she will now look for house maid A childs place is by the mum 1 Like |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by Nobody: 11:39pm On May 08, 2013 |
biolabee:This is very true |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by StateOfMind: 11:40pm On May 08, 2013 |
WhyMe222: Thank you everyone for your kind words and suggestions. May God bless you all. Don't sweat it bro. The marriage is over. No matter how hard you try to fix things, you'd never trust your wife again. It wasn't once, neither was it with a stranger.. Kai..She is a wicked wife and a heartless mother and she doesn't deserve you. I honestly can't wrap my head around sleeping with another man when you have a less than 1 year old baby and a husband at home. But Er er ermmmmm....oga, please spare us the self control story. Why would you lay a finger on her in the first place? Your wife cheating on you is not an excuse to beat her. Send her back to her parent's house if you can not stand her. Shikena! 2 Likes |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by coogar: 11:43pm On May 08, 2013 |
*Semuhle*Baby*: the child is in more danger growing with a whorish mother that lacks any decorum or scruples. i am sure you would also make this same point if a mother is a drug-addict. whoever told you children cannot be separated from their mothers is brainless - women are the biggest offenders when it comes to child abuse - go figure! 2 Likes |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by biolabee(m): 11:45pm On May 08, 2013 |
coogar: Coogar strictly speaking they are not the same Strippers raise upright babies 4 Likes |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by Les: 11:45pm On May 08, 2013 |
Right from d begining in eden, women have always been a mistake, a deadly one 4 dat mata... Even God 1st made d mistake. |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by WhyMe222(m): 11:46pm On May 08, 2013 |
We have talked about joint custody if the marriage finally collapses which is very likely. I agree my little girl will be better off with her mum. But the thought of her not growing up under my watch is killing me. I love her to bits and wanna enjoy her stages of growth. But this I am going to miss. It's killing me. 1 Like |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by Nobody: 11:47pm On May 08, 2013 |
coogar:So a man that cheats on his wife when pregnant would make a bad father. How can you compare a cheater to a drug-addict Smh. I still say that if the wife has been treating or neglecting the baby then he has valid reasons to separate mother and child, if not then there is no reason to do that to the child at least at such a young age. 5 Likes |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by biolabee(m): 11:48pm On May 08, 2013 |
WhyMe222: We have talked about joint custody if the marriage finally collapses which is very likely. I agree my little girl will be better off with her mum. But the thought of her not growing up under my watch is killing me. I love her to bits and wanna enjoy her stages of growth. But this I am going to miss. It's killing me. It can be managed but civility is key That's what seperates us from beasts 5 Likes |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by Nobody: 11:49pm On May 08, 2013 |
Even kids who have grown up with pastors as parents can be wayward etc so coogar you are really making false assumptions. |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by Nobody: 11:50pm On May 08, 2013 |
WhyMe222: We have talked about joint custody if the marriage finally collapses which is very likely. I agree my little girl will be better off with her mum. But the thought of her not growing up under my watch is killing me. I love her to bits and wanna enjoy her stages of growth. But this I am going to miss. It's killing me.You do not have to miss it, you can still be there for her as much as you can and see her everyday if possible. 1 Like |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by biolabee(m): 11:50pm On May 08, 2013 |
*Semuhle*Baby*: Coogar , over to you |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by Idowuogbo(f): 11:58pm On May 08, 2013 |
Wow! |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by coogar: 11:58pm On May 08, 2013 |
biolabee: strippers are not cheats and they are not whores..... if you wait long enough till 4am, their husbands/partners come to take them home! stripping is a profession, please don't compare it to infidelity! *Semuhle*Baby*: i want to know the kind of foundation or example that cheating father is setting for his child. surely, what he's doing is edifying, isn't it?
your over-emphasis on separation is the reason i cited the drug addict instance. if the mother is going to do more harm psychologically to the child then it's better they are separated. i shudder to think what kind of upbringing a mother of this ilk would give to get child. she would probably be sending her on errand at age 5 to go buy condoms.
to each his own, personally, i would not let my child grow with such a disgusting woman. screwing another man during lactation period. how grotesque!!!! some women make me sick to my stomach! *Semuhle*Baby*: at least then, the fault lies with the kid and not the parents. the parents have done their best. you are doing the equivalent of saying even houses with strong doors get raided so you won't put a door in your house. your logic induces projectile vomiting. 1 Like |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by biolabee(m): 12:03am On May 09, 2013 |
coogar: Yes you are right not all strippers are whores It was an example to show that not all things are conclusive I still believe she is best with the child at the moment Real life prostitutes raise kids too and it does not mean they are in the same profession and as someone said children of pastors can be wayward at times You are being sentimental This is a career woman She made a series of errors in judgement Maybe the relationship pre dates the marriage 2 Likes |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by Nobody: 12:06am On May 09, 2013 |
so Op do you think your wife is a bad mother? Do you think your child would be happier and better off without her mother? Do you think your child would cry a day without seeing her mother? These are the questions you should answer personally for yourself based on your situation. Everyone is different and have different opinions, what works for one may not work for another. I personally blv that cheating does not determine whether one is a bad father or mother it is how they are with their kids and how they treat them. You can have the nicest person on earth raise a child who could become a murderer, so try not to listen to bitter stereotypical advice because at the end of the day, you have to live with your choices. |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by chymystique(f): 12:07am On May 09, 2013 |
ifeness:dnt worry him go seek ur Face. |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by MMotimo: 12:11am On May 09, 2013 |
OP This is so sad. I just hope the randy lover boy is getting a lot of heat from his own wife too and not just enjoying his life like nothing happened 5 Likes |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by coogar: 12:12am On May 09, 2013 |
biolabee: this is marriage - not some around the corner relationship.
a pröstitute is better than this woman. at least, with a prostitute i know what to expect and any waywardness would not throw me into a state of shock.
which is the more reason i would be angry - she ought to have known better.
she committed a cardinal sin..... 3 Likes |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by WhyMe222(m): 12:15am On May 09, 2013 |
*Semuhle*Baby*: Sincerely, I cannot say she is a bad mother. However, change being a constant, I cannot vouch for tomorrow. If she can toss off the window the sanctity of her marriage and destroy it by her own volition, no saying what she can do tomorrow. 1 Like |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by biolabee(m): 12:17am On May 09, 2013 |
coogar: Yes we all agree she committed the cardinal sin The issue we have here is the child and where the child should be 1 Like |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by Nobody: 12:17am On May 09, 2013 |
@ Coogar so career and business men dnt cheat because they are educated and should know better Are you listening to your rational. Even the president has cheated many times. A cheater can be anybody irrespective of career and class. But as the guy said that the lady is trying to amend but he cannot seem to get it out of his mind. So they can divorce worse case scenario, But the child should not be paid or punish because of that, and only those who think with anger and emotions will fail to see that. 5 Likes |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by WhyMe222(m): 12:20am On May 09, 2013 |
MMotimo: OP Funny enough, because I didn't want the news to go ballistics, I covered up for them when the man's wife stumbled on their BBM chat too and stormed my house with the man spoiling for war. |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by biolabee(m): 12:21am On May 09, 2013 |
*Semuhle*Baby*: Cool 1 Like |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by Nobody: 12:21am On May 09, 2013 |
WhyMe222:Unfortunately your wife is not here to tell her side of the story. So because you are divorcing your wife, can i also say that you lack commitment when times are hard so there is no saying what you can do tomorrow such as not being committed enough to your child. If today she is ok then there is no need to look into tomorrow. If tomorrow she is bad then you can take matters to the court. You cannot predict the future, who knows you divorcing her could be the change that she needed to be a better person, mother and perhaps a better wife to somebody else. 4 Likes |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by coogar: 12:23am On May 09, 2013 |
*Semuhle*Baby*: your points are all over the place - the cheating bit is the least of her misdemeanour. if she had done it with a random man at a different period in the marriage then i wouldn't even bother..... •she cheated with her husband's friend. •she cheated when she was nursing a child •she did not only ruin her marriage but she has also ruined the friendship between her hubby and the other philandering hilly billy. |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by Nobody: 12:24am On May 09, 2013 |
Can i ask a question. Did your friend know your wife before you got married? And who knew who first? |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by Nobody: 12:28am On May 09, 2013 |
coogar:The friend is what makes it painful but it takes two, what kind of friend cheats with his friends wife. Are they both not friends with the guy. Am sure perhaps the cheating could have happened way before she was pregnant, who knows. I am not saying she is not bad, I dnt understand how a women or men can cheat let alone when the woman is pregnant or has a baby. Thats their ish. The thing i am concerned with is the baby. Would you have enjoyed or like to have grown up without your mother at 2yrs old? |
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